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Gilbertase:Yeah, I noticed too. Don't be surprised the 90% of the commenters above didn't read it and so don't realise it's from last year. I wonder why it's been reproduced now. I guess it's because they want to contrast the extent of the 360 FFK would have to turn if he eventually does migrate to the APC. |
There's no surprise here. Power intoxicates the majority of us. The ONLY reason why there are supposedly less incidents of women physically abusing men is because THE POWER in this case is with the average man. Majority of us will agree that when it comes to VERBAL abuse, the average woman trumps and they don't hesitate to use it on strangers and their husbands if they deem necessary. With the way some women treat their helps or wards at home, since they have the upper hand here, who's surprise they can melt out the same treatment to their spouses if the odds is in their favour? |
Girl9999:Hello, it's very difficult to imagine what you're going through right now but you need to be strong. Sad as it may be, a lot of people (women) have experienced similar situations from supposedly trusted friends, boyfriends, and even husbands. Though the scars remain, most have been able to draw strength from the things that are still worth living for in their lives. I know you have many other good things in your life - continue to live for them. Now, let's be pragmatic about some of the things you could do: A lot of the following depends on what you really want to do. Important: I'm certain you don't want any pregnancy from this. I don't know what you need to prevent this but I'm sure you can ask from a clinic or better still, a hospital. Now, if you want to get justice, you don't have any business communicating with the accused rapist. Unless you want to get him talking to trick him to somehow admit to his crime. However, I'd advise you think carefully about what will be justice to you and discuss it with someone you can trust and is not emotional. You'll need evidence to win the police, even those on your body and any the doctors can help you with. Personally, I'd want a sister or daughter to let me know if something like this ever happens to them. And since I don't know your mental state right now, I wish you talk to someone real, physical, and present in your life about this. Reading through comments here and it's obvious RAPE seem a trivial issue on some guy's book. So please, take advice from a public forum after due diligence. People here are not necessarily wiser or saner, (yes, include me). There are some very thoughtful commenters here that I personally value their opinions but they are few and yet to speak. Good luck and stay living. |
greenDot02:That's simplistic. When you create a loophole and prosecutors can prove that you did that willingly and knowingly, you'd have a case to answer. Especially when your yahoo collaborators help them prove your motives. When witness (the Yahoo boiz) claim in their testimony of discussing the backdoor opportunities with the developers, you think a disclaimer and terms of use applies in that case? You think Huawei doesn't have T&Cs and disclaimers and yet has problems with the US and West over user information, cyber espionage, spy activities? Maybe the Nigerian system will allow people get away with such, for now... But don't bet on it. |
greenDot02:You are helping fraudsters carry out their operations efficiently - that makes you a fraudster. Let's say you build that app and it becomes a valuable asset to your Yahoo clients. And down the line, they get arrested for cybercrime, don't you think they'll readily mention you as the creator of the fraudulent software? |
Do that and the country officially becomes a war jungle. Look at our problems and I really think a governor who says something like this needs reorientation. As a people I really think we lack the mental ability to get out of our problems. |
During the harmattan season, in Sokoto, anything that burns burn with zeal. The strong wind and very dry air serves as perfect catalyst for fire. It's much more difficult to put out fires during harmattan seasons compare to raining season. So many many cases of esidential fire occurs during this harmattan season. |
RICHSATAN:Then bad of you. There's always too sides to a story but on this case the attacker's side is USELESS. Nobody should ask to hear any of it because no context can ever be VALID. I honestly think it takes a kind of brute beast, a kind of animal to conceive and entertain the idea of pouring boiling water on a kid - sleeping at 3am. That kind of person is wickedness personified. |
RICHSATAN:I think it'll take an insane human to fathom any reason to pour hot water on a sleeping kid 3 am into the night. |
Marveaux:Hard to disagree |
Oozz2:Did you even read the interview? Ignorance and misinformation is technically more dangerous than your sworn enemy in the times of war. The man clearly stated above that his captors were Yoruba speaking people. They spoke good English and claimed to be jobless graduates. You don't look smart by saying anything all the time. You can read and learn sometimes too. |
