₦airaland Forum

This is why it is good for ladies to go for men who are helplessly in love with them. If you're with a man who is in love with you, you don't need to bother about Geh Geh ' s teaching. The guy would even be begging to simp for you.

That's why sex should be passionate and not just with anyone. When you make love to her and not just f@ck, the feeling is really mind-blowing.

BraniacX:
you can love your wife after marriage, I'm not disagreeing with that, I'm only saying the decision of who to marry as a man shouldn't be based purely on love as it leads to choosing the wrong partner for marriage most of the time, matter of fact you're better of with a woman who loves you more than you love her, unless you are one of those unlucky men who only had one choice of partner

And I'm trying to let you know that a woman's so called love is not enough to marry her because it is short-lived compared to a man's love. Men's love come with responsibilities and this is what keeps the marriage going.

Personally, I can't marry a lady I don't love. I must be deeply in love with her because it'll help me carry the family with my full chest. All I expect from her is to respect and be submissive to me. Also, there has to be some level of mutual attraction between us to even come together in the first place. Over the years, marriages and societies had been built on men's love for their wives and that has ensured stability in our families.

BraniacX:
You want to make sense of it?
Don't!
It was never meant to make sense, affairs of the heart Don't follow logic, know this and know peace, for a relationship, as a man you must imprison your emotions and feelings when making a choice for a partner, that is why unlike women, we are more logical beings, get a lists of wants that aren't associated with aesthetics, pick the girl that ticks most of that list. If you don't, if you go with your feelings, when the novelty and the sparkle fades of, na you go cry, marriage used to be a business arrangement between families, some modicum of that should be brought back

This also goes both ways, and in fact, the feeling of "love" by women fades more quickly when she starts having kids and this has to do with hormones. On the other hand, a man's love sustains marriage more because it is real! The biblical injunction for men to love their wives and for women to submit to their husbands wasn't just written for the sake of writing, rather it was written because God himself, being omniscient, knew that a man's love is what would sustain the institution of marriage just like the Christ's love sustains the church.

What I can deduce from this news is that the DSS left the criminals who carried out the attacks and started arresting community members whose only offence was that they tried to protect themselves from total annihilation by the rampaging Fulani bandits.

I'm in the same boat right now but I've got to maintain steez to guard my heart against heartbreak. I've observed that expressing how deeply you love a lady somehow makes her wanna stress you and you might even end up losing her.

However, there's need to maintain balance in order not to give her the impression that you don't care about her. Girls should understand that a guy not calling or texting all the time doesn't mean we love them less. It's just a survival strategy to avoid heartbreak. I can only fully show her love when I have married her.

The rate at which people are birthing female kids these days ehn. Nigeria might soon become a female -only nation!

If a lady marries a man that genuinely loves her, she doesn't need to worry about geh geh's advice. The man would happily simp for her and never complain. This is why I advise ladies to marry the man who is madly in love with them.

Fenrir:
No, if this is true and makes a measly 600,000 naira what he should be doing is putting 60,000-120,000 naira into savings for his familys future

Then giving his wife exactly half of whats left and anything after housekeeping is hers

He married her, so take care of her and stop pretending women are greedy

There is literally is no such thing as a gold digger or greedy woman

All women cost money even women you think are low maintenance are expensive to some men

Just pick one that can live within your means, be happy and do right by her

You're right. I'll do same for a lady I love

35k is too small for a family of 5 in a month!

Even as a single guy, I spend more than that per month. So, increase the amount you give to your wife. Since you earn up to 600k, give your 150k every month for your family's upkeep.

Gerrard59:
This is especially true as their male contemporaries are making good money at an early age. Since women are hypergamous, isn't it better to be with someone within your age range that has money than with someone way older who has similar financial stability?

The notion that a man is the prize only works when the man has money. Younger dudes also have money. So, what does the older man bring to the table? Preek wey no fit stand without drugs?

Not every older man experiences er.ectile dysfunction! There are healthy men even in their 60s who still retain natural e.rection without using drugs. Some of you just assume that once a man reaches certain age, he ceases to achieve e.rection. That's fallacious!

The part that caught my attention is where she said "where would ₦50,000 take me to in Abuja from Asaba". Like seriously? Even with the increased cost of transportation, ₦50,000 would take her to any part of Abuja from Asaba and she'll still have some change left.

No need hiding your age as a guy. Men get better with age! They are more loving, tolerant, and more financially stable as they age. This is why smart girls marry older men who would give them the BABY GIRL treatment unlike their age mates who see them as rivals.

It is difficult for older guys to divorce their younger wives because they're more gentle and forgiving such that they easily overlook and forgive their wives' shortcomings which makes the marriage more stable.

DIVINEEVIDENCE:
Your scripture interpretation is wrong.

You won't be commanded to do something if its so easy and so natural.

For men to be commanded to love their wives, it means they're being encouraged to do so in spite of what they feel or think.

A sensible man marries a woman that's deeply into him.
She'll do everything to please him and would never undermine his authority.

What's more, she'll be all wet for him in the other room and his scent, voice, presence and mannerisms would be her fond memories.

Unfortunately, many men marry the women they admire and even before marriage, have already trained her to snub and disrespect him during chasing and wooing stage.

These are the men who complain of sexual starvation and who tolerate sh*ts daily, who handle 'mood swings' and satisfy funny pregnancy cravings for peace to reign.

Most of them are social media family counselors.
I laugh when I read some of their accounts of their day as a family.

Simps all over the place.

Your problem is that you fail to separate attraction from real love! Attraction is fleeting and does not sustain a lifelong relationship like marriage. You must be naive to think that because a lady got attracted to your body she'll remain in that state of attraction for long! Once you both start living together, "see finish" will come in just after a short while and attraction would reduce drastically. In fact, she might even start finding you unattractive.

