₦airaland Forum

hstar:
OK jare bros, av heard u, because d way he spoke before was ridiculous thats why I gave him yeye reply as well, even self going as far as comparing to a nairaland kid, I don hear u bros I go edit am with the way you intervene, but my question to him is what was he thinking about before he sent the number? Abi he was high then? No pun intended and I don't mean to be rude with the question

maybe na copy and paste the guy do

hstar:
Wetin b my own? Na me insert the number?
No b him put d number there? He should remove it from his post, simple as that too. By the way I no call any number, me I'm just catching fun, that's it

he's pleading , courtesy or empathy if u have any just edit where u quoted him with the number , so others don't call the number.

hstar:
Want to be rude? How? Do you take me for a nairaland kid? How am I rude? Show it to me from my post, u say make them no contact the said lady whom you dropped her number and I told you I didn't, because initially, no be me u quote. I checked ur profile only to find out u stay in mainland which happened to be my location too. And I asked u do you stay in mainland only for you to keep warning me not to call the number you provided, Na me say make u put am if you no want people to contact am?

it's simple go to the post you quoted that has the number embedded in it and remove it, edit your previous quote that has the number in it, simple

A lady without class and empathy

Nigerianization:
Well I broke up with my ex because she is too nice

I gave her money to keep for me and told my cousin sister staying with me about it...that sister of mine is a spender and though I love her like that, sometimes it gets to me. She is this type that doesn't appreciate value for money...

My cousin sister cajoled this babe of mine to give her the money and when I needed it, she had spent 75 percent of it on stupid stuffs and my girl's defense was that she's my sister and she doesn't want to come between us... Why not ask me before giving her the money?

She did same with my younger brother after I decided to test her a second time and I felt I cannot continue with her... The only bad thing I did was that I didn't tell her why I left

where is she now, the ex?

Shadbay:
I've been in extreme emotional pains for the past few months. I don't even know where to start to narrate my ordeal. I do not want this experience to damage me emotionally and psychologically, that's why I'm seeking help. Please pardon the length and blunders.

Earlier this year, just two weeks after my birthday, my ex-gf (gf of almost 7 years) broke up with me. I had just visited her and left two days prior to the breakup.
I went through the most challenging period of my life because I just suffered some job and graduate school rejections that period. The breakup worsened my situation and pushed me into a depression. I have never felt defeated in life till that point. She blocked me on all mediums of communication. It was too extreme. I went from 91kg to 85 kg in less than 3 weeks.

I visited her to understand the whole situation cos her behaviour was too extreme and I got a toxic dosage of embarrassments. She said she was done with me. She said a lot of hurtful things to me. The height of the embarrassments was calling her new boyfriend (barely 3 weeks after breaking up with me) right in front of me and telling him she doesn't know what I'm doing in her place. She even called some of her friends to inform them of my presence. They all sounded scared and concerned for her as if I was some kind of predator. They told her to leave her place at once and come to their place. All these calls were on speaker! This is someone I invested all these years and emotions for. I went through hell that period cos I was dealing with some other personal tribulations.

I can't imagine treating her or anybody else the way she treated me. I NEVER cheated on her, NOT ONCE or by chance! I have walked away from compromising situation countless times because I placed her so high. I had so much respect for her. She now went on to slander my name, accusing me of cheating!!! When I asked who was feeding her all those lies, she said her friends told her. How? Did I date you or your friends? It still boggles my mind to think she'll believe them and go about spreading those ugly rumours about me.

The straw that broke the camels back was when a friend of mine told me that she said she's grateful to God she didn't contract any infection/disease from me! I couldn't believe my ears. I broke down. This didn't just break my heart, it shattered my spirit. This is someone I imagined spending the rest of my life with. My whole family (even extended) accepted her as one of us.

I had to accept that things were beyond salvaging because any attempt from me to fix things kept doing the opposite. The minute it involved my sisters I had to accept defeat.

I never harmed her or attempt to lay a finger on her. I might not be perfect but I gave it my all. The situation is far worse than I described it here, it's even painful remembering them. I loved her to a fault.

