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Nairaland General › Re: Happy Birthday 190 by Ivynwa(f): 1:34am On Jun 05, 2011
Happy Birthday Sweetheart!
Family › Re: What Should I Do If My Wife Destroy My Property (tv) by Ivynwa(f): 5:46pm On Jun 04, 2011
@The blessed

Abeg no vex too much for the boys, they are cracking me up seriously. I am beginning to see different new species of Nigerian men. Let the babies be dearie, some are just sweet big babies throwing tantrums in Nairaland, ain't they cute and adorable?
Romance › Re: Men And Women: Please Know Your Role In Life by Ivynwa(f): 3:27pm On Jun 04, 2011
Posted by RichVkunt
The world would be a much peaceful place if every one knew and accepted their role in this journey called life.
Men are meant to be providers.Women are meant to be submissive to their men,in the bedroom and in the kitchen.
That is natural.
The problem is women refuse to accept their natural role and this is the cause of tension all over the world and on this forum NL.
Men are by nature polygamous,there is no man that can stick to ONE woman,except you are a virgin or a sanctimonious fool,pretending on NL,with the hope that one of the females is gonna hook up with you.
Men and women shouild accept their natural roles created for them by nature.Trying to go against this creates tension and war of the genders.
I wish the men and women would stick to their natural and proper roles:the world would be so peaceful.
Please I do not hate women as some females on this forum always try to suggest,the simple fact is I do not take them serious at all;
Women are created to be playthings for men,they should please know their roles!
Rant over,am out!
I don't see the need for us to waste energy on this poster because after expressing himself, he declared that the RANT is over. The dictionary describes the word rant as:

RANT means
(n.) High-sounding language, without importance or dignity of thought; boisterous, empty declamation; bombast; as, the rant of fanatics.
(v. i.) To rave in violent, high-sounding, or extravagant language, without dignity of thought; to be noisy, boisterous, and bombastic in talk or declamation;


He even knew he was making declarations that have no importance or dignity of thought and to think that he also called himself a K*nt----OMG!   undecided
Let's declare the thread closed, shall we?  grin  grin End of Discussion !

Richie K*ntie don't be mad at me Sweetie, we are all having fun okay.
Family › Re: What Should I Do If My Wife Destroy My Property (tv) by Ivynwa(f): 3:01pm On Jun 04, 2011
odiaero:
Yes, i think it is time to chase out the ladies out of our lives, just last year, i got a slap from my girlfriend sad, i managed to bear it, and again,
yesterday night, she hit my head with a Notebook, i got shockwaves all over me cos i did not expect that, just cos i told her she should stop making an excuse of being tired after cooking and was watching Tele instead of reading her books  
Am still angry till now as am typing, am going to kick her white backside out, am tired of all this assaults on  me alone
undecided
OMG!, I no fit laugh abeg!  Bu ha ha ha--- grin grin I am not laughing at you Boo but that part that read "all that on me alone"  cracked me up real good 
All that on you alone? huh Poor you Baby   kiss grin

Did you say to get the ladies out of you guys life? You are lucky you have already been born to life by a lady and that somebody else didn't enforce that notion of yours on the human race before you were born or you wouldn't have come into existence. You sure don't know how much we ladies mean to the masculine world: WE ARE YOUR INSPIRATIONS, YOUR MOTIVATIONS and YOUR LIFELINE in LIFE. It's a pity you can't do without us yet you keep denying us. Sorry, YOU ARE STUCK ON US BOO  tongue tongue  kiss
Somebody make some noise there for "the women" khutdrseszfdxgfvn,km.lm.lnkjvhgcxfdzdszcbmjnm.lmljkhcgfxzzfdxcvnbbmjbjf
Don't I feel like hearing Shaggy's "Strength of a woman" right now?

That our girlfriend must never slap you again, wetin? And she went ahead to hit your head with a notebook? Me I dey seriously vex for her right now angry angry She better watch herself, white or black o-o-o nobody treats our Nigerian men like that for us please-o-o

M M M:
yes supported since she can break your BLACK and WHITE television,
she can also kill u.
So send her out of your house and out of your life.
Are you Serious?

tEsLim:
First question wetin you do to the woman? You shayo come house? Cheat on ham? Tell ham say Genevieve for inside TV fine pass ham? They argue which channel to watch? I can't judge till I hear full story oh! If na the woman self come forum she will say her own part in a way we would be likely to support her without knowing the truth.

