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Why we export our riches best and brightest but welcome the dead
December 1, 2018

The reason the rich and powerful Africans do not want their bodies cremated after dying in those prestigious hospitals abroad is to be buried like Pharaoh at home. Their obituaries must display the country and hospitals they died in but their riches and children hardly come back home except to bury their parents. Our parents usually warn us to spend most of the money needed for burial and merry making on them while alive, not after they are dead and gone.

Those going to schools and working full or part-time are humbled when they come home and realize that no matter how much they bring home, a malam would change it without moving an inch from his car. These are hard earned money being exchanged for looted local currencies. The same local money that should be used to take care of people’s welfare and infrastructure. It is like throwing water into a basket. Even the exchanged foreign currency never stayed in the country. It is wasted outside lavishly.

However, there was a contentious debate that almost tore a community apart abroad over how wisely to spend the contribution made by Africans after one of their colleagues died. The cost of sending the body home for funeral was so expensive, some contributors wanted their money sent to his poor families at home instead of burdening them with another cost of burial and ceremonies that would follow anyway. After all, he was not a looter expecting Pharaoh’s burial back home.

The Riches, Best, Brightest and some of the brains Exported out of Africa while their Dead Bodies return home will continue to impoverish Africa as our resources and people are sold in Zimbabwe dollars to Western and Asian interests. Some of us value and support more devaluation. I guess they cannot get the fact that they are selling themselves cheap. Who has devaluation into Zimbabwe dollars helped in Africa?
Russian President Putin spoke too late on Africa as a cemetery. African countries lost trillions of pounds in blind trust, banks and properties abroad. All of Haile Selassie, Mobutu, Abacha’s etc. money stolen and hidden abroad can never be recovered no matter how much is spent on legal fees. If you collude with outsiders to sell and burn down your home like a prodigal son, Judas or Esau that sold his birthright for porridge, you cannot expect it enrich African Motherland.

There is no country or continent that is not blessed with either intelligent people or rich resources except Africa that have both in abundance. It is not what you have in trillions that matters, but what you keep and how you invest for profit. Africa, the richest continent in the world exchange its riches for vanities. In order to get what others propagate and advertise in glowing praises and colored papers, Africa sells everything including the intelligence and brains of its children.

Children are encultured in foreign behaviors luring them away from their parents. Parents and children can no longer understand one another since they communicate in foreign languages they have no deep knowledge of like primary speakers. No matter how fluent is your Queen’s English or bourgeoisie Parisian, there are native speakers better than you. It only deepens the cultural shocks between children and their parents.

Ai sile ologbo, ile dile ekute as an African proverb taught us. Absence of cat made the mice flourish. They made sure those competent were discouraged and frustrated out.

Politics became too dirty after the struggle and pursuit of independence. Many Africans actually believe that they should be living and making the same money those in the developed countries are making, even when they refuse to work or sacrifice as much.
Ingenuity, courage and industrious endeavors are no longer emulated.

“Gifted” is the reigning vocabulary about some money-miss-road buying some foreign-made exotic car for the wife, girlfriend, daughter or son and handing it over in the full view of camera so that they could be posted on the social media for hungry-starved depraved poor animals to match them by any means possible.

They are instigating children and ladies to be jealous of one another; their husbands or parents to become armed or pen robbers. They are asking God to pick up his prayers, not work hard to afford the same. Since when have presents become a show for camera to post on social media?

Communities and parents no longer ask where riches are coming from. God’s wishes, prayers, contribution for miracles and the biggest church in the world have engrossed the masses. We are no longer competing for the best economy to create jobs but for the biggest church in the world and places of worship known as business centers on every street. If all these failed, rituals for common fraud using their blood and kin to satisfy outrageous demands by pastors, imams and herbalists became their ways.

If African cultures and languages were not exchanged for foreign cultures and languages, many of our richest, best and brightest would not have been lured outside the Continent. Our only salvation has become how to check out, especially where we are not wanted. Once they left, the incorrigibles, vagabonds and those that have given up stakes in the continent, took over politics at home. They become part-time residents and full time floater around the world.

If the money they are spending is made where they run to, fine. But they suck every living blood and cells out of Africa to live lasciviously and majestically outside. Those who claim they are sick and tired of Africa, return with their parasitic behavior to gulp enough money for their return. They are usually too lazy to work long hours, two or three jobs, even combining cerebral work in the day with buru after abroad. If they could not work and go to school at the same time abroad, they would not do it at home.

While others drop it all and come back home! Our children are willing to pay with their lives just to venture out, only to perish in the sea and desert. If they are willing to lose their lives on foreign soil, one would expect that they would take less risk and confront their oppressors at home where they stand a better chance of liberation. They would rather celebrate and worship those squandering their future. The day students and youths demonstrated and confronted impunities are gone. Impunities, conspicuous spending and outrageous behavior are emulated!

Farouk Martins Aresa…@oomoaresa
https://www.ripplesnigeria.com/why-we-export-our-riches-best-and-brightest-but-welcome-the-dead/

If Obatala and Oduduwa we're later addition to mystical History, how old is IFA?

Were they mentioned in IFA or later addition?

0balufonlll:
Interesting stuff, baba.

I would like to add that for the Yoruba folks, apart from praise poems and such, notable events are etched in cultural festivals and coronations.

To understand the origins of Oduduwa one may need to investigate the legacies he left behind or those legacies that are said to be connected to him. An instance is the Ooni’s coronation. Once a candidate has been selected by the combined efforts of the Otun & Osi Ife, the procession for coronation begins at Oke Ora. The Ooni-elect will go to Oke-Ora (he used to spend a number of days back in the days), eat certain things & dress a certain way, then walks down from Oke Ora with certain people (who are now chiefs), he takes a certain pathway and stops over at certain compounds where he is joined one by oneby certain people and led to the first place Oduduwa was settled called Idio.

In specific terms, looking at festivals in Ile-Ife where lineages are strictly founded by deities and thus reflecting on the structural planning of the town. One may need to look at festivals and one of such notable examples is Odun Idio (Oduduwa festival) which features Idio group (those who were Oduduwa’s people) and Aloran/Omitoto group led by Obaloran who was one of Oduduwa’s sons who is hardly ever talked about.

Also, one would find that certain families/compounds derive their relevance from the roles their ancestors played alongside other deities - this is besides the families started by major deities. One of such notable figures is Ejio, Oramfe’s son. Ejio was one of the few people who knew Oduduwa & his groups were coming. And on the day Oduduwa decided to walk down from his abode, Ejio was thhe first to walk down a certain path to receive him and led him to a certain quarter where he was settled (Other quarters rejected the idea of the re-division of lands to accommodate hill settlers who wanted access to the fertile land for farming). This Ejio is the progenitor of Obajio.

