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F-r-e-a-k-i-n-g law breaker, just when will they have mercy on us and our reputation and stop adding mud to it all.

[quote author=My-Key link=topic=702902.msg8626216#msg8626216 date=1309478624]Africa is a house of horrors. Or a comedy, which would be funny if it wasn't so tragic. Is there any good news that ever comes out of our wretched land? [/quote]I understand how you feel here but our land is not wretched dearie.

190:
[color=RED]DUH! where does romance end! - ( The BED)
So why not go straight to the point instead of beating around the bush wasting your time and her's [/color]

LOL at the bolded
190 leave the poor lady alone to love to her heart's fill. What's wrong with you?
Okay Thank goodness that Miss Ohio just took away all your atttention from Divalish.

@Divalish
Rejoice you had a narrow escape from him.

See me, see this Ghana colleague of mine-o-o, I was just yabbing him and rejoicing in his face and he was like  "We have qualified, they only want to admit Nigeria in" and going on "Nigeria football is only good football during Okocha's time". Somebody hold him before I shut his mouth for him right now. ^{Just kidding} 

How dare he talk down on us??

We don win-o-o, we don win. We don win.

Woooooooyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiii.

Make some noiseeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee.

iuhgmhfgxbfdgf,kj.lolohjyfcfdxvbmn,knlkbjuxhdxfdsxcvgnhkngvfxfszdghjmnjbvcxzvmj,kjhdsafgkjj!

It's a gooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaallllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllll.
Make some nnnnooooooooooooooooooiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiisssssssssssssssssssseeeeeeeeeeeeeeee!
AAlllllllllllllllllllllleeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeelllllllllllllllllllllluuuuuuuuuuuuiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh!
Glorrrrrrrrrrrrrrryyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy tooooooooooooooo Gooooooooooooodddddddddd!

I'm not all that into football I just love it whenever Nigeria is playing with any team, it's so much fun having to enjoy the goal with everybody. Woooooooooooooooooooooooyyyyyyyyyyyyyyiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiii, make some nooooissssssssseeee pips!  

I will get on with my work and come back to make more noise when another goal is scored. Where is that Ghana man that works in my place of work? If he knows what is good for him let him walk into our office now make I yab him small cos he was making mouth for us all the other day.  

@Poster
Please make out time and have a serious conversation with your Baby mama on how you guys can take turns at raising your child and spending time with him. The child needs you as much as he needs his mum, he deserves a good upbringing too so seriously talk to her that you detest that the child was away from school that long and that he must start schooling immediately.
 
You must never separate that child from his mother, is it not enough that she bore the shame (our society attaches to an unmarried lady with a child) alone? She has also lived with that child and is attached to him now so it will be a very unjust thing to separate her from the child. It's not like she is mentally unstable or unfit to take care of the child (I mean you didn't mention that so she can take care of that child)You need to make effort to be visiting and spending time with the child too so that he can have balanced affection of his two parents.

Tatian:
Take away your child, use force if the need be . The mother is not ready to give him a proper future but only to use him as a bait. She obviously after your money considering the fact that she has another baby. I believe your wife kns about your boy , discuss with her and bring the boy home

I am speechless at this advice! I can only shake my head and pass by 

@Poster
It's a pity you fell victim to those that bring in confusion into the lives of others in the name of religion, such persons are the causes of rancour and bitter feelings in many families that they have succeeded in tearing apart with fake divinations. It beats me how you guys extol your fellow human beings as Demi God and give them power over your lives. God has given you the spirit of discernment with which to think and discern things for yourself. I beg to differ from all that religious madness. Nobody divines for me, only God knows my future and the things that surround me and my family and I refuse to all of a sudden enthrone my fellow being to begin to sit on the affairs of my life.

You have been torn apart from a woman that was only showing you love and being there for you. It doesn't matter to her whether you attend her funeral or not because she is no more now, what would have mattered to her when she was alive was how much you reciprocated the love she gave you. Never you allow people to manipulate your life again to the extent that you keep hold of the love you would have blessed somebody's life with.

@Akan
Nnaa "welu ya nwayo" (take am easy now-w). Why you dey Chira guyz like that now, you dey vex? We are just talking, chillax. Allow guyz ibe gi zuo ike mgbede (let your fellow guys enjoy their evening NL chat now, wetin?