What did you do my brother? And TV na small thing you can send me you account number or home address I send you small 21" inch in visitors bedroom make you dey manage for now. You can't send a woman out because of TV. Thats very cheap and material. Not like she gave our your ML to his ale (boyfriend) or you saw a man on her cheesy and can proof it. What should men like us do na? We don see african woman magic well well oh. Endurance , just endure till you kids her 18yrs and divorce cheesy , No man should be married to a woman when kids are above 18. You should be single and enjoy life
Unbelievable!

pro01:
The possessed woman even reminds me of Ambassador Wigwe's Jezebel wife. @ Poster, when you're contesting for governorship tomorrow, you can be sure that she'd sensationally claim that you pressed hot Iron on her face in the heat of an argument - and produce fake pictorial evidence to support her allegation against you. And of course you'd lose the election as a consequence.

You berra flush that witch down the toilet NOW before she jeopardizes your future.
One more reason to love Naija the more, our Naija is now full of gentlemen Gagas. Isn't "Gagaricious" variety the spice of life? Where the fr**king h*ll did these fellas spring from with these out-of-this-world notions?  huh huh
Anyway, I love you guys all the same!  cool kiss cool kiss
Family › Re: What Should I Do If My Wife Destroy My Property (tv) by Ivynwa(f): 8:41pm On Jun 03, 2011
Stotle:
@ poster! The complete story
We had a little quarel and since then we had not been taking as wife/husband. I did eat then. After some weeks, she move to other rooms whre she decide to install a fan without my knowledge and this fan has caused serious quarel/argument b4 which she packed and keep inside the room whre her sister is living. note that we have 3bedroom flat.
On dat day, I went to give our son to her for feeding and get to knw dat she has installed d fan in the room whre am planing to use for mysef as library. I told her to leave d room dat she can go and install/stay in d room with her sister if want to. But she said no and I removed the fan control. she if i destroy d fan that she will destroy the TV. I only removed d fan control frm d wall not to destroy it.
To my greatest suprise she went inside and took hammer and nag it to the TV and our Son is in the sitting room. I just tank God dat the TV was not a tube type which can kill someone. So i quickly took d TV outside mysef.
since den we have not been doing as husband/wife.
Old boy you and your wife need to sit down and settle the differences that made her want a separate room in the first place. You should have left her fan for her, she needed it for comfort and was angered that you did not consider her comfort which may be why she meddled with your Telly. You two need to curb such violence before it becomes a habit (I have seen this very volatile couple that break up their stuffs when they are quarrelling only to make back up and spend to replace them), that is not funny one bit and to think that she did that in front of a child.
Let her know that you are not going to tolerate that in your union and you yourself should man up and work towards clearing the air so that you can have peace in your home.

How long do you guys plan to carry long faces and the wait on who will eat the humble pie?  huh  huh You can as well thaw the ice now and find the remedy to the problem that existed beforehand. You may need to mellow down a bit on her because you had me wondering whether you are not being too authoritative, you said that the fan has caused serious quarrel when she wanted to mount it before and when you refused she obediently packed it in her sister's room. If there were no quarrel in the first place here and your wife wanted a separate bedroom, shouldn't you oblige her her room before thinking of a library for yourself, here you prefer to have your library and asked that she put up with her sister. You may need to be giving her more consideration dearie, It is true that you are her man and she should be respecting you but her opinions matters too. She is your wife not the enemy that you two have suddenly become and are wasting sweet bonding times carrying face for each other and bickering over fans and TVs.
Family › Re: Wigwe (Beaten Ambassador's Wife): The Other Side Of The Story by Ivynwa(f): 3:25am On Jun 01, 2011
I'm disgusted by this couple, their marriage is like a political field with each trying to outdo the other in order to draw pity from people. I mean there is an atom of truth in the man's side of the story because the woman's face actually looks like the blood was deliberately smeared on the face before the pictures were taken.
It does look like the marriage of 2 aggressive persons and in the other side of the coin like a case of a woman trying to get some revenge on her husband or why will a marriage degenerate to the point where bloodied face has to be splashed on the newspapers?

