chubbyzegna: None taken, I'm not trolling, I know how this looks but believe me, I didn't even know about this thread, just stumbled on it, couldn't post with my original moniker so I had to use this.

Zegna please tell us your view

theLORDreigns:

Honey, this can be read in so many wrong ways...

Kindly clarify by answering the questions below.

1. Do you feel it is justifiable to hit a man without any provocation from him?
2. Do you feel it is justifiable to hit a man in self-defence?
3. Do you feel it is justifiable to hit a man first after provocation from him?

I do not feel any of my actions are right, I have my own faults too that's why I do not want to continue with him!

shizzleStar:
i didn't change any story, i earlier bought her story hook, line and sinker, but i am having a rethink after her comment about 'women don't hit as hard as men'.

I know i am not sensible, but h little brain i have tells me there's every possibility she hit him first, I'm only been real here

I did not hit him first.

crackhaus:
You really believe this, don't you?

Maybe that's why you could comfortably exchange insults with your man and further still, seat on a chair he needed to use

Two questions:

1. Why did you refuse to get up from the chair?

2. Now that you know he can slap you when you push him to the limit, will you be testing his patience anytime soon?

That is why I have explained to him that we can't be together, that we don't match but he is insisting that it was a mistake that would never happen again. He is refusing to let go, how do I make it easy for him?

beeevan:



And if the woman hits first?

Women do not hit hard as men...

Wonderful!

crackhaus:
Not at all.

Disregarding this particular case, I'm asking if it's possible that there can be no justifiable reason to slap a woman, regardless of what she did?

There can not be any justifiable reason to hit a woman!

@ blesseenE

Is it true that they have started selling the UNIZIK post-utme from today 21st July?

RoyalRoy: Jessybarbie..... I see you reading this right now!!!

What did u say to him before he slapped you?

Answer Us please!!!

We were arguing about a lot of things and exchanging insulting words. I sat on a chair he wanted to use and refused to get up, that's when he did it.

bukatyne: @OP:

Had to reread after reading all the comments

Me thinks that the bobo would have beaten you to a pulp if he is an abuser (but again, I do not have the manual of all abusers)

Him begging after you retaliated means he was shocked to his sense and remorseful OR he did not know you have in you (Peak milk things) and his brain went to default settings though I am more inclined to go with the former

I will say you givr him another chance and see how it does. He might truly be repentant.

You should also discuss with an unbiased adult and let him/her advise both of you together

God be with you

@bukatyne If after two years he can slap me, do you think we have made enough progress to continue together?

Mynd44:
You really think she will agree with you? From the OP, she is going back to him

I have not said am going back to him, I just want to get every side of this right and so that my last decision will be the right one.

Before now, I have already made up my mind not to have anything to do with any man that lays his hand on me and he knows this. I have being dating him for two years now and just in the middle of a big quarrel two days ago he slapped me. I reacted immediately and hit him as much as I could but he did not retaliate but felt really bad and started begging me immediately to forgive him.

I have sworn to him that it is over between us. He is begging, pleading, crying, asking our friends to intercede and loads of other stuffs that I can not put down here just to have me at least forgive him and be his friend again but I have declined because I believe that this can happen again.

I want to know if there is a way that it can work again between us? We have gotten to a stage that we are more than just bf and gf. We had great plans for the future if things turns out well but this singular act have altered everything and we are both hurting.

Is there any way to remedy this relationship or is it truly over forever?

What do you all mean by there αre no benefits in student relationships?

Isn't a relationship all about knowing each other first then any other thing can follow? I mean y'all make it sound like there are particular things that are supposed to be gained from relationships that a student relationship can't provide.

The way any other relationship that doesn't involve students may lead to marriage is the same way a students relationship may lead to marriage.

There are no guarantees in any relationship so you people should be realistic.

Its all stages of life so spare us the "there are no benefits" talk.

*SMH

hmmmmm...Noted!

You don't have to be rich to be romantic. Don't get it twisted

Dreal1247: .
He cant b worse dan saul who later became Apostle Paul. Paul made us 2 undastnd d old tstamnt. I wont b surprised 2 c El-Rufai become a xtian evangelist 2moro.

for his own sake let him be fast about it

The heart of man is greatly wicked, who can know it.

