₦airaland Forum

Martinez39s:
Thinking that a girl is different, or your relationship is going to be different, is a grave mistake. You are lucky you aren't in a western country, and you didn't get married with that girl over there because of your fooliśh thinking. It would have cost you your peace of mind, half your assets/cash, your house, your kids (their mother will get sole custody), alimony, ridiculous amounts in child support, etc. Many western men, even African men, are regretting this mistake of yours.

Go and sin no more. Here are MY iron rules to prevent this nonsense:
[1] Women are not worth relationship, marriage and being pedestalised.
[2] Never involve your emotions when dealing with women. Stay logical, not emotional. Women are emotional and are very manipulative; as emotional folks, they will read emotions into everything you say or do even if you didn't say or do them out of emotions. As manipulators, they manipulate your emotions to achieve their aims over you.
[3] Never makes friends with a woman. Be cold. You may be on amiable speaking terms with them but never make friends with them. Reserve friendship for your fellow men.
[4] Still on (3), associate with women based on their usefulness to you or necessity. If they are not useful to you in terms of sex, business, or academics, let there be no association between you and them.
[5] Never ever in your life commit yourself (your heart) to any woman.
[6] One way you know steep red pill men is the nature of their cash flow. Never give a girl money no matter how bad or urgent her situation is if she hasn't given up something of equal or greater value in return (I am not talking about getting sex for money. Pùssy is worth $0.00. Only foolish men pay for the pùssy someone is getting for free. Value your money). Never give her money hoping she will pay back. Don't even do the nonsense of "it's just a gift," "I can afford it, it's nothing," "it's just once in while and I choose to do it," etc. Please have sense by fire.
[7] Speak to females like you speak to a cop: never say more than necessary. Don't tell them your vulnerabilities, past trauma, secrets, business plans, or your true bank account balance. Anything you say will be used against you someday when it benefits her or when you people have a misunderstanding, even if the information you gave has nothing to do with the misunderstanding. Don't follow the naive folks to emotionally open up to a woman even if she tells you to, not only will she use it against you, she will see you as weak and lose whatever attraction she had for you.
[8] All women are like that. You know what I mean. Female nature is universal and there is no woman that is different. Ignore this and reap premium tears.

I don say my own. I could add many but these will help you for now.

Skepticus:
For some career-oriented, high-achieving folks, having a legal marriage would be an advantage, though, not mandatory, as the power to grow your career/achieve your ambitions, are in the hand of blue-pilled folks who view married men positively over single men, and it doesn't matter if you have a shît-show/sham for a marriage e.g Politics at the state/federal level. The society calls it "responsible".

In some professions, it is mandatory, even if your wife is the worst woman to live with, on the planet. As I'm aware, certain ranks in the Nigerian military (for commissioned officers), can only be attained (including other factors like competence) if you are legally married. If you meet criteria of dedication and competence, and you are not married, you'll be overlooked for your target rank/qualification etc.

I've always wanted to talk about this part, directed to men who don't wish to marry nor co-habit with women. It would be a dilemma, if you are involved in this types of professions (mandatorily requiring marriage). Personal sacrifices/risks would have to be made/endured for which ever option you choose as an individual.

CaveAdullam:
Your career woman will fvck her way to the top.

Your career woman will fvck her clients for monthly upkeeps.

Your career woman will get tired by her boss and she will have less time for you and the family.

Your career woman will have higher respect for her boss and clients than you.

Your career woman will be more submissive to her boss than you.

Your career woman will ration more time to her boss than you.

Your career woman will always use her boss as a yardstick to judge your worth and competence.

You won't get good fvcks from your career woman because she will always be tired as a result of career work + office romance.

Your housewife will gossip + frolick with other men when you're not around. If she's dumb + lazy, forget it, you just married a liability!

What can both of you do?

Let her join you in your line of business, thereby making you her boss. Take her as one of your employee and monitor the organization properly. You regulate her work time so that she can manage work + family efficiently. Which means, as your employee, her work will be less strenuous compared to other employees.

