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FreemanTJ:
I'm Confused With The Way Forward With My Relationship And Marriage

2 years ago I met a lady through a colleague. We got really close and became friends, few months later we got intimate and eventually she got pregnant. She was so scared and devastated and pleaded that I not only accept the pregnancy but marry her as well.....her parents are both pastors and she didnt want to bring shame to them by having a child out of wedlock.

The truth is, I wasn't ready for such commitment but I couldn't bear to see her depressed and so devastated, so I succumbed to getting married to her. Within 2 months we had to do a rushed traditional wedding and white wedding but before that I told her I felt trapped and we had an agreement we weren't going to be living together. This was because we both had different apartment at that time and due to proximity to work I wanted to stay on the island while she stayed on the mainland. She's an entrepreneur and since she was pregnant it wasn't going to be easy for her shuttling between island and mainland

She was ok with the agreement and all the while we lived apart. After the wedding I never wore the ring as I never considered myself married. My parents were the only ones that showed up at my wedding, all my sibling were really disappointed.

Anyway, to cut the long story, while I was with this lady before she got pregnant I met a lady at an event and immediately we connected. We would chat for several days and play chess game for long hours. We shared alot of common interest in our profession, games and all. She's not the reading type so I always recommend books for her to read and we reviewed together. After about 3 months of communicating online she asked if I was seeing someone, at that time my wife (it feels odd using the word wife) was pregnant, I stylishly dodged the question but she another she insisted I answered and I just had to confess I had a gf.


She thanked me for telling the truth, we continued playing chess but it wasn't as often. One time we were playing and started teasing sexually, she played along and was surprised I even mentioned anything sexual. Few months after, I got married but never mentioned it to her. I fear I might lose her while going through a marriage I never wanted.
During this period I withdrew from all form of communication, I was trying to figure out my life yet distracted. She kept sending messages on WhatsApp which I ignored until after about 2 months, I responded and she was upset that after connecting so well I suddenly withdrew.
She asked if I had a meltdown or emotional breakdown which I denied. Just told her I was detoxing from social media but I was back for good. So we continued chatting for another 3 months and decided we saw a movie together. After the movie I told her I wanted to see more of her. Eventually after some weeks, I invited her over and we got intimate. It wasn't the best of experience for her as she claims to have been celibate for over a year.

When she got home that night we discussed our sex extensively and she said she has never experienced orgasm and has always had painful. I felt I could change that experience for her. The next time she came over she asked if I truly had a gf since we spend alot of time communicating online, this time around I said I did but due to the distance we had issues and the rship isnt heading anywhere. I knew it was selfish of me but I wasn't ready to let go. After the third attempt she had her 1st orgasm and i could tell she wasn't ready to let go either.

After a while she got suspicious, she would tell me she had a dream of a short black lady chasing her out of my room and I kept reassuring her it was impossible but she kept insisting this dreams were recurring but I kept denying I had a gf or wife. She described my wife perfectly and I just wondered how some people are gifted with the ability to see things in dreams. All through the while she insisted on protection as she couldn't trust me completely. She grew more suspicious daily and I got defensive everytime and this started causing a strain in our relationship.
During this period we were dating and I asked her if she publicizes her rship on social media and she mentioned no, then later she asked me what I was hiding but i got defensive and we had a major argument.

Bla bla bla....after all the "tales by moonlight" what exactly can Nairalanders do for u oga OP??!!..

Abeg na by gown? How much she donate sef??

Where is Buhari or was he not invited?

sleekman:
What happens to wearing skirts with shorts inside? What happened to wearing skirts with leggings? Na wa for those foolish officials. S these girls mean they prefer to show the colour of their pant and map of their abunani all in the name of sticking to their religion? Foolishness is unquantifiable.

My point exactly!!!

Give them NYSC skirts to wear, how they do the MAN O' WAR drill (which is even optional anyways) is none of your business!

Abi se Ogun laiye ni

naijadrivablog:
Are they Deeper Lifers or Chosen "Mopols"?

