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Lucrativress:
Doesn't mean he gets to win all the time
If you use a Gambler to check your own,don't forget the Gambler has time in his hand's, but yours,as age draws nearer,you feel your time is getting limited
Which means you might not be able to stake on all Game's

All this I know. I conceded in my initial post that we'll eventually have to make a choice and pray it works out because of the limiting factor of time. IF we find the person who ticks the important boxes sooner, we probably don't have to pray too much hoping it works out since we did our homework.

I'm not saying there's nobody good enough for me. There is. It's just a lot harder reaching that person for real. Not everything glitters in my own eyes. So that when I eventually settle for one, she would be rest assured she'd be hard to replace. And I hope I'll be able to help her realise the same of me.

Lucrativress:
Time and chance happeneth to all men,doesn't take away this saying,opportunity comes but once

Opportunity and Chance, how more similar could they get?

Oh lawd. Even the gambler has several opportunity to win the lottery.

Lucrativress:
Mehhnn I'm just laughing here
Some guys don't know there's always a time in their lives when their perfect fits comes around but they say they're not ready yet,like the guys themselves.
And then they flow with time,till time seems limited and "now ready to settle"
See ehn,the ready made you're looking for,you'll pay the express fee to get it

Of course, they'll be honest and say they are not ready if they don't think they are ready. How's someone who's not ready going to be committed? And frankly, that's another area entirely you're venturing into and I don't think it was related to what you quoted.

And don't worry about people's perfect fits coming and going, not everybody thinks there's only one perfect fit. I certainly don't.

There's a price to pay for everything; whether ready made or unmade. Whatever you mean by that.

Nbotee:
Aswear ooo.. It is wen it gets to making marriage decisions dat U begin to notice how limited ur options are

This is just the simple truth. And a guy only begins to think he has limited options when he's quite sure and definite about what he's looking for in a potential partner. And I think it's a curse sometimes because some of us don't have the energy to want to mess around with relationships that's leading to no where, we then have to remain single till we'll eventually have to settle for one to marry and pray it works out.

I think girls have it easier choosing the right partner. I mean, guys are unto them all the time. Even if they are definite about what they're looking for, they have enough chances to find it than the average guy.

A cultist (killer) killed another cultist (killer). What's there to worry about? Hopefully, this incident will give the police the needed motivation to finally nail the living killer.

I was so curious when I saw the headline.

This is the first time I'm hearing that a baby's placenta carries any significance to anybody, up to the extent that the father or someone in particular needs to bury it or plant trees on it! Well, like they say about tradition, we are who we are and we believe what we believe.

Op, but what I do know is that your priorities at this time should read -> new baby -> new mother (wife) -> marriage -> then placenta.

And also, when people are angry or not in best terms with you, don't expect them to do things that make YOU happy. In essence, your wife or MIL won't refrigerate placenta and transport it to you like they do Corona vaccines.

If only the midwifes do you all the favour and disposed off the thing you'll all have nothing else to worry about.

Jonra:
Not just those two things, she's an intelligent lady who is open to new experiences - this is a huge bonus.

In summary, her brain is active and her heart is open, you have no idea how hard it is to find her type - a woman who is evolving in body, mind, and soul in 21st-century marriage. Baba, only 0.1% of Nigerian girls fall in that category.

Okay, fair enough.

Jonra:
You're a rare breed!
But it doesn't sound like you grew up in Nigeria?

PS: The future is not woman! the future is human

Rare breed? Because she plays video games and exercise in the morning?

32% of Nigerians are into crypto? That can be true. Should be much less than that. That's like saying one of every 3 persons you know is trading crypto. I don't think I personally know more than 3 people on it.

FFK never siezes to amass pesin. Is the South West the owner of the Oil and Oil Money?

You people senselessly started killing common traders who have been selling you goods for maybe years now saying they are all thesame. Asking them to leave your region and markets.

They have now gotten the memo and decided to boycott those areas their lives and goods are targeted, you're not still pleased?

Just so much ridiculousness.

It's a hard thing finding the right spouse already. Do we now need to start 'dating' prospective in-laws too? Because it seems we actually do marry them too, only that they mostly share in the benefits of their children's marriages and not necessarily the hardwork.

I'm beginning to feel the element of luck in remotely successful marriages is bigger than I first imagined. And that's not good. Because it seems we don't only have to cater to only our spouse's idiosyncrasies, we now have to asshlick a full generation just to have peace in our own marriage!

A successful marriage is really a measure of how much ridiculousness you can stomach. Arrgh.

Oh lord, so much ridiculousness.

qtguru:
Nothing wrong with MongoDb, but I am using it in a project that has been enforced against my will, you know how things are , when you inherit projects.

That is true with React, not react's fault but React stands on it's own unlike Vue which has a suggested store to use and built by them, it's easier to lean into VueX than thinking of which Store to learn, if you get my drift.

