Rachel98:
Merry Christmas Everyone. I promise to be brief. Pls Pardon any typo errors. I'm so confused right now. Pls I need mature advice

My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost a year now. He's gentle (he talks only when needed, and he listens more), good looking, hard working and smart. He stays in a well furnished apartment. He don't smoke but drinks alcohol only occasionally. Everyone in his area respect him alot elderly, young even little children of age 4 and 5 calls his name and waves at him. I would be like how do this kids know you. He will laugh saying "me self tire". I'm faithful to him and he loves me. Despite my parents are strict, I always find ways to be with him.

Yes, We do have intimacy in our relationship. Now here is the problem. He prefer to have sex with me in an Hotel, which I hate so much. If we're together in his house, he will just say let's go out, the next thing we're in a hotel. He wastes his money on hotels. I don't like it. Maybe we can go there to eat in the restaurants, swim or drink but not to sleep over. Me personally I don't like it. But I have talked to him about it yet he won't listen. I angrily asked him if he's an occult, ritualist, or something.....Or will he die if he have sex in his house. He said God forbid!!

What he displayed yesterday got me really angry like I'm fed up.
I'm an auditor in my uncle's firm. My uncle celebrated his birthday/end of the year party in our firm yesterday. There was food and drinks. We the female staffs were the ones that prepared the food. I reserved like 4 take-away packs of rice nd chicken, cake and 3 5alive drinks for my boyfriend. So I called him that I would bring food for him. When I got to his house I gave him the food, he was happy as usual. So He said I should follow him to his car, he tried to touch and have sex with in his car like I'm a prostitute. I told him to stop. I was so angry, I took my hand bag and I went home. He has been calling me since yesterday (16 missed calls now) I haven't pick.

I don't know if I should end this relationship. He behaves like I'm a prostitute or something....I need a good advice I'm confused.

Thanks to the few people that gave me mature advice. Seriously, with some comments here most nairalanders are really frustrated and bitter.

Please nairaland mods should try and control these frustrated people. Ladies are suffering in this great forum. How would a foreigner feel when going through all these comments??

it is the sex in the car that got my attention here. What are you waiting for, would you dumb him and move on

Life is good

BigYash:
The wife should go ,so she can make the social media platform her husband and family. I stand with your brother op. Your bro is a real nigga.. Greet him for me.. I envy men with balls... Make una no dey beg my real nigga again,rather beg the wife not to be stupid in her next life..

one for you

Genesiszero:
My brother has been a well disciplined man, he has married a woman whom he love dearly, sometimes I wish If I was a woman, I'll marry him! Gentle, calm, humble, educated, exposed with a very good source of livelihood. Doesn't smoke, drink or womanize And most importantly, God fearing. Maybe heritage from our dad.

But I never could have imagined it that what seems like a blissful marriage of my brother could end just like that. What is the problem? Social media! They had an issue, and she went and posted it there, from WhatsApp to Facebook and the worst of all twitter and some stupid women group which she seems to be a member of, may be there is some Judges there, come and see some people passing judgment even without hearing the other side of the story.

He warned her series of time not to ever post any family related issues to the media. I can remember while I was still with them, he always tells her if she ever has anything about him, she should call him and discus it with him or better still report to our parent. I don't know if it's a family thing for us or something, personally, I'm not too good with these social media of a thing.

To the best of my knowledge, my brother is the best and cool personality I had ever come in contact with, But these act of hers has been the height of it for him.

Brethren as I'm talking to you now, my brother has contacted a lawyer to prepare the divorce papers. Our parents and family members has called a meeting, we begged him for almost a week now but he stood his ground about the divorce, her family has come to apologize and beg for reconciliation for the both of them but to no avail, I spoke to him personally and begged like what you could ever imagine but our please fell on deaf ear. He personally told me that if his wife had gone to the court, he would've preferred it. If there is absolutely anything I know about my brother is him being a man of his words. She has done countless of things to him and She'll call us to apologize all the time and he'll forgive especially when my mom is involved. But for these I don't know what To say, she has cried and cried her eyes all out but for where It seems My brother has made up his mind, But if I may ask the ladies, why always the social media, going out there to claim the victims card.

