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HQ: Yeah. The GBP pairs showing that strongly.

AUD/USD is a good one to watch at this moment. Should be dropping to 1.310 (and possibly lower) within the hour - I've been in since 1.352.

AUD/USD equally made that downward leap on checking now, wasn't I telling somebody that it doesn't look like a good buy trade.
It may retrace and push back longward though.

"You've been in since 1.352?" You've made like 30 pips and more if on a good volume.
"Boy, you're making money this year".

HQ: What a morning, Stumbled on GBP/USD at 1.5420 - Sold , currently at 1.5321 and "dangling" - all in less than an hour.

Did anyone happen to cash in on that long downward dive? (GBP/USD & GPB/CHF)

Your Gbp/Usd is looking sell-sweet to me more than even the Gbp/Jpy, I didn't trade it though.
It shows more bearish directional than GJ. Good pips there, happy for you.

Alleluiah! We are good, ain't we?

EU is being b*tchy in this hour candlestick, hope it longs back up for those trading on it.

Looks like it's still dropping down for another good sell movement.

Woooooooooooyiiiiiiiiii
Look at that Gbp/Jpy
Great movement there.
Great sell pips. Wish I was using my live account or the 385 I just locked in would have been mine for keeps
Glad I made positive movement there.

honeric01: Andrew from forexpeacearmy

EUR/USD:
market has turned to upward retracement, so next level to watch for is 1.3460-1.3480:

Andrew.

Thanks for the info, your Andrew seems like a forex expert worth following like twitter .
I am going to try and absorb knowledge from their site too.

honeric01: Overall there is strength in the AUD, EUR and JPY

Overall there is weakness in the GBP, CAD and USD



Today’s Trading Pairs - Likely Strengths and Weaknesses

Buy Trades - EUR/USD, EUR/GBP, EUR/CAD, AUD/USD, AUD/CAD, AUD/CHF

Sell Trades - GBP/JPY, GBP/AUD, CAD/JPY

-Andrew-

Thanks for this, that's just the summary of what makes me peep into this thread sometimes. Neat summary.
Where do you get your alert from so that I can subscribe to it. I need good alerts/trade summaries like that.

That AUD/USD gold thingz is a crazy graph though, do you really see it as a buy buy trade? Anything can happen there the way it stands.

I am surprised that people are believing this and going "Rippy" when they are not very sure.
Somebody writes this and we all jump and believe, Na wa-o

chichi254: dats d issue my dear. Have gotten my 1st degree and concluded my NYSC some months bak. Yet 2 get a reasonabl job. So evry1 is like ''now is ur time o!''

What you should be very concerned about is finding a job to sustain yourself or something to do and earn a living from. If you long to settle down, be praying, be searching wisely (I believe that a woman should reach out and search too even if it doesn't sound right to some people). By searching I don't mean that you wear your jeans and walk the road knocking on doors and looking for a man, join such things as single's fellowship or activities meant for youths in your church etc, attend social activities where you can mingle with your fellow youths. Be open to meeting new people and not shy away from meeting people, be using your head to know who you will be happy with when people approach you to seek your hand.

You want to lie down and smile at a man you really like, wake up every morning to see his face and be happy not cringe on seeing him, wondering how on earth you are here with this man and regretting marrying him.

Confirmation/Proof please.
How do we believe it, we weren't even shown the Dr. Sid's tweet?

I'm speechless at these pictures and still trying hard to believe that girls throw down mattresses in the forest (or do they even live there in the forest ). Where is the proof that those mattresses were laid by Nigerian girls or they are just writing terrible things and ascribing it to Nigeria as if our country is the capital city of hell fire. Let them remove these disgusting and undignifying pictures from the net and stop connecting the name of our country to it.

How can they snap pictures of a condom dump site and write and ascribe it to Nigerian girls? What shows that that refuse was from Nigerians and not people of other countries? what is the name of the media house that wrote that stuff let me write and tell them not to be connecting Nigeria to their damn rubbish.

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ferhyntorlah: Oluwajuwonlo aka Jaywon really really really did well with this song. I first heard it with my dad on our way from church and popsy was really enjoying it.

He commended the guy for not including the year he recorded the song unlike some other ones preceding it. He noted that this song would be an evergreen song, which could be played at the beginning of any year.

Kudos to Jaywon!

Yeah Babes, you are right and he even chose a good time to release the song.. I only wished he stretched the chorus long because that is the sweetest part of the song.

DailyNews: Hey Ivy, you are so funny, come on...I am not upset dear, never will be, not any sooner...I love this thread yes, I do.

