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Lovelyn451:
somebody have been managing with you for two years, after two years of management u still told her that u lost your job, haba da Allah for how long do u want to test her

So you're a believer of traditionally distributed gender roles. Men financial providers and women managers. Something like that?

pansophist:
That in terms of being smart, ridiculously intelligent and well-structured thought processing, men are better than women in general.

And in terms of being dumb, pathetically stupid and aggression capable of blowing up the whole world, men do it better than women also generally.

In other words, there are more smart men than smart women, and more stupid men than stupid women. Just as women are sweet in the middle, they are also in the middle of good and bad things in relation to men.

Seriously, I agree strongly.

Well, I'm not a Christian and I know 'prophesying' is kind of a big deal for you guys.

But, but I really think it's crazy to think a mere man (pastor) can see your future, see spirits, know what's bad for you even without knowing you for a day!

Okay, since the pastor can see who's 'clean' and who's not, can't he cast the demon from your babe? Why must the solution be to leave her?

You're only as good as the choices you make.

donproject:
Thanks...that will set me free, I love this NoSQL already

NoSQL is cool talking from my experience with firebase. But be aware that the seemingly unbounded freedom and flexibility you get with it can lead you into poorly designed database systems. I'd recommend you hook up something like mongoose together with MongoDb so that some of that unlimited surface for potential errors is curtailed. Besides, you won't need it most times.

From your earlier post, I understand you previously use MySQL. That's about the worse SQL database you can use in 2020. (No thanks to LAMP Stack)

For SQL, try Postgres database. Pair it with something like knex.js and you'd love programming Backend and databases all over again.

Interesting topic. However, anything I see a question being asked with the qualifier BEST I tend to be hesitant in replying.

Op, There is no best

I understand you want to start with one. Both of them a quite proven and dependable technologies so you can confidently pick one and learn, master it, work professionally and make money. That's the bottom line and what's important.

However, I believe that there are a lot of PHP related jobs and projects compared to Node because of the longevity of it. And not necessarily because it's the better tool. WordPress popularized PHP. Keep in mind that in Nigeria, we don't pave the way. Instead, we follow. And we follow rather sluggishly so NO established language is going away anytime soon. In essence, php is good market and can make your job search easier, especially in Nigeria.


NOW THE BIG PICTURE...

It should come as no shock to you that the life of a technologist is one of constant change. So, don't expect to keep using the same methods, tools, or languages NOW AND IN 10 YEARS TIME. You will have to keep learning and reinventing yourself time and time again.


KEEPING AN EYE ON THE FUTURE...

NodeJs is the fastest growing server-side framework and one of the fastest growing web technologies for that matter. Learning it should be a no-brainer, even if you don't eventually use it professionally for the time being. It's good to stay ahead of the curve. You want to get a hang of it now so that you'd be one of the very experienced users when it EVENTUALLY MATURES in Nigeria.

Personally, I'd advise: if you know two backend languages as a Nigerian living in Nigeria, one MUST BE NODE. (I only know one myself ). It doesn't matter which you start with, just learn Node as one of two. It's about being proactive and smart according to the trend going on around you.

... No more cents left to give.

Brownpeanut:
Absolutely, you can chit-chat with your coworkers, neighbours, strangers on the bus etc. It's normal. And that's a different scenario. Don't you do that without them having to process if they like you or not? But the moment they sense you're trying to get them or impressive them, it will be a different thing, you know? On the long run, if you're trying to impress a lady, her response boils down to if she likes you or not. And you know, people can be different when actually talking to each other physically vs via social media. I understand you. But we talking about conversation via social media. Like I said, people interact different according to the medium. "Why people behave the way they do during a conversation" is a deep question and they're a lot of factors contributing to this.

I agree with a lot of what you've said earlier and relate with the majority of them. As for the bolded, I agree completely.

However, maybe it's not a question of behaviour but ability. For guys, we can mostly tell which it is. I'm not so sure for girls.

Brownpeanut:
Well, I never said the outcome of a conversation depends solely on the guy. I'm sure my previous post isn't close to that by any tinge. If you read what I wrote, I blamed the both parties; the guys and girls. The outcome of a conversation depends on both individuals trying to communicate; communication shouldn't be one sided. Both have to be willing to talk and exchange idea between each other. It is not the sole responsibility of the guy to stir a conversation, although guys tend to take the lead, while the girl might sit, relax and the guy tries to impress. If you like talk and garnish you words like Shakespeare, if the girl isn't feeling you or you notice those short replies, just forget it and move ahead.

I said LARGELY, not SOLELY as you countered.

This your response painted two pictures:

In the first few paragraphs, you've attempted to define what the IDEAL conversation between two people (Guy and Lady in this case ) should look or feel like.

