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Ayorola:
Hi guys and ladies,

So I've been off this platform for some time now, actually left because I wasn't successful in the GT's recruitment.

Well before I left, I read some messages from peeps giving advices that one can learn Software engineering (tech skills) and get a good job.

Fortunately, I decided to pick up some software skills, fast forward Sha ( with sleepless nights, long hours of coding and applying for software jobs). I got a remote job (last month) that pays a lil above a million every month.

I'm just writing this to encourage y'all. I am really shocked to see that NNPC stalled the recruitment for EH up till now, I'm sure the wait is frustrating. Substantial time and focus that would have been spent doing other productive things is being wasted scrolling through nairaland in expectation of APL news or the likes. I understand.

However, I need to advise someone here, If you have time on your hands, pls pick up a soft skill, it must not be software engineering, it could be video editing, graphics design, data science, data analytics etc.

With access to the right information, you would easily be making a living off these skills. I'm sure this will help someone here.

See y'all later.

CBNwords:
They actually replied me when I contacted them on an issue

akeye81:
I mailed them and they responded.
My school wasn't on the list initially, I had to mail them .

Paramilitary:
Our new office has been completed and delivered to NCDMB. By God grace, we shall enter. (Amen)

SFCommander2:
Enter your email address and password manually. Don't use Google-saved login details.

GraceSmile1:
Check Promotions if you using GMAIL

tintedtaf:
the state and L.G.A didn't come up for mine too but I got dis mail after submitting.

ehiemereawesome:
Interstate ban is lifted by FG....lets be hopeful, PTDF will soon get bk to us

NeekyBerry:
Lol I am a living testimony!!! Got a call confirming my identity, then notification of application status email shortly after, 2 days ago. I don't care what happened, all that matters is it worked in my favor and I'm in! See how I was heartbroken on 14th February not any more
All the best y'all. Ciao.

na2016:
go and read my message again

na2016:
if they conclude it now, who will allow you into those countries? And do you think everyone has been interviewed yet? Why not put your safety first?

ovoP:
I've seen the mail.. Thanks..

Abokii8:
Undergraduate scholars, check your mails!

TheEffective:


Without sentiments, Niger delta is arguably the dumbest region in Nigeria. I have never seen a region full of potentials yet highly unwise, tactically impotent. Full with people who bear European names but archaic in thinking, strategy, and objectivity.

If you feel offended, I owe you no apologies but a request that you think of strategic ways to better your people. The same old play book of gra gra and much ado has not gotten the region anywhere.

If I go full frontal on ND, this thread will burst into flames. Flames of truth anyway.

emeritus007:
Suspended indefinitely.... their response till today

emeritus007:
My Guy, even you sef follow dey reason this matter? well... just chat them up via their whatsapp line. make e no shock you

tunmiluabi:
My story is quite long, please run through with patience.

I married my wife about 11 years ago. By the way I am 46 years old. Before I married my wife, I was not doing well neither was my wife. She was working with a multinational company, earning an equivalent of N40,000. I had a small graphic design business after trying many times to find a good job. I looked for jobs and contracts without any respite. But At this this time, my wife's support was good and I did appreciate every bit of it. At lest we survived on the low...

As time went on, I got a job in one international corporate training company as a Statistics and Business Analysis Instructor, was earning about 90,000 naira. During the times before I got my job, we had accumulated debt and my new job provided us an opportunity to pay them up.

We decided we were going to save part of her salary every month for servicing the debt and save the rest for a rainy day. I was supposed to pay the rent and all other domestic bills, light, kids school fees etc.. Some time she helped with food/groceries. After sometime, she advised we move to a bigger apartment. We still had a daughter by then. I obliged and we did.

To cut the story short, after four years of working, the company folded up because of government policies and we were all laid off. This meant we had to prepare for the hard life ahead. It was hectic and devastating. Me being me, I took it with all sense of grace and hope things will be fine. But the more I thought about this the worse things got. One day out of curiosity I asked my wife if it would be nice to have another child and she advised it was not the best time. I understood and agreed. I then advised my wife if we could start a business and with some savings we had, maybe I could use it to enhance my former business, maybe things might be better this time. She did not show any interest. This time I discovered changes in my wife.

One day she asked me if she could use part of them money to do a course, honestly I was shocked but asked why she did not oblige to my own request. She said "its my money I can use it for whatever I want". My wife however did the course.

To cut the story short, 3 years down the line, my wife stopped having sex with me and this continued for a long time. I became like "shit in her eyes". I lost a bit of confidence though. she would wake me with insults and barrage of dirty words. Because of our child, I agreed to stay a home and try to work online and seek clients and jobs from old client. It was not bad but not promising.