And of course I understand that all humans love freedom, thats what every human desires...so, if truly a single lady wants just freedom, let her make God and strong moral discipline her solid rock and wall, else, she would fall out cos male predators most times target single ladies living alone, and they most times come to just destroy than to build, though not all, just be cautious, wish you all the best in life

SimplYeahmee: stay with a female co worker or ask your sister to come and stay with you. it's safer this way

The safety aspect of it some of you mentioned is hilarious, somebody said that you can go live with a female co-worker or bring your sister to stay with you like the female co-worker or sister is the superman that will rescue you should a male predator/thief etc come knocking.

Haven't you seen where robbers/kidnappers visit men injure, kidnap and even beat them? The other side of male predators you were referring to which may be (badminded boyfriend/lovers who want to use and dump them or even r*pe them) can still approach them whether they are living with sisters or co-workers. Living with a male or female relative does not guarantee your safety, it is God that protects. A lady that is good is good, living with others or alone does not change that. Some men here that are of the opinion that a single female shouldn't live alone are biased because they still negated such females moral wise. The safety aspect isn't holding water one bit.

Charliemorgano: Most men tend to distance themselves from the independent woman...Living alone...drives a good car possibly with additional assets like land...Instances abound that such ladies always yearn for true companionship yet found none...Men are always scetpical of their ability to sustain a Marriage...Why should success in work life become such a limiting factor?

Ask me o-o brother.
The type of men that are scared of successful women have one complex or the other and are suffering from poverty mentality because in his/her mind it is only a not-too-successful lady that is good for him like he is scared of success . I know that another aspect of it is this great fear of not having to dominate and control the woman when he marries. A man that sets out to marry a woman he is going to love, care for not dominate and subdue can't have such fears. I have heard a man say that he doesn't want his wife to become rich on her own, that he wants to make his wife who she will be which is because he is afraid that she may become richer than him. What will such a man married to a woman do when she gets promoted to a very good salary in her work place or garners an expensive contract, such a man can ask her to stop working or to drop the contract for fear of her becoming too rich: poverty mentality. Let's not be too limiting.

Single ladies can enjoy their lives, dream big and work hard while waiting for whoever God has for them not hide away her money and be taking public transport when she can afford to buy cars, ignore good opportunities that can yield millions for her because millions will chase away intending suitors (hey! these ladies have to eat and survive too ) or cling to the apron of parents and siblings, sharing homes with them for fear that when she branches out on her own and owns a home that no man will want to marry her. Let's free up our minds biko. Thank you.

@Dailynews
I hope I didn't hurt your feelings with my views on young ladies renting/building and living on their own? I didn't mean to hurt your feelings. It's just a pity that we don't agree on that topic and in spite of that i still appreciate your personality. You seem like a young man with a good heart. I almost felt good with one of your posts yesterday that gave me a warm feeling of being "chaperoned" with the way you were writing "hey, girls do it like this and not like that". It takes a person with a good heart to look out for others like that even when none of us knows it all---neither me not you.

Thanks for looking out for the girls, i mean having their backs, I mean having a good heart towards them.

Maya2pretty: @ivynwa pressure? me ke? my dear d bible says he who finedth[/b]so he's d one under d pressure of findin me, mine is just to focus on my career and let God worry about that, afterall he said [b]cast all ur burdens upon me lol, the tot of meetin him and all just makes me happy it always does

I understand how you feel.
How are you today. Hugs to you.

evilspirit: yes i chose to live with her but my question is how can i turn a woman who hates doing it to a woman who will do it

Come o, your username is somehow and a bit familiar too. Are you sure that you are a real poster and not one of the people posting fake threads of things that never happened? Sorry if you are not---sha. Gotta run.

In years to come she may be open to that. Be patient with her. Don't force her into things she is not open to, we are all different too and like and dislike things differently. I have seen a lady that can't stomach having another put his tongue in her mouth in the name of kissing. This is why people date and court before marriage to ensure that you settle with somebody that is compatible to you. She told you that she doesn't want to do that and you mustn't force her. You chose to live without that when you chose her and her refusal to do it, it's not like she refuses you the original conjugal rights so you can't fault her right now. You chose to live without your blow things , you did. Kpele . Laughter dey catch me o-o as I dey end this post but I no dey laugh at you na the "blow things" that you wrote that is making me laugh.

Abi you want make we tell you to chase your wife away because of "blow things"? Don't expect anybody to tell you that. She may come around some day. You can stop hammering on that and let her have some peace for now. Later in the future you can ask again, you can also have an adult big aunty that understands your blow things to talk to her about it so that she will understand that some wives do that. She may come round with such small efforts but if she doesn't you have to understand that this lady never wanted to do this and respect her wishes.

