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tollu:
Impatient ke? This EE is a true test of patience o

To answer your question, no idea.

Are you seriously leaving me behind?

1bkaye:
Where in Nigeria or the Middle east? Still in touch with any of the oldies?

Lag/doha (my other half has been there for a few)

Nah not really

1bkaye:
Lol thanks

Back to the capital, thinking of going to Nigeria for a bit though. Yourself?

I'm also looking into that or the middle east

1bkaye:
Lol ages ago, I'm an old woman now. How are you?

Ps can you please edit the name out, I'm a lot more low-key now

Makes a whole lotta sense jare

Back to the capital or you stayed behind?

Mamaof2:
My LA are unable to help me at the moment, as I would classed as being intentionally homeless due to the eviction. I will be staying with my mother until I am able to find my feet. My LA will be able to help me as long as I can prove I have been staying at my mothers place for a few months. I am also expecting baby number 2 so it's the most practical Plan for now.

There's no issue, i just wanted reassurance that I am planning on doing the right thing, which is to separate.
Sometimes when you have been accepting things for a long time, You tend to forget what is normal/acceptable. I keep questioning myself, asking if I'm overreacting etc.
But it's not normal and I need to accept that....

It's nice to know I am on the same page with most posters here.

You are definitely going about it the right way. It's ultimately going to be your cross at the end of the day so it's comforting to know you've assessed your situation and arrived at the evidence based judgement that you deserve better.

It's usually very difficult with those comfortable making a living by scamming other people to turn their lives around. It's a values thing and them kinda people don't change values mid way through their lives

1bkaye:
Lool so you're still here? Thought everyone had left

Not much of a commentator these days though

Glad to know you still balling

I'm sure ... is done and dusted right?

1bkaye:
Lol hey stranger ^.^

When are you going to start talking to strangers offline though?

Blunt gyal

Mamaof2:
I live in london

Have you considered going to your LA?

What exactly is the issue here though (please pardon my ignorance), saving your marriage or practical solutions to your current financial/housing predicament?

Do you live in the capital?

Mamaof2:
Regards

You guys won't even have anything to call marriage if you don't get a hold on your finances. You can't be doing the same thing and expecting different results. You really need to embrace practical solutions to your problems.
Why don't you just contact the local authority since they will view you guys as emergency and provide suitable accommodation as a matter of urgency

Under no circumstances should you go via the fraudulent route

1bkaye:
What?

what?

carlcar2012:
Lie, same. Is calculated per milage
The more speed d more distance covered. D less speed d less distance, ie same fuel consumption

Ignorance is not an acceptable excuse. Educate yourself

http://www.myengineeringworld.net/2012/05/optimal-speed-for-minimum-fuel.html

Use the speed limiter on your car simplez

It works for me

How come he didn't pay gratuity?
Mtcheew

beautiful232:
I don read this news since nau,na today nairaland see am? smh

Na today i been notice your profile chineke me!!!

Well worth the delay

speezyWears:
There is something unique about your grammar bro.



Just saying

werey bwoi

bootylady101:
from my view anything provided by either the man or woman aside money is natural and shouldn't be complained about

protection, emotional support, s*x, peace of mind, availability etc shouldn't be begged for it ought to come in naturally, times have changed .

As for me, am contributing everything be it savings, advice, money, time, humility anything, tho I know it has its pro's and cons, wanna beat my chest and say "yes I was there n I supported " tho maybe taken for granted but with God anything positive will happen


for two friends or people to co-exist, one has to play the fool

exactly!!!!!

That's the ideal marriage (Not perfect marriage)

Marriage is a sacrifice and everyone should contribute as far as their capability allows

The issue of fairness is a whole different ball game and it shouldn't be question if and when the fundamentals needed to succeed in such union aren't solid from the onset

Excuzeme:
Once again, you have jumped into a discussion way out of your league!
Let the person whose quote l addressed, respond to my piece.
That assertion was not made by me, dumbphuck!

You are obviously the dumb one here phool..Finding outcomes with completely different variables

You are obviously out of your depth hence the foul language

Idiattttttt

Excuzeme:
You are obviously, irredeemably DUMB or do you suffer some kind of Bipolar disease?!

Otherwise, how else could you limit your brain to a single-income household, as an excuse not to understand what l wrote!

Cant waste my time on people like you.
Just Gerrout my mention.

You are arrogantly foolish to ignore the obvious. It was a scenario (The word scenario was clearly stated fooool) used to buttress my point.

Geez... why are you so freaking empty

I'm not going to get out of your mention until you learn a thing or two about freaking comprehension and variables fooool

Excuzeme:
Between the "2months-2years" marriage of this current generation and the "50years-life time" Marriages of our fore-fathers, which is better and which do you prefer?


