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Martinez39s:
A woman who has more money than you and has a higher status will not select you as a husband. Her hypergamous nature will seek a higher male. Women marry their best financial options higher than them.

If you started out higher than your wife and she started earning better than you during the marriage and her status surpasses yours, the disrespect and resentment from her towards you will build up. When a man has all the wealth and status, he tries to make them reflect on his wife and kids; in the case of a woman, she looks upon her husband with disdain and pride and asks herself "is he the best I can do?" It is what it is. A wife with a higher cash worth and higher status cannot respect her husband.

In other news, hear this:
Red pill: "Nothing builds resentment and disrespect to a husband greater than when his wife brings home the bacon (ie. when she is the breadwinner). The resentment and disrespect will come from the wife"

I am sure Hollywood, Nollywood, IrokoTV, romance novels and Disney have painted women to be beings who can love you as much as you love them, and they are equal partners who should run things equally in the household (no male authority), and they are selfless and considerate enough to lend you a helping hand in your down times and make sacrifices for you. This is BUUULLLLLSSSSHIT.

Edit: any gift or financial assistance she renders you comes with conditions: you must pay back or give her something in return. Besides, when she does that or some breadwinner role, she will continuously drum it over your head and to everyone when the opportunity presents itself.

Skepticus:
At the bolded, a girl/woman can be truly "in love" with you, though it is extremely rare to find such but when you do, count yourself extremely lucky. Here, my definition of finding a girl who is truly "in love" is not the nigerian man's "definition" of a woman that is truly in love with him. Most of them (Nigerian guys/boys/men) know NOTHING about females' truest attraction nor leadership in relationship. I'll get to that later.



At the bolded, I saw the whole discussions and drama that happened in relation to the paternity fraud trend on Social Media. What i found very worrying, that escaped the attention of most people on the issue of paternity fraud is that NIGERIA as country was mentioned (the only country in Africa) in ALMOST every documented research done on the issue of paternity fraud worldwide. The ones done in Nigeria put it between 50 - 75 percent of women giving birth to babies who are fathered by men who have no genetic connection to these babies. I saw one TEDx talk research putting it at a conservative 30 percent.

The disturbing point of these researches proves that a high number of Nigerian men (poor, middle-class, rich, old, middle-aged, and young) are mostly SIMPs who are also highly ignorant of the nature of women, and that Nigerian women (from the south to the so-called "prudish" north) are highly promiscuous or a terrible combination of both.

If you are a Nigerian man in the "business of promiscuity" whether as a gigolo, pim.p. player, religious leader (some religious leaders like pastors, imams, and those in secular leadership positions like CEOs use it to great advantages in getting women attracted to them) or just an average "fuûck boy", you'll slay a lot of pûssies (single, about-to-be-married, married, pregnant, divorced etc) easily because of the ignorance of the average Nigerian guy on what women do or are capable of doing.

I remember sharing the link of a Nigerian guy who revealed his escapades with so-called "decent" married women earlier on this thread. There have been many threads on front page of Pastors, Imams, Native doctors sleeping with women of all status and background without the knowledge of their boyfriends, fiances and husbands. I have had some personal experiences in this "promiscuity" too, and like most men who have been in my shoes, they stay off marriage because they see the nonsense that modern women are made of. I don't trust a woman telling me "Good morning ". I'll go outside to confirm of it is truly morning time. Like someone said earlier on this thread, most of those Saturday Marriages are just men saving hoes.

Ubunja in his miseducations and miseducashins, has revealed some of these, but the "moral" posturing (which includes some red-pillers) and blue-pill conditioning of nigerian men is so strong that the underlying message of these miseducations and miseducashins fly over their heads.

Skepticus:
It's a reason I don't envy half of these dude "saving" hoes every Saturday.

Make I "burst"people head here, "small". It may sound controversial to the religious folks around here but if you have an open mind, you'll get the crux of my point.