Another notable personage was Orunto. He spear-headed the unification of the fragmented autonomous communities into a single unit. He was one of the notable figures of the pre-Ife period who would rather have a unified system with a centralized government than a scattered one. He succeeded and became Obalufe (Oba of Ife).

If you look at the Ooni’s chiefs to the right, the Obalufe, Obajio, Obaloran are chiefs/town kings who co-rule with Ife. The essence of their positions stem from their place in Ife early history. The latter additions of Akogun (added during Oranmiyan’s time), Ejesi, Waasin & Jagunosin were added during Ademiluyi & Osinkola’s times respectively.

In conclusion, Oduduwa did not migrate from Mecca. The Mecca migration theory is Oyo’s history of Oduduwa. It is Oyo’s attempt at reconstructing Ooni’s position as that of a chief priest of slave progeny in order to catapult their own king, the Alaafin, to the fore of Yoruba monarchy. Looking at the history of Ile-Ife, none of the legacies left behind during the Oduduwa period reflects Mecca or Bini, everything is totally local. The festivals and historical re-enactments are considered evidences enough in Historiography. Thank you & pardon my intrusion.

She is still playing hard to get, pretending to be shy and innocent when de man don knack am taya sef.

What I find interesting about the old Oyo system of government were the layers built in before reaching the three Oba: Igbon, Aresa and Onikoyi.

Above them was Alafin and below them are Bale and others.

Even Alafin respected the throne of his father, Ooni.

The most serious cases like murder are those that get to Alafin. Normally, Bale settled cases before they get to Oba.

So what went wrong with the Yoruba except adopting foreign system of government.

Historical Research Letter www.iiste.org ISSN 2224-3178 (Paper) ISSN 2225-0964 (Online) Vol.15, 2014
Igbon, Iresa and Ikoyi: A Pre-Historic Relationship Till Present Time
ONIPEDE, Kayode Joseph ADEGBITE, Folaranmi Adewuyi Department of General Studies, Ladoke Akintola University of Technology, Ogbomoso

Abstract This article attempts to explain the traditional origin of Igbon, Iresa and Ikoyi, ancient kingdoms in the South West Nigeria. The article also sheds light on the relationship between the three kingdoms, while examining the factors that made the three kingdoms the dominant powers in the Old Oyo Empire. It is the aim of the study is to enrich the understanding of intra-group relationship among the Yoruba peoples, the relationship that has been the core reason for their longstanding union. To achieve this objective, the study employs oral traditions including songs, proverbs and interviews, and thus elicits the needed information. The challenges of oral tradition, notwithstanding, the study identifies salient issues regarding the relationship of these three classical Yoruba kingdoms.

Introduction The history of Igbon, Iresa and Ikoyi aptly underscores the interlocked history concerning the founders of the three Yoruba kingdoms. Cities, like nations, may rise or fall, but the course of history continues interminable. In conformity with this law of historical continuity, Igbon, Iresa and Ikoyi were founded and grew coincidentally in a period when the Yorubas were still struggling to be established as a nation. The three kingdoms grew to dominate power in the old Oyo Empire. The significance of these Yoruba kingdoms are aptly captured by a popular Yoruba proverb thus: “Leyin Orun Olugbon, Orun Aresa, Orun OnIkoyi, Orun oun lori ile”. This proverb indicates that the sun (Orun) was used in the ancient times as symbol of power and authority; and the proverbs means that apart from the authority of Olugbon, of Aresa and of Onikoyi, there was no other authority on earth.1

In other words, the three kingdoms of Igbon, Aresa and Ikoyi wielded power and authority surpassing other numerous kingdoms or states in ancient Yorubaland, especially in the pre-colonial period.

Being a pre-literate society the Yorubas, in order for them to put these three kingdoms in a rightful position in the Yoruba history, made sure that the fame of the kingdoms were kept in songs and sayings common in Yoruba historiography2; and till date the songs and sayings still exist in the oral tradition. A specific instance is the foray and activities of the ancient towns and their Obas (kings), the Olugbon of Igbon, the Aresa of Iresa and the Onikoyi of Ikoyi, have been recorded in songs speaking of their socio-political achievements and their economy prosperity before the 19th century political plunge.3 In a reaction to social and cultural development in Igbon in the mid-16th century, the palace warden who was the repository of the kingdom’s history composed a song: “Laye Olugbon bi koro mo lo, oro nlo nun n...”, meaning that there was peace and prosperity in Igbon when Olugbon was the reigning king.4 Oro being a significant popular festival in the Yoruba towns, this song describes the wish of the Yoruba people during the Oro festival in Igbon and Iresa in ancient times, that the Oro festival should not end. The duration of Oro festival was normally seven days, but the fanfare and ceremonies undertaken at the festival by the kings, in Igbon and Iresa, added to its beauty, and the people would not want the festival to end. The Oro festival should last for more than seven days. Indeed, the ancient Yoruba songs and sayings abounded in symbolism and meaningful imports. The songs and sayings expressed in clear terms the meaning of life to the people, based on their cultural values at a particular time. The Yoruba songs were also used to convey the impact of government (the reign of kings) on the economy and on the people’s social life, generally.

However, apart from these songs and sayings which have become popular in Yorubaland, significantly in reference to good or bad governance and leadership, the history of the ancient kingdoms of Igbon, Aresa and Ikoyi are yet unexplained among the histories of classical kingdoms in Yorubaland. Therefore, this study examines the relationship which had existed for centuries between the three kingdoms. It accounts for their reported association and unity, among many other Yoruba towns in Nigeria.

I was wondering how long the guy with new or modern maths was going to get away with wrong answer instead of

Y equals x - 3z

These days they teach all kinds of maths. Eh, what do I know?

Most of us fear failure, some without realizing it.

The good part is that it drives us to success, the bad part is it makes some people reckless leading to self destruction.

Battle Of The Sexes Proxy For Sexual Abuse

Professor Blassey Ford is not Hauwa Liman an African woman the last time we checked but she carried all the stigma of Boko Haram girls that were sexually abused or killed. She predicted the pain and psychological trauma she would go through if she ever came forward. Nevertheless, she never predicted the threat to her life! Even worse is the fact that nothing would happen or change because her harasser would be believed over her.

https://www.modernghana.com/news/891000/battle-of-the-sexes-proxy-for-sexual-abuse.html

In terms of equality between men and women, we might as well look towards Western Europe and Canada since Africans cannot count on the story and safety of American women. However, African women are pulling their weight everywhere. Many of them are just as highly educated as men but the opportunity to move to the highest level still comes through politics. This is the place where most women are missing in Africa.

It is unfortunate that in 2018, such a highly respectable woman as Prof. Ford could not even dent or scratch her harasser’s credibility one bit, where it matters. The fact that she did not disclose her experience to her boyfriend until after they got married raises fear the Boko Haram girls dreaded the most. Rejection or humiliation by suitors and their communities.