I ain't justifying the man for giving her those injuries though, a man must never hit a woman. Just wondering how two adults that made kids together can be undressing themselves before the whole world in the name of hatred, the acquisition of properties and power. What a big shame! I refuse to take sides with any of them, theirs seem too ugly to handle.
Crime › Re: Stupid Nigerian-Kenyan Ambasador Beats His Wife by Ivynwa(f): 3:18am On Jun 01, 2011
read the other side of the story here https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-679613.0.html and felt disgusted by this couple, their marriage is like a political field with each trying to outdo the other in order to draw pity from people. I mean there is an atom of truth in the man's side of the story because the woman's face actually looks like the blood was deliberately smeared on the face before the pictures were taken.
It does look like the marriage of 2 aggressive persons and in the other side of the coin like a case of a woman trying to get some revenge on her husband or why will a marriage degenerate to the point where bloodied face has to be splashed on the newspapers.

I ain't justifying the man for giving her those injuries though, a man must never hit a woman. Just wondering how two adults that made kids together can be undressing themselves before the whole world in the name of hatred, the acquisition of properties and power. What a big shame! I refuse to take sides with any of them, theirs seem too ugly to handle.
Family › Re: My Wedding Is In A Week And I Have Pimples All Over My Face. Help! by Ivynwa(f): 3:02pm On May 29, 2011
Neutrogena transparent facial bars control Pimples, It is a kind of facial soap that you can use only on your face when you want to shower. If you were using it weeks before now I am sure your face will not have that now. I am not sure whether that can remove the ones on your face already within one week but you can get on Neutrogena products, they can give your face a good effect within a week. Just make sure you have the product that matches your skin type and that can give you what you want. You can google and check whether thay have a particular distributor in Nigeria that must have been schooled on the products (just like Clarins has) so that the person can prescribe for you.

Get concealers to use underneath your make up on your day if the Pimples remain there till that day. It will be nice to have a pimple free face on that day in order to have great looking pics for keeps but if you are unable to get that, don't sweat the small stuffs. It's only pimples for goodness sake and not the end of Life. Smile! I forgot to add that you be careful when choosing the Neutrogena facial soaps one of them tones like crazy (just like the cleansers too), so if you don't want to tone you must avoid that particular one. It is lighter in colour and more transparent than the one that has no toning effect. I saw this link online to show you how the package looks like.
http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B000052YLF/ref=asc_df_B000052YLF1561025?ie=UTF8&smid=A1GZ11YP7MKSC3&tag=dealtimemp2-55-20&linkCode=asn&creative=395105&creativeASIN=B000052YLF


Neutrogena products are great effective products, their creams are one cream I know that you can rub today and see the beautiful effect on you the next day. If you were using them you would have been looking sweet and chewing gum by now.  grin kiss The Neutrogena body Emulsion is a sweet lotion, it is written body lotion yet when used on the face you will wake up with a very sophisticated look the next day. Note that it is meant for dry skin though as it is a bit oily and if you are in Naija, buy from a trusted person as fakes abound in the market. The other ordinary body lotion in a long tube is equally good, that should be for normal skin (check very well). I miss them (I and my sister can't do without our Neutrogena). I see all kind of neurogena products here yet can't get hold of those ones from the shops, bought one neutrogena facial cream here that did not give me an iota of the Neutrogena look. I'd rather have those body creams that are very available in Naija.

Just learnt online now that the Neutrogena Emulsion now goes by a new name "Intensive Moisture Wrap Body Treatment". Little wonder I don't see it anymore, I will ask around too. It's a lovely cream.
Crime › Re: Stupid Nigerian-Kenyan Ambasador Beats His Wife by Ivynwa(f): 4:29am On May 28, 2011
omg!
Family › Re: Gay Nigerian, Chika Nwafor Visits Nigeria With German Husband by Ivynwa(f): 3:39am On May 28, 2011
kandiikane:
Well I have never heard of that but I did know he said he can cure HIV/Aids
Yeah yeah I read about his claims to having a cure for HIV too, how come you did not hear about his threats to gays in Gambia. I got to know about it when he and his entourage were banned from attending the Commonwealth Heads of Governments meeting because of that-----never mind.