As for the MongoDb, I really think you should used it with Mongoose as that guy suggested. It does enforce good practice that will streamline you, especially if you're working with a team.

I do get your point. They are just different, Vue and React. They both have advantages over the other. At the end of the day, they are just tools.

Overall, I commend the OP's attempt at providing some clarity to fellow developers and upcoming enthusiasts. There are a lot of good advice and nice things I can relate with and possibly recommend too. The times I've come across the OP's moniker (that name is not hard to miss), he's made much sense than not and a few controversial points are expected from time to time.

So, I would love for the author to review this write-up and decide if needed adjustments to some controversial points and issues people have highlighted should, in fact, be made. Because I'm not sure it's harmless to anybody reading it as first or only advice on the subject.

qtguru:
You have painted my pain point, I really hate this Document Object type of Database, we can wipe out all records in Firebase and have no idea what the schema could be like.

I thought he provided solutions to some of your pain points? Hey, there are many tools for every problems nowadays, you just have to find the right tool to THAT WAS DESIGNED FOR THAT PROBLEM.

If MongoBd is not the best fit for your case problem, ditch it and used SQL or whatever tool you think is best. They are very different and meant to solve distinct problems.

Enceladus is right , React not being opinionated is a pain point, at Interswitch 7 React Developers all write differently, one uses Saga thunk, the other uses another store management, then some Functional and some Class Approach, Vue and Svelte are one of those frameworks where you focus on the work than the engineering. Working on complex projects will expose all the pain points.

The Frontend is a mess, I will find my way soon to Flutter and Java World, even npm ecosystem is a fiasco, all it takes is to pull a bad package and you can spend the whole day finding out what the hell is going on.

The @bolded is why I decided to quote you...

There are many reasons why React is the most popular and demanded front-end framework today. And one of the chief reason for that is the fact that it is NOT OPINIONATED Hence, some of the best libraries and tools are built with the confidence that it is going to work seamlessly with React. The React ecosystem is as strong as it is because of its extra simplicity and flexibility. Not everybody likes to be boxed with what should be or shouldn't be done or used.

Now, to address your real pain with the React approach and the example you gave with Interswitch, I get your point 100%. React unboxed nature makes it easier to get into bad engineering practices. If what you alleged is happening at Interswitch is indeed true, let's call it what it is: Bad Software Engineering Practices. Don't blame it on React. I'm sure VueJs can also be paired with external State Management. If people can both use several states' management system for their part of the codebase using React because a company allows it, then they can and will do the same even if they use VueJs or Svelte or whatever.

Honestly, I struggle to believe that a company like Interswitch can possibly have Mobx, Redux, or ContextAPI hooks on the same codebase.

Well, Specifically, Man City don't need Messi if I'm to answer the question. In my opinion, they have a squad of players that are the most talented in the world and all at a good age.

They don't need Messi to win the EPL, they have already proven that and will do so again this year. Even the champions league, they have a competitive squad that can win any single match against any opponent they'll meet in the champions League. The only reason they haven't won it recently is because the margins of error in these games are very small since it's a two-legged game against formidable opponents. Yesterday, Atletico could have score Chelsea by a single defensive error and won 1-nil and nobody would be surprised. Playing better is doesn't mean scoring more. City have the squad to keep on challenging for it year on year. The year Chelsea won it, they well shiit quality wise and finish in Sixth.

However, Messi to City makes ALL the sense in the world. They will be mad not to sign him instead of anyone if they have the chance. I don't see how a player like Haaland improves City. He's a goal scorer and that's it. I don't think Man City ever have a problem scoring goals apart from Pep's first season they.

Messi is more than goals. Messi will give City the X-factor. Haaland or Mbappe won't automatically be the best player in that team.

Ayo2004:
Yes na because messi is coming to play against the best defenders in the world:Lord Maguire,Rudiger and The best defensive team in the world, Arsenal,I also forgot he will be playing against Tottenham who just recently won the sextuple,liverpool who has won the most champions league and leicester who are unbeaten for 250 games,also,he has to compete for golden shoe with lord lingardinho and bruno who has been scoring 20+ goals for the last 10years and salah who scored 92goals in a calendar year

You people and your epl hype sha,same epl that small boys like bruno,bamford and aubameyang are dominating is where messi will flop,u be clown,aswr

Thank you abeg for schooling them fanboys. The best player in the world would struggle where players like Saka, Foden, Grealish, Ings, and the likes are shining? Very funny.

If Messi goes to Man City he'd break the EPL scoring record which still stands at 32 for a season.

I wonder how the guy doesn't feel embarrassed taking the things he bought from the girl - in public self.

Frankly, finding the right partner is like lottery this days. And some of us don't even have the heart to play sport's betting.

Meedon:
That is what it is. They are good and well mannered. They can cook for Africa. Nigerian girls are the best, when it comes to relationship.