So white men, out of privilege positions, high paying jobs or little education, angry, depressed do feel out of place. Their notion is that women are using sexual harassment as a proxy to get even. Otherwise, they asserted that there is no reason to bring back a grudge or innocent act on the part of the boys back 10, 20 or 30 years later when men are at the top of their career. It is for no other reason than to pull them down out of jealousy or viciousness, out of privilege.

There is no doubt that many African men are also worried that their women have taken blindly to what they think is hysteria in U.S.A. After all, almost 80% of white married American women support their privileged class of men. It is these men in privileged positions that bring home good incomes; giving their wives the choice to stay home or work. They are even more concerned about their sons being accused of abuse than they are about their daughters.

We must not fail to point out to our young boys and girls that boisterous habits can damage their career into the future. After all, not all boys join the ruffian clubs, drunks or misbehave as bangers. These are specialized sets that other boys stay away from either because they have been warned at home or they consider it crude and unruly to be associated with those guys.

So many people including women are confused right now, whether this is hysteria among highly liberated women or privileged abuses that have been taken for granted for a long time. Yet, neither men nor women deny the fact that women were abused. What is baffling though is the split among American women. It is so bad, Hillary Clinton could not even get majority of white women to vote for her as Obama got blacks. White women see her as a threat to their husbands.

Therefore, it is in the interest of married white women to favor the men who made their lives comfortable, reliable and secure. Anyone in their shoes would do the same. On the other hand, 80 percent of black women in America are the head of their households, whether they are single or married. Black men have become endangered species outside Africa since the day of slavery in one form or another. Therefore, it is easier to throw black men out of homes for any reason or no reason at all. Most African/black homes would then crumble without men.

It is usually said that facts are very stubborn but a lie that people are willing to believe over-shadows the truth. Nothing changes the fact that women suffer more abuse in the hands of men, we are only saying it takes much more to believe a black man than to believe a white man. Benefit of the doubt is not created for the convenience of Africans outside Africa. So, no matter how much women cry out, a privileged white man would be more believable.

Mind you, these guys are bailed out each time they get into trouble by their parents. So, it is not that they do not know the type of spoiled brats they raised at home. By the time they start finding excuses for their behavior, it might be too late. Indeed, poor kids from underdeveloped environment would never get away with what rich white kids get away with. If they are poor or black, they call law and order officers on them but if they are rich, they call for rehab or second chance! Give them a break, these are nice white kids.

Indeed, there are young school boys that find the unruly behavior of their classmates like those Professor Ford experienced, unacceptable. The ones that took the side of the girls that are being bullied, harassed or called names would get into trouble if he stood up to the bully and hit him. Boys in schools are trained to keep their hands to themselves, no matter whom the bullies provoked.

We must impact certain rules on our boys. Never hit another boy because he harassed a girl you consider pleasant or because she might be too timid to stand up for herself. Report to the teacher, otherwise you risk suspension or expulsion. Bullies and sexual harassers in schools are never trained or kept in check enough, not to display repulsive behavior in schools. They depend on their privileged parents to get them out of trouble.

It used to be that the children of the poor in Africa are the ones that turned out to be greater or more successful in life. It was in the days when education was a leveler and open to children regardless of how rich our parents were. The more it becomes a global world, the more African culture changed especially in the way we raise our children. The change usually results in some loss of the benefit of our culture and modest way of life.

Indeed, most of our professionals and many leaders today came from poor homes. We noticed a change when these money bags started taking their children out of local schools and sending them to private schools or out of the country altogether. Since they had no more stake in local schools, they let them degenerate to squalor and militia recruits. What we got from graduates of those schools are the rut we find ourselves in today. The ones that would harass Prof. Ford!

Source: Farouk Martins Aresa @oomoaresa
Published: Wednesday, October 17, 2018

Battle Of The Sexes Proxy For Sexual Abuse

Professor Blassey Ford is not Hauwa Liman an African woman the last time we checked but she carried all the stigma of Boko Haram girls that were sexually abused or killed. She predicted the pain and psychological trauma she would go through if she ever came forward. Nevertheless, she never predicted the threat to her life! Even worse is the fact that nothing would happen or change because her harasser would be believed over her.

In terms of equality between men and women, we might as well look towards Western Europe and Canada since Africans cannot count on the story and safety of American women. However, African women are pulling their weight everywhere. Many of them are just as highly educated as men but the opportunity to move to the highest level still comes through politics. This is the place where most women are missing in Africa.

It is unfortunate that in 2018, such a highly respectable woman as Prof. Ford could not even dent or scratch her harasser’s credibility one bit, where it matters. The fact that she did not disclose her experience to her boyfriend until after they got married raises fear the Boko Haram girls dreaded the most. Rejection or humiliation by suitors and their communities.

So white men, out of privilege positions, high paying jobs or little education, angry, depressed do feel out of place. Their notion is that women are using sexual harassment as a proxy to get even. Otherwise, they asserted that there is no reason to bring back a grudge or innocent act on the part of the boys back 10, 20 or 30 years later when men are at the top of their career. It is for no other reason than to pull them down out of jealousy or viciousness, out of privilege.

There is no doubt that many African men are also worried that their women have taken blindly to what they think is hysteria in U.S.A. After all, almost 80% of white married American women support their privileged class of men. It is these men in privileged positions that bring home good incomes; giving their wives the choice to stay home or work. They are even more concerned about their sons being accused of abuse than they are about their daughters.

We must not fail to point out to our young boys and girls that boisterous habits can damage their career into the future. After all, not all boys join the ruffian clubs, drunks or misbehave as bangers. These are specialized sets that other boys stay away from either because they have been warned at home or they consider it crude and unruly to be associated with those guys.

So many people including women are confused right now, whether this is hysteria among highly liberated women or privileged abuses that have been taken for granted for a long time. Yet, neither men nor women deny the fact that women were abused. What is baffling though is the split among American women. It is so bad, Hillary Clinton could not even get majority of white women to vote for her as Obama got blacks. White women see her as a threat to their husbands.

Therefore, it is in the interest of married white women to favor the men who made their lives comfortable, reliable and secure. Anyone in their shoes would do the same. On the other hand, 80 percent of black women in America are the head of their households, whether they are single or married. Black men have become endangered species outside Africa since the day of slavery in one form or another. Therefore, it is easier to throw black men out of homes for any reason or no reason at all. Most African/black homes would then crumble without men.

It is usually said that facts are very stubborn but a lie that people are willing to believe over-shadows the truth. Nothing changes the fact that women suffer more abuse in the hands of men, we are only saying it takes much more to believe a black man than to believe a white man. Benefit of the doubt is not created for the convenience of Africans outside Africa. So, no matter how much women cry out, a privileged white man would be more believable.

