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Thank you for encouraging the man in question and for making yourself available for moral support. More blessings for you.Amen.

quote author=dawnomike post=136440168]I understand how you feel bro... But, first calm down.
It is not as bad as it sounds... You both just have to determine to work through this challenges together.
First and foremost, go and register for a comprehensive HMO (choose a package that covers major surgery). This will greatly reduce the medical bills and make things easier for both of you.
Discuss with the gynaecologist on the best way to proceed with the necessary medications and surgery then go for it.

Your wife needs you now more than ever before... You can reach out for moral support at anytime and any day by just mentioning me in your comments.

I wish you all the best and the strength to weather the storm!!![/quote]

Thank you for this,I have someone who needs this information

livebyday:
Jezz this almost happened to my cousin . It was one clinic like that in Lagos then called bridge clinic that saved her marriage.

They did this genetic stuff that let the clinic chose embryos that didn't carry the sickly cell gene during the IVF. They did it in their Bridge clinic branch in Port Hartcourt.


@OP the lady needs to get in touch with that clinic they saved my cousins marriage too. She would have lost out on marrying the love of her life ...

There are other IVF clinics around o, but man that bridge clinic are the best in Africa . No doubt !! They even have a branch in London too.

Thank me later.

I can help you shop the discs

Please,kindly lemme know when you zoom into heaven so I can buy my own.
quote author=adeoyekay post=131937119] Congrats bro[/quote]

Dapromzy333:
https://news360ng.com/nulge-chairman-slumps-dies-on-fuel-queue-in-akure/

I am glad to read "he was on the queue" not that he beat the queue. May his soul find rest.

[quote author=othermen post=131679424]1. Sunday service isn’t an opportunity to show opulence or demonstrate “steeze.”

We go to church, not to worship ourselves but to worship God.


2. The vehicles constitutes our appearances, and they are testaments of success and prosperity, they are testaments of the blessings of God.

When unbelievers see the vehicles in our church car park, they see the church as a blessed ground. And they want to be a part of us, a part of the success.

So, the vehicles and our appearances are all part of the evangelism.

3. My husband says the church puts a pressure on his mental health.
I am also anxious about what to wear, and how to look.

The church is a place where our poverty is most revealed.

And I feel inadequate in my ability to project a certain image which would enable me to network and connect.

Spiritual nourishment is honestly, secondary.

4. I served as a worker in the church. Volunteered for every service. We treat the wealthy differently. Those who flaunt their opulence- designer clothes, luxury cars. The pastors courted.

They would be made a deacon. The church will enrich their social capital and in turn, the church could get fund to run their services.

I gave so much, and yet, to have to see people receive better treatment just because of their opulence was a struggle. I wanted same. I think I became envious. I began to compare my life to theirs, and couldn’t help but feel inferior and discontent.

Consumed by envy, and wanting to be at par. I began to get clothes and jewelry which I couldn’t possibly afford. Rather than Okada, it was bolt every church meeting. And I was sure, everyone could see me come and go.

Sometimes, it was the money meant for feeding. And gradually, I was drawn into a path of debt and financial struggles. And drawn away from faith.

Joy was no more in the simplicity. It was in showing my IPAD as my Bible. In being ashamed of my apartment and lying so that no one can visit me.

It is all that bothered me about Church.

5. I don’t think you became envious. I think you became motivated. And motivated, you probably began to work harder. You are currently persevering.

But it is ridiculous to suggest we somewhat stop people from coming to church however they seem to come. Whether luxury or not, the church is welcoming to everyone. And we would not make anyone uncomfortable.


Yes they are made deacon, but you also serve God. Even a volunteer cleaner does so much for God as God’s priest. And you could say and ask, ‘I have given even more, my time and my resource, why am I not treated so?’ But you forget that God rewards us all. And it’s God’s treatment that should be your focus. Some are called to be deacons and some are called to ushers or cleaners or traffic volunteers.

Remove your thoughts from all these matters. I could kiss your feet if that makes you feel better. If you insist I don’t, great.

6. Dear brothers and sisters in Christ,

We understand that some of you may have experienced difficulty parking in our car park today. Please be assured that we do not discriminate against any type of vehicle. However, due to limited space, we prioritize those who have paid a fee or who could pay a fee to support our evangelism outreach efforts.

We kindly request that you follow the instructions of our traffic directors to ensure a smooth experience for all. You don’t want to disrupt God’s work or make those who are contributing uncomfortable. So, please help us to prioritize their comfort. It’s the best service you can render to God’s church.

Similarly, our ushers will guide you to available seating areas. Please note that seating in the luxury chairs is not a priority; in fact, those seated in the church extension are often more engaged in the service. The wooden chairs are even more comfortable.

Let us focus on worshiping together in unity, rather than seeking prestige. May God bless us all. Amen.

Lovely write up.

Thank heavens the wig was yanked off, she can face her insecurity now, she will know she can still enjoy life without wearing fake smelling hair. I love my head and my hair.

Genesis 9:3
Everything that lives and moves about will be food for you. Just as I gave you the green plants, I now give you everything....Please, let them eat

Evil and hungry set of people, is it by their legs you shall know them?

BigTableShaker:
Dolphin is Man's friend..
..just like Dogs.

But some humans still slaughter them for meat.

The poor dolphin wanted to play but met Death.
See their legs, evil people.

Oh! how I wish I can pay the fees of a child for every woman who made a serious attempt. God bless you all for putting smile on my face.

Funny advice but very true from a woman's view oo, help her pack her things carefully into Uber or bolt and inform her parents that she is on her way.Hahahah

thesicilian:
Next time once she packs her bag over trivial issues call an Uber for her and help her move her stuff into the car. Even let her go with the baby. Then call her parents and inform them she's on her way. As long as you keep begging her not to leave, as long as she knows that she can always use the threat of leaving to gain advantage over you, you'll never hear the last of it.