I got a text from her about a month ago after I refused to answer her calls because I had just lost a loved one. She said she's getting married and hopes I find peace as she has found hers. I stared at those words speechless. The worst set of people one could ever encounter are those that hurt you, know that they hurt you and still turn around to play victim accusing you of hurting them. If there's anything I'm proud of is my level of self-control. I know few of my friends who made fun of me being extremely loyal to one girl, warning me severally that I'm wasting my time and good looks, that my youth is passing me by. At least I have a clean conscience that I never betrayed her trust. I never went about telling other people our business. Now I understand why they say good guys always finish last.


Women don't deserve loyalty, forget all their cliche that men are not faithful and honest. I went the faithful, loyal path what did I get in return? Venom! I feel repulsed when I hear women say "Men are dogs", "Men always cheat".

I just don't want this experience to turn me into something I'm not or make me an embittered soul. I'm traumatized beyond words. This was my first and only relationship and I gave it everything. I'm in my mid-twenties and I don't think I can ever love genuinely again. I need mature advice on how to come out of this ordeal a better person. I don't want to transfer any aggressions or micro-aggressions on anybody because of this experience. Please mature advice needed. Thank you.

You dated her for 7 years no marriage ,met a new guy ready to settle down even before a year and she got married. hmmmmm

Family is everything.

Rhymer2020:
STOP DATING MENTALLY BROKE GIRLS
I know many girls and ladies gonna be angry with this post but try learn from it.
Men!!!!!!!!
Guys, how do some of you even cope with dating a broke girl?I know some still don't understand what I mean by Broke Girls.
I mean:
1. A girl who doesn't have transport fare to see someone who she claims she loves every damn time.
2. A lady who can't get you a birthday or a Valentine's day gift, but expects you to bring down the world for her during hers.
3. Someone who can't comfortably call you on phone for 5mins. Always flashing and
complaining she doesn't have airtime even when you know you just sent her airtime.
4a. I mean how do you guys cope dating a lady who thinks relationship is an occupation;
where she is supposed to be paid and taken care of?
4b. Even if it's an occupation, what services is she actually offering to be privileged to receive such benefits?
4c. Or is she a ghost worker?
( NB: sex is not a benefit ONLY to men )
How do some guys manage to date such ladies?
Am not saying this because am working but it's what I see in most ladies.
5. No wonder suicide and depression victims are mostly men.
6. See guy, don't ever date a broke girl no matter how gorgeous you think she is. They are serious liabilities.
7. Rather date a lady who adds something beneficial to your life. Things like emotional intelligence; financial intelligence; spiritual
intelligence and other intelligence.
8. Date someone who's capable of calming the storm within your soul ( an average man has enough storms ); and not someone who
adds stress to your life.
9. Forget that yehn yehn talk, don't tolerate any woman's brokenness or stupidity just
because of her physical beauty.
10. There are actually a lot of extremely gorgeous and beautiful ladies with common sense.
11. So don't ever think of settling for less brother.
One thing I've realized about all these broke girls is not that they don't actually have money...
12. Most of them do; but it's just that they're mentally broke, which is way worse than not having money.
I know many girls and ladies gonna be angry with this post, they won't like or comment in it .
But
Ladies please don't blame me... I just want to make sense common. 2020 Common sense

Are u in any serious relationship or married?

CHoccolaTE:
Are you really this frustrated? Look at my reply and understand what I am telling you

something is about to happen, all I can say to you is stay where you are

olasaad:
Lol NO ooo some of us don't do it.

hmmm Jehovah witness Muslim

CHoccolaTE:
Also bear your cross and love your wife even if she is the village ashawo
After all you chose her

Are you really this bitter?

look at the topic and understand what is being discussed

olasaad:
Maybe yours is Xmas gifts. But this, yes we will collect it with joy. Some of us (Muslims) don't eat Xmas food because we don't believe in the celebration of birthday of Jesus and mind you some of us Muslims don't celebrate the birth of our own prophet too.