Mind you, these guys are bailed out each time they get into trouble by their parents. So, it is not that they do not know the type of spoiled brats they raised at home. By the time they start finding excuses for their behavior, it might be too late. Indeed, poor kids from underdeveloped environment would never get away with what rich white kids get away with. If they are poor or black, they call law and order officers on them but if they are rich, they call for rehab or second chance! Give them a break, these are nice white kids.

Indeed, there are young school boys that find the unruly behavior of their classmates like those Professor Ford experienced, unacceptable. The ones that took the side of the girls that are being bullied, harassed or called names would get into trouble if he stood up to the bully and hit him. Boys in schools are trained to keep their hands to themselves, no matter whom the bullies provoked.

We must impact certain rules on our boys. Never hit another boy because he harassed a girl you consider pleasant or because she might be too timid to stand up for herself. Report to the teacher, otherwise you risk suspension or expulsion. Bullies and sexual harassers in schools are never trained or kept in check enough, not to display repulsive behavior in schools. They depend on their privileged parents to get them out of trouble.

It used to be that the children of the poor in Africa are the ones that turned out to be greater or more successful in life. It was in the days when education was a leveler and open to children regardless of how rich our parents were. The more it becomes a global world, the more African culture changed especially in the way we raise our children. The change usually results in some loss of the benefit of our culture and modest way of life.

Indeed, most of our professionals and many leaders today came from poor homes. We noticed a change when these money bags started taking their children out of local schools and sending them to private schools or out of the country altogether. Since they had no more stake in local schools, they let them degenerate to squalor and militia recruits. What we got from graduates of those schools are the rut we find ourselves in today. The ones that would harass Prof. Ford!

Source: Farouk Martins Aresa @oomoaresa
Published: Wednesday, October 17, 2018

Each African ethnic group longe for affiliation outside Africa in the new world while rejecting their close consins they have more in common with in the old world, the origin of mankind.

Clowns stuck with colo-mentality.

These Africans are ignorant.

So Nigerians have not been killed by US police? Why do you guys lie to yourselves?

They will kill you before they know which continent you come from.

Do most of the blacks killed have time to react?

Damn fools!

Africans have been over-tolerant, over-generous and over-accommodating for generations.

It is called stupidity of Musa Kaka Musa, Queen of Sheba, GOLD Coast, Ivory Coast, Diamond Coast, Uranium Coast and Congo Coast.

Today we exchange foreign reserve for tooth picks, i Phones, exotic cars etc; like our fathers exchange gold for mirrors.

We call it FREE Market - for who?

I do get your point. I think the Edo have taught us a lesson.

Even Prof. Ajaiyi waited too long to respond and when he did, he was complacent.

Ife will forever be the home of Oduduwa. Lagos will forever be the land of Yoruba.

Ore was almost gone until the spirit of Ilorin was invoked. Never again will Yoruba sit still under the excuse of accommodation and tolerance and allow what is ours to be usurped by others.

We are no American Indians.

Nevertheless, those seeking affiliation with Yoruba will always relate to Oduduwa. Not only in Nigeria but worldwide.

macof:
I dont know how much of what is happening you have been following but there are attempts to claim oduduwa from Ife.

What are the names of these researchers?

I hope you are aware that Ijaw nation is not homogenous? there are Edoid groups who are part of the Ijaw nation today and even the Ijoid Ijaws are do not a have common sense of origin.

So learn to question where ever or who ever you are getting your history from

Until people usurp Oduduwa from Ife, there is no alarm. But if their story reinforce Ife origin as the Ijaw did pass through Ife, it can only be interpreted as one family with different branches from the same Iroko trees.

The story is not built on line, it has been researched since the days of Ikoli and Awolowo.

Compare that to those who claim to be the father of Oduduwa in the 12th century!

macof:
Whether he sojourned all over africa or not is not an issue currently, what people need to learn is that Oke-ora is the origin of oduduwa as his origin is currently the subject of controversy

That Ijaw Adumu story doesnt add up, it is more of a product of online miscreants, there is absolutely no source to that story

Olu317:
Do you know Adimula isnt a name but a title ? Visit the oriki of Ooni Ogunwusi and read it throughly to understand its tentative meaning if you can decipher..

,you will pay me unmeasured bounty for the leeway I have given you.

Thanks in advance. You have to make it easier for some of us by quoting the relevant part of that ORIKI here.

Even if Oduduwa came from Oke Ora, he had to come from somewhere. It does not negate the fact that he sojourn all over Africa and beyond.

After all Sango is more popular beyond than within Nigerians.

It does not make a difference if it was the ODUDUWA the first, second or third. As long as we know the same Oduduwa could not have lived for centuries.

Ijaw have him as Adumu.

I find this interesting from another thread and may be educative on the journey of Oduduwa and Ife from the North to the Rain Forest.

It may also shed light on why Yoruba (per Baba Amed) were prominent in Timbuktu's University when they were all lumped together and taken as slave to Morocco.

If you remember Baba Amed complained bitterly that Muslims should not be taken as slaves on the Mossi, Yoruba etc that stuck to their own beliefs should be take as slaves.

Re: Yoruba And Eegun Clash In Ajah, Lagos As They Burn Houses by onagon7: 10:06am On Aug 19, 2017

Awori people resulted from a mixture of Ebira-Koto and Ugbo/Ilaje peoples. in 12th century, Igbira (Apa) people under their warlord called Odaudu (Oduduwa) migrated from ancient Ebira Kingdom of Opanda to Ife and conquered Ugbo/Orinsala aborigins of Ile-Ife. after he overthrew the Alafin/Olofin of Ugbo in Ife and Oyo, he and his Ebira warriors went to Benin (Igodomigodo) and overthrown the Ogiso and Uzama dynasties. Oranmiyan was not a son or grandson of Oduduwa. you have to know that Oduduwa is the same person which Yorubas called Oranmiyan/Oloko or Oranyan who was an Ebira warrior and conqueror from ancient Igbira Kingdom of Opanda which was called Kwararafa by Hausas. aboriginal Ugbos of Ife called him "Oduduwa". from Benin in 17th century, those Igbira warriors under their leader called Ado (Ada) migrates to Lagos Island and conquered and mix with Ugbo/Ilaje aborigins and some people called Fon. this mixture of Igbira with Ugbo and Fon people in Lagos area gave rise to Awori people and their language.

https://www.nairaland.com/3455746/yoruba-eegun-clash-ajah-lagos/4

The Loss Of Silent Conscience In Our Community

We have to point out the conscience of our community even when they do not seek the attention most people crave, show no desire for riches as in today’s society but regardless of their demanding profession serving others while they were dedicated to their families, brought up good children. Young people that have no idea of what we were and still are, would think our society has always been unprincipled and uncultured.

https://www.thenigerianvoice.com/news/269656/the-loss-of-silent-conscience-in-our-community.html#

One of such pillars of conscience was Mrs. Alake Martins, nee George. We do not even know or call the name of our aunties, mothers or grandmothers, Mama Toyin could have sufficed. You may not have heard that name from Sunny Ade or Ebenezer Obey but without people like them, no society can stand. Their contributions are selfless, not based on reward, votes to become the Senator or Representative of their people.