I guess the Iraqi's finally caught up with him. RIP

What is even wrong with that El Rufai? Outdated clowns seeking attention like Teenagers *smh

graceng:

True talk but you make it sound like a getaway from torture. It's a beautiful day and you should feel not just happy but joyous.Why not do your office work with all your heart, a smile on your face,making it so beautiful not just for you but for everyone that comes across you on that day,from home,your boss, colleagues, customers and after the day you'd feel that peace because you made the day for lots of people

My comment in other words is, that particular day is a working day and not weekend. If you have something important doing, you would hardly know its val's day more so not having a partner!

When you are at the office with a hard to impress boss you won't know when the day will be over!

Idowuogbo:
U pack comot for ya thread? Lmfao! Na wa o! See desperation

The truth is that this is a true life story but your not helping by joking about it

sexkillz: The girl is a what? A Fool!

Killz it will do loads of good if you can give the girl an advise because I think that's one of the many purposes of this forum

SAFO:

u didn't answer the question. Is it abortion?

Don't really know for her but don't you think the question is irrelevant? This issue isn't a joke

Mynd_44: Idowu, Freecocoa and Mondi-cheeks don pursue the OP go. Make she come hear the remaining na.

Am still very much around

Idowuogbo:



oh no u didnt! bad move!

BAD MOOD?!?!?

Idowuogbo:
huh? hahahahhaha! na u b chick joor! whoring dolapo! na me u wan play dat kian game wiv? lmao! dat 1 dey.

Lol Even if its me what is needed is advise

I told her to follow the first guy but she is saying she loves the 2nd guy

baibijay@yahoo.:
i knw u want d second guy which is stup!d of u, bt u still want him sha,
trust me d 1st guy seems lik d guy fr u! bt i knw u ll go fr d second and am sure u ll regret t. xo jus go fr d 2nd hu is ur hrt desire.

How do you mean she will regret it? Please explain bera

Is this the best you guys can offer? Please this is a real life issue

Hello Nairalanders, a friend came to me with this issue so I decided to share it with you guys so as to get more candid advise.

I have two men in my life, I started dating one who has been a friend for a long time, he has been so great even before we started dating, I said yes to dating him cos I was so lonely and like him a lot therefore I thought everything would be alright.

Two months into the relationship, a guy I know who actually lives close to my house started paying mﻉ compliments and saying he liked me, it all started like a joke and I didn't take him serious as I thought it all a thing of play, as time went by I noticed he was serious and before I knew it I fell in love with him.

Its been eight months since I started dating the 2nd guy without ending it with the 1st guy who has also been great, though I don't see him(first guy) often and have tried breaking up with him 3 times, he just wouldn't let go, the 2nd guy knows about the 1st guy but he said at first that he doesn't mind but now he's so jealous and wants me to choose, he says its okay if I decide to be with the 1st guy but that he loves me still (which is obvious), though it would hurt him but he'll survive.

Now I'm having a difficult time choosing especially since the first guy did nothing wrong instead he is even loving me more, though he doesn't know there's a 2nd guy. I haven't slept with the 1st guy but have with the 2nd , I'm sure I Lo√e the 2nd guy more but I also like the 1st, I just don't know how ‎​ to break up with the 1st one without hurting him and sometimes I get so confused cos the 1st one is more caring,handsome, soft hearted and more financially buoyant than the 2nd one, the 2nd has anger issues and it seems like the world will end when he gets angry plus he likes to revenge yet he is still loving. I have a problem that requires money, I and the 2nd guy can't shoulder it alone, I want to ask the 1st guy to help and its making it harder to break up with him coupled with the truth that I don't wanna hurt him but I really need the money .

The 1st guy is always talking about the future and marriage, initially the 2nd one made it clear that he just wanted to date me cos he likes me ‎ now he sounds a lot like the 1st guy as regards the future and marriage, he says with the way he feels now about ‎​​me, he'd marry me ‎right away if everything was in place.

P.S I know I shouldn't be double dating but I just can't explain how ‎​it got this far, I thought I'd end it with one before it gets complicated now I don't know what to do as both men are really crazy about me.