pamelaayomide:
Nairalanders I am actually typing this with fear of what to come.

I am an active member of this forum but change moniker by registering and creating a new one here to hide my identity.

Origin...

I met my boyfriend in school actually we were in the same department at funnab. We did things together. We were in love and had sex when we feel like it. We planned to get married after school.

Mistake...

I went to a birthday party of one of my close friends, I had three friends and we are like clique.
During the party I got drunk and the guy that took us to the party in his car took advantage of my drunken state and had sex with me and make it look like it is consensual. During the act I know what was happening but was too weak and blurred. I didn't know there was a video recording of the act. When I woke up the guy was no where to be found so I kept it to myself.

Blackmail...

When my guy found out that I cheated on him, he was furious. I denied it initially but when he showed me the sex clip I admitted it but defended myself on the ground that it was rape and not consensual. I summon courage and asked him how did he come up with the sex tape but that he would not answer to. He left that moment and I start feeling that he knows something about the tape and wants to blackmail.

Threat...

He showed up one day at my hostel and threaten to leak the tape online. I begged him profusely not to do that but he said my plea and tears are waste of time. That he will let everyone know the kind of loose lady I am for betraying and cheating on him. That I will regret the day I met him. That I doesn't deserve his love.

Currently...

He is yet to release the clip but may actually do that with what is happening to the Babcock ex student.

What should I do to stop him before he destroys me.

First of all get that guy that had sex with you arrested,its a rape for crying out loud and they are about to black mail you be fast before the out smart you

healthserve:



Maybe others will help

I've vowed to be unhelpful even in the face of death of a Nairalander. Sorry, its all about the game, not you. Don't take it personal.

Alaye keep shurt who your unhelpful and helpful, help

askino:
I have a related issue myself..
she kept denying it was a pregnancy to everyone including me till she later travelled to her people then she was telling me on the phone it was pregnancy..told her as long as she is sure its mine no problems.. in my mind I decided that I will be responsible till I do the DNA to be sure...and if later I find out it Is not mine.. Will simply walk away..counting the expenses as the price for my own errors and if its mine.. will be so much happy that she will start to receive extra care from me..even though I know she can be tricky many times

What is this one saying ,you don't want to father any child, she's hidding the pregnancy for you but she called you and told you. Mr man you are confused

Lexusgs430:
Simply stop driving..........

Abi

RichDad1:

Hope you know he’s a drug dealer ?

So because he's a drug dealer he deserves to die that way. They don't do that in advance country here only in shitoles

SultanOfAbia:
Military Men Use Tramadol To Keep Themselves Agile and Fearless..
There must have been an issue with a soldier OVERDOSING and his colleges find and kill the pharmacist that sold the teamadol to their friend..

Something like that

Uchechiokpara39:
Very necessary....I lost my phone some day back and was able to replace it immediately with the New Spark 4.

Will still go for something more sophisticated. But for now...we manage

So na that spark 4 you they use type this rubbish

TechCapon:
How will you have that kind of money and still be active in crime? Greed is what destroyed this guy, by the time they use BVN to track down all his accounts, I'm sure he won't be worth a dime anymore.

Do you know how many other means you can keep your money without using BVN or Bank account

All of you that's making life harder for us in this country and those of you shouting Sai baba you will not know peace in Jesus Name

mrgreen4real:
They should be expelled not suspended. Their offence is a sign that they are/potential cultists.

Why you no kuku kill them even

majamajic:


the guy just dey start , go listen to his rap in ID cabasa - Totori

No mind all these once way they talk nonsense baba still they drop back to back

MyOleSolksjaer:
ALORA!!!
I refuse to sink!!!!

Keep short. Nor talk waiting you don't know

Jerrick:
That's not weed. It's a cigar and its benson switch

Bad guy you sabi

FreemanTJ:
I'm Confused With The Way Forward With My Relationship And Marriage

2 years ago I met a lady through a colleague. We got really close and became friends, few months later we got intimate and eventually she got pregnant. She was so scared and devastated and pleaded that I not only accept the pregnancy but marry her as well.....her parents are both pastors and she didnt want to bring shame to them by having a child out of wedlock.