Or, you set up a business for her and oversee the daily activities. She's just a worker there and you the manager.

Or, outsource some of your work to her inorder to keep her busy which will reduce your workload, and also grant her an opportunity to learn more and develop herself.

Or, get engaged to a woman that her dream blends together with yours so that both of you can pursue and achieve a common goal. (If she relents on her goal, it means she's not serious about her future, dump her)!

Or, you can support her if her ambition has a headway and not threatening on the progress of the relationship.

The economic situation of most nations these days has disabled men from being a complete provider for the family, wives this times must truly express their helpmeet characteristics. On the otherhand, leaving your wife or spouse to the full hands of a boss is more disastrous to the existence of your relationship.

Again 50/50 can't work, whether she agrees on it or not, she already deems you as the man and leader. By your actions as a man, you will even encroach on her 50% part. This deal is impossible! (However, should in case it becomes possible, there will be tug of war as a result of leadership role).

Authority: Select only for good women.

DAY 75, REDPILL 2022

Martinez39s:
^{NB: this is not a write-up done out of emotions or the vain need for an argument. I am airing my opinion and would like a sincere discussion if you are willing. Of course, we can agree to disagree.}

In life, we should learn to accept that people have different priorities. What you see as the ultimate goal in life is what another man sees as nonessential and highly optional. The ability to defy what is instinctive to "lower animals" is one of the testaments to our "superior" brains. The ability to build a life that deviates from what is instinctive to other animals is one of the things that makes us superior; this gives us, to a large extent, the ability to shape our destinies as we seem fit even if it means giving the "dictates" of evolution the middle finger. There are many general things "lower" animals do by instincts that we don't practice, so don't use a general behaviour in these animals to determine an inherent purpose of man.

As I have said, what you see as the ultimate goal in life is what another man sees an nonessential and highly optional. There are many different reasons why people just don't want children or marriage. By the way, being mgtow doesn't scream a sexless life without romantic options; the only mgtow men who choose not to have sex are the monks, which are a small subset of the mgtow community. Finally, mgtow men are not all losers. Children and marriage are nothing big or desirable to some men that they won't even stress themselves for it.

We just have to accept that men who don't see sex, romantic relationships, marriage and having children as achievements and are not insistent on these things exists. By the way, though not important to my points, it's better to be single, financially independent, and childless than to live in a country where sharia reigns supreme; believe me, you wouldn't want to take your much-enjoyed human rights for granted, except you prioritise sex, women, and having children than them. Good luck missing going to mosque in a sharia country.

Of course, most men, hence most/all you might have heard of, seek relationships and families. That doesn't mean all men must follow suit. It's like saying most men are bluepilled and simps hence we must follow suit.

Human life has no inherent purpose except the purpose you give your life. Issac Newton never married or had children yet he left us with an impact. The inventors of the airplane, Orville and Wilbur Wright, brothers, never married. I could list many others who never married (Nikola Tesla, Louis De Broglie, etc.). Would you call these men losers, men who made impacts that most of our unknown ancestors didn't? There is even every chance that these men didn't understand female nature like we do now yet they stayed single.

Our ancestors lived their lives and we have our own lives to live. The fact that our ancestors laboured to pass down their genes doesn't mean it is incumbent on us to follow suit. As harsh as it may sound, we owe our ancestors nothing in this regard. It's our lives, and we run it as we please.

I am very curious, why do think all mgtow men are losers who want women but can't afford women? You are beginning to confuse incels for mgtow.

Martinez39s:
MGTOW is against commitment and cohabitation. Mgtow men can still decide to have sex and children if they want.

My advice for incels, specifically those who use the mgtow/monk mode as a cover for their bitterness, resignation and rage over there inability to get women, is to admit their inadequacies, stop bitçhing, and get their śhit together if it is women they really want. Not that I partake in such or desire women, but it is better not to have people soiling the outlook of the mgtow philosophy. Incels like these exists. In retrospect, it's likely that you were referring to this group since you might have encountered them but you confused them with mgtow. 