I like to meet other Africans, I heard that your country is really making a great stride towards development and soon will no more be referred to as under-developed like most African countries, that is applaudable. Good to have you here in a Nigerian forum. Do have fun. kiss grin
Politics › Re: Aljazeera Airs A Heartbreaking Program About Lagos(25 May 2011 -Video) by Ivynwa(f): 7:46pm On May 27, 2011
I was very touched by this video, these are no new things to us Nigerians for sure but when complied up like this, it brings it home to you how much people are suffering in our country. Dear Lord! It just dawned on me that those people living inside that water have no solid ground to match upon and play and live, how can a person live like that? You come out of your home straight into a boat, sad sad embarassed cry.
How do those school children live above water like that, and the population therein is even much, those people should not have all that many children, 3 kids at most in that circumstance should do. It's not fair bringing in lots of children to this world and have them suffer------that is just too much abeg.
Family › Re: Gay Nigerian, Chika Nwafor Visits Nigeria With German Husband by Ivynwa(f): 3:31pm On May 27, 2011
kandiikane:
What? you siddom see the gayest of gay and you say e nor fit for be gay because the men of the certain are an epitome of masculinity?
@Kandikane
What is the name of your country again? Gambia? Was it not your Controversial President Jammeh that ignited outrage across the world when he promised to cut off the head of Bati boys. Lol  grin

Different Folks with their different "Boom Bye Bye to the Bati Boys".
I mean a black man is too gorgeous to wallow in that. Why is it that some men that are in the hair salon business like our Mr. Chika Wify come out weird like that especially the ones that are into female hairdressing, is it the exposure to all manner of people that they get in their work place?   huh shockedNo disrespect meant to hair salonists.
Family › Re: Gay Nigerian, Chika Nwafor Visits Nigeria With German Husband by Ivynwa(f): 5:53am On May 27, 2011
quote by armyofone
i'd love to see how she walks from the village river (fun watching gay doing their hand while walking)
You understand, it's really a funny sight to behold.   grin

quote by akaraoku
a.r.u
grin grin

quote by koolking
D-I-S-G-U-S-T-I-N-G, D-E-S-P-I-C-A-B-L-E, I-D-I-O-T-I-C, B-A-R-B-A-R-I-C, A-N-I-M-A-L-I-S-T-I-C, B-E-S-T-I-A-L
Pls, more words to describe this insanity. Beautiful women are all over the world, Ain't I sick if I chose to a man as a soulmate. I feel like throwing-up
Now don't make us throw up boy, do you have to remind us of vomits? Ouch!  grin

quote by koolking
I regretted opening this thread. This guy is definitely a disappointment and disgrace to Nigerianhood
That your new word sure rocks!  grin

quote by strangest
Hope he came back with enough pampers, cos by now he wont have to stretch his anus muscle before poo go comot,
Ouch, disgustee!  grin

quote by Deadie/Alivee
Chai, lekwe nwoke Igbo aghola nwanyi! He wan even prepare bitter leaf soup. A nwuola m! Umunne, ngwere a gbaala aji!
Nnaa me-e-e-n, gayism no fit black man at all, I mean a black man is an epitome of virility and masculinity.  grin grin
All in all my own in this matter is
If we all accept this as a way of life and the sophistication of this present time, are we going to accept it in the future when parents perhaps arise to declare that it is their children they want to bed? This kind of sophistication is even below mere animals, I mean I don't think animals stoop to this. Hey, I ain't trying to bash no Bati boy here, I'm just catching my fun.


ghostmaile:
i would not be surprised if both "husband and wife" end up dead in nigeria.
What??  shocked Please don't kill no Bati boy! We are not promoting violence yet Buju Banton has some truth here when he said--

Woman is di) Greatest thing
God ever put pon di land
Where in the world did they get that from?
Peter is not for Janet
Peter is for John
Suzette is not for Paul
Suzette is for Ann
  sad shocked lipsrsealed

Please excuse me this song that is still rockable in spite of the controversy surrounding it. I mean who can resist swaying to it while chilling with a glass of light drink in the hand and a Dejay remembers to play that. Definitely not me! kiss kiss kiss,
[s]Now Mzdarkskin I ain't trying to get you excited[/s]


[flash=425,344]
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aIUZlzd37sI?fs=1&hl=en_US" type="application/x-shockwave-flash" width="425" height="344"[/flash]

BOOM BYE BYE-BUJU BANTON
World is in trouble
Anytime Buju Banton come
Batty bwoy get up an run
At gu* s*ot me head back
Hear I tell him now crew

(Its like) Boom bye bye
Inna batty bwoy h**d
Rude bwoy no promote no nasty man
Dem haffi dead
Boom bye bye
Inna batty bwoy h**d
Rude bwoy no promote no nasty man
Dem haffi dead