They don't nag, fight or quarrel. They are like angels in the eyes of the beheader. They are very neat ooo.


Brotherly, if you happen to meet one, respect and cherish them. In addition, they are God fearing. They can fear God for Africa, maybe that is why they usually attend Shiloh every year.

Abeg dude, I know you're probably trying to be sarcastic but beheaders see no one as angles. They see homosapiens and wish to render them headless

Bodyodour:
I wanted to say she is with her boyfriend but she is too ugly to have one. Report to the police station.

FUucCK YOU. ANIMAL

Goalnaldo:
I'm a bit confused. Does it mean she gave birth to twins for 6 years that's 12 children and then another six making it 18 children

No. She had a set of twin (boy and girl) six years ago. Now, they have 8 children altogether.

oluwasegun007:
Very neutral reportage...lubbish.

So one sided.

Didn't expect less when I saw the hijab.

(Apologise to the true and peaceful muslims).

If you can move forward and backward in just two sentences, nobody will take your apologies seriously because your state of mind is always suspect.

Hedonini:
That's quite ridiculous. What it means is that you're advocating totalitarianism, where the government of the day decides who does what, with impunity, without any possibility of citizens enforcing their will as they should. Remember even the so-called elections which is how citizens should ordinarily choose their leaders in Nigeria is always rigged, so what's your point really?

I believe the judicial panel has ruled on the matter? When you submit to a judge in a case, you have to accept the fact that it could either be decided in your favour or against you. Nobody forced the endsars party to participate in the judicial enquiry. They entered into it at liberty. They could have stayed away and say they don't believe they'd get justice. Alias, they did not. Now, they may not agree with the judgement passed, but they MUST ACCEPT IT.

Unless you're assuming a lawless state, the citizens are not responsible or have any right to enforce their WILL. That's a precipitate to anarchy. Maybe you presumed all the Citizens are in support of the protest. Funny. That's why I said them protesters are playing ostrich.

We can only call for our laws to be adhered to and leave it to the constituted authorities to do the enforcing.

You can't tell Lagosians that you want to open the nonsense toll gate (in spite of the pending/unresolved issues), and yet you remind them about the unsavoury consequences of the last protest. How about government doing the right thing (keeping the damn tollgate closed until justice is done, in order to avoid protests!) rather than reopen it with impunity - telling citizens to put up or shut up - to test citizens resolve? ? ? Is the government more powerful than the people? Which should fear the other?

It's understandable if the tollgate opening or closing has taken on a sentimental significance. But please, that is and should not be a major pressure point, especially in the light of the madness that erupted during the cause of the initial protect across the whole country. The risks are just too significant if they allowed the protest to fester compared to the possibility of upsetting people's sensibilities.

Besides, is the tollgate now to remain closed forever? I don't think so.

People seem to be overly surprised by the treatment of them protesters. Police in Nigeria are notorious for stripping even the slightest suspects unclad.

As for protesting, the last time we had a protest, it degenerated into full blown civil unrest. The aftermath of that unrest is still been felt in some cities. You'd be playing ostrich to test government's resolve again this time.

heniford2:
its life and i allowed it to swim pass me but i never give a shit i make sure they paid me my salary back with damage fee and i also ensure i spoiled the motherfvck family that even too date is beyond repair. but you see women/girls/ ladies fear them the can do more than what you expect if i tell more of this story you will wow but let me stop here internet is the devil we never can see

Yeah of course, I understand.

angelfallz:
the first bolded,
You are correct about parental controls. But not having a phone in the first place would render all those precautions/controls unnecessary. You are also forgetting something, the phone can be carried around, what stops a child from giving the phone to a friend that can bypass the parental controls? In this case a desktop computer is best.

Mobility can hinder access to information on-the-go. But I agree it can help prevent giving the phone to another person to help bypass restrictions.

If you put those restrictions in place you'll know if someone tempers with them.

the second bolded,
i did not mean school knowledge, when i gave you my initial comment. there are multiple ways we can acquire knowledge. The internet is one of them. But do you also know that there are a lot of fake news, fake knowledge on the internet? how would a child discern which is fake and which is not? even adults have difficulty doing that. Look at instagram the beauty standards there are so insane that girls are doing crazy things. I am sure you heard of the girl that used gorilla glue on her heard, she is actually a 40year old woman oh. Silhouette challenge nko?

And you think the cure for naivety is less information and knowledge? No wonder the whites wowed our ancestors with mirrors

There's danger in ignorance. There's danger in consuming fake news. There's danger in consuming half truths. But there's less danger in consuming whole story and acting on that knowledge.

the third bolded,
Lol, we are both adults. i am assuming you are above 18. i dont hate the internet or tech. But in my opinion there is nothing that tech and the internet [/b]is offering currently that would warrant a child of 15 to have a phone.