Indeed, when we talk about those who corrupt our community daily, every one of them started from a home. It could have been worse if we do not have women that held on tightly to their families, making sure we do not disgrace our family names. They constantly remind us about the homes we come from, our names with Oriki (no translation: panegyric) and dare us not to even think of being the black sheep in the family.

If every home, family and community remains loyal to these good upbringings, many of us still strongly believe that our communities would not have gone to the dogs. There used to be a time that if you have corrupt people in your family, you would not get a woman to marry. We used to ask our parents why some families never marry close to home. The answer then could be the fault of their grandfather that did something amoral. Habah, [/i]how could we blame the sin of the grandfather on the grandson?

Now we know why. So someone as Mama Toyin that came from a well-respected home of the George family with many professional men and women would not have been allowed to marry Akinyele our uncle, great-uncle and father. He was a legal luminary himself rising to the position of Chief Magistrate before he retired in those days. He also came from a family of professionals. Those were days when a loser, no matter how rich you were would never have married a good man or lady. Today, show them any moneybag they would welcome him!

Are you surprised that youths these days want exotic cars as their first toy. One even complained to a friend that his father bought him a Peugeot after he graduated from college when most of his friends got Mercedes as presents. In the first place how are these young people going to sustain their way of life if they do not become politicians that could loot billions, divert workers’ salaries and constituency projects, allocations or become pen and armed robbers?

Some of our cousins still remember that when Mama Toyin came back home from London as a Nurse, her first car was Prefect. Wow, we rocked that car. Those were days before our first car was Volkswagen. Boy, if you had Volkswagen [i](So-ki-so), enough girls would follow you jo. We even had that advertisement then: sisi come ride my Volks.

This is not just about individuals, but about our community that has lost its moral compass. As a young man working as a court clerk in those days, this writer asked our uncle that happened to be the Chief Magistrate then, what would happen to some of our colleagues that might be collecting what we used to call “dash”. He was so disturbed, he gave a very stern warning. Furthermore, he wanted to know if this writer had ever done that! Emi ke!

So he gave a short story about corruption. If anyone demanded a bribe from a man that made ten pounds or fifteen pounds or whatever a month: lost or won his case. He would become a disgruntled victim that should not have been charged in the first place or that lost his money and his case. This was why we must shun any “dash” from anyone that was before a judge. In a few cases, men that were set free by a judge would freely celebrate, regardless.

True to Mama Toyin husband's judicious warning, a court clerk had collected money in the name of a magistrate. He sold all his houses in the suburb and still lost his case. As some of his colleagues were entering universities, he was sentenced to jail.

Can you imagine what we were then and what we are today? If you do not give them bribe or bail money when picked up at the Bus Stop, be ready to sleep in the police jail. All the Vagabonds In Power today never had such admonition from home. What debased our society today started from individual homes where people glorified money instead of honor, honesty, good names and pride themselves on contribution to individuals less privileged than they were.

If a stranger entered Lagos in the morning, by dawn, he would be fed, clothed and given a place to sleep. We spent holidays with friends, at uncles and aunties' houses. Used to bring less privileged children home to eat, drink, and attend picnics, church and mosque with us. Good times were celebrated together in peace and harmony especially Christmas and Salah. We shared cars to the beaches on some Sundays and people were allowed into your living rooms to watch television at the only time available, from 7 - 9pm!

If mama Toyin could live up to 95 years with her wit sharp and intact in spite of what our community has degenerated into, there is hope for many of us no matter how old or young we are. The stench, bastardization and unscrupulous people in our community must not kill our hope, sense of right and wrong. No matter how many of us remain unsung and unknown, our communities know who you are. Please do not give up your honor for money.

Too many people threw up their hands and claim our communities cannot be redeemed anymore. Please note that we have no other village, town, city or country but this one where people know your family, street and compound just by your name. No matter where we move to in the world, it is the only place we can call home. Our mothers, grandmothers, our wives (as we say) like Mama Toyin made us remember that good home.

We must cherish those that never cherish or sought riches, fame, position or power but only make sure they render services to the poor, bring up good citizens that can make contributions for the betterment of our communities. We must strive as much as we can to leave our world a better place than we met it. If not for all, we must do it for our children, their friends and those that would emulate us.

Mama Toyin Su Re O! Thank you for your life and the training you impacted in all of us privileged to be around you.

Source: Farouk Martins Aresa
Published: Tuesday, August 21, 2018

Check out Vai written language 10,000 B.C around Liberia and Sierra Leone , Menroe written language still store in Timbuktu, Ethiopian written language as well. All these around 10,000 B.C.

There are also evidence of pictograph in South Africa, Aroko with Yoruba. All crying for more research. They are all before the Europeans learn how to read and write. Indeed, they base their writing on Ethiopian written language from Ethiopia to Egypt found when the Romans and the Greeks invaded and destroyed black civilization in Egypt.

http://www.latimes.com/world/la-fg-mali-calligrapher-20130423-dto-htmlstory.html

Timbuktu calligrapher keeps ancient knowledge alive
By BY ROBYN DIXON and LOS ANGELES TIMES
APR 23, 2013 | 12:00 AM


A photo from 1997 shows ancient manuscripts at the library in Timbuktu, Mali. A scholar said the value of the city's collection lies in the knowledge it contains and the window it provides onto a golden age in the onetime trade hub, when people shared information by transcribing books. (Evan Schneider / AFP/Getty Images)

Column One
Timbuktu calligrapher keeps ancient learning alive
In Mali, copying Arabic manuscripts was once a prestigious occupation. Today, with texts threatened by Islamists, it is a spiritual enterprise that speaks to one man's heart.
By Robyn Dixon, Los Angeles Times
Reporting from BAMAKO, Mali[s][/s]

Ancient Africans Were Writers

Ancient Africans had artists that were prolific writers on almost everything they could get their hands on including human bodies, slate, rock, caves, potteries, trees, mud and sand. Though the knowledge was confined to some classes and royal houses passed down along those lines, enough record and evidence remain that survived unstable nature of the rain forest until today.

Many African scholars find it hypocritical that while some colleagues and Africanists have been forced to acknowledge Iwo Eleru 10,000 B.C, ancient iron, terracotta, 8000-year-old ancient boat of Dafuna and black Pharaohs of ancient Egypt, they still hold on to the misconception that the ancient black Africans were not “sophisticated” enough or even meet their criteria to put down their civilization in writing. It is one thing to be ignorant of what you cannot read, another to deny it completely. Is it logical that ancient Yoruba counted in thousands but could not read!