(Two man) Hitch up on an rub up on
An lay down inna bed
Hug up on another
Anna feel up leg
Send fi di matic an
Di Uzi instead
Sh**t dem no come if we s*ot dem--
Don't want Jackie
Give dem Paul instead
Dem don't want di sweetness
Between di leg
Gal bend down backway
An accept di peg
An if it really hot
You know she still naw gon fled
A some man
Still don't want di
Panty raid
Pure batty business dem love

(Me say) Boom bye bye
Inna batty bwoy h**d
Rude bwoy no promote the nasty man
Dem haffi dead
Boom bye bye
Inna batty bwoy h**d
Rude bwoy no promote no nasty man
Dem haffi dead

(Woman is di) Greatest thing
God ever put pon di land
Buju lovin dem from head
Down to foot bottom

But some man a turn around
Where dem get that from
Peter is not for Janet
Peter is for John
Suzette is not for Paul
Suzette is for Ann

Where the bobocloth
Dem get dat from
Here come the DJ
Name Buju Banton
(Come fi) ((Straighten yuh talk?))
-----------------------------Continues.
Family › Re: Help! My Parents Way Or My Way? by Ivynwa(f): 8:18pm On May 25, 2011
@Poster
Nne if you know what is good for you just lock this your thread before the insults will give you and your unborn child hypertension or do you want more to be thrown at you? I think you have gotten good advice so far, you guys are already planning to marry so you can as well marry now, summer wedding or no summer wedding. People hardly support couples to marry just for the sake of pregnancy nowadays but here you guys are already at the verge of it.

Where did you even get the courage to come and tell Nairalanders that you are pregnant and unmarried? You want make Naijas finish you? It is true that the world is changing and people are getting bolder but don't forget that this is our good old sweet Nigeria, the other worlds may change the ideals of marriage but we rock our own dearie. If not for any thing it keeps the family unit together and makes a saner society.

The only part of that ideal-marriage-situation equation that I don't agree with is for a woman to allow that notion to make her childless, if marriage does not happen to a lady and she is approaching menopause, I believe such should have her children if she wants, your case is different here girl. It's a free world  for us to believe in the ideals we like just remember this is a Naija forum and most people here will frown on that, for the sake of your health I advise that you lock your thread. Now I hope you are already getting ready for that wedding, we won't mind getting invited.  kiss
Nairaland General › Re: Let's Pray For 190 Here by Ivynwa(f): 11:09am On May 24, 2011
190:
^slap!! angry angry
What's going on here?
190 Baby what are you doing to my daughter-in-law Darkie?
Nairaland General › Re: Let's Pray For 190 Here by Ivynwa(f): 8:03pm On May 23, 2011
Nne me-e-e-en no be tongue they say make all man speak. Na im I come speak in tongue now
shoo grin grin
Nairaland General › Re: Let's Pray For 190 Here by Ivynwa(f): 5:07pm On May 23, 2011
Idowuogbo:
Eli babbbbbbbba,Ja Jehovaaa, so shall it b
Eli babbbba , i sed mimo mimoooooo
she strts to tremble  like sumone harlem shaking  grin grin grin grin
grin grin

190:
JA- JEHOOOOVAH HOLLLLY!!!
sniffs sniffs
JAAAAH!!! JEHOOOVAH!!
HOLY!!!
hmm hmmm hmmm,  EMMANUEL
Save our son 190 from the hands of hater's and help him become someone he wants to be in life
Jaaaah Jehovah! Holy!![/
Okay and the speaking in tongue continues "Ja Jehovah holy mama holy". Kuru mmiri d r t doo onye amuma, kuru mmiri doro eti doo onye amuma. Senteriimamam senteribobobo che i-----I no fit laugh abeg.

@Idowuogbo
Nne let me gist you this one
There is this church I love to attend in Lagos "House on the rock", the first time I went there to fellowship, the pastor asked that those who can't speak in tongue should come out to be prayed for. I came out in all humility and we were taken to a room and asked to speak in tongue.
Omo come see me speak in tongue, I know say when some people speak in tongue I dey here something that sounds like "senteribobosente". Nne na im I come begin speak that seriously, "Senteribobosente, senteribobsente" and the lady Usher there with us, watched me and thinking that I was really in the groove of the thing was telling me "That's the spirit, that's the spirit" Omo did I laugh later? grin grin grin
Nairaland General › Re: Let's Pray For 190 Here by Ivynwa(f): 3:15am On May 23, 2011
[quote author=tpia@ link=topic=669689.msg8372305#msg8372305 date=1306084966]what God is doing in his life shall be permanent, sweerie.[/quote]Amen dearie!
May he cause greater things to become permanent in all our lives, Alleluiah!