He is my Babyboy, ain't you getting it twisted--------- .  Loosen up girlie! Chillax, Quit tripping

@190
Sweetheart, you are so incurable! Where do you get the energy to dance around like that, shadowing every chick that sets foot on the land of Naira. Where is the new gf Annita you wanted to introduce to me? I am ready to meet her now. 

@Poster
He isn't all that notorious as in "bad", just sweetly mischievous.  

ak47mann:
beauty queen put pix for us to see now

Are you a footballer?  You no even be footballer sef and you are talking, ^{just kidding}. It's only footballers I am talking to from now on, can't you see that levels has changed.   How are you doing dear?

ThiefOfHearts:
All these horrible wannabe makeup artist in Naija, even here sef the Naija ones make brides look so old and terrible with their inerior makeup kits/colors
She does look older than usual in the wedding pic but so far that's actually the bets makeup application Ive seen so far for a modern Naija wedding.
She's very pretty in the other pics. I wish her well esp upon marrying an athlete.

What's the waste of energy about our girl looking old and ugly, the girl is pregnant and that had her face looking swollen up. Wait till she delivers and she will get back into being a bombshell.

Hey you! Don't you guys be too hard on our sweet Pastor Adefarasin. He can be babyish at times but none can dispute the fact that he knows his way around inspiring people to greater heights and we still love him with his imperfections (yes I said it!). Unblessed are those who consider their fellow humans a demi God, swallows every word of their mouth and worships them. I mean you can be my Pastor but there ain't no worshipping you.

I love fellowshipping in his church, a church service in his church does not fail to make me feel like I just waltzed in the club of Gee Oooh Dee (God)himself. ^{Now I don't care what you think about that!}  . I mean they take you to the highest places of praise with God and his angels where you can dine, wine, dance and chill with man God himself. Ain't no church do me like House on the rock. They are a unique set of people, stylish and talented (my kind of people) but hey! ^{Whenever anybody in church gets on and on about money or start giving unnecessary adulations to a rich person just because he/she is rich, I get irritated and up and leave one time!} That's the way I roll in there.

I was in the Prison ministry and believe me that church has made impacts in the Life of Prisoners, helped release some that were unjustly locked up and inspired the bad ones to goodness. Paul is indeed a Life Coach, a great motivator, the king of positive thinkers. His beautiful wife (my oh my! She is so graceful and classy) is equally talented, they are a well matched pair. A sweet couple giving hope and shining light into the lives of people. I simply Love them.

@Miss Stephanie
Pretty Girl, Walk it walk it! Go girlie!


Oh Okay now I get it, so Footballers now run home to carry away all the beauty queens. Who are they leaving all the Fugly/Wowo/Atutupoyoyo girls to?   (Rolls on the bed laughing and sits up again) Abeg I no go finish this laughter today-o-o-o  
Are they leaving them to the nairaland boys that Miss Babes was yabbing the other day    

Abeg Chineke Nna borrow me a handsome Footballer too, I be beauty Queen too.   Walk it! Walk it! Go girlie! Ivynwa swings her hip stylishly and gracefully from left to right and struts on out of the thread--------------------       

alexola20:
This bribe allegation,I think the fifa president knows the root of it and he's the driver.He is doin so that no one ll be able to tackle him.
This is just another mafia Poo.

Me thought so too or how can the people that would have opposed him get suspended just as the election was around the corner. It looks fishy in as much as I am not vying for the innocency of any Politician (FIFA/Govt), some of them do stuffs.
All in all we still love our Warner and he is doing a great job in his other office in his country, however bad he is being accused of being he has a greater percentage of good in him. He is a man that has a heart to serve his people, he is an epitome of a good politician not all the selfish/greedy elements our world is filled with that are already planning how to stash public money in Swiss Banks even before they are elected.

It is true that the poster shouldn't shout at his girlfriend or raise his voice at her in front of his friends (he already said that he was play acting) yet there is still something sweet about the way this poster handled the situation.He saved the lady the disgrace [/b]of having his friends eat a badly cooked soup and cunningly moved his friends out of the situation. [b]It took good sense and respect for the poster to pull that and that is very sweet.