"A Fruit does not fall-far, from its Tree".

Why compare two different time periods with completely different challenges?

Excuzeme:
Chineke God! You will never pass Mathematics, if you go on this way!

It’s a little too late now don’t you think? I might as well return my MEng certificate then…Phew!!!!!

Excuzeme:
See it here:

Let us assume both of them are working, earn equal amounts (250K each), contribute equal amount to 'expenses' and their 'expenses', including paying for childcare, is 200K.

So, each person, after deducting "expenses" (100K each), is still left with 150K each.

This means that, AT BEST, even if she does not spend a penny on herself (individual expense), the saving she can contribute (maximum) cannot be higher than what she earns, which is 150K a month.

Now, imagine when she was not working (only the man was working).....and you said the remainder of the man's salary of 300K is her contribution to the family?

Comprehension is obviously not your forte. My submission was based solely on a single income household

The net savings she contributed to the contribution model I described was from the reduction in childcare expense that would have otherwise been more than the suggested N200K per month if she worked. I didn’t provide a figure as it wasn’t necessary in the argument

Besides, shouldn’t it be clear to you that double income household will almost certainly increase childcare cost or what exactly are you spewing?

A full time housewife model will probably have the following net savings:
Salaries of the driver and house help since they won’t be needed
Reduction in money spent on fast food

bootylady101:
for celebs, it's always the man buying, I haven't seen any high earning celebrity female buying anything from their purse for their spouse, yet they want gender equality, we women are our own problem

Tiwa Savage, Toke or whatever her name is were the primary provider, No?

Gender equality isn't only about pay parity and everything isn't about money

Here is a scenario for you to ponder on, A family of 5 (husband + wife and 3 kids) where husband is the primary earner and the wife is a sit at home mum. He earns 500K a month and their childcare expense (after adjusting for the expense they would have otherwise incurred if the wife wasn't a full time mum) is roughly about 200K a month.

The net savings is the wife's contribution financially though hidden but will be laid bare during divorce proceedings

bootylady101:
correct me if am wrong, the said lady, didn't add anything to the man but made him spend more and she met everything in place already, so please tell me where she labored? or to born pikin na labor?


for celebs, it's always the man buying, I haven't seen any high earning celebrity female buying anything from their purse for their spouse, yet they want gender equality, we women are our own problem

Finance isn't the only contribution to a marriage now

Would you marry someone that offers you nothing but money?

Moral support nko?

PenisCaP:
Common shut ur mouth u cow. Hehehehe.
So u hav accepted dat u are goat dats why i asked u to borrow from a goat hehehehee.
Olodo.
Nomatta how a human is..he is still more useful than a goat.
EDUCATED OAF !!hehehhe.
U are talking abt generalisg when its what u and ur brothers do here everyday... now its paining u becox i have served u d same dish. Hehehehe.
MISETABLE HYPOCRITE. kill urself if u dnt like my comment.heheheh

Thanks for wasting my time

Phew!!!!

soberdrunk:
Hehehe! If i give you my sister, you will start drinking

That's a very fair incentive bro....

although, i don't need a stimulant to achieve desired result but nothing wrong with journeying into fakafuku land with henny + forbidden apples

soberdrunk:
Dont take this the wrong way, are you a 'Straight" guy?

Have you got beautiful sisters with obvious assets?

I'm actually very capable ya know

bootylady101:
she said she "labored " with him

abeg how is that possible?

They were together for a certain period right?

Being together and working towards a common goal = Laboring together or whatever you want to call it

Marriage is a partnership regardless of the weighted contribution by either party

soberdrunk:
How do you live? How do you survive? Am always shocked when a Man says "i dont drink"! You stopped or you never started?

The fear of getting drunk and not being in control of my actions was enough to stop me from getting started

soberdrunk:
I have marked your face, you are owing me beer, nor use laugh cover up

I don't drink and certainly won't encourage it


Something else and i might oblige

soberdrunk:
Are you not a "Child" of God?

Yeyebwoiiiii

soberdrunk:
See how you are changing my words like my Ex-gf. I simply said you dont know someone and you are insulting the person, to end this war of words, buy me 5 bottles cold gulder and we will forget this ever happened.....

You committed the same offence bro..How did you manage to conclude it's okay to classify me as a child?

PenisCaP:
But u...u may need to burrow brain from a goat bro.

I am the truth that hurt u guys
My many experience in yorubaland no b beans.
now i know all ur games and beat u to it.

Can you see your life now ehn?

Logic and common sense clearly shows a borrowed brain from a lesser animal is way better than having a non functional brain as it's basically stuck in your anus

Did they not teach you in primary school not to generalize especially on a topic with wide variance.

Bloody monkey!!!!