And in the latter part, you are vividly discribing the REALITY OF MOST CONVERSATIONS. The one which guys tend to, or have to take the initiative of striking, and keeping up the mood of the conversation with ladies.

Now, this is what I find interesting:

You've used words and phrases like I've highlighted above...

Now, why do I have to accomplish any of the above before I can strike or enjoy a fruitful conversation with a woman who's not my wife or girlfriend? - like a classmate, a neighbor, a coworker, or a stranger who may turn out a prospective friend?

I mean, we should be able to talk about our mutual interests even though we only met a minute ago on a bus. As long as both parties feel respected while on it.

Heck, I don't think I've had to impressed you or you necessarily liked me for us to have this 'Conversation', or did I?

Brownpeanut:
Well, not all girls. You have to understand that we have our attention divided and we can't please everyone, most especially if the lady is not feeling you. There's always a special somebody, or special set of people. But the truth be told, the way some ladies chat will bore most guys. Some guys too don't know how to chat. Ask open ended questions that will require her to express herself. Not yes and no questions. Some guys will also bore you to death. But if you're the kind of guy that knows the art of communication and know how to pull the strings, you're going to intrigue most intelligent ladies. And always know when to end the conversation; don't drag a dying conversation for too long.

I get your point. I really do. And I usually don't take extreme positions on a given issue so I'm not in support of the majority of the guy's popular notion on this.

However, do you realize that someone - like me - may interpret your submission as you suggesting that the fruitfulness or lack thereof, of a Discuss, Chat, Meeting, Brainstorming, etc, between a Guy and a Lady LARGELY DEPENDS ON THE CONVERSATIONAL SKILLs of The GUY?

If yes, why so?

I'm really looking forward to your response to this.

Very unfortunate but very common among many people in this country.

I stumbled upon the HR's explanation on Twitter just now on why he used WhatsApp and didn't fully introduced and state the purpose of the communication in his opening message. Apparently he's tried reaching her through calls (multiple times) and she didn't pick (never called back). And he didn't even expect her to be on WhatsApp that minute to reply messages so he was about to introduce himself before she replied his first message.

Personally, I think if you provide your number and not be available to pick up calls from a prospective employer, you'd be very lucky if they go through more trouble to reach you through other means (WhatsApp in this instance).

Because of her behaviour - just like the HR - I definitely wouldn't hire her. In fact, I wouldn't hire her after 10 years still because respect for her is about status, condition and/or gain. Respect and courtesy I think, should be unconditional the very first encounter you have with ANYONE. Sensible and reasonable people give others the benefit of doubt atleast.

And guess what, she won't CHANGE or LEARN because of this. She's no kid anymore. Life must have put her in a situation where she should have learnt THIS LESSON beforehand. The older we get, the more reasonable and thoughtful we must become.

I'm just too nice and humble to want to see rudeness and crassness ever rewarded. Serves her damn right.

Hardebayo:
No Language is difficult, it's difficult because you haven't practice enough. By the time you do lot of practice, you will know that it's very easy.

There's time for everything, even motivational speeches.

The topic didn't say one language is difficult than the other. Rather, it's about programming concepts one finds challenging. You can see It's a subjective question and the answers are understandably relative.

And honestly, you make little sense because you're so out of point on this. ALL CONCEPTS ARE NOT THE SAME. and saying adequate practice make things easy is besides the point also.

How many hours of practice would it take the average person to comprehend variable declaration in any language? Then how many hours for recursion? You can see that in reality, some concepts will always require more time to grasp than others, simple. And the OP questions only concerns itself with that.

So Sir, which concept required more practice time of you?

Coldie:
All dz guys complaining about money money money, expensive this that has never met the woman they love yet.

If u meet the woman u love even if her wedding is worth 10million u would sacrifice for her and u would be extremely happy about it

I think people should be able to do what fancy them as long as they're not hurting anyone.

But your idea of what love is and what it may demand of men is dangerous and unhealthy. The perfect woman shouldn't make you do stupid, crazy things to please her.

It's a simple matter of understanding and COMMON SENSE. And it's a matter of putting things in context.

thunderfirebubu:
Naija girls eh so selfish nd stingy. That was how I went to an eatery the other time nd 3 girls walked in, only one bought food the other 2 just kept watching in shame and all, I asked the girl eating why she couldn't buy for her friends and the idiiot said why didn't I buy for them when I saw them not eating. Like wtf, I asked the fooool that had a guy brought her here would she not take away food for her friends, family, village people etc? Babe cm start dey insult me oo, God save her finally Sha if not for the intervention of others.

Now, this is really out of order! Guy, you've got some nerves.

What the hell is your business with who's eating and who's not? Or who buys what for who? You insulted them first by asking thoughtless questions when it's absolutely none of your business too.

Honestly, would you try that stunt if it were to be some guys chilling instead of some ladies?

