delishpot: Please if his family say NO do not force it o. Tomorrow if you have SS and you start running up and down he will get tired and blame you for the whole problem your sturboness brought to him. It is financially, mentally and physically exhausting. Please ask anyone who has had a sick child. Esp one who falls sick frequently even small cough and carthar that lasts for two weeks sends parents into worry frenzy talkless of SS. Think am well abeg.

@EmpresFidel, whatever you do, the emboldened words are gold.
Btw, do you really want to be aborting kids till you get the 'right' genotype? They'd probably not tell you that yet, but that abortion routine is in itself frustrating and emotionally draining.

Except perhaps you have the funds for an IVF though. God be with you.

HEseesall:



He doesnt want that, i suggested it he said no, he has to be in charge fully not jointly

Ah

pocohantas:


There are different types of uncles. Biological, Romantic, Spiritual and Academic.

I didn't even read the story, but this is just epic!

MrDKR:
Hello RL, received the below invite yesterday from Total Nigeria PLC.

"Dear Candidate,
 Sequel to your application to Total Nigeria Plc.,  you have been shortlisted for a test;
 Date –           16th July, 2018
 Venue –        Total House, 4 Churchgate street off Adeola Hopewell Victoria Island Lagos.
 Time –           10am
 Come along with the following documents (Original and Photocopy);
·         Your  credentials (birth certificate, SSCE/NECO, University Certificate e.t.c)
·         Means of  ID (International Passport/ Driver License or Voters card only)
·         1 passport picture
·         Your updated CV
Please note; Bags, Laptops, Tablets, Laptop bags or any form of carry on will not be accepted into the building.
You will be subjected to security check/ screening. This letter serves as your gate pass; kindly print a copy.
To help you prepare for the test please visit https://www.cebglobal.com/shldirect/en-us for practice test questions. Bring a non-scientific Calculator along for the Test
Kindly confirm your availability by replying this email.  

Best regards,
 

RECRUITMENT TEAM"

Please, did anybody receive the same invite??


 

This looks as real as reality.

Try to practice SHL well - numerical, verbal and abstract.

I wish you success.

.

davide470:


@bolded, don't just let me start o.
"Remove the log in your eyes before trying to take out the speck in someone else eyes" -- said by Jesus.

Lol it's a rule.. anyone you catch (they ask for bribe or not) report, the people go collect sack and station faces possibility of close down.
Now that I think of it... The sack might have been for same reason sef not really for the bribe. It's an unbeggable sack - you wey beg, them go follow sack you Kwa.

correctbae:
Nigerian Guy, Favourite Onwuemene took to his Facebook page to narrates how he stopped a petrol station from collecting keg charges from people.

According to his post, he went to purchase fuel and saw how #50 was being collected from keg users, it got him pissed off and told the fuel Attendant not to try it with him but they refused, after much dragging with the management, he got threatened. He decided to write to the franchise owner of the petrol station who decided to take up the case and it got all staffs of that petrol station sacked.

His post:
For months the fuel station close to my house has been forcing anyone buying fuel in kegs to pay a minimum bribe of N50 depending on quantity.
I pleaded with the attendants not to try that nonsense with me, they refused. Thrice I asked to speak to the manager and he supported the attendants, saying all fuel stations do it.
About 3 weeks ago I went there to buy fuel, the attendants refused selling to me if I didn't pay them the bribe first. I told her I wasn't going to leave the station if she doesn't sell me fuel because it was discrimination and illegal to refuse me service in my Country.
While I was waiting a "big man" came in his expensive jeep to buy fuel and paid bribe of N100. Immediately he left the attendant turned to me and said if that man can pay for his keg, why will I, a small boy, refuse to pay? Calling me a kid pissed me off and I went in to see the manager. The manager supported his attendants and threatened he was going to call the cops on me and tell them I came to rob the station. That was the final straw.
I left, promising I was going to take legal action. They probably thought I was making empty threats.
That night I wrote to the fuel station franchise owners informing them of what had happened and that I intended to get justice. I thought it right to first inform them before proceeding with my plans, didn't think they were going to do anything, considering the manager already told me that the charge was authorised by management.
Next day I got a call from the regional manager of Lagos asking for more info and that I give them some time to investigate. After some days, I got another call asking me to point out all those involved. They all got fired. Right now that practice of paying bribe to buy fuel has stopped for everyone buying fuel there.
It cost me more, in time and money, to get redress, than I would have spent bribing those attendants for a year. But it was worth it, because if all Nigerians surrender to the abnormality of paying bribes for the most basic things, this Country will never get better.
We can all continue to blame the Presidency while we turn a blind eye, and even support the rot in our own backyard.

Source: https://correct.com.ng/nigerian-guy-narrates-how-he-stopped-petrol-station-in-his-area-from-collecting-keg-charges-from-people/

Can someone also help us inform this guy that the petrol station should in fact be sanction for selling to Kegs. Since he is seeking social media popularity, he should also release the name of the station make DPR guys also join in the celebration of not turning the blind eye.


#JustSaying

ClassRep001:
That's a real man out there.
Not all these modern chicken hearted men who'd go to any extent to please a woman cos of pussy.

[s]My wife dare not purchase any goddamn shit without my consent or she'd end up in her father's house the next day.
I married her, i paid her dowry, i took care of all of marriage bills. I own the house she's living under. She dare not do anything under my roof without my consent, she dare not possess any Property "be it phones, clothes, necklaces or shoes" without me knowing about it.[/s]

Giving ladies "free hand" to do anything is one of the reason that makes them go into sleeping outside for financial reasons without their husband questioning their moves.