Fine, but this is a subjective conviction. As far as you find happiness, meaning and fulfillment in committed relationships, you are free to pursue them. However, you must be aware that not all men partake in such conviction and they can find meaning, purpose and happiness outside committed relationships.

One thing about human beings is that we are different. What matters to you might not matter to me, and what matters to me might not matter to you. In talent and ambition, we differ. Because being a provider father is respected everywhere doesn't mean we must follow suit to be a provider father. Where is it written that I must follow suit or assign such role as my life purpose?  I am not against such, but I am not just interested in it.

If Isaac Newton and the men I mentioned can find meaning and purpose in their works, endeavors that are outside marriage, relationships and children, why can't other men find meaning and purpose in what they want (mainly their interests) even if it is outside marriage and the propagation of their genes?

One truth most people can't accept is that human life is transcient, meaningless and without purpose. The meaning and purpose your life have are the meaning and purpose you give to it. Don't let anyone lie to you that there is an inherent purpose and meaning of life, it's a big lie. Human history is filled with men and women who (hopelessly) presumed an inherent purpose and meaning of life, and their relentless search for these. Since their minds desperately needed a purpose and meaning, and they couldn't accept the inherent meaninglessness of life, man-made purposes were readily contrived and made available for them so they could be driven like sheep and have a sense of order and meaning since they couldn't figure out for themselves that life was meaningless, transient and purposeless; even if they figured out, they lacked the fortitude to embrace the truth. These man-made purposes include things like religion, the way of society (go to school, get a job, make money, marry and give birth to children and die) etc. If you can't realise the truth and accept that the purpose of your life is the purpose you give to it, society will give you one.

Hakeem thinks the purpose of life is to serve Allah and spread Islam; Abeeb thinks ISIS and the establishment of a global Islamic caliphate is the divine way, hence the purpose of life; Peter thinks the purpose of life is to serve Jesus, glorify God and win souls to heaven; in the same way, pansophist is convinced the purpose of life is committed relationships and the propagation of genes. Hakeem and Abeeb got theirs from the Quran due to childhood indoctrination or later conviction; Peter got his from the bible; and pansophist got his from observing a general behaviour and attribute of animals. The common mistake they made was presuming the existence of an inherent purpose and meaning, and their minds searched for them. They all settled on what made the most sense to them without realising it was all subjective and life doesn't owe us a meaning. Perhaps, they just didn't accept the possibility of an existence without any inherent meaning or purpose (because humans have a great tendency to be existentially solipsistic and would love to think they are special and their lives play an important role in a grand scheme and death can't be the end of things for humans). Even Martinez39s in his teens once thought he his divine purpose (God's calling) was to be a pastor but here he is as an atheist carving his purpose. He was convinced of that man-made purpose, but no more.

What happens when a person who is hopelessly convinced of an inherent purpose gets disillusioned with the endeavors he thought were his purpose? Existential crisis. The only way out for that person is to thoroughly convince him of another purpose. That can't happen to me.

What I want you to know is that there is no purpose or meaning to life. The universe doesn't owe us these things. This time, don't take on committed relationships and bear children because it is what you think you have to do whether you like it or not; this time, realise they are optional and if you will want to do, do them because you WANT to do them (not because you think you must or because "lower" animals do them). Start being mentally independent and start carving out your purpose. Be happy and live your best life because when you die you never get to live again and it's all eternal nonexistence and oblivion. While others are marrying and stressing themselves with woman palava and labouring to maintain frame (which I can successfully do), I am busy making my one-and-only life revolve around my happiness: reading science (Maths, Physics, Computer programming, my career, etc.), financial independence, movies and video games, travelling, writing, studying gynocentrism, spreading the red pill, exercising, having fun etc. All these are enough and I don't want women or children in them.


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