@Maya and chichi

You young ones remind me of myself when I had threads and seriously looking for Mr. Right without caring what anybody said but I outgrew that when i grew a tough skin to the pressures around me.
Maya not to worry too much, relax a little and soon enough you will finally meet him. Everything will be alright girl. Don't let anybody pressure you into making wrong choices, don't also make wrong choices because friends are getting married and you must get married like them too. Our destinies are different and at your own time all things will be made beautiful for you by God. Alleluiah!

chichi254: my dear, i don't think dat d chance is worth taking. Jst dat pressures 4rm family is becomin unbearabl

Don't allow anybody pressure you into marriage. If you are still in school, be working hard so that you can make good grades and get a good job so that you will be able to contribute to taking care of your kids when you finally finds who you like and marries him.

evilspirit: I got married some years back. My wife refused to give me Mouth Gig saying she finds it unnatural and disgusting. She says she can't imagine herself doing it. I do go down on her to suck her pussy though she reluctantly allows it because she feels its selfish of her even though she enjoys it. I've begged her many times to give me Mouth Gig to no avail saying I should just forget because she will NEVER to do it. Pls how can I make her do it. I can't cheat on her.

additional info
we actually discussed it while dating and she said she expressed her unwillingness do it. however many ladies who were hitherto reluctant to MouthAction eventually agreed to do it after a while and i was expecting the same.i started going down on my wife after we got we married and i did not tried it on anybody before then and it wasn't easy at first but i was really interested in pleasing her.my wife has maintained her stance and even dared me to cheat on her because she will never ever give me blow things

The end of this post made me laugh and laugh. This poster is very funny-o-o with the way he wrote that his wife said that she will never give him "blow things"

She told you that she will never do it from the start so she was honest to you.
Yeah if she sees it in adult movies she may come round and agree to do that. Be patient with her while trying more to make her over but if she insists you can let her be for now. She may come round later but even if she doesn't-----lack of blow things won't kill you . It hasn't all the time you weren't doing it.

DailyNews: Ivy, I am sorry if I sounded judgmental or biased, but I am telling u the truth. That practice of single ladies getting their own house to get freedom and space even when their parents or siblings live in same city is an American lifestyle that most other cultures with strong moral hold frowns at.

That culture encourages waywardness and immorality and that's y its rampant in America and Europe- single girls live alone and live as they please without any parental or family watch or scold. When u give birth to a female child tomorrow, u will understand Ivy.

The lady can get a younger brother or sister to join her if no other option abounds for her.

Believe me and we all know it- majority of single ladies who live alone away from family watch live wayward, I am sorry to sound harsh, but I like being straight and blunt no matter how ppl may feel. I find it hard to hide truth.

Most times, that excess freedom of living alone and doing as she pleases do get into their heads (not all though) and they stop feeling the need to marry and wouldn't want to live under a mans control. That's part of the reason u see most single, cos they have become so used to their excess freedom and are afraid of entering into marriage or committed relationship and even at a slightest disagreement with their spouse when they finally marry or enter a relationship, the first thing that runs to their mind is- divorce, breakup, by the way I had been coping without a man, I love my freedom and no man can disrupt it in the name of marriage.

Research well on this Ivy and find out dear.

Your thoughts Baby. Let's not be too limiting.

DailyNews: Ivy, u have good argument up there and we all know those reasons, but just that majority of the single ladies who live alone n do most of those things u mentioned abused it, they lived wayward life- entertaining men after men, going out at will n never return back on time and lots more just becos they are living alone n have no relation to caution or scold them.

I have one near me, u won't believe that this girl hadly sleep in d house she rented. For d past months now, she is nowhere to be found. Pops in with one guy n disappears again for weeks or months. And I think she clubs regularly too. She is working in a very good company and she earns much in fact. So that's y, nature n society doesn't support that, understand y it is frowned at by ppl n society dear, its well.

Sweetheart it was never written down by nature and society that a young lady cannot do the things she wants to do. What you frown at doesn't change that, your frowning at it did not write that down in Nigerian or nature's book of law.

I wrote this to nullify the statements you and the other poster quoted up there. You already condemned such ladies and said that most of them are immoral and wayward, the other poster was telling us how he won't even consider such ladies for marriage as their house may have been paid for by sugar daddies and lovers. I find that too judgemental. There are single ladies in Nigeria branching out succeeding in businesses, donating to charities, making achievements,doing good works while waiting for Mr. Right, in other countries there are single ladies living alone running their company, owning their houses etc so let's not be limiting.
A lady should remain real to herself even when she still longs for a life partner. Real in her dreams, likes, dislikes, needs. Your nice thread is talking about real people with real lives and needs not real people with unreal lives structured to please what others think.

carmelion: Hey dolls,and of course the guys,a nice sunday to you!