Magnoliaa:For some reason I didn't get a notification for this. I'm only just seeing it now... [color=deeppink]Now, you've piqued my curiosity. What brought about this?[/color]...It's like when you unwisely decide to answer correctly the teacher's question after the class bully has failed and was embarrassed for it. Only to have them target you afterwards. Sometimes, even a good quality can be disadvantageous. [color=deeppink]Hehehe . I do criticise men. I do wield the axe far more often in that direction.You made a refreshing, insightful and quite relatable piece on cultural bias earlier. So, I'd understand if you think any talk of dignity and standards for women can only be in bad faith - particular coming from men. [color=deeppink]No wahala. No offense oh, buh, and I can see you do, will you go on to be evangelizing and sensitizing Nairaland men?Non taking. But Nah. If I decide to preach that gospel to every erring man on here, I'll have to write more in 2 months than I've written since I joined nairaland. [color=deeppink]I believe you. I know I don't always make sense. I've never.[/color]Then I'll say you don't give yourself enough credit ![]() Overall, while I don't share all your views, I've taken a lot from what you've said here and from your earlier submissions. I appreciate your perspective on some of the issues that ultimately came up. So, Respect. |
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femi4:I'm saying that someone else could very well accuse Lamps of favouritism here because he's playing big money german signings even if they aren't performing. If Chelsea was top of the league and Werner and Havert aren't playing nobody will worry one bit. And you adapt players away from the spotlight, if you must, not by playing them even if they are flopping. The majority of Pep's signings at Mancity only began playing regularly from the second season. Bernardo, Cancelo, Mahrez, Gundogan, etc. |
femi4:Okay, and what about odoi? Hardly played. What about Werner and Havert, both misfiring and yet play. For every one point you can come up with to support favouritism, there are more examples against it. I wonder who sent Barkley on loan. If Lamps wanted him to stay because he'd play, then he would have stayed. Lamps had his shortcomings. But not and never was he nepotistic |
zikter:Thank you for your honest observations. I'm always sick to the nuts whenever people accuse him of favouritism. James had played very well this season overall. Chilwell is okay and was bought big money. Odoi is largely on the bench. Abraham deserves to start because of his goal returns. And Mount has been Chelsea's best player. You see that Mount, I'm not his fan but I understand why he plays evrrytime. Whoever is the next coach will still play Mount most times because talent alone is not what got every football player far. Lampard himself was hardly the most talented midfield player in his days. |
I knew I wouldn't last this season but didn't expect them to sack him after picking up a victory yesterday. I thought that should buy him time till atleast after the Wolves game. Nevertheless, better early than late because the top 4 is very much still achievable. I'll a little bit sorry for super Frankie. He did magnificent last season. But the problem is he's very limited tactically as a coach. Nobody knows what our gameplay or gameplan is. No recognizable attacking philosophy. Hence, we only beat teams because of individual quality and never because we are well coached. This is evident in the fact that Chelsea's only win against Top half-opposition is West ham - indeed that 3 nil scoreline flattered Chelsea. They were better than us. As for Tuchel, hopefully, he lay the groundwork for his playing style this season and consolidate it next. If he can make us play like his Dortmund team, I think he'll succeed. Thank God they didn't appoint Allegri. We are truly tired of overly negative coaches. |
cococandy:Lord. Just when I thought the world was boring - then that happens... You. Are. Slick. Very very slick. |
I think the hype is because Kamala Harris was so many first. Black with Asian ancestry. And child of immigrants. And certainly, Kamala is a woman. Each of those aspects about her means she's a rarity in such a position as VP of the U.S. And a combination of all those aspects in one person will only help to increase the noise (celebrations) that will ensue because many groups and interests sees it as their win. Coming closer to home, even some of the eulogies association with Jonathan's win was that he was from a minority ethnic group compared to ALL his predecessors who were from major tribes. So, everything adds up and make sense if you ask me. |