That's life for you. It happens to me also.

But even the bible says " men, love your wives like Christ loves the church" and " women, submit to your husbands". This goes to show that men are required to go after the woman they love and not the other way round. This is so because the responsibilities marriage places on a man takes so much love from the man to his wife to carry out.

Therefore, the man must be completely in love with his wife in order for the marriage to succeed. A lady shouldn't be the one chasing after a man's love! She'll get exhausted easily and trouble would set in. Even in biology, the man is represented by a figure bent towards the direction of the woman. So, women, show all the green lights you want but try and marry a guy who is helplessly in love with you! You'll enjoy marriage that way.

The private sector in Nigeria generally treat their employees like slaves and pay them peanuts. This reflects how wicked an average Nigerian private -sector employer can be!

What many of these private employers do is that they milk their staff dry by overworking them while living flamboyant lifestyles with their families. They all want to ride the biggest cars in town, buy houses everywhere, send their own children abroad for studies all at the expense of their helpless employees!

This problem is not only peculiar to private schools but also private and missionary hospitals etc. Imagine some private and missionary hospitals entrusting the lives of their patients to a poorly paid and demoralised workforce! No wonder death rate is on the rise in our hospitals nowadays because the biting economy of Nigeria has made life hellish for Nigerian health workers. No wonder everybody wants to "Japa".

It's too bad!

That's a great speech there!

The likes of Julius Malema gives me hope that all South Africans are not barbarians like the xenophobic ones!

Please serve him some fresh palm wine and specially prepared abacha.

If the boy is so weak to the extent of being overpowered and tied up by his father, was his mouth also sealed? Why couldn't he shout for help all these years? This news is very annoying! That father from hell needs to be given a taste of his own medicine

That's white girls for you!

Most of them look beyond physical appearance but consider a guy's intellect unlike our shallow-minded ladies. If the guy come fine (like us *winks*), na bonus be that.

wirinet:
And why would he be obliged to do that, especially if he is capable of bearing his own children. Would that not create complications if he decides to marry and start beating his own children? Would that not complicate the relationship between his ex-wife and the child? Why must the man always compromise his peace of mind and happiness, even if he is the victim?

It is not like he has an obligation to do that. He can do it on compassionate grounds, after all, people still adopt kids born by others.

fabolouz1:
people sit in their houses and form all sort of statistics and the gullible world swallow it hook line and sinker.

The information is very correct! Nigeria is the worst country to work in.

Poor wages, rights infringement and in fact, slavery!

WelcomeToBiafra:
If na 70 years old white woman from Europe bruhx for accept asap...

African women should be allowed and encourage to propose to whom they love...

Nobody is stopping African women from proposing to who they "love"! The question is; can they deal with rejection the way guys have been doing? Imagine this one crying because her proposal was rejected!

Again, can they foot the bills of their wedding and also cater for the financial needs of the family? It is not just proposing marriage but meeting the financial requirements of marriage.

Shame on those that watched that child nearly starve to death!

This is a very big disgrace not only to the parents but to AkwaIbom state government, Nigeria and Africa at large!

xtianchris:
Hahaha 🤣😂 . You just getting matured.. you becoming a MAN Change is constant. Enjoy your transition...
But honestly those girls you broke their heart you need to clean those energies if not they Will come back to hunt you ..
Keep it clean with honesty.

Stop typing gibberish! Nothing like those girls he broke their hearts coming to hunt him!

Heartbreaks happen both ways! Imagine a situation where all the women start getting hunted by all the guys they broke their hearts and vice versa. Does that make sense to you?

tunde1200:
Talk and Amie sense out of it.
Leave government alone and develop yourself.

Very senseless comment! Because your tribesman is the president you're now telling people to leave government alone A failed government that has impoverished millions of Nigeria!

I'm very sure that that figure of there is exaggerated and not a reflection of the reality.

What Taribo West is simply saying is that government should not allow those who have performed heroic tasks for the nation to die as nobodies! Doing that would deter others from being patriotic to the country!

Even if it means setting aside some funds from their salaries to be paid as pensions when they retire from active football. It is worthwhile

saphiere:
With a good lawyer this lady can win. Prostituion is illegal. That man can be jailed.

Going by your one-sided thinking! Where is it stated that the lady's visit to him was intended for prostitution? Even if it was, wouldn't it rather get her into bigger trouble

wirinet:
So how would that work? Would the man still be responsible for the cheating and fraudulent wife along with her child?
Men dey suffer for this world.

The man might decide to adopt the child even if he decides not to take the wife back. He can still be caring for the child from afar especially if the biological father didn't show up.

Why pay attention to her She's free to date any race she wants. However, many of them black ladies only dream about getting hooked with white men. In real life, they don't because most white men don't find them attractive!

There are more white women getting hooked with black men than the other way round. So, the best thing is to ignore ladies like her and allow her wallow in her fantasy world until reality hits her hard.

South Africans are the real definition of evil! Very backward people with very poor mentality!

I wish the rest of the world would begin to sanction South Africa for oppressing foreigners leaving in their country. Those guys really need to be isolated from the rest of the world!

Very backward people!

Kewtt:
Strongly vigorously and vehemently supported.

But I still wonder why bro jay jay Okocha is hawking betting company as his contribution to humanity

Leave Okocha alone! He has paid his dues to humanity! Strive to pay yours

The guy did well for not allowing himself get cajoled into marriage! A man should be the one to propose marriage when he's ready. It shouldn't be the other way round.

Regardless how much a lady claims to "love" you, never accept marriage proposal from her because when you get married to her, the so called love would clear from her eyes and she'll start expecting you to carry the family responsibilities which you are not ready for. The society would not care who proposed to who at that time but would shame you for being a useless Papa ajasco.