The truth is, I wasn't ready for such commitment but I couldn't bear to see her depressed and so devastated, so I succumbed to getting married to her. Within 2 months we had to do a rushed traditional wedding and white wedding but before that I told her I felt trapped and we had an agreement we weren't going to be living together. This was because we both had different apartment at that time and due to proximity to work I wanted to stay on the island while she stayed on the mainland. She's an entrepreneur and since she was pregnant it wasn't going to be easy for her shuttling between island and mainland

She was ok with the agreement and all the while we lived apart. After the wedding I never wore the ring as I never considered myself married. My parents were the only ones that showed up at my wedding, all my sibling were really disappointed.

Anyway, to cut the long story, while I was with this lady before she got pregnant I met a lady at an event and immediately we connected. We would chat for several days and play chess game for long hours. We shared alot of common interest in our profession, games and all. She's not the reading type so I always recommend books for her to read and we reviewed together. After about 3 months of communicating online she asked if I was seeing someone, at that time my wife (it feels odd using the word wife) was pregnant, I stylishly dodged the question but she another she insisted I answered and I just had to confess I had a gf.


She thanked me for telling the truth, we continued playing chess but it wasn't as often. One time we were playing and started teasing sexually, she played along and was surprised I even mentioned anything sexual. Few months after, I got married but never mentioned it to her. I fear I might lose her while going through a marriage I never wanted.
During this period I withdrew from all form of communication, I was trying to figure out my life yet distracted. She kept sending messages on WhatsApp which I ignored until after about 2 months, I responded and she was upset that after connecting so well I suddenly withdrew.
She asked if I had a meltdown or emotional breakdown which I denied. Just told her I was detoxing from social media but I was back for good. So we continued chatting for another 3 months and decided we saw a movie together. After the movie I told her I wanted to see more of her. Eventually after some weeks, I invited her over and we got intimate. It wasn't the best of experience for her as she claims to have been celibate for over a year.

When she got home that night we discussed our sex extensively and she said she has never experienced orgasm and has always had painful. I felt I could change that experience for her. The next time she came over she asked if I truly had a gf since we spend alot of time communicating online, this time around I said I did but due to the distance we had issues and the rship isnt heading anywhere. I knew it was selfish of me but I wasn't ready to let go. After the third attempt she had her 1st orgasm and i could tell she wasn't ready to let go either.

After a while she got suspicious, she would tell me she had a dream of a short black lady chasing her out of my room and I kept reassuring her it was impossible but she kept insisting this dreams were recurring but I kept denying I had a gf or wife. She described my wife perfectly and I just wondered how some people are gifted with the ability to see things in dreams. All through the while she insisted on protection as she couldn't trust me completely. She grew more suspicious daily and I got defensive everytime and this started causing a strain in our relationship.
During this period we were dating and I asked her if she publicizes her rship on social media and she mentioned no, then later she asked me what I was hiding but i got defensive and we had a major argument.

You are a fool, coward ,promiscuous and idioticy is running in your vain kill your self by yourself . You impreginate and still wan impreginate again

Happy birthday babe. Na him some picking way there papa no get one kobo go they come here they pose only there breast come they call am cleavage. Nice and decent pics lovely babe

Myhusband:




Their age together is numbered than your common sense. Who are ya mate here that you're asking foolish question


Be worried about ya life and fvck off on two adult having fun. You can take that ya age to Gtb bank maybe you will see common sense to buy


Nonsense

That's too much for the question

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If you
in didn’t read a thing but just came to read comments gather here

If you can't read an interesting story like this I wonder waiting you wan read for your life

If truly you want to quit you won't tell us before you do that. Audio quiting

Sabby1:
Religion is seriously becoming a problem in this country.