I had a discussion with my friend yesterday and he told me something;which on a closer observation,I discovered that it is true.

I observed that,a single lady(who is not a student) living alone has slimmer chances of getting married,than a single lady living with a family or an elderly person.

My friend said that guys might come around and make friends with you but would not take you home to see his people.

When a single lady is staying alone,people see her as irresponsible,a love peddler e.t.c. Nobody cares why you re staying alone ,they just go ahead and draw their conclusion that even your rent was paid for,by a sugar daddy.....hmmmm.

Please house,what is your take on this?

chikeorji123: 100% truth as far as african mentality is concern unless u want to migrate to jupita planet..let me use my self as an example..:once l visit a lady staying on her own apartment taking care of her bills & all that,well is good but what did l just say? But,why? b/c she has no defence at all.the last thing on my mind is marriage.why? l assumed her numerious boyfriend & sugar daddies are the one taking care of that..if l'm wrong by time she have to prove her innocent l'm gone to dubai..

DailyNews: Hello Carmelion, I dnt know wot name to call u cos I dnt fancy the carmelion nor the doll cos u deserve a better name than those. That said, let's move on...

I am breaking my own law today of no more commenting on ur thread, but its cos ur thread is so- informative, entertaining and educating too, God bless u and many other grt contributors. To all the guys, nbright, boss, etc, God bless u all.

Carm, the topic u raised here today abt living alone as a single lady, believe me we had similar discuss...and without mincing words, I would advice any single lady out there not to be in a hurry to move out of ur parental or guardian house, it makes guys (Nigerian scenario) to see u as immoral and wayward girl.

And of course, most are. Yesternight, as I came out in front the house at late night, around 11:30pm, I saw a lady returning alone, pretty n elegant, I was angry with her even though I dnt knw her. As that one passed, another was on metro taxi driving out from d estate....probably to a night club, this was what sparked up the discussion I had with a friend on this. Will gist u guys when I am chanced.

Carm and all the wonderful ladies contributing here, I see u ladies walking happily to the altar soon

My take on the topic is that the fact that a lady lives on her own does not make her less of a good lady and that people should be open minded about that too. Our children will grow up tomorrow and come to the internet and read that a lady living alone is not considered responsible, they may imbibe that and the cycle continues on and on.

Telling a lady that she shouldn't live alone while single because of what people will think and consider her is almost the same as telling a lady not to buy a car, build a house or start running her own company because suitors will feel intimidated by that. It is also the same thing as telling a lady "yeah, hurry and marry that man even if you don't like him" so that people around will not look down on your single status etc.
Shouldn't we be open minded about that? A good lady is a good lady whether she lives with her mamma or lives alone. There are young ones in the village that come to the city to work and may have a need to get an acommodation for themselves. Should such persons not make that move to better their lives because they don't want to be categorized bad and unfit for marriage. I know a young girl in her twenties from my village that on finishing schooling came to Lagos----found a job, rented her own home even when she has a brother in Lagos that is doing well in his business and a married sister in Lagos too. She may have wanted her own space and not wanting to get on the nerves of others sharing their place with them and I simply had admiration for the courage of that girl. Out there in other countries there are Naija ladies that migrated to work for a better life, I guess such ladies should go and squatt with reverend sisters in the church instead of renting so that they can be considered goodly .

Hold! Is a young single lady expected to go and cling to the body of her siblings or parents all the days of her single life just because she doesn't want to be considered too free and unfit for a "goodly man"? Single ladies, just like single men long for their own spaces whether a place close enough to her work place or a quiet place to retire to at the end of the day and be able to think and live peacefully. A lady that is still waiting to meet the man to settle down with is not limited by any law or rules from setting goals, working good job, doing good business and from the proceed of such renting her own apartment, buying lands, building houses, buying office buildings, opening her companies. Fulfilling the desires of her heart. If the people around her think she shouldn't, let her not limit herself by such thinking and mindsets.

2buff: Hogwash!
(Except the part where you admitted that you'd like to see the dowry system more humanized. More on that later.)

<takes puzzle from ivywna to put in the pieces>
The concept of paying a bride price hails from an indicator that whoever is paying it (X) is being done a favor by the person receiving it (Y).
It asserts that something is also being given to X by Y in exchange for these moneys and items. A purchase of sorts.

ego concur, X has acquired a human asset from Y. We shall call it(her) Z. Yay!