lalalista:Of course. That was your answer to the question of whether you're dating two people at once: Of course You probably had a lot of admirers and you decided to accept as much applications as you can. Steadily, you've discarded everyone of them who fell short of your requirements. You're left with two and now what to choose the BEST among them. And you want us to help you! And what makes you think you're good enough for any of those two gentlemen? Do you have character? No. Are you trustworthy? No. Are you committed? No. Are you reliable? No. Are you even intelligent yourself? Nope. If you don't have any of the above traits. You aren't good enough for even the lowest of the men by any hypocrical comparisons your brain can possibly fashion. |
In reality the project or tasks at hand determines which section of the project is more difficult for the development teams to realize (Frontend or Backend) I do believe that when it really gets to the thick of programming and computing, (at the very complex of applications) the backend will relatively become more complex compared to the majority of Frontends. But at the lowest and intermediate spectrum ( like the majority of projects our software companies here in Nigeria can handle ), the backend and Frontend difficulty will be inseparable. For people who think Frontends is just for aesthetics and not logical or the business logic can't be handled there, they cannot be much wrong. Facebook, that we all know, is NOT your average site. It's one of the most complex piece of application you can think of. That UI and the corresponding complexities is no joke. Facebook developed ReactJS because they needed an in-house solution for the Frontend application. When your project starts needing the help of a modern JavaScript Frontend framework that's when you start delving into the realms of what modern frontend development is all about. It's a known fact that front-end development is the most broad and fast-changing, ever-evolving field of development. You'll have to constantly learn to keep pace with the new tools, conventions, standards, and libraries they churn out each day. There's not a standard approach for frontend development so there are very few microservices or abstractions people can reuse (we now have backends as a service (Baas)). Instead, they churn out new tools and techniques every single day to solve every new issue. JavaScript fatigue is actually a real problem for developers. Unless, you're building Facebook or Netflix or Interswitch, the majority of what people do as backend development is repetitive, standardised and the problems encountered are easily visible across projects. Hence, there are abstractions for them now and people can pick plug and use solutions for widely different projects. A lot of problems concerning performance for instance are being handled by the hosting service. Big issues like application scaling can be handled out of the box when you use hosting services like AWS and the likes. A lot of problems sets and the backend itself is becoming heavily decoupled so people don't have to reinvent the wheel each time. |
bigcil2:Okay, I've answered the Google sheets... |
6 children from one family? Pray God grant the families involved the fortitude to bear the loss. Very sad sad read. |
Magnoliaa:You didn't. We both know people who want to win have to hold on to their initial positions, no matter what. And we'll both be wasting our time if one of us think they needed to win. Don't misrepresent me. I never said I don't believe in dignity and hard work. Your comment that I quoted was talking about how hard work brings a woman respect (in the eyes of men), and that was what I responded to (you can let me know if I misunderstood it). ""Hardworking women" as opposed to "slay queens" are more respected, etc." I'm saying the distinction do not matter to most men (I'll agree with you that not all men are disrespectful - the people that matter will respect you); but it's not the norm. Men do not respect a successful woman, and for her person. The most they'll feel is intimidation because they cannot do anything to her based on her status and wealth, and that "fear" could be taken for respect.I talked about hardwork and dignity, but not specifically because women should have it to get respect from men. I said later I hope they have it for themselves and because it's better for the society (which includes men and women). Funnily, I wouldn't make this distinction myself because I think slaying and working hard are not necessarily mutually exclusive. Women can be both. Though where it gets blurry and problematic is when we have to define what slaying is all about and what it constitutes. Beyonce says she slays but is she hard-working? Resounding YES because you don't get to handed that level of success. Does she have respect? Many of her peers say she's the actual best. A lot of women say that @bolded. I don't intend to downplay your opinion or even experience here, but have you asked if men respect successful men or fear successful men? You talked about intimidation, and status and wealth while making a point. Forgive me if I'm quite intimidated if I get to collab with a Tiwa or Rihanna today