BTW, if someone can put on hijab and 7/7, skirts should be made optional too, or what do you think?

Strongly Agree my brother!

Since when did NYSC stop the wearing of khaki skirts abeg??

Or is hijab now part of the NYSC kits as well

It is finished!

Modified: Lobatan!

Systrom:
Its probably outsiders living in Anambra that killed it

i.e Ebonyi people

No true indigene of Idemili will kill a python

Or Corpers

Onogueks:
As i was traveling through Oba road of idemili south of Anambra state, i saw people gathered and decided to go and see the reason for the gathering. Lo and behold there was a very big snake raised by a big stick. I was shocked because I thought they don't kill python in anambra state.

Thought so too......

Pls Anambra sons and daughters over to u for proper explanation

Nigeria, my Nigeria....The One and Only Giant of Africa!!!

Wey the video na

Cumpel1615:
Happy Sunday guys, I have being trying to ask this question for long but thank God I remembered today.

Is there any Bible verse that warned us against putting on cap in church? I really would love to know, and if not, what is the significance of removing your cap in church?

OP this is the wrongest generation to ask this kinda questions coz we don sabi sometin pass all the people wey write bible....Over sabi no go kill us for this generation sha...

For u to get the correct response to ur question I advice u locate those people wey write the bible or better still ask HOLY SPIRIT!!!

Op if u tell her, ur headache! If u no tell her, ur cup of tea!!!

Why didn't u ask for our opinion(s) before shagging ur girl's best friend, ehn?...after u don enjoy ursef finish u come come here dey form repentance... See no just try us o na Sunday morning be this! Go and carry ur cross!!

Like me friend will always say, Na ur cross, make sure u carry am straight make e no wound another person!!!

Op is it "a cake" or "a piece of cake"?...I don't want to call u olodo

Guys imagine say nairaland/social media bin dey in the days of Romeo and Juliet?

Ordinary Tacha....come imagine say na Bob Risky...

"Mohammed who emphasised the importance of educating not only the girl-child but young people in the society, added that such a move would curb crimes and social vices in the society"

...Madam education no dey curb anything instead e dey make criminals more intelligent!!!....

Top notch crimes all over the world are not masterminded by illiterates!!!

He is the best among his peers alive! Take it to the bank!!

At least he's not a "jack of all trade and master of none" kinda man/actor. He knows what he is best at and sticks to it!!!

Before anyone futures Pete Edochie in his/her movie s/he knows he is the best fit in that particular role....

What am I even saying, am here helping some Sugabelly or Village belly trend instead
....make me self go find one better person abuse make I follow trend after all that's the new trend!

Well.....a very matured and intelligent lady once told me that there is no word like "Cheating" in the dating/relationship dictionary because there was no oath or vows taken, it's only a game of words.

Hence, nothing bounds you guys together except mere promises and the hope of a "happy ending".

If you ask me, I choose to believe her though

Guy if you ask me, I'll advice you tell her everything (not using "confess" like u are one criminal) if you are going to marry her coz if u don't and u eventually end up with her, that secret will hunt u since I'll be seeing her all the days of ur life. From my observation, you're only feeling bad out of pity for her and not love!

Who says u shouldn't blow?....all he's saying is just blow wisely if u must blow and no let EFCC see your blowings!!!!!

Am not saying she's lying all I wanna ask is who's paying for them gat dem perfumes?....coz it's obviously not u!!!...How much do u earn monthly to spend 4m on just perfumessmh

The die is cast!!!

It's time for Nigeria and Nigerians to look inwards and harness the numerous potentials within this blessed country.

Let's stop depending on all this so called brother and sister nations. We can have everything we need with proper planning even without looking out the window instead of shouting GIANT OF AFRICA with little or nothing to show for it.

What do we expect when we practically depend on these "little" countries for almost everything. South Africa did theirs now small Ghana too dey get mouth!!! Mtttchhheeeewww!!!!

Anyways, "Elder wey roast corn with small children no go vex if those same children pour am ashes"

We have all it takes to be on our own as a Nation!!