Sorry I don't have much time neither am I good with telling stories, if not, I should have narrated what led to the whole problem but is a long epistle on it own....

Why is too hard to know what your spouse want and dislike. Note: he doesn't even want you posting his image in any media platform even on his birthdays, we're kinda some sort of reserved people in my family.

The marriage is three years old.
Not everybody likes these social media of a thing.

Our Fathers say "a woman is allowed divorce when she is running for her life"
It is not just Adultery. Your Brother is running for his life he should divorce her. Support your brother.
The secret of adultery are two
1. Sleep with another
2. Involved a third party
His wife committed the second offense. But as his wife prolonged it, she committed the first one too. Let her marry her social media
LET HER MARRY HER SOCIAL MEDIA

Moral lesson: Men apply makeup, stop your Black man mentality

Zazoo zeh

Fine woman. If I say I don see this situation before...then, I lie even before God and man. If am sure it is because she is mature for marriage.
She will find another chance.
Slawormiir what do you have to say. Am dumbfounded here

TEST IS FREE

descartes400:


I hope it's not God you are going to ask,to make your enemies die by fire?

you never see anything. I will never let my guard down for strangers. Only SIMPS do. Master Jesus was street wise. He can never be SIMP. He saved many SIMPS in his days.
The generalisation that Jesus was a calm gentleman among churches is what has been breeding SIMPS, SIMPS MULTIPLIED since 200AD. I cannot be a SIMP mheen. When Master Jesus was still here he told his men to put down the sword, but when he was going he said "he who has a sword now should carry it and anyone who doesn't have should go and buy sharp sharp" to the point that two sword to one man is enough. Welcome to REALITY
If my Master is a SIMP, what am I?!
WTF mheeen
My Enemies die by fire

Moral lesson 1: street wise comes first
Moral lesson 2: mental correctness comes second.
Moral lesson 3: makeup no de kill.
If people complain say you get broken leg, na their stupidity no b your own

Please wear makeup, e de help, be like say I go do small makeup today
For Nigerian police, I have nothing to say to you

Prospertochu:
I am married with three kids 2 years and 3 months triplets, my salary is 55k. I used to give my wife 20k, mother 10k, 5k for rainy days and 20k for myself transportation and other expenses outside my house.

My wife complained that the money was not enough I added 5k making it 25k monthly but she still demanding for more money and she has threatened to leave if I don't give her more.

I had no money to give her, my own mother was homeless staying in church and I couldn't stop giving her that 10k because she needed it. My wife used to fight me every single day and my uncle asked us to leave the family house as we were disturbing their peace and I was ready to let her go and I will be sending 25k for our triplets upkeep every month but for the sake of our kids we have settled down with 30k monthly leaving me with 15k.

So far, we have moved out of the family house, we are staying in a parlour and room house a brother from Canada gave us the place it is not permanent but it is better and we are very very grateful.

Like I said earlier my mother was staying in church, now we have a one bedroom house I have discussed with my wife for my mum to come and live with us and I will stop the 10k I was giving her and I will add it to her money making it 40k monthly, she has agreed.

Now that my mother is here with us, she started again with the 40k is not enough to feed all of us, note I don't eat breakfast, I eat lunch at work and in the evening I eat at home. She is only giving my mother food in the evening while she and my kids eat 3 Square meal a day.

I asked her why she is treating my mother so badly she said the economy is hard if she doesn't have she won't kill herself. I am sick and tired and if I have sorted things it was for the sake of our kids and now I am starting to regret. I am thinking from this month when I get my salary I will give her 30k and give my mother 10k to be cooking her own foods.

Is my decision good?