Why on earth will someone lit incense in an airplane

To be sincere, I wonder how some people reason

The pilot should be called to order for not heeding to the initial call

In all honesty, the real people that founded our various religion would be disappointed in majority of us

God help us all

First to comment youth where do you see religion in the post. Incense is to produce fragrance saint and the said person was in the toilet so how does religion comes to mind. Educated illiterate meanwhile you should be lokcked up with the lady

Micholawoye:
Good morning Nairaland family. I have noticed that some pastors will tell unemployed single men to marry and that when they get married and start having kids, that things will begin to get easier for them in life.

Sometimes they say things Luke when you get married, the star of the woman and yours work together to make things easier and give you better things in life.

I used to laugh at this until about a month ago and a pastor I know told me the same thing.
Please how true is this? I need advice from people with such experiences. Pardon my English please.

Thank you and God bless.

Ori Wan loburu

merit1988:
in selfish reasons,u mean? Oh pls,u know nothing much abt me,so don't think I'm one of those golddiggers ur familiar with

Reputable family peleee... That's where the selfishness come from why don't you marry the opposite they probably recommended you guys for each other

kestino:


I wonder o, 23 sick persons, where them come fall put?

Bros I they tell you categorically people in that place are more than thousands I they see them everyday

Bimpe29:

No!
Qur'an never enjoined anything harmful, dangerous and indecent.
Please don't be confused. Islam is peace.
Anything short of peace and goodness is not Islamic.

Abeg nothing like peace don come from Islam before you wan try the heavy Mosque infront of this particular place

Sterope:
That place was raided about 10 years ago. Why did they let the man go?

Na the Baba they there before this one way head am now na the picking horrible plaee I live very close to the place

MrBrownJay1:


families dont want them back, thats why they were brought to these places in the 1st places.... so what is needed is AFFORDABLE rehabilitation center and psychiatric wards to handle these people "properly", and hopefully then, we may see a change... but until then, they will still roam the streets aimlessly after being released from these hell centers.

The fact is many other things are going in this particular place apart from the correctional service or whatever because I stay very close to the place I don't believe they never charmed those parent bringing there wards too because many of them forget them there and all this kids are just normal stubborn kids but when they bring them here they become worst at least have know this particular place for the past 20 years I live very close

seunlayi:


I m confused too even some churches are into this practice which has going on for long. Look at this that just happened, they said they were informed of that location, if you know that place, it is just around 100 meters to ojoo police station and about 200meters to another police station housing the divisional hq. Also, it is just beside the ojoo end of the lagos ibadan expressway. The police can't continue to pretend that they don't know of this, you see them bringing people .That out for punishments, flogging them, prayers, etc daily just beside the road adjacent to them. Now that they feel it is time to arrest, they went there causing commotion, picking up anybody, etc. I expected them to be more civilised in checking this long time practice which I don't support.

"This is a societal problem caused by institutional failure of the state in it's responsibility n religion"
I think that is the place.

It is mark with red
Police station in blue
Police div in green

That place had been in existence for more than 30 years even the present owner is the son to the late Oloore

franchasng:
Black youths are lazy, only very insignificant few are exception


Ask them their excuse for indulging in Yahoo Yahoo and other crime, and watch them blame devil and unemployment....but they forgot that the Europeans and Americans they are running to their countries and also sending SPAM E-mails to scam folded their trousers and worked the soil to build their nations....they created wealth from nothing using their God given talents....

But once a black youth manages to cram books in school and graduates, his next expectation is to get a job in a whiteman's company where he will be paid millions for pressing computer and forming working class....zero creativity, nothing....they can never think of how to build their own company from dust using things available to them to solve the problems and challenges of their society, thereby building an enduring wealth for themselves, they want sharp sharp money so they can start flaunting useless ill-gotten wealth online to attract their stupid black sisters who have no brain except spreading legs for any man that offer them huge money.


Blacks are a shame to human race honestly

White woman sorry ooooo

Na them them

bluediesel03:
What of sendo?

Oh my God. Sendo x

How many people for your village carry there own house go heaven .

Frustration every where

All of you are mad hypocrite why you they follow Olamide if you want moral why not following the like of TB Joshua or Baba Adeboye