because of their successes. But what if I'm actually intimidated by these women by their actions and demeanor? There are many women who have admitted that female bosses tend to have a different kinda vibe with them compare to male bosses. People who make their suppose successes, wealth, statuses, and positions the centerpiece of their personality tend to make other people fear or loathe them, atmost. But not respect them. Men, I often find - especially when they want to - are able to separate themselves from the 'success'. Hence, they tend to be liked. Which helps them influence others without their authority or agendas being questioned. You might say respect is and should be enough.. But I'll ask, how many people really know and understand what respect is? Whether the recipient or the giver? Those women that LEGITLY worked hard will still be shamed. Even Kamala Harris was accused of sleeping her way to the top, so, no, men will not respect you because of status and hard work, especially when you do not conform to traditional stereotypes as a woman. Be a boss because you want to be happy and it's your values. Our mothers and some of our young girls ARE hardworking - men still come here to call women lazy and oloshos.I agree. And very strongly with the bolded. An housewife is no more better than a career woman and vice versa, and so she deserves respect as well without her financially contributing shishi. A CEO lady will also get dragged through the mud, with labels pasted on her as they do to the slay queens.� I couldn't agree more. 1K, 2K, 500K... But it's hard to quantify and reward women for the job they do on the home front. Especially when it comes to child bearing and raising little kids. And Cooking ? For the sake of my sisters and female friends, I hope many other men really recognise, acknowledge and appreciate that fact above. Atleast, let them chip in a well-done anytime they get the opportunity. To your question: I consider the "closing legs" clapback a response, but not in relation to "stingy men," especially as an appropriate one. I don't see it as responding *to*, I see it as just a response that sprung up on its own and I do not fault it. "Stingy men" came up on the assumption that women can only bill and are jobless; "closed legs" is also on the assumption that sex is a life hose to men - they can't do without it. Let us take what we assume will "pain" the other sex.Hehehe . On a lighter note, if the aim is to stick it up where it hurts, then there's nothing to assume. As a guy with first-hand knowledge of how we operate, it's going to pain them.Men are not taking their money because it's only what they can give, are they? Same for women.No. Okay... Another angle is that it is all bants - I'm not seeing the social implications. But even if there were any, the response fits in a patriarchal system.Nah. It's not all banter. People are actually saying what they know, and showing who they are. Or is the mindsets on display here actually different from real life? Patriarchy: Man brings money; woman brings body.Sometimes, I'm sure you'll probably be too clever for your own good. And no, I won't drag you on that note. I have no business with misogynists who think stinginess is a way of punishing me.If only we can avoid or barricade ourselves against the things we don't accept and never have to directly respond or react to them. My ish is with y'all bringing up dignity/morals because women decided to "chook" mouth — and it's even more hilarious that "pro-prostitution feminists" are saying closing legs in response to no money is devaluing.We bring up dignity/personal values because we have to appeal to something, anything they hold dear. Something bigger than themselves. Some women have been fighting every day to change the narrative that women are nothing more than a pretty face, big boobs and huge butts. That they seem to only be able to make a difference with their bodies and never their brains or hands. That women expect the society to regard them when it really matters if they just smile and sit pretty. Women don't want to be seeing as objects but they by actions, whether intentionally or not, objectify their bodies. Objectify their sexualities. They objectify sex. They unwittingly make (sex) part of them. Men don't do that. They don't flash their Dicksons and expect the society to invite them to where real affairs of society are being discussed. You want to know why even closet-prostitutes are not happy with what 'closing legs' signify? It's because it's admittance of what some men have been always saying that women are good for. It's devaluing because it has a price. Apparently, the price is so low that any body (man) can have a hump. If there's any other words or label for a stingy man, these women thinking it's all just banter can find them and call men who are overtly or covertly supportive of the SMAN. Most already wear the badge on their real social media profiles with honour. They won't mind because it probably won't stick. But know they