Let me make it straight to the point. YOU HAVE THE WRONG KNOWLEDGE AND UNDERSTANDING ABOUT MARRIAGE. As they talk am "nobody put bottle for your mouth" , so the reason you are suffering is because you have the wrong knowledge of marriage.
I just saw a news on front page about a couple who just welcomed triplets. I looked and said this is not good news to me, but I couldn't call it bad news because I don't know the family. So what is this knowledge you lack, what is this knowledge?
OP, it is that a woman should be able to take care of one child alone, and a man should be able to take care of one child alone.
The only expenses you should be paying is for the last child.
But how you were able to pay bride price surprises me.

Moral lesson: Greed is good. There's no problem asking for more
This Game called Life, play it well

Congrats to her.
Wear ur wig well. She wear wig like as if it is cap

Moral lesson: In this life, do anything you want. Just know your boundaries. Don't exploit your neighbor.
RIP to our brother...

odinson1:
Right from the beginning of time,women have always led men Astray. They are like Parasites whose main Objective is to latch on to a man and feed off him till he gets dried out.
Take marriage as a Case study. Do you ever wonder why the Wives are always Fat, while the husbands are looking Skinny and Dried out?

It is because of being Constantly Milked Dry by the Parasite he calls a wife. And to Prove her "love" to him,she rewards him with sex once every four months for being a Good Dog. Women are not your friends my dear Men

Some carry their wahala, pure wickedness into marriage. Even to the extent of exploiting their husbands. To work on their husbands weakness becomes a problem, what will now happen when there are kids in the home, the husband is capital Dead.

This man, OBI CUBANA, what a wonderful man

Obi Cubana, move on forget the dumb people.

GOD is not a Simp.
Let my enemies die by fire, Amen

wiseoneking:
you don seeam your prediction don yakata. Never judge a book by its cover or name. They don lick your Eypty

Guinea-Bissau win Egypt?

Wait, you no see condom supply??

All those SIMPS and not MEN.
Please change this topic. Tufiakwa

Too bad.
You de romance romantic with person were never put ring for your finger, what a classified Idiot. Am sure she is happy with her father dead, wicked daughter.
Moral lesson: Romance with your future wife and future husband that you are engaged with a Ring.
For that man, Agbero, is an understatement for you.
Una better wiseup this new year

TheOgaBoss:
I mean they don't sell shares to people.

okay, like a one man business.
But how do I find the ones that sell shares, that are not one man business?

Oldmansense:
Honestly, the person who gave out this analysis is very far from reality. I am a Keke operator and I can sate things clearly. At the end of November 2019 I got my Keke as fairly used one. Its still what I have been using till date and I have only replaced the rings and piston only twice. Apart from that I live in the midst of bankers even my next door neighbour happens to own a clinic here. I have my son attending a very good school while from the Keke business I have been able to secure many industrial machines for my tailoring business and I have been able to set up 3 POS outlets. That you earn 90k monthly from the Keke business does not mean you should keep it in a savings box every month till the year ends. Invest the money into any viable business where the money also attracts more money for you and thereby giving you the opportunity to have many sources of income.

so you are saying that all your business don't need your presence?

TheOgaBoss:
It is not a publicly traded company, so shares are not listed in the stock exchange.

Publicly traded company?! How do I find out?

C

TheOgaBoss:
no opay is owned by Chinese investors who also bought opera software.

does that mean a Nigerian like me can buy Shares?

BillionaireTeen:


https://nairametrics.com/2021/12/27/nigerian-startups-that-raised-above-100m-in-2021/?amp=1

What a wonderful thread. Am interested.
Please, which of these companies sold Shares, for people to buy?

dem no de pity pikin wey de cry anyhow.
But buy brick toys for her, let her put them together to form train, robot, aeroplane, car, wall. If she no gree, flog am

What can't be seen under APC leadership does not exist.
If what I read is true. Spray who?? Spray what?? These ones don't know what to ask.