Finally, Dear Ghanians, BOARDER CLOSURE REMAINS TILL FURTHER NOTICE!!! ....y'all get that into ya thick blaq skullz!

Lobatan!!!!!

Hustle o make ur ex no pour u gutter water with her husband car tell u sorry o!


Hustle today o so that u no go hustle tomorrow o!(mystery)

Hustle o so that u no go turn house husband o!

Having worked in the bank and other corporate organization, I have come to the conclusion that Suit and tie na scam....the way to go is being Self Employed and IT/Online biz....not forgetting politics;

All these may be correct, but my own be say, to get and/or make money no be by speaking Queen's or King's English jare.

Anyways Op u also forgot to add:
Incorrect: Am going to barb my hair
Correct: Am going to cut/barber my hair

lilmarley:

A woman went shopping. At the cash counter, she opened her purse to pay.

The cashier noticed a TV remote in her purse.

He could not control his curiosity and asked,

"Do you always carry your TV remote with you? "

She replied " No, not always, but my husband refused to accompany me shopping today because of football match, so I took the remote."

Moral: Accompany and support your wife in her hobbies.....

The story continues....

The cashier laughed and then returned all the items that lady had purchased.

Shocked at this act, she asked the cashier what he was doing.

He said, "your husband has blocked your credit card.........."

MORAL: Always respect the hobbies of your husband.

Story continues....

Wife took out her husband's credit card from purse and swiped it. Unfortunately he didn't block his own card.

Moral: Don't underestimate the power and wisdom of your WIFE..

Story continues...

After swiping, the machine indicated, 'ENTER THE PIN SENT TO YOUR MOBILE PHONE'.......

Moral: When a man tends to lose, the machine is smart enough to save him!

Story continues....

She smiled to herself and reached out for the mobile which rang in her purse.

It was her husband's phone showing the forwarded SMS.

She had taken it with the remote control so he doesn't call her during her shopping.

She bought her items and returned home happily.

Moral: Don't underestimate a desperate woman!

Story continues....

On getting home, his car was gone.

A note was pasted on the door

"Couldn't find the remote. Gone out with the boys to watch the premiership match. Will be home late. Call me on my phone if you need something".

Dawn... He left with the house key too.


Moral: Don't try to control your husband.
You will always lose

I love this totally!!

Bae doesn't understand the difference between man and a woman in a relationship.

Emily22:
I hacked her WhatsApp back den with( I won't tell u the app )

She was dating her lecturer then ,an old married man around 60-65yrs with 2 grown up beautiful girls...

Whenever she is online, I ll be reading her messages especially whenever she ask d man dat (did u release in me)...

So I switched to condom cuz I got scared of infections....we fought over the use of condom and I told her Its for our own good.

Too be candid, I played along till her final year cuz I just needed something to bang hard since am not a fan of masturbation and also not a fan of "sister,can I have a minute with u ".

So last year, she told me how she can die for me,how she can bla bla bla ,all those thrash talks........I told her "alaye am done with you".

She think say she don keep one mumu good husband for one place so if she sell her Puna finish,she can come back to uncle mumu.

That day was hell on earth cuz u need to see her rage , insults, abuses....I just dey smile for where I dey say if u finish,carry Ur pangolo and leave.....that was the end of the whole relationship shit.

Advice of the day : If u want to die young,hack your girlfriend's WhatsApp, Facebook,Instagram and co... Chech Ur blood pressure first before doing that shit cuz u ll never believe what u ll see..

Goodnight,by the way,am looking for job.

Bro show me the way abeg.....local man needs to be a step ahead in this game of love!!
ebinghajp@gmail.com
Thanks in advance

OP but no be only one "carry" dey there na...

You would have said "A picture of 2 Face carrying 2 Babies"

"Belt must match with color of coat"; Is that the latest fashion in town?... thought it was supposed to be Belt and shoe going together??

Anyway, werin I sabi? Lemme command and be going!

Na wa o...The guy go die very well!!