Some, who run to their religious leaders who they greatly admire to pick girls for them (in marriage) would likely be given girls that these religious leaders are tired of banging. The same girls get rewarded for spreading their legs for these religious leaders under the guise of "prophecies " "miraculous anointing" or "working for God". The man who is the admirer of this religious leader is the fool who is being played. These religious leaders would often sponsor the marriage while continuing with his banging escapades.

#InsideLife

Skepticus:
Jerking off to porn is not SIMPING because it reduces the need to put women on a pedestal while fulfilling the biological "necessity" of sex. Generally, it's frowned upon by men because of the bad side of its addictive nature. When done in moderation (moderation is subjective), it reduces the INCEL problem. In fact, the "POST-NUT CLARITY (Men returning to their "senses" after ejaculation) side of masturbation makes you realize that the "pedestalization" of women in porn and outside of it, is the nonsense made up in your head that has nothing to do with reality.

Like most guys, I'm no fan of it, but its "tangible" benefits for men is not one to be overlooked.

Skepticus:
I've seen the back and forth about the issue of masturbation here and you'll find same on every fora of red pill discussions. I ignore because i think everyone is entitled to their positions on it.

Among the popular proponents of TRP/MGTOW, there is no general consensus on being pro- or anti- masturbation.

The cons of masturbation are very valid from a health and psychological perspective. For some, the cons reach into the metaphysical (spiritual realm). However, the pros of masturbation bring a conflict, when you consider its benefits to men trying to avoid the distractions and pitfalls that comes with dating women or nutting off with prostitutes.

Personally, I'm against masturbation because of its health effect and prone to being addictive. I'm okay with masturbation when its done in "moderation" (whatever moderation means to you). Just like alcohol, it's advisable to stop or reduce it, when the negative effects begin to outweigh its benefits.

emmaodet:
You even gave her attention. She called me out also and called me monkey face but I am used to ladies like her here abusing me for saying the truth so I just skipped.
Come to think of it - if ladies who just came to this earth and for no reason have taste and levels, for no reason are been given gifts, money, helped with car lift and so many more. If they can be discussing among themselves about how Kemi shouldn't date Jide because he is not in her level, she is more educated, earn equally or more, beautiful or dated someone financially better than Jide in the past, So why do they think a man shouldn't have taste too?
Why do they think a man who has worked up the ladder without help and against all odds shouldn't have taste or class or levels or requirements?
If a lady without anything can have it how much more someone who has paid the price to have what women have for free?
So they expect him to be cheap? Without taste and just pick a random girl on the street?
Most Nigerian ladies who travelled abroad will never look back at their boyfriend in Nigeria and they justify it by claiming she has stepped up but wants a guy who travelled out to be grateful of coming to pick a local girl back home?

CaveAdullam:
NB: With Green light alone you will get fewer women around you, compare to when you are a pick up artist. The former is highly important when you need to commit and the later when you need to exercise your sexual prowess. It is better you go for a woman that choose you (well armed with the vetting parameters) because she's highly invested and can easily submit, than the one you selected from your "whoring" adventures. Lol!

However, the amount of green light you received is directly proportional to the height of your sexual market value, your stance in the society's totem pole and the place you occupy in the pyramid--upper echelon with top tiers men e.g Politicians, Celebrities, Entrepreneurs, CEOs, Inventors, etc. It is also dependent on the environment you place yourself. Pastors, youth leaders, choirmasters, have access to women because in their environment(church) women are in a plethora.

Green lights are abundant where women are abundant or where your high value is shining resplendently. Green lights can be direct or indirect, but irrespectively, watch out for the following signs. However, these are few and not comprising of all.

She always touch you.

Call you pet names.

Lean on you.

Want to be around you.

Always text/call you.

Respect you in public.

Always listen to you.

Always seek your advice.

Relates her personal secrets with you.

Don't pick offence easily even when you deliberately wrong her.

Always want to play with you.

Bridge: the above can also be similar to the friendzone, then, to be able to bye pass it and fully know if it is a "potential" greenlight;

She allows you to touch her freely or resist slightly when you touch her on her bo*bs and as*.

Allow you to rub her tummy. You can easily turn her on if you are very good with the tummy game.

Uses her bo*bs to brush you.

She makes sexual jokes.