Wow this is new, I thought celebration of the birth of prophet Mohammed was a universal thing.

when you choose an irresponsible man for a husband, bear your Cross and submit, you made the choice for a head and leader

hope they will collect it, tried it before and it was rejected.

people still get mind de patronize this guys despite their bad reviews on Nairaland for years.

sexylassie2:
but men also live above their mean, many men too are selfish and entitled,

from what i have read on this forum, men want to cheat, act unruly while their women remain loyal to them.

most of the so called men u see type stuff bad about women first of all

Aren't in a serious relationship

most are teenagers

most don't use their real accounts when saying such

some aren't even anticipating for anything serious

so my guess is you have been beaming your torch to such guys and comments making you generalise your perception of men here, it's soooooo easy to decipher these types.

But I still wonder how men feel entitled?

guys generally don't make u send stuff to them and still give u reason to send things to them, most ladies here don't even pay rent or know what it means to take from your salary to pay bills, how many ladies can afford their own data subscription or call cards by themselves for a full year without asking ?

how many ladies can stay independent without borrowing for a full year ?

some ladies can't even afford their own phones with bfs contributing or family and friends contributing and they call it class or posh.

only very few here can and they aren't even bothered by what a guy has to say, such ladies when they see a guy taking them for granted they move on without holding back

sexylassie2:
So a South African woman called our women prostitutes, see some of our men on Nairaland getting angry and breathing fire.

Here on Nairaland a certain man who says he is from Zimbabwe and living in South Africa calls Nigerian women, hoes, evening newspapers, prostitutes, all the Nigerian men supports and worship him without thinking.

Everyday, threads are created by Nigerian Men calling Nigerian women hoes, prostitutes and different bad names, the writers are praised and the degrading of Nigerian women continue.

I am still trying to understand Nigeria men, all these your anger when foreigners call your women very dirty names, is it real or just pretense.

You can not protect your women here, what makes you think you can protect your women outside.

Thanks to you Nigerian men, many foreigners are reading this romance section and creating a very bad impression of Nigerian women.

Not all Nigerian men ma'am


and also not all Naija ladies are the same, but the chances of meeting selfish, entitled and living above their means ladies are quite high these days

Buhari

I cringed

25tolife:
For future sake,what should someone fill for zip code.

check Google for ur area zip code

Nigeriawarlord:
It's the duty of the citizens ( You and I) to seek justice in cases like this!




NigeriaWarlord........For The Defense Of The Nation

I agree with you but still

Nothing will happen

Nigeriawarlord:
This is terrible and totally unacceptable!

I call on the NPF to investigate thoroughly and bring the inhumane Police Officer to justice.





NigeriaWarlord.......For The Defense Of The Nation

Nothing will happen

i won't say mine is weird but I would say it's a blessing, everyone who moved to this compound either moved out to their house or travelled overseas or moved to something better, I too hit alot of milestones since when I moved here, na to marry remain

chai!
I forgot to put the toilet lid down today

edible catering

Craigbrown4076:
8k bros

your contact please

Craigbrown4076:
8k bros

your contact please

Bring rope!!!!!!


eleyi gidan

Millenniumlady:
Use the both guys to your advantage


Keep joe guy for assignments and handout test and other class stuff



While use the new guy for your finances phones,clothes,eateries wigs


And please stay in school hostle that way non of them can bother you with sex cause they can't gain access to girls hostel and you ever visit any of them reduce your sexual conversation with joe guy and learn to keep your phone private.....Hope it helps

mama de mama!!!!!

I got an item here on Nairaland discovered that all the person said about the item was all false wen I got home , I contacted the person for a refund he started being aggressive saying he couldn't do so. I didn't want to hurt the person but wat the person didn't know was that it's not everyone you scam, more reason I don't do bad , but them no de cheat Esan man, he lost alot ,till now the person still doesn't know what hit him , waiting for him to talk so I can finish him totally. i don't cheat anyone so you can't cheat me. I hope he sees this and confronts me.

some people just need to be taught a lesson so they don't go about doing the same to others.