will call women with the real terms that dictionaries defines the practices of selling sex for money - prostitutes, hoes, sluts And they will rightly expect every woman who engage in such arrangements to proudly wear the badge like a honour because it's what they are. I little divergence if I may, just to highlight what reputation does for us: Michelle Obama and Melanie Trump, two women who held the same office by virtue of being wife of the president. However, their apparent abilities and what each symbolises cannot be more different. Every mistake or missteps Melanie Trump suffers has and will always be seeing in the light of a microscopic examination of her past. Michelle Obama was seeing as Melanie's ceiling, the bar she can only aspire to reach but never touch. And it's not just men who have a habit of ridiculing her, women (notable women) have continuously got on the act. Sadly, they all write that she can only sit pretty, wear fur coats and make her best impression of a Michelle or Hillary. Most American women can accept and wish people see them through the exploits of a Michelle or Hillary. But not Melanie. Our reputation precedes us. Bringing money on a man's part is worthy, giving or withholding sex on a woman's part is devaluing. Reallyyyy? If you want the liberal notion of us equally benefiting from sex, then bring money, let us enjoy as a COUPLE. And be ready to enjoy my lavish spending on you without feeling emasculated and defaulting to "I am your provider and so, you're at my mercy if I withdraw money." Kapish?If a woman withold sex because she can and wants to, it'd be what it is: witholding sex because she can and wants to. And if a woman withhold sex because she can and because a man refuses to be her financier, it'd be what it is: withholding sex because she can and a man refuses to pay for it. @Bolded. Me hope and would like that. Many others too would appreciate that in our romance. Even if it may not be the common dynamic. Some of us are able to handle such. Money didn't form us all. But when we fight, women shouldn't bring down our self-esteem to the lowest of the low with their words you know? They can hurt like hell. You can break us. Everyone breaks. So, let's both be matured whatever the dynamics... I don't know if all I've said made sense, though...... Something a good discussant would say. If only you'd believe me if I said you didn't ![]() |
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Magnoliaa:You've said a lot of things (and I agree with your overall point) here that as much as I would love to respond to each, doing so would distract from the aim of my initial response you quoted. First, I didn't make that initial comment to 'win' or score points for the gender. I try not to engage in that and that was not my intention atleast. Now, you've said you don't subscribe to distinctions like hard-working and dignity, fine, we can do away with them. However, do you find women closing legs as an appropriate response to men who decides to be stingy? Would that even be your own reply? Is that a response you would comfortably say in the midst of women you respect and others who look up to you? |
Magnoliaa:If you choose to be hard-working and dignified, as humans, I understand if you sometimes crave for the world (men) to give you your due credit. However, why must you want or seek adulations and validation from everyone? Especially from people online who are not held accountable for what they say? Do it and find solace that it's the better option for both you and the larger society. I think that you'll actually find that real people, not like my and your monikers online, but real people (men) who actually know what you're about give that little more respect. Those are the people whose opinions should personally matter to you. Who (man) wouldn't want to be able to have every woman he desires? Sadly, the reality is that some women will be too sophisticated (above our pay grade) for us. And we'll only ever be able to address her as 'madam' and not babe. For that sophisticated woman, if it's only men above her class she finds good enough, I guess that's the price for sophistication she may need to pay. Just as men either has to remain in the same class or go higher to be good enough for the woman they desire. |
Emeraldgreene:The reason why you write I believe is to pass a message across, right? Good. Now, when you write in ALL CAPs, it makes reading much more difficult and painful to the eyes. If you want to stylize your posts, there are other ways to do that. ( Italics, colouration) Even when you make sense (you didn't this time), Nobody will actually read the first line because it's an eye sore. |
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. I do criticise men. I do wield the axe far more often in that direction.
You can't keep hitting people and feeding them shit and expect them not to turn and retaliate on you one day. I'll be watching out for your soothing words admonishing Nairaland men to sheath their swords.[/color]
