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 Romance › Re: My Underwear by InkedNerd(f): 1:29pm On Jan 07, 2012 |
Guitarlife:Ummm, actually I wasn't going to call you a chauvinist. It never even crossed my mind  I beg to differ though in the choice aspect. The woman does have a choice. It's just a matter or which choice she chooses. Even if she were to say no, what could happen, a quarrel? And even then, that doesn't ensure that the underwear will be washed. The only thing I could think of that would make a woman wash a man's underwear is fear of a severe beating, but then again I'm stretching the scenario. Sorry but I don't mean to pester you suppose your wife put your underwear in a washing mashing rather than do it by hand, does that still count? |
| Romance › Re: Ladies, Would You Date/marry A Submissive Man? by InkedNerd(f): 1:21pm On Jan 07, 2012 |
[quote author=Lord_Reed link=topic=838273.msg9913403#msg9913403 date=1325938325]@Inky You still did not answer the question: does your boss deserve more consideration than your spouse? So now there is Ibo blood and Kurdish blood? I wonder what Naturalisation and Immigration services are for now. Maybe you need to see the meaning of ethnicity. Gosh and here I thought you were cosmopolitan in your outlook, smh.[/quote]Immigration has nothing to do with ones ethnicity. A person's nationality and ethnicity aren't the same thing. If you like, you can rethink whatever it is you like about me--that is up to you. It's not a concern of mine if you think I'm cosmopolitan or not. Overall, my spouse will get more consideration than my boss but that's not to say that its every single thing about my spouse that I'll jump up for. I would expect that my spouse would be understanding about certain matters, just as I would be understanding about certain matters as well. All in all, you used the example of a spouse and a boss as though they were the same when you decided to write "When next your boss gives you an order disagree with him/her let's see how much easier it will be for you in the office.". You conceptualized the idea of having a boss and a spouse as though it were the same thing, not I. |
| Romance › Re: My Underwear by InkedNerd(f): 12:44pm On Jan 07, 2012 |
Guitarlife:Ok, I get what you're saying. Just wondering, if she were to wash it[regardless of her reason for washing it], what would your overall reaction be? Sorry, I'm asking just out of pure curiosity. Also, is this subject of underwear washing something you discuss beforehand [as in before you marry a girl/or if you're dating]? |
| Romance › Re: Ladies, Would You Date/marry A Submissive Man? by InkedNerd(f): 12:39pm On Jan 07, 2012 |
[quote author=Lord_Reed link=topic=838273.msg9913207#msg9913207 date=1325935618]@Inky Yet you call my statement hypocritical LoL! So your boss who you are not married to or share a house with deserves more consideration than your spouse? Interaction between different ethnic people is not the same as the difference between sexes because ethnic differences are not fundamental to our existence. I can become ibo tomorrow if I wish but I can't become female (naturally anyway). Are you implying that men should treat women the way the treat other men?[/quote]You cannot become Ibo. If you're not Ibo, then you're not Ibo. End of story. If I want to become Kurd, can I become Kurd? No. My ethnicity will still be my ethnicity regardless of whether I want to admit it. You using that excuse doesn't justify the statement. So, yes I call your statement hypocritical because that is what it is. Using a boss and a spouse in such an example are two totally different things. At the end of the day, I don't go home with my boss. I don't sleep with my boss. I don't live with my boss. The relationship with my boss and spouse are not one in the same. |
| Nairaland General › Re: What Did You Spend Your Weekend Doing? by InkedNerd(f): 12:18pm On Jan 07, 2012 |
I'm gonna work out, do some homework, then perhaps I'll sit around and watch a movie. Depends on how much time I have on my hands and how bored I am. |
| Dating And Meet-up Zone › Re: How Did Your Day Go? by InkedNerd(f): 12:15pm On Jan 07, 2012 |
Idowuogbo:lol please no vex but I couldn't help but laugh at the butt part  I hope you get better soon. Chei, seems like people are waking up unhappy today  |
| Romance › Re: Does He Want To by InkedNerd(f): 12:07pm On Jan 07, 2012 |
@OP: For me its not a big deal. I just assume that they're looking for someone to talk to. |
| Romance › Re: The Era Of The Hot Moms by InkedNerd(f): 12:06pm On Jan 07, 2012 |
slimyem:So very true. I've seen both guys and girls cheat on their significant other regardless of how attractive they were |
| Romance › Re: Ladies, Would You Date/marry A Submissive Man? by InkedNerd(f): 11:57am On Jan 07, 2012 |