God bless every real man out there!

I don't know which is more disturbing:

The fact that men like you actually still exist or The fact that your post actually has 17 likes (meaning 17 humans with brains like this thing you have typed).

It is a sad matter.

My Goodness!
That post actually has 76likes now.
How? Wawuuu!
Which way my people?

zicoraads:

Oh, that! I really think a woman's upbringing plays a huge part in this. Not every lady or family would see this as something to disrespect the man for. My two elder sisters are basically the providers in their homes. The cars, rent, children's fees etc. is all on them. Still, this family respects the men their siblings are married to all the time.

In short, if I want my sister to send even one kobo to me for any reason, she'll always refer me to her hubby. The house finances are majorly his to handle anyway.

No one's condition is permanent. No one knows what tomorrow holds.

Hi,
Quick one please.

I think there's a difference between a man who is a victim of circumstances for whom we can say "No one's condition is permanent. No one knows what tomorrow holds" and a man like the Op who has simply decided to live off his FIL. If the Op was bringing in something no matter how small, he would have no issues except of course the girl's family has issues like you rightly pointed out.

But a man that is so eager and comfortable to spend his in-laws money without looking for how to make his own?

Your sisters you say are basic providers in their homes, but their husbands at least do something right? Perhaps the only difference being the income that comes in from what they do.

In the Op's situation, the wife and family are SOLE providers. That's a whole different ball game. The man is doing nothing, and from his comments he is not even interested in doing anything.

In a way I feel bad for you, yet I still can't grasp that someone would open his eyes and let soap enter.

winningwinner: She kept servicing my bank account with lots of money.Her father is rich.

Genesis of your problem is that you took your babe's insistence (by the way you know she only insisted because she was angry that the job stole your attention from her during the visit, not like she truly and honestly wanted you to resign) and resigned from a 120k job without having a backup in this recession. Your babe that was still a student then o... And you were comfortable receiving bank alerts from your non-working rich kid babe.

winningwinner: A month later, I called him to inform him of my plans to marry his daughter the coming Christmas, but only that money was the big issue. He told me to go on with my plans that he will take care of everything.I jumped at it and we wedded. He took care of everything starting from invitation card to reception

As if that wasn't enough show of laxity, still in your jobless state you carry phone de call person Papa say you wan marry. Marry with what? And feed with love? A man that has 50k hard earned money to his name is more eligible for marriage than a jobless you na.
Okay, the dad now said oya fast fast come and marry o, in fact don't worry let me sponsor the wedding. And you jumped at the idea. Really, how bad can it get?

winningwinner: He refurnished my house in Abuja and transferred three years rent sum to my landlord's account. He paid in advance. Our first child came, still I and my wife are jobless. My In-law takes care of us.

Okay o. You are now married, happy married life. You sat down and said "Daddy thank you" when the man paid 3 years advance rent for you? Lol the story is as funny as it is sad! What were you thinking?
Now, even working couples use family planning when they feel their finances are not bouyant enough to cater for children. Yet you in your jobless state quickly became Daddy? Smh. What were you planning to use in training the child? Money from the Big Daddy abi? Lol this wan strong.

winningwinner: I wanted to be in charge of my home but the man kept interfering, making the daughter to take a contrary decision on crucial matters.

And then after selling your manhood on the altar of laziness and gold-digging (truth must be told), you now have the guts to "want to be in charge of your home". In what kind of charge? Oga better wake up and do it fast. I actually think it's an insult on the man's "kindness" to say he is 'interfering' in your affairs. So because this 'interference' is not putting money in your account you are complaining abi? All the while he has been 'interfering' in your affairs by marrying his daughter for you, paying your rent and feeding you and your entire family you didn't come here to cry foul o...

What did your family members say about it or they weren't aware? Cos the Nigerian in me won't even allow this to happen - it becomes easy to think say the Baba they use your success de service his own wealth while you continue to feed from his tap. But truly ehnnnnn, it is far from Jazz/Juju that is the problem with you o - it is simply laziness. Oga, goannn work.

I saw a post where you were asking if love is not enough blah blah blah and someone was telling you that "money is king" for your wife. That's an insult to the poor lady that has had to bear your laxity for years. Money is king to her yet she no see rich man to marry? I'd say she must love you very much to cope with this manner of laziness.
Broz there's only so much a person can do and people have their limits. It has nothing to do with her being female. It's only human that when you have tried and tried to help one person and it turns out that only you is doing and doing, one day you go taya. The babe is tired.

See, I've seen where some people have advised you to have a talk with her saying you feel emasculated and want to be in charge. Oga if you love that your marriage, no try am. Because the lady is obviously burnt out from doing everything (by extension through her dad), so anything wey make you talk in complaint, will just be the straw to break all hell loose on you. She would just spill out things she may not mean out of frustration. If you don't want to hear the one that would finally kill you, just jejely go and look for a job before you start any conversation of how you feel emasculated cos no be today your emasculation start.

And your job doesn't have to be bringing in the millions that your in-law has. You are not in competition with him. Get a job that pays something and start from there. And for the goodness of all that is good, let that job be hard-earned by you, not another gift from Baba. Please kwanu, dust that your 1st class degree and get a job. If Baba continues to pay all the bills, biko don't disturb the man as he also makes the decisions.