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3ndy:
dear sisters i seek your advice,
and hope to be happy,
but i love the evans (his name) who cared for me!!
wont he be back??
maybe i'm the one who changed him!!
maybe i changed!!
i mean i think i'm still d same person but i'm not too sure anymore!!
i cry and ask him to stop huting me he apologise today and do the same tomorrow!!
he cares abt me i know as much but he doesn't burn for me anymore!!
he's never showed any signs of violence,
apart from once when he was drunk and shattered my dress,  nothing like hitting me or anything just dragging me away from whom he thought
was my lover,  and repeatedly asked me if the man was more important than him,  so maybe he's just scared and he uses what he has to protect himself.

after this episode it took him 2 days to apologise,
and he promised to stop alcohol!!

3ndy:
i tried doing the same thing to him but we got into a fight,  and repeatedly hurted ourselves,
now i'm the type of person that doesn't have the right words at the right moment,
i never know what to say to convey my feelings seriously so i just say the most hurtful words in my vocabulary
i questioned him once,  i asked him if he likes her (my sister i mean) but he said he actually despise her not that much nut doesn't like her
and moreover i thnk he seeks of her approval,  just like the same thing he does with my mum,
i mean for him they are the ideal of a lady but not me,
he doesn't even like my cooking,  everyone likes my cooking but him,
and recently i'm feeling this pressure and i'm having less confidence in my skills and i0m becoming less good,  i no more like what i prepare,
i dunno what to give him to eat,  doesn't eat bread-- doesn't like eggs or pancakes,  ok doesn't eat sugar.
preferes  my sisters beans,  my mums soups,  then what do i have left??
maybe i really should give up!!

3ndy:
what can i do?? he's already gone to all the members of my family to present himself,
how can i let go now,  hw can i face my family members??

3ndy:
are u saying i should perhaps change as well??
i mean showing him the dark side of me??
or maybe go seperate ways??
coz i dunno if i love him anymore,
i mean b4 getting a kiss he waited 5 whole months,
and i'm sure he was faithfull coz he was with me day and night all these months

3ndy:
This is a very interesting topic,
the man i'm dating and hopefully will marry
is a kind of both but recently is starting to become in-decipherable.
i mean when he still was courting me he was a lot sub-massive,
comprehensable,  loving,  dearing,  caring,
but now that he's tasted d fruit he's become dominant
annoying, boring, stressfull,
i've been biting my tounge for long but i don't know how to make him understand i'm really not liking him this way,
he's always comparing me to other women,  especially my sister,
while having XEX b4 he'd make me lots of compliments,
but now he remains quiet from beginning to the end,
and i don't even know when he reaches climax,  he remains queit even then,  i dunno what to do anymore,  i ask him sometimes
what he'd like me to do but he gets angry and asks me,  is this the kind of question to ask?? do what u want,  now i dunno hw to be submassive but anytime i asks him to cool down a bit he'll get all offensive and run head over heels,  and he definately knows i'm more educated than he is but he always want to prove me wrong,  telling me don't argue over things i know,  and i gently reply honey but it's wrong,  this is how it goes!! and he'll insist he's right,  now not to be offensive i mean i know a lot better so shut your mouth and listen, (what i'd like to say) but no man likes being dominated by their wives/girl etc

ekwah:
@ Inked Nerd
Ouch that's deep o

Flashaldrin:
^^ lol, so why take it??

MarcAnthon:
To be in control and to be controlling/domineering are two diff things.

btw, you don't want a submissive man and u seem to suggest u also don't want a man that takes the driver's seat as well so what do you really want from your man? Just asking. . .

MarcAnthon:
Last time I heard, ladies want their man to be in control. So

simpleseyi:
Allahu Akbar.  The Lord has proven again that He is still as He was in the time past. The same yesterday, today and forever.  My wife gave birth to a bouncing baby boy on Xmas day. If you will recall, my wife is a Xtian while am Muslim. The naming ceremony was on 1st of January and the special boy has been named Mohammed Emmanuel. Now, can you all see that GOD has special uncommon love for my family? We married for LOVE and GOD is living permanently with us. Halleluyah!

goodsegs:
I love my Fiance (not as much as i was into my ex).We separated just to make her parents happy, I have compared my current girlfriend with my ex and it became obvious at some point to my current girlfriend that i was comparing her with the Ex.Like i said,I didn't disturb or bug my ex when she called off the relationships way back in 2008 even though it was a tough decision i had to make, I have been with my current lady for more than two years now.I only started getting in touch with my ex after we met last June in a conference,and she was really happy i was doing fine in the  career she motivated me to do,Honestly,I miss that aspect of her, Yeah,my fiance is a reserve person,Not talking much,not much older(23) ,sometimes,she discourages me from pursing what will take me away from her vicinity.she sometimes thinks am too ambitious.Yeah,she is just opposite my Ex.
I also have some sympathy for my Ex(she invested in me and the relationship those days,she had to go through 3 painful abortions and she told me till date she hasn't gotten over the experience),
Does this answer your question now?I love this current lady,But my Ex was an amazing girl i wont quickly forget

Araboy:
Arabic

Ya assel : Honey

Habibati : Sweetie

Ayooni : My eyes

Ya kamar : Moon

French

Ma cherie : My Sweetie

Mon ange : My angel

Ma chouchette : My Darling

Ma jolie : My Pretty

Ma bien aimee : My Beloved

freecocoa:
^
Why are you leaving what will happen after the bar out?or is it better imagined?


@Topic,Nothing special,just indoors and NL,my teeth hurts from too much meat chewing,I can't  even chew rice properly now. I just pray it stops before tomorrow.

sauer:
cool . . . .too bad you leaving me out

goodsegs:
thank you maam, am definitely staying in this current rsp,This current girl hasn't done anything bad to me in anyway , I only started thinking of my ex more since the last time we saw after two years.
funny enough,they bear the same name(Funmi), lol