[quote author=Lord_Reed link=topic=838273.msg9913023#msg9913023 date=1325933238]@Inky When next your boss gives you an order disagree with him/her let's see how much easier it will be for you in the office. What is hypocritical about my statement? Listen whether anyone likes it or not the difference between male and female will continue to affect our interactions; call it sexism if you will but it is what it is.[/quote]Am I married to my boss? Am I dating my boss? Do I live in some sort cohabitation environment with my boss? You using the example of a boss and an employer is a failed attempt at trying to make your flawed point. The difference exists because you [and others like you], chose to enable its existence. Because you refuse to acknowledge it as sexism doesn't mean it isn't. There are people who engage in actions and beliefs about other ethnicities based on stereotypes and don't believe that they're bigots and racists but that doesn't change the fact that they are. |
| Romance › Re: My Underwear by InkedNerd(f): 11:44am On Jan 07, 2012 |
Guitarlife:How is blood stained underwear any different from you having skid marks in your underwear? And how would you feel about her washing your underwear? |
| Dating And Meet-up Zone › Re: How Did Your Day Go? by InkedNerd(f): 11:39am On Jan 07, 2012 |
freecocoa:Ok, you can remove it now  |
| Romance › Re: Ladies, Would You Date/marry A Submissive Man? by InkedNerd(f): 11:35am On Jan 07, 2012 |
[quote author=Lord_Reed link=topic=838273.msg9912903#msg9912903 date=1325931785]@Inky Even in gay and lesbian relationship one partner has to be the leader and the other the follower. It is our nature as humans. The reason women want to kick against this is because not all men carry leadership well but it still will not negate the males natural endowment. The major difference is what I explained in the difference between a submissive man and a humble man. A submissive man believes he has no power or rights while the humble man uses his powers and rights to serve. A submissive woman on the other hand recognises her position as 2nd in command and uses it to serve as well. Ok yeah there are some mousy women who become doormats, for them its no longer submission but something uglier and demeaning. In other words we could say that the word submission takes on a different meaning when is applied to the different sexes.[/quote]You explanation is both hypocritical and sexist. As for the comment on gäy and lësbiän couples, that is wrong as well. I know many gäy and lësbiän couples and what you're saying doesn't apply regardless of the sëxual orientation of the couple. Will there be people in society who choose to be dominant in a relationship, yes but that's not to say that it applies to every kind of relationship or that relationship of all across the board function as you claim they do. |
| Dating And Meet-up Zone › Re: How Did Your Day Go? by InkedNerd(f): 11:26am On Jan 07, 2012 |
freecocoa:Eh ya. Ndo. It shall never be your portion. She will be fine. It never hurts to give her a call or check on her every now and then though  Sure, you can add me on YIM. Is your YIM the same as your AIM address? |
| Dating And Meet-up Zone › Re: How Did Your Day Go? by InkedNerd(f): 11:15am On Jan 07, 2012 |
freecocoa:Sister freecocoa, all will be well. Biko, don't worry. If you want, you can always talk to me if you need someone to listen. I'm always here. Chei, what's got you all worried like this? Nne, think positively ok? |
| Romance › Re: The Era Of The Hot Moms by InkedNerd(f): 11:11am On Jan 07, 2012 |
Rooneyboy:Honestly, you're a very disgusting man for even sitting here and using that as an excuse for a man to womanize. While I'm sure the woman you saw may have been stunning to you, that's not to say that womanizing is something to be justified. |
| Romance › Re: Ladies, Would You Date/marry A Submissive Man? by InkedNerd(f): 10:13am On Jan 07, 2012 |
[quote author=Lord_Reed link=topic=838273.msg9912498#msg9912498 date=1325926190]@Inky The last part of my post was directed more at TofH. I read the article at the link and find the 5th and 6th paragraph particularly interesting. I Googled as you suggested but the evidence still points to men takinig more risk. You on the other hand may want to Google Testosterone and it's effect on women.[/quote]Fine, I learned. Happy? Aside from this last response you just made, the claims and arguments you made still do no give an explanation as to what the difference is between a man seeking a submissive woman and a woman seeking a submissive man. |
| Education › Asian Students Cheating On Applications by InkedNerd(op): 10:04am On Jan 07, 2012 |
I came across this interesting article about Asians and cheating when it comes to US college applications so I was curious to know, what do you all make of this article? Personally, I can't say that this is a surprise to me. A few years back, I remember having a conversation with a Puerto Rican teacher who's wife was a lawyer and professor. He said that she had been conducting a study about cheating in schools. She handed students an exam which contained answers. The exams were created in a manner that intentionally left the answers in a manner not to give the students the idea that the professor was aware that the answers were present. While observing the students, the overall study showed that Asian students were more likely to cheat than non-Asian students. When they handed the tests to Asian students, majority of them handed back the exams with the exams