It reminded me of that Nigerian wise saying/story that is usually used to advice a groom at his wedding for him to always protect his wife from malicious outsiders. It is a story about the good husband that cunningly saved his wife in front of friends. The story had it that at a gathering in the man's house, the wife prepared a very bad soup. The man on knowing how bad the soup is made up his mind that their friends must not taste that soup and deliberately planned an accident in which he let go of the bowl of soup when he was carrying it to the dinner table for all to start eating, that way nobody tasted the soup so nobody got to know that his wife is a bad cook. He took the blame and covered up for his wife.
Now how about giving the poster some high five and applause. Ivynwa claps claps-----------   Cool, very cool!

How about visiting the websites of some Nigerian Banks and submitting your resume with them?  Have you submitted your Resume with The communication companies around like MTN, GLO etc? Find a way to make your Cover letter stand out, ring such a bell that can get you noticed enough to be invited over for an interview. I have once been invited for an interview just because somebody in the HR got hooked by a line in my Cover letter. You will get a good offer definitely I am sure. You sound smart and intelligent.
If you can be sending out 5 resumes/applications everyday, you will get lucky for sure.

[quote author=~Minx~ link=topic=686362.msg8553879#msg8553879 date=1308572666]I am back again

I have since stopped seeing that guy and have been trying to make things right with my husband BUT he hasn't stopped seeing the woman he was having an affair with. They still call and text each other and they even met this past weekend. When I confronted him about it he said nothing is happening but i have proof of the calls and he calls her at very odd hours like 1am, 11pm or even 12midnight.

How do I handle this, I am also trying to make my path straight but how do i do it??[/quote]You guys should sit up and stop playing with your marriage before you give each other STDs and HIV. Why don't you guys quit all these games and talk things out. I don't even know how you are still able to look each other in the face and get on normal. I will feel disgusted if my man is sleeping with another woman----so disgusted that it will turn me off and I may never want him again. I as a woman on my own part can not leave my man to go and be fiddling and messing with dirty p.ricks out there in the name of "amazing se-x". Some things are too dirty and disgusting to be stooping to. If you wanted amazing se-x you shouldn't have married him and his plain/boring/uninteresting se-x , now that you are here find a way to make it exciting for you two.

Do you plan to let the family friend take your husband from you, if I were in your position I will hatch a plan that can make her back off and running (without talking to her or confronting her). You can keep your marriage and family intact and still have se-x more amazing than (the loverman gives you) with your own husband if you work on it than breaking your family to go and fiddle with some man. Think about it.

A trial separation seems to be the next thing to try out, she can get the apartment she mentioned and be allowed to watch her BP as she said. It will give her time away from you as she is accusing you of being the cause of the high BP, the space may give her sometime to come to her senses too. You can let her know that you don't intend to spend the rest of your life in an unhappy marriage and that at the end of the trial separation she should make up her mind whether she wants to be in the marriage or not.
What can be bugging her for goodness sake? Have you been able to get mature hands to talk to her? She should chill for Life make she no frown face, frown heart kill herself before her time. Huh!

@Poster
It's in your mind. The way you went on and on narrating it all shows that you are stuck with that negative thought and the thought can't help but keep manifesting. Let go of that thought, think positively for a change, that thought is enough to make you cringe or become uncomfortable when you near women. Believe that you are beautifully and wonderfully made, put some swagger on that shoulder, fix that face and the ladies will smile at you this time around.

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@Poster
If she is still into her ex you are better off a love triangle. Don't get entangled there in. If they are done and over with themselves that is the only time that is right for you to date her if you love her. [color=#000095] The fact that your friend has dated her does not make "undateable" by you. I have seen a man that married his friend's ex-wife after she got maltreated and divorced and now they are having a great union.-------[/color]

@MrBrownJay

If you read my post well you will see that the post above is what I said to the poster before commenting on your post. I already advised that he get out of the love triangle if the two persons are still into themselves. In my later comments I was generalizing and saying that there's no rule that forbids that if the two persons are done with each other, to me it is only wrong for a man to wade in and make moves on a woman if  her relationship with his friend has not ended. The situation I was referring to is not that of the poster here but a different scenario where things were done at the right time.
Why will a man who falls for a woman he loves lose the friendship of his friend (that has been with the woman) if his friend  is not bitter/jealous and unhappy that the woman is finally happy with somebody else. Humans have evolved to the extent that people are more open hearted these days. It is only when bitterness, anger and other negative feelings linger behind that such friendship gets strained, an open hearted person will let go, move on and be happy for his ex and his friend.

@Kandibaby
I don't do "girlish bickerings" sweetheart. Let's live and love. Life is too short to waste in animosity. Come ere let me give you a hug, lots of hugs to you Sweetie. I even gave you a pet name, Oh dear!