@Idowuogbo
Don't forget to add that "Ja Jehova" part to my prayer for us. It's sweetly funny grin
Nairaland General › Re: Let's Pray For 190 Here by Ivynwa(f): 7:33am On May 22, 2011
post by Idowuogbo
amen sis ,amin amin ja jehovah mimo oluwa
Ja Jehova----that had me cracking up girl.  grin

190:
https://www.easyfreesmileys.com/smileys/smoking-cannabis-034.gif ------> https://www.easyfreesmileys.com/smileys/smoking-029.gif -----> https://www.easyfreesmileys.com/smileys/smoking-marijuana-031.gif
Nnaa, what is that stuff flying around here?----Is that suppose to be a flying witch?  grin grin grin

[quote author=tpia@ link=topic=669689.msg8354939#msg8354939 date=1305834648]it shall be permanent, it shall be permanent, what the lord has done for him, it shall be permanent.baba ti ba e se
baba ti ba e se o, 190
oun to nja e laya,
baba ti ba e se.[/quote]Tpiah, I am trying to understand o-o, you are praying for a change in 190 and still singing "it shall be permanent". How can change come if things have gone permanent ?  huh wink grin grin

Oya let me join hands in praying for my Babyboy 190, God please prosper my child, continue to bless him, bless the works of his hands, guide his footsteps. Alleluiah, Alleluiah. P-r-r-r-a-a-a-a-a-i-i-i-i-i-i-e-e-e-e-e-e-e-e- the L-o-o-o-o-r-r-r-r-r-d-d-d-d.
190 shout Alleluiah.  kiss kiss kiss Hugs and Kisses to you child.
Nairaland General › Re: Farewell Message To nairaland. by Ivynwa(f): 7:11am On May 22, 2011
I don't understand the hardheartedness of some of us, a brother is going to the warfront and he is getting hatred spewed on him. Africans spend time ranting about the inhumanity whites did to them but here in Nigeria people are full of hatred for others that are of different tribes as they are. Some Nigerians are indeed disgusting! I hope this poster is okay wherever he is now.
Forum Games › Re: What's Bothering You Right Now? by Ivynwa(f): 4:08am On May 22, 2011
naijangel7:
My spiritual life is in a mess.
i miss my family and Naija.
i've got another operation coming up in a series of operations
got issues with the boyfriend
still smiling, though smiley
Did you say operations as in surgical? I was touched, I feel for you. May God be your strength.
Family › Re: A Cry For Help by Ivynwa(f): 10:16pm On May 20, 2011
Do let go of the thought of him taking your child away from you, he will not. A man that does not care enough to know where his child lives may not want to be bothered with the burden of rearing a child. Should he come close to mentioning it, tell it to him as it is in your heart, I mean shine your eye and let him know that you will not hear of that. I am not saying that you be rude to him, when something is important to you----you don't allow others push you around and take it from you. You have to take such a stand that nobody will even dare think of taking that from you and that is the stance I am talking about. What kind of inhumanity will make it right for a man that abandoned you with your child to come years after you have grown very close and attached to that child to take the child away from you, no woman deserves that and he cannot do that dear.

You seem like a very good and quiet person, I am not saying that you start going against your grain and nature but never allow the people around you push you around or dictate your life for you. I know how our society looks down on an unmarried woman with a child, don't allow what people around you may be saying distress you and have you living an unexciting dull life and perhaps be thinking that your own is finished in Life.
My dear look forward to life with gusto, move with vigour. Don't allow anybody bring you down, live and love. Things can turn around for you, happiness and prosperity can come to you tomorrow. Amen, Amen Alleluiah! (Now don't mind that Alleluiah part of it, that's just me and my spontaneous exclamations. Lol)
Family › Re: My Husband's Attitude Will Make Me Kill Him One Day by Ivynwa(f): 9:46pm On May 20, 2011
Poster's hussy comes across to me like an impatient person with bloated ego. A self contained and wise husband that brought his new wife abroad will not be ashamed of her speaking with her accent and will be patient for her to organize herself and start working. Girl, you may have a handful of upheavals with him so you need patience, understanding and endurance to overcome his excesses. I don't think that these weaknesses of his are enough for you to up and leave your marriage, we all didn't come packaged perfectly, we have our weaknesses.

