₦airaland Forum

Winneygirl:
Maternity leave is not enough.
There's 9 months of pregnancy, and maternity leave is mostly just 3 months after birth.
A 3 month old baby still requires round the clock care and monitoring.
Plus frequent hospital visits.
Where do you keep the baby while you return to work? The baby needs to be breastfed multiple times during the day, as well as at night.
Some jobs are actually very demanding. Some jobs require travelling a lot. Imagine some new mums stuck in traffic for hours while trying to get home to a crying, hungry and sick baby.
Now, add the experience of having twins, or having a toddler and nursing a child, or having 3 kids and nursing the fourth.
Women give up a lot.

Ouchbabe:
If the career is too demanding, she can actually slow down a bit by getting a job like teaching that will give her time for her children.

Jeon:
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ur wish!!

I have never and will never crush on Nigerian celebrities..

know this and know fact.

AoifeNightfall:
Many things.

Like my loyalty and unwavering attention.
My resourcefulness and boundless, exciting creativity.

Most importantly I have so much love inside me to give.

And so much more I don't want to mention here. Now stop being jelly

Holluwhakemmy:
there is no iota of correllation in what we are saying and what you wrote here. I will advise you to read the story again. Happy weekend.

Holluwhakemmy:
of course i'm not one like you. Cos you are evil yourself for this your stupid comment are you trying to say what the girl did was right? Please use your common sense at times.

Holluwhakemmy:
She's wicked. Let her send her back to her father before she send her to heaven before her time.

Kobojunkie:
If only Nigeria were at this level!

yemite100:
Good day Nairalanders,

I work as a security officer in a community, I usually work from 7:00am - 3pm in a secondary school, and also resume night duty by 7pm in a community close to my house
The landlord association gave us a warning that we must check all cars coming in and going out of the estate and we have been performing our duties in a polite way..
About 11:35pm last night, we heard the horn of a strange car requesting that we should open the gate, I switch on my touch to check those inside the car, it was three abled young men and lady inside the car, in a polite way I ask them where they are heading to and they mentioned a popular rich man in the community, as usual, I told them to open the booth of there car which they refused to open, I told them to drive back to where they are coming from but before I could know what's happening,. They got down from the car and threathing to deal with us if the gate is not opened...they forced the gate open and drove inside the community,my colleague we're just watching the whole scenario as I drag issues with them...
I don't know the report they gave the chairman of the landlords association, they just got to our checkpoint this morning and told me I have been fired without paying me off, I told them I haven't done anything wrong and was just carrying out my duties,I was told never to come close to the area again or else I will be arrested.
I left there in annoyance, I was only carrying out my duties but now I have been Sacked for carrying out order...
I don't know what this country is turning to again...

doggedfighter:
What could he have done to warrant such wickedness?


Even the presence of his pregnant wife couldn't evoke mercy.


We have become so


Murder is becoming so common in Nigeria because 99% of the time, people get away with it.

samuel051:
A ritualist once lived there

oldienavie:
I know you have only written just a few from what you have passed through.
Let me tell you some things.
Nigeria is an evil place, majority of people in Nigeria are evil too, therefore the average person grow up in the midst of abuse, torture, pain etc.
95% of people in Nigeria are traumatised from the pain and evil they grew up with, the worse thing is that this has now be normalised and the result is a country lacking in empathy, desensitized to pain and evil in all its fabric.
You see police men, killing people without remorse, swapping inmates for the highest bidder and allowing the guilty walk free.

I have written all this so that you know you are not alone, some people on this group have been abused by their own parents sexually for years, how do you heal that kind of trauma, no justice nothing.

Every body expects you to man up and move on.

Now this is my little advise from someone who also had a traumatic childhood like you, but in my own case, people would argue that I should be grateful cos some people have it worse.

The fact you are alive is a priviledge, try to forgive yourself, move away from anything, family, friends that triggers the thought of the past .
This might sound somehow but try to look for a lady that loves you sincerely(this might be difficult but still possible considering the average lady out there is a gold digger) and pour your love into her.

Lastly, dream of having your own family and have a plan to raise your kids and family with the opportunity that you did not have.

The joy you get from a beautiful family will make you forget the past.

I wish you all the best.

underpinna:
My little sister has a boyfriend who writes her love letter.

She is learning computer in another village and always comes back home late. A journey of 30mins back from her training center will take her close to two hours.

I am not always home and just visited the first time this year. After the numerous complaint from my mum I decided to check her school bag and found four letters from a guy. All come came from him. I will be showing it to popsi. My little sis not not the biological daughter to my parents. Her mother was good to us hence we are returning the favor. She just finished secondary school and will soon pick jamb form to further her education on my father's financing.

I just fear pregnancy. She should be within 15-18 can't really tell though.

I'm just afraid popsi might sent her packing.

odutolu1:
Someone asked me a question and although I gave my advise, I wish to throw it open to see if we can get more opinion. Would you take a FinTech job or a bank job (not as a contract staff)?

The thing is, he's already employed with one of the traditional commercial banks in Nigeria. But he recently saw an opportunity to start with a FinTech company. The FinTech company is into payments, cryptocurrency, and uses blockchain.

He's worried of the job security of being in a FinTech company due to the political climate – Nigeria's stance on cryptocurrency. But the company is diversified into all forms of payments.

He has been working with the traditional bank for years and it's much like wasting one's career.

Would you continue with the bank job till maybe when you find a better offer at a secure place or take the FinTech job which offers better pay but has low job security due to the country's aggressive political climate on cryptocurrency?