While Africanists diffidently accept Meroe writing most cannot read or understand, there are many more writings on the staff of Oranmiyan, Idi, Ifa in Ile-Ife Western Nigeria and Nsipidi among the Efik of Eastern Nigeria. We see some of the most striking African writings on arms, bellies, backs and faces to relating back to the place of origin or to identify classes of the nobles and warriors. They are derided as less than hieroglyphs or expression of thought and process.

Differences are made between pictures, signs and writings. If they stand alone as structures they pass as pictures but when crowded together, they can pass as writing. Anyone ignorant of Arab or Chinese writing may wonder if they are pictures when separated. The same is true of musical writing or other writings some are unaware of. A writer of these letters or languages may put them together easily while others may see them as pictures, individually.

What many call tattoos on the bodies are scarification to others and if they convey thoughts and processes, they are writings many cultures used to communicate. Over the centuries, many of these different forms of writings have been simplified on materials that do not fade or are not easily destructible. The ease of writing numbers in Roman figures or Arabic figure is a case in point. Indeed, living language are still being shortened to make it easier and faster to write.

It is interesting that archeologists and anthropologists interpret African artifacts into modern form of writing but missed the interpretation of its original writings, no matter how crude they find them to translate. It is much easier if these are found in signs and pictures than to interpret some musical or Greek alphabet they cannot understand when scribbled together. This is why it is surprising that in the year 2000, we are not devoting enough research to African writings.

Senegalese-born Cheikh Anta Diop (1923 – 1986) is an exceptional scholar without whom many African cultures could have been lost forever. The blame must start with African scholars. Some spend their whole academic life studying other cultures and languages except theirs. While it is true that funds and research grants are harder to get for Africa’s study, we must remember scholars like Diop that used his foreign training to advance African cultures and languages.

Professor Babatunde Fafunwa (23 September 1923 – 11 October 2010). A Nigerian advocated that school children should be educated in their native language first in order to facilitate their thought processes making it easier to learn other languages and subjects. Their thinking and logic become easier to adapt for invention and discoveries locally. This is how children that cannot speak a word of English or French become great scientists and Nobel prize winners.

Most of the mineral or oil rich countries in Africa, export foreign currencies they do not print or mint. Whatever is paid to them in foreign currency for their crude diamond, gold, oil or uranium is exported back to those paying countries to acquire gadgets, cars and mansions they hardly live in but kept for their families and friends while foreign taxes are paid to maintain schools they ignore in their home countries. More foreign currencies legally leave Africa than come in.

These are funds that could benefit research, discoveries, inventions and infrastructure at home. Funds that could be used to improve schools so that gifted children with God-given talents that lack the opportunities children of the rich have, could use to benefit their communities. African politicians would rather donate U.S dollars to foreign universities in return for award they could showcase. This is how we stifle our culture and deny future generation of their place in history.

African children today can hardly speak their native languages. The rich, famous and politicians train their children outside Africa. Actually, many of the children at home speak English, French or Portuguese as their first language and communicate with their parents in those languages. It shows class and prestige in Africa. Those that do their best to make sure their kids speak their languages have a daunting task. Many of their children answer them in foreign languages.

If we are losing a whole generation of African speakers and many of them are highly educated, who are going to interpret ancient Africa writings? Indeed, many Nigerian colleges do not teach history anymore despite the plea of informed Africans that the repercussion on our life, culture and language will be devastating. Aiyelala, Chi and Nemesis will catch up with us.

Let us face it, some African countries have been lucky and blessed. It is not enough. What we do with what we have, no matter how small or great in that limited time will dictate the future of the next generation. As we squander their future endeavors, Aiyelala is watching. This is why we always say that until Africans clean up their act and help themselves, nobody will help us. Indeed, no African will be respected anywhere until Africans make their own progress at home.

Oil, diamond, gold or uranium may be located in certain part of a country, within one or more ethnic groups, it will not matter much to the next generation of African children. The country, group or people that squander our resources will be held responsible for shaming African children around the world. After all creation of boundaries and countries were made for the benefit of colonial masters not for the benefit of the local African people.

Yoruba of the Western Nigeria lead the world in civilized co-existence among people regardless of their religion by the old definition of civilization and they do have ancient writings. Some will continue to deny ancient Africa writings until more scholars like Diop rise up everywhere.

Source: Farouk Martins Aresa
Published: Saturday, October 22, 2016

https://www.modernghana.com/news/729523/ancient-africans-were-writers.html#

Olu317,

I agree with you that it is difficult to translate one language to another. I think you gave a wider meaning of OLA which is the point I was trying to make.

But to reduce that name to riches only reflects today's obsession with riches or affluence.

We had rich men without OLA and many with it. So I feel glory as in the name Gloria, reputation and noble background is closer to OLA than riches.

Have you done this by putting it on Twitter or you want someone else to?

yipata:
its not bad if this notice is placed on twitter tagging the right embassy and the government. It will make a good impact too. And pls let's not start the blame game. Nobody forced them there.. Im not judging cos circumstances could cause it but pls solution is the core now.

I am surprised that you are also caught up in translating OLA as riches or affluence. This is today's translation since we are in material age.

OLA can have wealth as a factor but not a major or important part. Many people had OLA bestowed on them that are not rich.

When Olola Obafemi Awolowo became prominent, he was not rich. The same with many people from decent home without riches.

Mind you many men of valor were not necessarily rich.
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Olu317:
Nah....òlà is neither wealth nor glory but rich(es)/affluent. Wealth in Yoruba is ‘òrò' . And îyànù is ‘wonder' .The word is a combination of four words that's compressed(contraction)into one : ìyà nì lé nù(surprise-wonder). Although It is also used for ‘miracle'.

I think we are becoming indifferent. Cut the finger of many of us, you won't see blood.

These ladies, especially the younger ones are in bondage. Most countries whose citizens are in the same situation have done the right thing.

He is right, Ola means glory.

You have to be careful with Ogo. It has both positive and negative meanings: Olorun make ki a ri Ogo can be negative. But Ogo means more or less iyannu, that is miracle.

ElsonMorali:
Wrong. Glory is ogo in Yoruba.

News about domestic helps abuse in Saudi have been around for a while but they are mostly from Pilipino house helps. There was a report about abuse of Kenyan women as far back as 2015 that was reported locally and on BBC. The bad news we get from Saudi Arabia are from Africans on pilgrimage and some abusing their visa to commit deplorable crimes, especially Nigerians despite the severe punishment of beheading.