---
squirm all you want at what follows, but this was the perspective
(perception, culture wuteva you wanna call it ) behind the exchange when these traditions were formed. Moving on...
---

Since Z was little more than a purchased asset, Z has little to no say over the affairs and matters of X.
X may care for Z, but the reality is Z must always do what X wants, how X wants it, and if X is unsatisfied by Z's stock, can return Z to it's owner.
Z will require the approval of X for everything. Vice versa not required. Doesn't sound all that fun to Z, but then again Z was the one that decided to be purchased like an asset so Z lived with it.
Both X and Z walked in this understanding for a long time. Viz a viz, our parents/grand parents/previous generations.

But look! What is this?
....O dear

Ivynwa has provided an example of a "modern day" X and Z.

X having STILL purchased Z from Y, finds himself STILL faced with the task of doing chores and such, while Z sleeps; or if X is lucky, Z would do the chores 50/50.
This particular Z does not even work and leaves all the Z-type duties to X (hence raising several questions as to why X even puts up with this ish from his purchased asset).

This modern day X and Z can only truly exist if Z ceased from being a purchased entity, but rather, a person free to love and commit just like X commits.
Even the smell of anything to do with a purchase must be abolished. It's not like in either scenarios Y is completely out of the scenario anyway. When Y gets old, X and Z are still expected to take care of Y and most of the time, Y's other offspring.

I submit to the Z's to actively stand against being sold as assets, and to think it a degrading part of their accepted culture....not to be daydreaming and fantasizing over it and looking for reasons to defend being sold like objects.
Symbolic acts like Z insisting on paying exactly half of the mandated brideprice by Y is one of such steps.

@2buff
I tried to read down your stuff but nearly got a headache trying to fit your X,Y, Z into their respective places. Like I said I don't want us arguing over issues so let me say that you are entitled to your opinion if what you were trying to explain to me is what you think just like I am entitled to mine. I guess that saves us plenty headache Ojare. Don't be mad at me please.

Where I live their ladies do plenty of that. Their beer bottles are smaller though and you will them standing by a bar or something drinking straight from the bottle like Mgbekes. The one I can't wrap my hand around is when they stand like that too and smoke like crazy and blowing out smoke like they don't care . I mean do your thing (drinking & smoking) if that is what you want but don't guzzle it straight from the bottle abrasively or don't stand around doing that like men like they can't sit down and do that. It is among such ladies, you here loud loud noise making like they don't give a damn----it just takes all the feminity away from them.

Could be that she is running from "Tu-face" thingz? Tu-face fit double up the pregnancy to the power two.
Why did she bother flying that long distance with her pregnancy when she didn't even have much time on hands to spare on the programme?

She shouldn't be flying all over the place in aeroplanes with a baby hurdled in there in her tummy. to her and her baby and Kanye boy (yeah he makes me sweet music) .

honeric01: lol with time, you'd know why emotion in forex is different. Its well.

I do agree that one needs to have a hold on the emotion and know when to move forward or backward and you are right, mastering that is having good control of the money game.

What the heck does he do that gives him $30 million per day (that's almost N5 billion naira) cause "We making money this year" .
I like to read about these hardworking business people like Warren buffet, Kiyosaki etc. Will return to the thread to see how he does that lol.

HumbledbYGrace: No...I wouldn't date a lazy bones! I prefer to date people M friends with, so my hubby should be in the mist of all my male friends.

@Humbledbygrace
Please help me keep 2buff busy, I need to get off the net right now and do other things. It's morning here and i haven't slept all night. I don't want him thinking that I'm avoiding him or running away.

@2buff
Nnaa I have to run off the net but will return later in the day, have to get things done. I don't have the luxury of chilling too long in the net. Please bear with me. When I return i will join in the nice conversations. It was nice discussing these things you know and i will be back for sure.

2buff: Hehehe, this "perception of the people" sounds a whole lot like "Culture" to me.
I love how you have again gone back to this "hybrid" thing that defeats the whole purpose of picking a side.

Anyway, this is progress. By what you have said here, and by where your mind is at right now in this post, I want you to maintain this exact train of thought, this exact state of mind....don't change it O!

Now revisit your dowry statement a few posts back.
I'll try to let you critique yourself.
Don't dissapoint me ...if you do, I'll have to help you put the pieces in myself

You made it sound like the "dowry payment" culture and the "man source provision and woman do the cooking and birthing" are all laws and that I should have the same rigid opinion over the two. I don't believe that the later is a law, the former is a traditional law (which i will like to see changed and made more humanizing), the later is only but a perception---i can't have the same opinion about the two so there is no jig saw for you to exhale and put together here. Check mate!