after copying off the answer while an overwhelming number of non-Asian students handed back their exams the moment they realized that the answers were present. Even if I hadn't heard of my former teacher's wife's study, I still have witnessed cheating among Asian students before but that's not to say that I haven't seen it among other groups of people as well. Elite Asian students cheat like mad on US college applications By Patrick Winn BANGKOK, Thailand — From sleep to social lives, there is little Asia’s most upwardly mobile students won’t sacrifice for education. Though they belong to the so-called “Asian Century,” American colleges remain the premier destination for the elite from Shanghai to Singapore to Seoul. The path to US college acceptance, however, increasingly compels students to sacrifice their integrity. For the right price, unscrupulous college prep agencies offer ghostwritten essays in flawless English, fake awards, manipulated transcripts and even whiz kids for hire who’ll pose as the applicant for SAT exams. “Oh my God, they can do everything for you,” said Nok, 17-year-old Thai senior in her final year at a private Bangkok high school. (She asked GlobalPost to alter her name for this article.) “They can take the SAT for you, no problem. Most students don’t really think it’s wrong.” Among Asian high society, and particularly in China, parents’ obsession with sending their offspring to US colleges has given rise to a lucrative trade of application brokers. Depending the degree of assistance, families can expect to pay between $5,000 and $15,000. “The parent says, ‘My kid needs this GPA but, frankly, his scores aren’t that strong.’ Then the unscrupulous agent says ‘Don’t worry. We’ll figure that out,’” said Tom Melcher, chairman of Zinch China and author of a Chinese-language book on choosing American colleges. A 250-student survey by Zinch China, a Beijing wing of the California-based Zinch education consultancy, suggests college application fraud among Chinese students is extremely pervasive. According to the survey, roughly 90 percent of recommendation letters to foreign colleges are faked, 70 percent of college essays are ghostwritten and 50 percent of high school transcripts are falsified. “For the right price,” Melcher said, “the agent will either fabricate it or work with the school to get a different transcript issued.” Admission into a top 10 or top 30 school, as defined by the US News & World Report, can bring a $3,000 to $10,000 bonus for the agent, he said. The magazine, Melcher said, is commonly confused in China for an official government publication. Demand for such agents is high and getting higher. Rapid economic growth across China and other parts of Asia has sparked an explosion in foreign students hoping to secure their ascent with a Western diploma. Chinese citizens currently account for more than one in five foreign students studying at US colleges. Nearly 158,000 Chinese students are enrolled at any given time, a full 300 percent jump over mid-1990s numbers, according to the Institute of International Education. Chinese, Indian and South Korean students comprise roughly half of America’s foreign college student population. Vietnam has sent 13 percent more students to the US within the last year, and Malaysia has added 8 percent, the institute reports. But many American college officials are oblivious to the application fix-it men these foreign students may have paid back home. Worse yet, remaining blind to the deception is often financially incentivized. America’s economic downturn has drained the state tax coffers that provide a funding lifeline to many US colleges. Many schools have resorted to unpopular tuition hikes. But many are also courting wealthy foreign students whose families gladly fork over money for housing and tuition along with out-of-state or even out-of-country fees. “International students are seen as a source of revenue , and the trend has exploded in the past two years,” said Dale Gough, international education director for AACRAO, the American Association of Collegiate Registrars and Admissions Officers. Foreign students, through tuition and living expenses, contribute $2.1 billion to the US economy, according to the US Commerce Department. “In short,” Gough said, “they help the bottom line.” Excuses abound for ignoring fraudulent applications, Gough said. Some assume that kids who cheat will inevitably flame out anyway and never score a degree. Some admissions officers, he said, contend that “that’s just the way it’s done over there.” Many schools also make sloppy attempts to translate foreign transcripts, calculated by an “indigenous” and unfamiliar methodology, into America’s GPA or “grade point average” system, Gough said. His association publishes a guide to deciphering foreign scores, the only one of its kind, but fewer than 500 of the 3,500 institutions represented by AACRAO bother to buy a copy. “Translating foreign grades into a GPA system is meaningless,” Gough said. “They attempt to do it anyway.” Gough fears that universities’ lax standards, and focus on big foreign tuition payments, will eventually undermine the pedigree of an