Nigerians young ladies and other Africans are crying out from Saudi Arabia! These are young women that neither had any desire to sell their bodies by taking oath nor did they swear at the shrine in order to become prostitutes. They paid agents good money with the hope of securing decent jobs in Saudi Arabia. Unfortunately, ladies include very young girls let go by unscrupulous parents. There are African agents in many cities including Abuja, Accra and Nairobi recruiting domestic helps into Saudi Arabia as slaves.

These young ladies are sending chilling cries back home begging for their rescue. Most African countries used to send their youths to Nigeria as varieties of helps including light skin Arab beggars on our streets from North Africa in the eighties. There were so many in Lagos willing to do anything including young girls getting pregnant for touts and area boys, until Action Governor Lateef Jakande declared free primary school for everyone.
https://www.thenigerianvoice.com/news/268260/abused-african-ladies-cry-out-for-rescue-in-saudi-arabia.html

Nigeria is finished, condemned to poverty.The poorest ninety percent have accepted their fate and capitulated by conceding ninety nine percent of income, resources and borrowed money to the one percent of Saraki and the politicians, police and judiciary.

Corruption is winning everyday in Nigeria and people are celebrating against Nigeria.. If there is a place corruption fights back with the cooperation of the masses dancing and celebrating, you can count on Nigeria. The Judiciary is so corrupt, you would think most of them were train or from Chicago before the clean up as some of their governors end up in jail. But the case of Nigeria harboring the poorest people on earth is so sad, there is no poverty comparison with Illinois, United States.

Other Nigerians watched, dismay that if someone as crooked and barefaced as Saraki could get away with impunity, there was no reason to jail poor people stealing in the market or beat them unconscious. Even armed robbers and kidnappers are wondering why they did not go into politics because their own acts involved greater risk of being jailed or lynched by the mob. These are the same people celebrating corrupt politicians.

https://www.thenigerianvoice.com/news/268033/saraki-proves-odds-of-winning-against-corruption-199.html

The poor might as well lie down and die in poverty.

BUHARI ELECTORAL CALCULATION: FULANI MARAUDERS FROM SPACE


Buhari seriously, Fulani marauders are aliens? If this was not deadly, it could have been ridiculous. It is about humans losing their lives over cattle grazing privileges anywhere. Yes, this is not new as you claimed but we are sick and tired of seeing lives taken daily with impunity and no deterrent. Sometimes, with the tacit support of the Army. By the time Police get to the scene of massacre, marauders would have already disappeared.

One North One Destiny may have finally run out its course. This killing spree around Plateau region may have dropped the last straw that breaks the camel’s back. Those comparing past massacre to the latest ones in terms of number and gravity, missed one important point: the last straw does not have to be heavier. It is ironic how the religious preachers of moderation or restructuring for the sake of unity of the country faulting Danjuma and Obasanjo warnings have not acknowledge past unproductive prayers.

Buhari went to United States to tell their President that had more information than him that those Fulani herdsmen are only aliens, the byproducts of Libyan civil war. It cannot be the justification for so many lives wasted without even prosecuting and bringing any bombastic perpetrator to justice with punishment as severe as the ones they inflicted. Instead, they collect ransom from State governors. Lately, it was reported that Buhari claimed Fulani herdsmen only carry sticks, not AK47. Really, Buhari seriously?

Buhari, it may be too late. Without North-central, you can forget the presidency. They have carried the One North One Destiny long enough. No other part of the country has been consistently loyal to the North than the Middle Belt. Of course they were rewarded with Gowon as leader and others whose real identities have vacillated intentionally to cement their relationship with the “real” North.

You were given a long rope like your predecessor, Jonathan, and you blow our trust big time. We pointed out that we knew you had blind spots. You promised to correct them. No, you cannot. It runs deep inside you as demonstrated from your initial appointments of security chiefs claiming you were balancing Muslims and Christians as if we only have each on one side of the country. Anyway, we have nothing to show for the most religious country but deceit, hypocrisy and pledge of more churches as biz centers.

Nevertheless, Buhari needs a good and long holiday to spend with his family after his miraculous recovery. There is nothing anyone can count on in his power, goodwill or empathy that will stop continuous killing and maiming taken for granted, not only in the Plateau region but all over. Even if you split the Eastern, Western and South-southern states’ votes; without North-central, Buhari might as well return home to Daura.

The Eastern states would have preferred Jonathan as the President since most but not all voted for him. The best Buhari can do in that region this time is to divide their votes. Putting it nicely. If they have no one else to vote for, most would vote against Buhari’s re-election. Buhari had all the time to win Eastern votes but not at the last minutes. He has an uphill battle to appease and prove himself in the last remaining months.

The South-south would not vote with the East as they did for Jonathan. Depending on the caliber of the Presidential candidates, each region may go their separate ways. You can exploit Odi massacre commandeered by Victor Malu under OBJ and compare it with what is going on in the Plateau region. Shehu Garuba and Femi Adesina are already at it. It may not work this time or even backfire.

The Western votes may not be as solid as Buhari thinks. They have Fulani marauding around their states like the rest of the country and they are watching Buhari’s moves assiduously. It does not change their deep reservation about Buhari himself or the threat he made to Lam Adeshina, Oyo State Governor in 2000. It is not different from those made by Miyetti Allah and carried out continually.

Buhari defended them then, no matter what. But these same militia in their altered ego as Boko Haram almost killed him in Kaduna. If that did not wake you up, nothing would.
Buhari has not changed; your security chiefs and electoral planners are only dancing for the next election around the corner on state police suggestion to curb Miyetti Allah.

Most responsible government would heed warnings and threats before massacre. In 2010, nothing was done to these leaders before their followers went on rampage. It was in the same Jos where military officers disobeyed their superiors that warned them of impeding atrocities that only resulted in probe without any disciplinary punishment for disobeying their superiors regardless of different ethnic groups.

Mind you, it is important to note that Buhari has more Hausa blood in him than Fulani but they won't accept that to raise their privileged status to Dan Fodio. Do not domesticate others to Fulani the way our Hausa brothers and sisters were subdued by Usman and turned against their fellow countrymen.

Fulani herdsmen want access to Hausa farmers’ land (clashes hardly reported) and areas outside their homeland by any creative means possible. Call it grazing, pastoral or ranch. They all boil down to the same thing: establishment of Usman Dan Fodio rule as those in Hausa land. Most Hausa now call themselves Fulani, other Nigerians are not so obsessed and do not want to be subjugated as their Hausa brothers.

Whatever name you call it: this incessant killings because of cows demonstrate there is no compromise in values between the lives of privileged cows and those of human in our cultures. If you value the lives of cows more, stay away from those who value human lives more to avoid the clash of cultures.

However, while other countries including Cameron, Niger and Ghana have been able to contain and rout out their Fulani herdsmen raiders, it is only in Nigeria that they have grown wings with impunity, even daring, threatening and killing across state lines. They have invaded farms, highways and Federal Capital without any form of deterrent. No other group dare go across the country; invading, killing and maiming citizens only for the Head of State to find excuses for them to continue their rampage each time.