She eager to sit on your legs.

She doesn't get angry when you peck or kiss her.

She eagers to come visit you.

Eager to cook for you.

Eager to want you taste her food.

Eager to share in your work.

She's jealous when you add/mention another woman in the triangle.

She allow you to lift her by placing your hands on her as*.

The key point: if she doesn't reject any of your sexual advances just know she's into you. And you must also be good in the understanding of body language and most especially reading people's intents from their eyes.

Authority: For love/marriage, let a woman choose you, but for lust, you can decide to go fishing yourself.

PS: green light guarantees high investment, high submission, high respect. But it doesn't in anyway guarantees that a woman will stick to you forever, because hypergamy is an inherent female nature. Although, the relationship can tarry for a long time depending on your frame.

SnoopTech:
Hello Fam!

I need some advice from gurus here. The thing is, I have been dating this girl for some time now! Honestly, she loves me, though she tries hard to hide it. I have done my analysis and come to that conclusion.

Even when we had issues and broke up, she still came back and apologized. She also emphasized that she sees a future of us together (married) because at the beginning of the relationship, I told her that I date to marry.

I am in tech! Though I am not rich, I earn a decent amount of money for myself.

But my issues are as follows:

1. I suspect she’s involved in coded runs. I have done my research, and from some stories she tells me, though it's not 100% proof, there is a high possibility that she’s involved in "sugar daddy" relationships. She buys expensive phones, clothes, etc., and she doesn’t ask me for a dime. At the beginning of the relationship, she used to ask me for money, but after we broke up and she came back, she stopped. There was a time I even saw her Snapchat story in a hotel room. I confronted her, but she turned it into a fight until the matter died down.

2. She doesn’t listen! In fact, she warns me not to tell her what to do or not to do. If I insist, it turns into a full-blown argument. In fact, if not because I put her in her place, this girl wanted to dominate me and turn me into a "mumu" (fool) who does anything she wants.

3. She refuses to have sex with me. She always tells me she is a virgin, and no matter how hard I try, she will never admit that she has had sex before. Though she doesn’t ask me for money or even bother if I don’t call her for days, all she wants is for us to chat briefly in a day, and that’s it. But she wants me to be loyal.

4. She gets angry when I mention anything that isn’t positive regarding marriage. For example, there was a time I said I would marry four wives. She started giving me the silent treatment for days. Another time, when I said I’d have to complete my MSc before marriage, she got angry.

Please, experts! Can you help me analyze this situation and explain the way forward? A friend says she sees a bright future in me and wants to keep me as her backup husband when she starts reaching her "diminishing age." Because, going by the calculations, we are both young, in our early twenties.

Skepticus

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Skepticus:
I'm a big advocate of the monk mode temporarily or permanently. I do go monk mode on temporary basis when I want to achieve a thing. I'm also well aware that a minority of men are asexual and generally indifferent to sex. They are an exception (and inconsequential to nature) as nature selected mostly for men who desired sex so that the human race will not go extinct.

What is really happening is that some men are CONSCIOUSLY channelling their energies into endeavours of competence thinking it's not about sex but SUB-CONSCIOUSLY putting themselves in prime position to which is of great advantage: survival, passing their genes on (SEX) and having the resources that will be advantageous to them and their offspring.

Ronnnie made a reference to Temujin (Genghis Khan) which is great because he makes a good example of the deep-lying subconscious of human species towards sex. Genghis Khan was a trained warrior who wanted power, and conquer the whole of Asia. On his quest, he wasn't walking around with erection screaming SEX like a fool. He was already wired biologically for that in his genes and subconscious. He sought for COMPETENCE as a warrior and a powerful conqueror. Within 35 years, he achieved that conquering and dominating men (Power). With women, it (COMPETENCE) brought him more sex via hypergamy, than it could ever be imagined. About 9 countries from the far east to Central Asia have their ancestry linked to him making him arguably the most reproductively-successful man on the planet. Achievements from his competence put him in prime position to survive and pass on his genes (SEX).