American diploma. The damage, he said, would be nearly impossible to undo. “This scenario spells disaster,” Gough said. “Even if a lot of the students who cheat are bright, and they go on to succeed, is this fair to American students? Or [to] the foreign students who play by the rules?” While America has ceded manufacturing power and foreign influence to China, an American degree remains the gold standard of educational prestige. Nok, who is currently applying for colleges abroad, never considered applying to universities in Asia. “Students who study in America are elite, the privileged,” said Nok. “It shows you’re smarter than the others.” But like most Asian students, Nok has felt baffled and overwhelmed by America’s complex application system. “Here, you take a big test one day and report the score. That’s how you figure out where you’ll go to college,” she said. “The Americans are different. They want to know the big picture. All these essays. All this stuff about your life.” America’s liberal arts application system is “fundamentally more confusing,” said Joshua Russo, director of Top Scholars, a college prep and tutoring agency in Bangkok. Asian families unfamiliar with the process, he said, are justified in seeking an agency’s help with application strategies and tutoring to build the skills US colleges demand. But Russo’s refrain to parents, he said, is that kids who can’t write their own essays are likely to burn out once enrolled in America. “Some consultants will promise the world , and they’re fundamentally preparing students to fail,” Russo said. “Beyond fabricating an essay, they’re fabricating a whole life story. Students will start to believe in the lie. It’s wrong.” The allure of America’s universities, and the pressure-cooker drive to succeed among Asia’s expanding upper class, will continue to propel Asian students into American schools. Many Chinese teenagers applying abroad, Melcher said, are the sort of highly motivated students colleges desire. “Chinese kids are typically great,” Melcher said. “They’re not at the tailgate parties drinking. They’re busting their butts. Failure is not an option.” But college application fraud will continue, he said, so long as the risks are low and the rewards are so high. His consultancy suggests interviewing all Chinese students via online video chats, conducting spot tests in English, and hiring a mainland Chinese staffer in the college’s home office. “Frankly, I feel really bad for Chinese families who are trying to be honest,” he said. “They’re driving 55 while everyone’s zooming past them. After a while, they throw up their hands and say, ‘Fine, I’ll speed up.’” http://www.globalpost.com/dispatch/news/regions/asia-pacific/thailand/120103/US-college-application-fraud-asia-elite-economy-china |
| Romance › Re: Why Are Nigerian Men Selective Listeners? I Can't Believe This: by InkedNerd(f): 9:33am On Jan 07, 2012 |
[quote author=tpia@ link=topic=840475.msg9912424#msg9912424 date=1325925021]^^you have to repost or else ask one of your lovers to stop modifying the thread.[/quote][quote author=tpia@ link=topic=840475.msg9912431#msg9912431 date=1325925097]you have always bored the heck out of me and i do consider you one of the most boring people on this forum. but i guess your lovers find you interesting. to each his or her own.[/quote]Like I said, no one is forcing you to reply. |
| Romance › Re: Why Are Nigerian Men Selective Listeners? I Can't Believe This: by InkedNerd(f): 9:28am On Jan 07, 2012 |
tpia@: Since the comments that were posted were deleted, this is in reference to the last ting you said. You have two options my dear--two options! They are available to you just like it is to everyone else. Its not a big deal. Just pick one and move on with your life. We all have freewill on this forum. |
| Romance › Re: My Underwear by InkedNerd(f): 9:01am On Jan 07, 2012 |
@OP: Honestly, I would have no problem washing my boyfriend's, husband's, partner's etc. underwear just as long as you can do the same. I have changed dirty diapers, washed my siblings undies, and touched things that haven't been very pleasant so washing another person's underwear is no problem if they can do the same for me. FYI, I know this thread is old |
| Dating And Meet-up Zone › Re: How Did Your Day Go? by InkedNerd(f): 8:16am On Jan 07, 2012 |
sauer:Chei, you really don't like jazz huh? Sorry to hear that you had a  day. |
| Foreign Affairs › Re: Dedicated To The Late Brotherly Leader, Colonel Muammar Qaddafi by InkedNerd(f): 8:05am On Jan 07, 2012 |
Elyas:Yes, I am Nigerian and what does you being Somali have to do with you posting your video in the wrong section of this forum?! |
| Romance › Re: Ladies, Would You Date/marry A Submissive Man? by InkedNerd(f): 8:01am On Jan 07, 2012 |