Keeping them off it completely might look the best option. But know there's always the good, the bad and ugly. Introducing them to the good parts early helps prepares them to the reality of the bad parts in the future. A bad part they'll eventually get to see, probably when the parent have lost all opportunity to influence them to the benefits.

you missed it with that quote. As of today the heart and soul of the internet is social media/network. [b]Remove whatsapp, facebook, twitter, instagram etc from a phone then you have rendered that phone useless, the average user would not enjoy it, you might as well not have given the user a phone in the first place.

Nah! This paragraph of yours is where I see you completely are missing the point of giving people information. It's what they make use of it that matters at the end.

All those apps you mentioned can be many things to different people depending on who you ask. The majority of those apps are the glitter of today's cyberspace. But the real substance are not on there.


Some celebrities on this platforms make a post or two a day, spending less than 20 minutes on there. They promote their brands and partners and earn money because of their reach. While the average user spends 3-4 hours surfing peoples opinions and doing challenges without showing any productivity.

angelfallz:
the bolded so how do you tackle it?

There are numerous options to set up parental control on websites and apps on phones. There's Google's parental guidance parents can look to implement. And there are other specific softwares and browser plugins your can activate. You can monitor a lot of the activities they can carryout on phones. You can catch inappropriate phrases and words too.

All the above and more stringents restrictions are possible. We can completely keep them of social networks because I see little use of them even for adults.

Baba, a child can be well read without the use of phone. Also, saying there is no way that she would know all the things she knows without internet, is wrong. Before the internet didn't people know things? Many of the things you listed can be gained without the internet.

Yes, she can know a lot without the internet. But Don't you limit the efficacy of the statement that the 'internet is information at your fingertips.' when i say that I was impressed by a 15 year old, I wasn't impressed by the fact that she was good at 'school'. I was impressed that she was knowledgeable far beyond what is common for someone her age. Even the questions she asks when not knowledgeable about a thing portrays someone who knows how to learn.

We are not talking about knowledge 'teachers' impact on people. I'm talking about knowledge one acquires that go on to define us.

If I have to wait to read from a physical book before I'd get knowledge, then I don't think I'll know 'anything'.

Whatever we learn from each other by having this discussion wouldn't be possible otherwise without so many things that technology and internet have made trivial.

heniford2:
you see our mouth is dangerous than what we thought it was the lady in question was sleeping with the owner of the company i was working for, what i said was true but i never know that it was like that she felt bad in front of her child and in public view i expose her ill secret so she unleashed her demon on me for months i worked with no salary i was charged to court accused of stuff i never did but you see in life be ready for anything that life throws at you i myself was a beast born of different dimension my boss had money and a pussy, whose pride has been rob i was a pawn been used but a risky one who you can never predict my next action..

Holly, this is crazy. It still comes down to who's got the better leverage.

Why burn a man's property for God sake? If it's illegal to house prostitutes then allow the authorities handle that. The crime has been committed, I don't believe the owner asks the prostitutes to kill their customers during arguments.

heniford2:
if the sacked me would have been better but worst to that

Really? So it got was than sacking?

I may have said and done it differently if I were in your shoes but I definitely would have challenged her stupidity. I don't let foolish arrogants believe they are smart.

angelfallz:
Until people begin to understand that they are responsible for their own safety(in this case, the parents of the girl are responsible for her safety) we would keep having cases like this.

Also, what is a 15 year old girl doing with a phone?

What do people do with phones? They use it for phone things.

There's nothing inherently bad about a 15 year old using a phone with internet access. What may not be desirable as far as parenting is concern is unrestricted and unregulated access to the phone and it's capabilities.

I met my 15 year old female cousin for the first time during a week-long event and she absolutely blew my mind in no small measure. What I saw in her was a teen who's WIDELY READ. She had written several teen stories on an online bookstore. Very original, with impeccable use of English.

The way she thinks and formed her thoughts and opinions was something I expect from an above average adult. We discussed a lot of topics and themes. She is naturally intelligent but there was no way she'd be able to know all that she knows without internet and gadgets.

She uses Twitter, and Facebook but I have no problem or fear about her being negatively influenced to great effects. She'd be too enlightened to fall for dumb glitter. At that level, I can allow such a kid some freedom and trust their judgement to know what's good and bad for them.

heniford2:
once had this experience when i was working as a security man in one office then using it to support myself in school, it happen this faithful day this fair lady walked in with her son and i noticed she was bitted by something because she was yelling at his son she said in " Uchenna if you are not careful you will end up like this tout here working as a security for the rest of your life with no future," "i immediately replied her back with Uchenna work hard so that you don't end up watching your wife be a harlot and a low life person like this your mother here who jump from one dick to the other and who don't see honour in work" the boy was looking at me and her mother was shocked she went and report me to management is funny but..

Did they sack or reprimand you?