Some men also had great achievements from their competence like being inventors and contributing greatly to religion and spirituality but voluntarily decide not to procreate for whatever reasons and it's fine. Some couldn't because of genetic faults that made them not to be able to procreate. It would be a stupid thing to deride such men. The ones that were inventors contributed a lot to the rest of humanity but to nature, they were "useless" as they weeded themselves out of the gene pool. Here, the connotation of the word, "useless" isn't meant to be derisive.

If you don't have an underlying drive towards sex, why are you in the romance section? Na my manly face or muscular yansh una come for? Lol. Some men can be childishly funny at times.

Skepticus:
For those of you always complaining about the red pill constantly talking about women, you may need to stay off for a while, because the red pill is mostly about women, not men or some individual interest.

When the majority of men associate with their fellow men in any situation, most of the time, there are no hormones and neurotransmitters messing with their brains and bodies. No erections etc, so, they think logically and act rationally. With women, it is another ball game, even when such association is platonic, because of the hard-wired biological conditioning and social blue-pilled conditioning to make us (men) see women differently. This is where men lose it and women understanding this, play the field to their own advantage. This is the reason why you hear guys say things like: "The red pill is not easy" "I left this thread and I started to simp" etc.

Some folks also complain that we keep repeating the same things (which is true) and you'll find same on all platforms where the red pill is being discussed at full length. This is done to constantly to keep one updated, and keep you from falling back into the blue-pill which is our default state. Hence, you hear things like, "Taking the red pill a day, keeps simping away" etc.

Also, looking for ways to make money is not uniquely red pill because a lot of folks making money are blue-pilled. Staying fit and healthy is not uniquely red pilled. A lot of folks in the blue pilled world are equally staying fit and healthy. Their only relevance to the red pill is the self-improvement part where a red-pilled man is encouraged not to lose himself, even when he has to act blue-pilled. He must always have his red pill lenses on as it takes a split of a second to revert back to the blue pill.

For those on this thread who are knowledgeable about self improvement topics that are not related to the romance section and find the discussion about women boring, they should simply create threads unique to their area of knowledge in their specific section rather than complaining. This is the romance section. When I want business ideas, I simply go to the business section of the platform.

Martinez39s:
Just read the discussion.

(1) The truth is that from the start of the human race, MOST men work tirelessly to put themselves in a favourable position where they qualify to procreate (ie. where they possess the qualities and resources that will make females be open to them). Passing on genes (aka "carrying on the family name" ) has always been a big thing for men; in fact, for many millenia, most men considered it a taboo, underachievement or curse if they didn't pass on their genes or they raised another man's children. As it has been right from time, most men are not alphas and most men want to establish families to pass on their genes; so in order to solve their reproductive issue, they had to work hard, compete with other men and be creative/innovative in getting resources to get the ladies. The hard work and innovation that results from this need to pass on one's gene are some of the major driving forces of civilisation. To procreate, you need women, and after getting women, you must have sex. If women's standard changed tomorrow and women didn't mind going for broke and fat men, most men would not achieve much and they would be satisfied with the barest minimum since it doesn't take much for men to survive and be happy. Most won't even go to the gym. This is how most men are.

This what Ubunja and emmaodet have been trying to say; maybe they should have used the word "procreation."

(2) Asides procreation, most men can't control their sexual urges and simping is getting bigger with ever generation. Secondly, there is this natural tendency for men to seek and pursue female validation and attention; they bask in these and can even badmouth their fellow men for this. Let's not forget how men brag about scoring chicks. These also contributes to many men seeking resources to get females.

(3) Lastly, I will have to admit that not all men achieve things because of procreation or women. Throughout history, a lot of men have pursue things and achieve things for love and passion. Some are motivated by their quest for knowledge; some are motivated by ideologies; some are motivated by self-love and living life to fullest; some were broke and faced a lot of disrespect and decided to get rich to stop nonsense; some lost relatives unnecessarily because of lack of money and they decided such will never happen again. I can list many more cases where people do things and achieve greatly without having procreation in mind or as their end goal. I can say much more, but let me stop here. These men are many, but their number greatly pales in comparison to the men that are in category (1).