MRbrownJAY:
@Ivy
leftovers is a pejorative term used by men ONLY to describe friends exes. there are many other word that can be used: SOILED GOOD/OFF LIMIT/KRYPTONITE etc
this term does not describe the lady but simply describe what she should be seen as, from all her ex's friends.

the dating rule #4521(lol) clearly stipulate that if your friend has been with a woman THEN that woman is a no go area, out of respect for the friendship/bond that you have with that person.

"Off Limit" sounds better if that is what you think. I don't agree that a man that loves a woman that has been maltreated by his friend in the course of a relationship should not offer her a chance at happiness if he truly knows that he can make her happy. It's our different opinion all the same and we have a right to whichever one we've chosen to hold.
 
We await that your "Dating Commandment" book (that has all the dating rules of this world  ), we can't wait for it to hit the shelf. I bet it's gonna be a bestseller. 

kandiikane:
@IFYNWA, in regards to you saying adam and eve were not married in the bible- You need to understand with marriage its not just the legal ceremony that makes it a marriage. . Eve was given to Adam by God made specifically for him and God gave them the permission to become one flesh(sex) and multiply. This was God officially giving Eve to adam as a bride. The wedding ceremonies came when there were more people on Earth to celebrate the union of two people. Adam and Eve were married just that they did not have a wedding ceremony. . .To be marriage depends on the laws of the land. . .If the laws of the land says to be married to your future wife you have to take Kola nut to the brides father and he has to bless you and give you his daughter then that is it. . .If the laws of the land require a huge wedding for you to be married then that is it. . .But one think you have to understand is the official stamp for two to become one is not the legal papers or the ceremony it is sex. . .That is why fornicating is wrong and adultry because your spirits get bound together. . .
Many believers who want to be married go to their Gods first to ask for blessings. . . Because not many people bring God in their relationships the thing turns usually turns out sour.
I believe some women cannot get married  because of their promiscuity during their youthful days. . .All the spirits(from different men) that get bound to you can have repercussions in the future. .It will be harder for men to come close to you because those spirits. . .

@Kandiikane
I understand the religious/spiritual angle that you are coming from. I respect your opinion just like I am entitled to mine, we are all free to believe what we want to believe. The difference in opinions which we are all expressing here is what makes us different. Thanks for sharing.

Come girlfriend, I am surprised at you. I have been marvelling at --------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------Edited out for you Kandi as a sign of sisterhood I hope you get my drift and edit your end of it, you did all the bickerings. You know that! I only edited because I don't mock people)----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------You don't mess around with people you do not know dearie. I hope you now understand that you don't ridicule others at the expense of having fun. I don't intend to carry grudge over trifles, if not I won't have engaged in a discussion with you in this thread. I'm only trying to make you understand that what you did is not good. I hope we remain good nairalander friends that have respect for each other's opinion from now on. Thanks.

Anambra state government needs to organize and make arrangement for a proper waste management in that City.

@Igboboy
Nnaa that your "Ofe" location is the bomb-o-o, abeg tanda for "Ofe" joo no carry enter "utara"-o-o.

cap28:
---------------------- i therefore say that if you cant find the right person its best to focus on other posjitive things, i noticed someone said that getting married and having a family guarantees that you will never end up alone - not necessarily - there are many people who get married and have children who still end up alone for one reason or the other, there are no guarantees in life.

Ivynwa:
oes not ensure a loneliness-free life. There are married couples that have such great divides between themselves that they are lonely even while married. There are kids that grow up and leave home without caring about their parents, I have seen a woman complain that her married children do not bother with her and that she needs to get a man for herself    (Lol, don't mind that my neighbour----she is still the same one that loves Naija men like crazy  )[/color]
Husband-o-o, children-o-o, me o-o and you-o-o. A day is appointed for us all to mud/delete/di*( I no wan di* yet abeg  ) and husband and children may even journey ahead of you leaving you lonely. Like Cap28 said "Nothing is guaranteed".

author=tpia@ link=topic=690613.msg8527316#msg8527316 date=1308186900
[b]being married or single is no guarantee a person wont be lonely.

Different unique persons, same line of thought here. 

190:
annita19 is the best thing that can happen to a man me

You are really tripping boy! You must bring her to come and pay obeisance to me if she really wants to get all the heart of 190 my Baby.