He may be having it tight taking care of you two which may be why he is taking out his frustrations on you. You can look around for an honest menial job like (helping out in a salon/shop/restaurant) which does not require papers to do so that you can be contributing to the upkeep of you two, that may decrease his outbursts & discomforts.


agabaI23:
Inni =innit= isn't it? grin grin
Innit! Now that's the joke of the day. grin
Family › Re: Well Done Kid For Slapping Your Mother. Thumbs Up, you have my support! by Ivynwa(f): 4:04am On May 20, 2011
Some parents spoil their children in the name of loving their kids very much.

GODSON2009:
im not even bothered if they slap their mothers but the alarming thing is the influence on african children these days.me and my friend were just talking about how spoilt nigerian teenagers are in uk,they will sit down in church and their parents will be cleaning or totally ignore their parents while being called to do something or the other it is really disgraceful,the average indian will never allow the western ways to influence theirfamily life
I thought I was the only one that has noticed how very homely the indians are, very family oriented, teach their children good moral and they can be very warm and hospitable. An ordinary "good morning" greeting from some indians can come out so warm that it can make your entire day, some indians can be very warm and sweet.
Family › Re: A Cry For Help by Ivynwa(f): 3:35am On May 20, 2011
Isn't it high time our legal system got serious with child support? The poor lady is not supposed to be taking care of the child alone, the man is supposed to be playing his part by paying a good amount every month. I am wondering what type of a person has a child somewhere, is putting up with his own family and feeding his children from his present marriage (if he has children now) without bothering whether his other child/his own blood eats or not. He doesn't even know where his son lives! OMG! tomorrow if that child becomes a DBanj he will remember that he is the father.

Naomina
When he comes to Lagos, encourage him to take his son out and spend some time with him, it will do your child good. Wherever he (your child's father) ends up putting up. It is important that he knows where you and your son live so that he can be visiting him from time to time and start being there for him. Discuss finance with him too, he should get responsible and start caring for that child and paying his fees.
It is also important that you make out time for yourself to relax & unwind okay Baby.
Family › Re: A Cry For Help by Ivynwa(f): 9:33pm On May 18, 2011
macjive01:
@ivynwa, why am i not seeing your post? i can see it in your log but not on the thread? ? are u blacklisting me or what? i hav done nothing wrong luv.

CC where re u ? hav been hoping to see your comment same wit Jenny.
Not to worry sweetheart, how can I blacklist you my paddy? Hope you are doing great?
Family › Re: A Cry For Help by Ivynwa(f): 4:23pm On May 18, 2011
macjive01:
IMO, I think u shd talk to your boy. Talk to him like an adult. Not telling him to b a good boy oh, but telling him u still want to b alive.
Make him understand that from now henceforth he wud hv to take responsibility of his actions  .
Then on your own part, free him to make mistakes, he will learn from it, cos nothing u Wud say at the moment wud sway him, he see u as weak, broke arse, a man ditched your arse, u don't hav a tight career, u absolute don't have the pedigree to advising him, I know u luv him and wants d best for him, but how do u know what u think is best is the actual best. For him.
Woman, take this life easy ooh, Find ursef a man- any decent man, married or unmarried, boy or grandpa, even if it wud mean u begin d one to say the first hi. Look, this is not to mk ursef a slut but to divert your attention away from wat made u want to kill ursef and also provide u with some kinda of strength and confidence.
After your child had done with his mistakes he wud come back into your outstretched arms. If his route turns out good for him he will still luv u for giving him the freedom to achieve his aspirations.
So Na win win for u.

@Macjive
You have this way of making great sense sometimes have another way of having it disappear with other things.. wink kiss
The bolded statement you made above is very true, I thought about that too, now let me rephrase it the way it passed through my mind
" What you (the poster Naomina) think is the best (career/education wise) for him may be different from what he(your son) thinks is the best for himself. I don't agree that he should be allowed to go and make mistakes, we all made mistakes and matured from the experience but nobody should leave his/her child to go and make mistakes. Children need direction and guidance.