[quote author=Lord_Reed link=topic=838273.msg9911944#msg9911944 date=1325917121]@Inky I would like to see the study you are quoting because as far as I know statistically there are more male police officers and firefighters than female, just to mention two of the high risk jobs. Anyway I am not here for a war of words with anyone. You are very free to express yourself in anyway you choose and live your life so. I have expressed my own and will live so.[/quote]Well I have seen discussions on tv by sociologists/puschologists, in person [from experts], and online through various studies, which have all demonstrated the same conclusions. Using examples such as being a police officer and fire fighter is just a minuscule way of looking at the types of risks a woman can or is willing to make. If you wanna talk about about risks in those fields, you need to take certain things into consideration. For example here in New York there are few black fire fighters [regardless of gender] and even fewer women in the fire department. In many cases, the reason for lack of individuals joining the department is based on both race and gender, mind you I'm saying this based on someone who knows people who works directly with the department. It does sadden me that till this day women are still given a hard time if they express an interest in joining the fire department. I'll give you another example. A while back, I noticed a thread on Nairaland where people were saying that they would never fly on a plane if they knew that the pilot was a woman. And in case you aren't aware, there aren't a lot of female pilots, compared to men. Even in 2012, there still people who posses these notions that there are certain things that women shouldn't take part in on a professional level. In some professions, there will always be a "boys club" mentality with such matters. With that being said, I will provide a link to the information I mentioned about women taking more risks than men. You can even Google it and if correct me if I am wrong. Here is the link → http://www.bps.org.uk/news/women-often-take-more-risks-men. I also have seen other studies that have show that women will take more ricks, especially if surrounded by women. Like I said, you're more than welcome to correct me. I'm always willing to learn By the way, I'm not here to war with anyone either--its just a discussion. You are indeed right about you having your opinions and how you choose to live. |
| Foreign Affairs › Re: Dedicated To The Late Brotherly Leader, Colonel Muammar Qaddafi by InkedNerd(f): 7:18am On Jan 07, 2012 |
Ummm, Elyas while some of us may appreciate the video of mister Muammar Qaddafi this just isn't the section for that |
| Romance › Re: Why Are Nigerian Men Selective Listeners? I Can't Believe This: by InkedNerd(f): 7:08am On Jan 07, 2012 |
MarcAnthon:lol I get your point but I'm not one to badger a guy like that. I'm into sports as well, so I could even join him. Even if its not a sport I like, I can bear it. Is the game going to go on forever? Most likely it won't. I can always find something better to do or take a nap while he watches his games. So, while all those scenarios seem possible it would never occur [well, number one could happen ] but for the most part I just leave people when they need or want to be left alone. Even if his team lost, I'm sure I can "cheer" him up. . . Unless he placed a bet on the game, in that case that's something he should just deal with  . Me "cheering" him up is definitely something that the game can't give him I'll share with you a bit of information on my family. When my dad is watching football [or any other sport], he's usually jumping, yelling, and hollering during the whole thing. Sometimes my mom ignores him. . . Other times, she joins him and hollers as well! She's not one of those people who nag about her guy watching tv. The only time I could ever see her really get in his face about watching a game is if she needed to discuss or address a very serious matter with him and he is looking the other way. Even in such a scenario, he is reasonable enough to listen to her. At times [not in all cases though] I think some girls make too much of a big deal over their guy watching a game and not paying attention to them. Us girls need to keep in mind that these are the same guys who at times accompany us to hair appointments, shopping trips [yes, I've seen the look on a man's face after hours of shopping], and chick flick [arrghh, I hate that term ], so for me I understand and can be quite nonchalant about these kind of things P.S. I never bore my guys  |
| Romance › Re: 9ja Women Always Faking! by InkedNerd(f): 3:06am On Jan 07, 2012 |
[quote author=Mrs, Chima link=topic=839545.msg9911436#msg9911436 date=1325900189]I was being polite. I had few choice words but I am being monitored by moderators.  Didn't want to hurt him further.[/quote]Hurt him? Oh please, don't do the fool any favor. |
| Romance › Re: Why Are Nigerian Men Selective Listeners? I Can't Believe This: by InkedNerd(f): 2:59am On Jan 07, 2012 |
[quote author=Mrs, Chima link=topic=840475.msg9911467#msg9911467 date=1325901004]Ladies, if your guy ignores you during sport time, ignore him during bed time. [/quote]lol poor guys |
| Romance › Re: Why Are Nigerian Men Selective Listeners? I Can't Believe This: by InkedNerd(f): 2:44am On Jan 07, 2012 |
MarcAnthon:Chei, even the thought of being with someone 24/7 scares the shït out of me. There are few people I can be confined with and not go mad. |
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