Fortunately for us, my wife got a promotion and her salary was increased to about 170,000. This actually brought out the worst in my wife. Her calmness disappeared and all decorum was buried. We would quarrel everyday and not talk for weeks. She became really mean and controlled everything at home. Please note, she is not a bad woman but can't explain the reasons up till date. I was with no option but to query her sincerity as a wife and that continued for a long time. Our sex life became zero, she would tell me having sex would make her pregnant and was not ready for a second child. Her stories kept on changing and became even worse, rather than coming home she would pass by her mom and be there till late in the night before coming home.

After about 3 years of trying to get something to do, I finally got a place on the island sometime in February 2018, where I would be paid a stipend of 50,000. In addition, I would use my free time to design, print and sell business cards to small companies. The overall income was small but enough for some immediate obligations at home. But to be fair, that was the best I could get since I have not had money in a long time. Unfortunately my wages were not consistent due to challenges the company was facing. But I used the Business card printing to augment wherever possible.

Later in 2018 around September, I discovered that my wife had been having an illicit engagement. She had a male fried and I finally got to know about it and confronted her. She did not deny it, she begged and I forgave her. Anyway, I had made up my mind to forgive because of the kid and I never told anyone till date. Moreover, since we were not making love that was of course enough reason for the drastic measure, I told myself. To be sincere I had lost feeling for my wife and sex was difficult. We finally started having sex but I had little to offer her. I would pretend and even have to watch Indecency to be able to have sex with her. I was dead inside. At least my wife was still with me. That was my solace. I guess trust was broken. She however continued with her escapades. The quarrels increased and got worse. There and then name calling became our breakfast and dinner. She advised that since I would never look at her the same and bringing little or nothing to the table that I was free to go. The quarrels went on for quite some time, my wife will go very violent on me some of the times. I am marshal artist with black belt and I have great restraint - for me, fighting and going violent on her was never on the table. One day I thought there was a need to move out and I did indicated to her that I was not comfortable living with her anymore.. That wherever I am, I will see how I can take care of the kids.

She did not care and things became difficult for me. I felt maybe I could stay for sometime, It might be a difficult condition but still not impossible. This became my Achilles heels. There and then I knew my relationship had broken and irreparable. I accepted there was nothing I could, but to be patient and tried to convince myself about our situations and believed our situation was bad, but God’s willing we would overcome. The fight even got worse and became very violent and physical, I would normally just take the beating or hold her hands to avoid any injuries.

The quarrels was beginning to be in the glare of my Kids and since it was not abating, there was little I could do to change the situation. I finally made up my mind on the 19th of May 2019 to move out, but actually moved out on the 30th of May, 2019. Before then on the 26th of May, 2019, I discovered my wife was again engaging in the illicit affair. She would claim she was going to church only to be found at a different location. Honestly I can’t blame her, I blame myself and the situation that caused the demise of our once cherished marriage. At this point in time I realised I had lost and had no fight in me anymore. My kids are still very young. Everyday quarrels, lack of sincere engagement, denials upon denials and her fear of facing her “DEMON” with little chance of her understanding the consequence of her actions - I was left with no choice but to stop FIGHTING. I had no fight left in me. The ultimate decision was to leave. I did not inform her parent about the issue because I had indicated to her I did not want them to look at her differently.

God so good, I got a 500,000 Naira job through a friend in an oil company with a 3bedroon in Lekki fully paid up for 3years by the company. By the way, I am Data Analyst but never practiced for a long time. I studied Computer engineering but for a long time grace did not smile on me. I take care of my kid and I really don't hate her and I am at peace with everything. She still has her job and doing well.

Please note that she did not tell me to leave, I left on my own volition. I could not share the same bed with my wife anymore she apparently could not muster enough strength to stop all iniquities for a conversation that will help see things through. Rather she is turning to blame it on me. We have however resolved to part on a friendly note for the sake of our child.

My reason for posting this is because most us sit behind the desk and computers and do not understood the demons everyone is battling. On a bad day, the best husbands are MONSTER, while the best wives are DEVILS. When we make judgment as males or female. We should not forget about our female child/children, same goes for the male child. I don't know what my wife tells people about what happened but I really don't care and I have made up my mind never to defend myself.

Thanks for reading.

Tunmi

emeritus007:
Hehehe... My guy wan vex. List or mail usually comes at night sha... sometimes past 10pm sef

ehiemereawesome:
The truth is that an email has been sent already... Their response didn't change.. Still insisting.
The first installment is over a million naira... If there was a million naira to pay as installment , will there be need to even pursue this scholarship.
Meanwhile the course is robotics and control system

ehiemereawesome:
There is a problem with someone's admission in Ecole Central De Nantes in France. He's got the admission bt the school insists he pays the first installment of his fees on or before June 15th ....how is that even possible considering the fact that Ptdf has not even brought out list, talk more of processing the scholarship for successful candidates

ehiemereawesome:
Someone just got an admission in Ecole Central De Nantes in France, and they are talking about fees, travels and visa....

Alpheziz:
I didn't say ptdf might release names.. They WILL release names 14th for Msc...I don't have any concrete info for that me Phd...