@Naomina
We are all oriented differently, we all grow into the goals, aspiration and dreams we set for ourselves which is why I mentioned that the child needs a role model to look up to and learn from. You may be wishing and dreaming all kind of career and education for him while the career appealing to him may be different, this is why it is important that you strive to surround him with people and friends that can motivate him good things. Some great people of today were motivated by the positives in their environment and in the people around them. I read in the paper today where Obama was narrating to graduating students "How education made him what he is today and how his single mother motivated him greatly after his father left when he was 2 years old" Find ways to motivate him, what are the good things and subjects that interest him, buy books and videotapes of that for him. Keep motivating books around him etc

I agree that he needs education to be able to socialize good in our world but if he has skills and wants to develop that, you should let him do that in technical institutions, schools or universities and not try to stream line him into what the children of others are doing.
Don't alienate yourself from him, you have to be friends so that you can be getting through to him easily. I hope you have cheered up dearie and is smiling some more now. Plenty hugs and kisses to you. M-u-a-h,m-u-a-h, mu-a-h. kiss kiss kiss
Family › Re: A Cry For Help by Ivynwa(f): 9:23pm On May 16, 2011

Naomina
You don't have to feel like you have the world on your shoulder because of the stress your boy is putting you through. First of all it is a beautiful thing that you have a 15 year old son, the problem here is directing him aright.

Andromida is actually right, he is going thru puberty, at that teenage age the hormones rages indeed and such a boy is developing feelings that are strange to him and may be making him put up all kinds of behaviour. Children need the friendship and understanding of their parents the most at adolescent age, don't make the mistake of warring with him or not being in good terms with him or he may end up heady and revolting against everything that is right. Check out the scenario for yourself and see, if there's no harmony at home because you are always rebuking him for doing many things wrong and there's no adult role model in the home from whom to learn what it means to be growing into a man, he will get confused, angry and unhappy. If his father does not care about being in his life, look for a responsible man known to both of you (you and your boy) who you are sure can make positive impact on him so that he can be giving your son attention from time to time. It is important that he be taught discipline at this stage because if you give up on him and keep bemoaning that you can't help or control him anymore, he may get too independent and get out of control. Discipline is one of the virtues that can make him take his studies seriously enough.

You have to make time for him, show him much love. You need to have a beautiful relationship with him, also watch the company he keeps and curb any influence they may have on him in good time before bad association corrupts him for you. Adolescents fall prey to peer pressure very easily because they are struggling to find & understand themselves and longing the appreciation and admiration of their friends. A family friend once narrated a story about his son that gets me cracking all the time when I remember it, in the story he said that his boy who is now in his mid twenties was behaving good as he was approaching puberty and by the time he reached puberty he started getting influenced by his peers at school so much that then when he(his father) is going to drop him at school in the morning, the boy will tell him to drop him on the way before they get to the school and will be quarrelling "This old car, old car----I don't want my friends to see this old car" and the car wasn't even old just that it wasn't the spec his friends parents rides. You can imagine such influence by peers!   grin grin 

     On your own part, let go of those suicidal thoughts and smile at life because LIFE IS BEAUTIFUL! Wake up everyday with the determination to be happy and you will see things working positively, don't remain depressed because a man left you with a child. The man is somewhere having fun so you can as well be happy okay, such inspirational words from the works of Norman Vincent Peale like "You become what you choose!, You choose/decide to be happy or unhappy" etc are actually true. It is true that as humans we are sometimes overtaken with some things but come to think of it, why worry much over some things? refuse to let it bring you down and get your "happy" on. Get in the dating scene, make friends, do things that make you happy. You only have one life to live, enjoy it Sweetie. Never think of ending your life again please, p-l-e-a-s-e. It is not the end of your life and you are still young and can even meet another good man, have sweet children so why waste your life? Lots of hugs to you.
  kiss kiss kiss
Romance › Re: Help Am Afraid Of Kissing Nigerian Girls! by Ivynwa(f): 5:58am On May 14, 2011
ogugua88:
Don't go too hard. The doll might pop. shocked
grin  grin  grin
All you Nairalanders are incurable, you are real funny Ogugua. You mean "it has to be a doll for him to announce it so" Now I mustn't offend my Babyboy! wink
Cheers to you guys! kiss
Romance › Re: Help Am Afraid Of Kissing Nigerian Girls! by Ivynwa(f): 5:53am On May 14, 2011
190:
^Gud nite, cos im going to have sex rite now too
Abeg I no fit laugh 190,
Behave yourself, don't make Darkie feel uncomfortable here. What's wrong with you? You boy! I no get your energy right now. Later okay.

@Darkie
Nite Darkie

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