Jonathan was rightly voted out for the same reasons you are failing today. If Danjuma, the champion of Zia Biam massacre under OBJ can cry out against you, you have failed. He made Victor Malu, the champion of Odi massacre cry. You forgot that he was the arch defender of Fulani leadership that led the coup against Ironsi. You can label Obasanjo and Babangida opportunists, but they also helped in the entrenchment of Fulani supremacy over Hausa particularly and the rest of us.

This is not the first time Fulani leaders have come out to claim responsibility, make threats or go on some killing spree without any consequences. Adamu Ciroma and others went untouched after threatening that if Jonathan was elected President, they would make the country ungovernable. Though they started from churches, it did not take too long before mosques and Muslims became their victims as well.

Those that voted for Buhari then can still vote against Buhari now without contradicting their principles. If you perform, you get a second chance or a second term. It is a notice to other leaders that Nigerians must not be taken for granted. Indeed, a president can be impeached before the end of his term. We must stop shaming one another as if politics is a loyalty game. Once you mess up, you are out regardless of your ethnic base. Indeed, our leaders should be kicked out until they get it right.

Source: Farouk Martins Aresa @oomoaresa

Thank you very much for this simple and easy to understand article.

I have thought long and hard about this project. As I was reading it, I thought I was wrong. Only to read your conclusion that tallied with my non-technical mind.

The reason I came to the same conclusion as yours was because of the steel glut and dumping of cheap steel around the world. But then, moving small projects closer to Itakpe to prevent huge expenses on "Railway line must be functional" could help.

Every politician has used Ajaokuta as money cow. We must salvage what we can for smaller mills.

Thanks again.

Ladies Give Love To Get Favours Men Give Favours To Get Love

Most ladies in hookups or quickies claim they do it only for men. It's hard to understand ladies in bed without orgasm. So when ladies say they are grateful to God but not to the godsend, ruffled men hail ingrate. Favor can be exchanged for sex. Relationships: sexual or platonic takes more than ingrates. Both sexes expect the partner rendered favors to be readily there when needed. But if either chose just sex, don't be so disappointed.

Misunderstandings stem from confusing the difference between the love and obligation of the parents to their children, expecting same in return. Yet favors to friends may blossom into deeper attachments or partnerships may burst even before they start. Good numbers of people do favors without expecting anything in return. Let us be clear, only so many. Otherwise the word ingrate would have been extinct between partners.

https://www.modernghana.com/news/503566/ladies-give-love-to-get-favours-men-give-favours-to-get-love.html#

If a Good Samaritan expects nothing back in kind or cash, still, do not rob St. Peter to pay St. Paul. Heaven helps those that help themselves, not those that expect manna from godsend without being useful, at least passing it along. Even if anybody could have been godsend, do not burn your bridges. While you did not choose your parents, you chose partners that could have met others or useful to those more in need.

Parents are often disappointed that after all they denied themselves to provide for their children's development; their grown children might abandon them. The same is true with ladies and men. After all the favors, partners may be disappointed that others are reaping the fruit of their favors. A lady may invest all she has on her boyfriend only to be abandoned for a fresh-lady in college or another guy might snatch a man's only Hope.

One study came out that only about twenty five percent of ladies actually enjoy orgasm during hook-ups, the rest do it to please the men. A guy you just met cannot be asked to stimulate you where you appreciate most out of shyness. But the same study reveals that more women get orgasm with partners they know longer and can share favorite erogenous zones with. See study

Culturally Africans may query this study about selfless ladies doing it only for men. Many were not used to MouthAction until lately. Some ladies insist on giving it to them. There must be something in it for the ladies. Even in a quickie some ladies try the dominant position on top until they are satisfied. So some women find their way to getting the pleasure in a hookup or quickie. They do not have to be sex addicts or prostitutes to pose preferably.

Some ladies complain that most men always want something back after favors: sex and/ or a bond. If they get either for a while, they need to be satisfied and move on. But if a man ditches a lady that took good care of him, she can be mentally scorned. It may have more to do with biology since ladies have limited time to groom another partner.

Women ungratefulness when men went out of their ways to do men favors may be a way of paying back since most men are satisfied and only 25% of ladies reach orgasm in that type of situation. The question individuals need to ask is if they are doing favors so that those favors could be returned in future or they are passing goodwill around so that recipients can pass it on to others. Can generous sex giver generate goodwill to others?

We have to be careful about the link between ladies ungrateful to men after getting favors and sexual satisfaction that women do not get after those favors. The survey revealed that young women would go into brief sexual encounter knowing that is not gratifying, without expecting favor from strangers or casual acquaintances. This analysis may have missed the instant rush partners get, fatal attraction or captured daydreams.

What prolongs most relationship is the sincere partnership, not the sexual gratification as much. If it is about sexual gratification, we may have a hard time explaining hookups amongst young people in colleges or at work. Even when men may be more satisfied with quickie or MouthAction than ladies since orgasm takes longer for them to reach, there must be a desire. There must be something in it for women than the study suggests.

If that is the case, sexual encounter has something for each partner even when women expect to be compensated or at least appreciated for it, since they know that hook-ups only satisfies men and not most women. Some ladies prefer MouthAction, some anal sex while some prefer to simulate sex. Bisexual women claim they enjoy better sex with their female friends getting multiple orgasms they cannot get from men.

If men treat sex as casual encounter just for them to come and not for ladies to get orgasm, men should not be resentful when women became ingrates for their kindness. Some men think a female orgasm, is a tougher nut to crack, compared to how easy it is for women to get men aroused. Women confess to one another that they have to fake orgasm even in a stable loving relationship sometimes.

By the time we get to procreation, which is the biological reason for sex some women may just want to get it over with, since they need not have an orgasm to produce an egg for fertilization. Imagine what it would be like if women have to, the world would be under populated with children. So as far as biology is concern, only men need to release.

Therefore, if a lady asked you, what favor have you done for her lately? Please rationalize it. She may have developed a short memory, try and understand. Today, women brag that they do not have to depend on any man. The fact is we need one another is different ways. If you are not providing the favor they need, someone else is. That may be why some, not all, do not appreciate godsend.

Source: Farouk Martins Aresa
Published: Friday, November 15, 2013

It is pathetic and nothing to do with ethnicity.

Luckily not all Nigerian youths. These ones pray and die on handouts.This is why they get involved in despicable activities.

Some have used their parents for rituals because they are not rich to give them handouts.

streamsofjoy:
And to think that this is the mind of the average Nigerian youth SMH

What has the children or any child got to do with this.

Discard the beech and hug the children you've spent so much time with. It's not their fault. Believe it or not, she is still their mother but certainly your nightmare.

What if you adopted the children?