On the contrary, marriage, family or children cannot stop depression or loneliness, not even money can . Depression can make one see no sense in the above, depression can make everything worthless.

One gets fed up with everything and feels it should all end now.

Juwessgratitud3:
So marriage could not save her from taking her life?

I thought according to nairalanders marriage and family will prevent loneliness and depression. Why didn't the fact she was married with children prevent her from taking her own life.? Simply shows majority of you here have a warped mentality need reorientation.

Sad and rip to her.

The place to start from is having children class/department. The kids do not understand what is being thought in the adults department.

Are you willing to take up the mantle of heading or teaching in the children's department since you have discovered a concern?

The music/noise from the instruments us usually too loud for comfort especially when there are few members in attendance.

This should have been pre packed.

press9jatv:
More pictures below

See what frontal, human hair wig, hair glue has done to her hairline

abba190:
may god not give me female daughters the wahala is too much

Do you want male daughters instead?

Thank you for this beautiful explanation, nothing more to add. The woman was treated badly, whatever we do, just know that the truth will come to light one day.Treat people well

franchasofficia:
There are more humane ways to handle the woman.


From age 80, most humans become kids and start to act like kids, and at that stage they need compassion and not cruelty.


If you are empathetic in life, no matter what, you will never maltreat anybody even when they push you to the extreme.


Empathy makes us humans.



Can you handle your own mother that way, ask yourself that.



The woman is in agony due to health challenges arising from old age, she need compassionate care and empathy to care for her. Don't support evil in the name of race.


If a caregiver treats your own aged mother that way how would you feel? Will you be happy to watch it?



If you wish to grow old, have it at the back of your mind that you might be in similar mental state like that aged woman they were rough handling. Yes some aged people are more difficult than others to care for, but if you have empathy, you will always try to treat them passionately.

He might fall in love or get too attached which guy man is scared of.

My sister is single because she keeps meeting guys with AS blood type,my prayer and hope is that she gets to meet a good guy with AA blood type in the new year.To every one single and ready for a life partner, may that good guy/lady locate you soon.

Time was passing away, I was almost turning into evening suya news paper. I am glad I married my husband, no regrets, we'll be 10years together next year.

I know this topic is not specifically about debt but I feel your pain. We have someone so close to my family, came borrowing money last year, promised to return it latest around January 2023, this is almost the end of September, this borrower is not talking about how he will return the money but busy travelling to the UK, making plans to travel to the USA whilest telling us cock and bull story of how some one is funding his trips, and other funny stories . My husband who is the lender can't even ask for the money just as some people don't know how to ask for their money coupled with the fact that this person is an inlaw, this person is even a pastor and would be preaching in church today. How do you borrow money from someone without returning it, still go to church to pay offering and still live a flash life style? Just howwww?


author=MrsTwrite post=125983976]True talk, someone borrowed 10k from me, since January and up till now she has not paid back, she has been traveling to her village ever since, and avoiding me like we're strangers, talking ill of me, that I can do without that 10k I gave her, that I keep frowning each time I see her, that she's still looking for the 10k. And this is september.🥲💔[/quote]

Such things don't happen in the abroad

I would only be surprised if she was caught preaching about "keeping the bed undefiled before marriage.

Saint99:
You missed Chris Okotie

Beautiful Nubia

She did not cook groundnut soup, no black soup? Ovwo soup, opened beans,when will she make abacha,garden egg sauce, doughnut,Ishapa soup nko, cabbage sauce and roasted plantain with catfish nko?

Who cooks with fire whilst naked?

She should wear skimpy clothes if she wants to spice things up and not expose her breasts all the time because the whole thing might just get boring and irritating when the guy does not struggle to take off clothes first if you know what I mean.

Girlfriend for that matter, Please, help us tell her to cover herself up for safety reasons oooo,how many wives expose their breasts when coming, if fire burns or hot water pours on the breast now she will shout village people.

JimmySwaggart:
not really, that's how an American will say it. While the British will say "weren't coming."

You are very correct ,
I watch a USA baking program and I always get confused when I hear them say "you wasn't instead of you weren't" as I was thought and used to.

Elijah and the widow from Zarephat who multiplied one bottle of oil into barrels of oil. Elijah running faster than horses, Elijah commanding fire to come down.Elijah giving double portion of his power to Elisha.

1.Jesus keep me near the cross
1.I am thine oh Lord

Haba! I think he was talking about himself,everyone is free to express his or feelings. The truth is that it is not compulsory to have kids

BRATISLAVA:
You don't want to have children or you don't want others to? Because of your traumatic childhood conditions or because of theirs?

Once you become an adult, you will go on to have children and then join Extinction Rebellion and the other greens to condemn other people giving birth and talk about eugenics. It's the template for "antinatalists". Some of you are even trying to have reversible vasectomies.

The real antinatalists have irreversibly sterilized themselves without shouting online that they are antinatalists to convince themselves that is who they are.

I quite agree with you to a great extent.If you can not take proper care of them , do not bring them into the world, you can't even be sure of how they will turn out when you think you are doing the best. It is complex. Leave that go into the world and multiply bible verse oo.God will not come down to take care of your many kids for you and do not mind those people that will always tell you, one child is not good enough, have 2 because they will not be there to help you train then.For those killing themselves to have kids, ask yourselves again,is it really worth it?

AndroidAI:
This is why I am a proud antinatalist.

Kids can be adorable, but they are nothing but liabilities.

And there will always be that black sheep that will keep you awake at night.

I can't deal. Childfree is the way!!