You're audacious I will give you that. But God knows I'd be leaving my shoe print on your face.

People should always think carefully about what they want to say and say it thoughtfully. I don't think I can accept a relationship with anyone where words don't mean anything.

Hurtful words and name-calling are a sign of disregard and disrespect, whether they are said in anger or not.

24 pages and the OP has refused to learn, unlearn and relearn.

And the above is an even greater flaw to possess than the apparent lack of emotional intelligence that both the OP and the Guy may have displayed according to the OP's narration.

jidamsel43:
Your fiance is on the right course. My wife pressurized me several times to have the court but I rejected it fervently. I rejected the idea of court marriage not because of any ulterior motive or being a Muslim or an attempt to be polygamous, but the idea was engineered by her parents to 'cow' me.

I gave her two options: Nikkah or Nothing

She willingly succumbed to Nikkah and we are happy together.

Nikkah Right. Is your wife a Muslim too?

That is the longest paragraph I've ever seen written.

LikeAking:
Not that kind of sickness.



Happiness has nothing to do with fun outdoors or meeting people. Atleast happiness is not limited to engaging in such activities. For her,what you have mentioned will make her happy. What you have mentioned brings the real happiness. Reason people go on vacation.

Happiness with out fun and out door is a jail term.


Dont get ir twisted.

...Then you shouldn't give it already twisted.

HalpyBee:
If I don't stalk myself, who will?

leave that task to your guardian angel

Op. You're not alone. In fact, the story you told applies to me and my present situation in so many ways.

To make matters worse, I'm aggressively pursuing opportunities that will practically render me a stay-at-home 9-5 guy professionally.

You should follow some of the advice about going out more and meeting people since physical interactions seem important to you. Church, Salon, Market. And Neighbors? It'd be easier to make friendships with people of the same gender as you. You should probably allow the other side (guys) come to you, especially if you're going to be physically reachable.

Happy solitude while it last! But remember Reclusion is a real thing.

LikeAking:
The problem is from the way you wai brought up.

The did has been done sis,

Just make sure you dont bring up your children, the way your parents brought you up.

Theere is no cure for your sickness,just manage it.

Women like you will enjoy loads of sex in marriage,at least thats something.


Nigerian parents are the number destroyers of their children's happiness.

Guy, this is so out of point that I don't know where to start with you.

She is not sick. Happiness has nothing to do with fun outdoors or meeting people. Atleast happiness is not limited to engaging in such activities.

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Shelumiel:
You are a nobody and your view of me won't change the fact that you are a nobody.

I don't expect you to learn or even reflect on your original statement. Sadly, just like FFK, his disciples - like yourself - are beyond redemption. You can't wallow deeply into the realms of FFK's reality and still remain 'normal'.

For your own good, assume you have ONLY 100 statements left to post. And I'll pray you don't waste them on nonsense. For a start, it's OKAY to NEVER take FFK serious.

Shelumiel:
Your foolishness was suppose to be our little secret. So why are you exposing it for all to see...

What an irony. The same ungodly 'something' you saw in Harris is the satanic something I see in YOU.

Dundee

This man is pitiable. His utterances should be suppressed in a sane society. Instead of reproducing his tweets here, why not replace it with something that has a place in this 21st century?

Character deficiency in our society is why people don't feel ashamed associating with FFK.

Shelumiel:
This man may have a point. There is something ungodly about that woman.

Exactly, there's something satanic about your moniker.

If you want to be great, distance yourself from the ideology and tag of 'NIGERIAN YOUTHS.'

That statement made it for me. If the events of the past few weeks isn't validation of that statement, nothing ever will.

Statements like this is the ultimate reason I'm flabbergasted when people say this Nnamdi Kanu is intelligent.

And the followers of a man are exactly the group of people Desmond Elliot was referring to as 'children'. I don't know which is more laughable; Kanu or his followers.

Mrbillionaire:
The media aren't reporting what's going on there, why? The military think they are the only ones who can shoot, If everyone was armed, a soldier can't ask me to swim in the mud.

I support IPOB facing then fire for fire; they have suffered casualties in the past when they were unarmed. Oya Nigerian soldiers, show your gallantry with armed IPOB not against unarmed civilians.

This is exactly what Desmond Elliot was talking about. Internet and social media Provocateurs championing, campaigning and instigating violence that they themselves want nothing to do with in the actual sense.

Harddiskng:
Just accept it was a silly analogy.

If you have made any attempt to found out what speed a falling bullet can hit the ground we won’t be here till now.

Okay, agreed for the sake of argument.

But you've been quoting a 715ms muzzle velocity as if that's the same velocity an AK-47 bullet fall from the sky!

Now, you previously stated some bullets has 650ms terminal velocity! Which is doubled the speed of sound. Those are unforgivable mixed up don't you think?