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coolviv:
It's good they accused him even when they could not follow through. Now all eyes are on him and the school while parents are now more vigilant. Don't pray that u r loved one experiences this situation as keeping mute or going to NGOS would not even come to mind. Just murder...

Have you ever heard of slander? Or didn't you know when you accuse someone of committing a crime he didn't commit is a crime itself?

For the fact that they couldn't follow through shows that their accusation lacks merit. Plain and simple.

coolviv:
Guy reason am na....The girl and her mother could not come forward most likely because of the stigma on the young girl's life...and nobody else came forward most likely for the same reason so the guy had to be acquitted not because he is innocent but because there were no witnesses to prove him guilty.

Then, why did they accuse him in the first place, if they were afraid of the girl being stigmatize, then they should have kept mute and took her for counseling.

But since they came out and accused him openly, then they should see it, through and through, after all, there are NGO's who are skilled in the area of helping girls like her who experience this sort of thing.

Godmother:
Each woman is different. I don't know about all pregnant women, but for most you become so cold to sex and even dread it and its usually the last thing on your mind.

Oh yeah. But from what I've heard, it seem a certainty that most pregnant women are usually Hot.

But you guys saying she'll remain this way for 9 months makes it sound all far fetched.

https://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20060921120959AAycQSE

D2diff:
It takes a weak-willed person to appreciate GOT

How's incarceration going for you, dar2differ, doveda, daretodiffer, akike? Now its D2diff.

Godmother:
Chai, this just explains it all. Its like your whole body is under attack and the last thing on your mind is sex. Just give her time and be patient and things will go back to normal.

That dude that suggested mouth action, just wait until you get married then bring this up with your pregnant wife. The upper cut she will land you will leave you dazed for days.

So you're saying her whole body will be under attack for a whole 9 months? wow!

But I've heard many people say pregnant women are always Hot, if this is true, why is she refusing him?...

Ishilove:
Stop having kids outside wedlock, op. Where I come from kids outside wedlock have no stake in inheritance.

That aside, give him what he wants because as someone pointed out, there's no age limit in education.

And where will that be?

Now if I was the teacher, this will be the perfect time to accuse some idiots for slander. All those who took to social media to vent their un confirmed anger towards this man should swallow their shame.

I just believe that the Ministry of Education did a very good job in investigating this incident through and through, because if not, all the vitriolic invectives thrown at this man would have made some senseless NGO sue him to court for a crime he did not commit, or...

Tolexander:
The teacher na incubus?

LOL.

Ishilove:
You get mouth like nuclear bomb. When you get there you will remember what Ishi told you

Nna forget that thing. When I get there nothing like this will happen, because for one, I'll never get married to someone who isn't proud of her sexuality, just like I am.

Ishilove:
Stop denying me in public

Deny you ke? Have you broken up with postmann?

Ishilove:
Oga, when you marry you will know that it's easier said than done

As I never even marry its easier said than done, when I marry e go be easiest said than done dada. abi you don forget say I'm easy like Sunday morning?

byvan03:
It's simple, try the perfect western women.

I'm still an admirer of nigerian women.

Ishilove:
Joseph1832, I now know why you have never invited me to your parents house. You wanted to chop and clean mouth abi?

https://25.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_mamo8bBjXP1qfmwi0o1_500.gif

I never knew we were dating.

lanicky:
Dried pepper is cheaper than fresh red pepper. A dozen of dried pepper is 100 naira, and it's enough to make a soup when you add #100 fresh tomatoes with enough onions.
I love the taste when grinded with fresh onions. Infact, it's not necessary to add fresh tomatoes or tomato paste with it if you want to make a sauce.

You can use as many onions as possible (atleast onion is very cheap in the market. It's just 70 naira per dozen if you really know how to price things)

While

The smallest size bowl of fresh pepper is #100, and you will hardly find 15 fresh peppers in the bowl. Which is not enough to make a better soup.


•Lafun is cheaper than elubo dudu...so it's better to eat it for now till the economy gets better.

So between Banga soup and Egusi soup, which is cheaper?

skarlett:
Nice sense of humour

Just trying to see how its like being some people here.

Ngokafor:
...boohoohoo!!...Nigerian women this,Nigerian wome that..cry cry babies.
..Una never start...body go tell una soon.

Em, hope I didn't touch a nerve? Lol.

The question I'll like to ask PMB is, when will we see those accused of sharing our common wealth convicted, and sentenced to jail? Its going to a year now and they're still in court.

PreciousBro:
I don't have to have encountered such before i have a sense of awareness. I am not the oblivious alien and yes, what if i have experienced such women ? Isn't that the point that authenticates my claim ?

Lets face it,the meagre few who are exceptions to this backridden disposition are infinitesimal to add value lol

LOL. I see what you mean. Have you wonder why most of them send so much time in churches, sowing seeds to get husbands and buying vehicles for their pastors?

hahn:
How is the ministry going to pay it back? Are they going to make profit on the trip?

Now that is the question.

Smellymouth:
Most of my life.. old man got transferred to lagos from KD back den in 1998..

I left OJO immediately after my Waec in 2002.

Too much ruggedity

But even if u leave Barracks, Barracks nor fit leave you

What about you? Back den, I had friends at NAF, Ikeja.. na una get softness and swaggs

Shout out to all d Barracks dude, na we be "BARRACK OBAMA

Oh boy, I left NAF base 1998 after my old man retired. But I still frequent Base cos I have friend whom we grew up together as soldiers, who now live there. You no say man no fit deny him roots. Lol.

NAF boiz and swagg, so tey we even dey enter Cantonment dey collect their babes from their boiz hand.

Smellymouth:
Yes boss! Tuale baba.. I rep KD Barracks and OJO Barracks..

You can't grow up in d Barracks qnd not be witty

Yes oh. Barrack smartness get sense pass street smartness. How long you stay for barrack?

Smellymouth:
Yes nao.. I rep KD, I rep OJO Barracks,lagos 1998-2003

Ah, so you sef na barrack boi? Wow!. I rep NAF Base Ikeja.

PreciousBro:
The only problem i have with the average Nigerian woman is her innate ability to always have a misconception of "INDEPENDENCE".... Yes many nigerian women arent Independent at all to huge faults...Some see being independent as only alluding to fiscal factors.

They lack that independent "will or force that propels free-will hence their dearth of the human fundamental propensity to relate at ease without having derailed thought process and defensive-ism. They are being held down by the weight of their own self deprivation and timidity.

Interpersonal dysfuntionality who would'nt say boo to a goose lol Imbalanced or shaky self esteem, lack of confidence etc

Always blaming society, men and all as if society stopped them from going to school, wearing jean pants and boots with lips stick redder than the sea Moses crossed, Society didnt stop them from driving and owing cars o, neither did it stop them from occupying all sectors of jobs yet their money is theirs alone and any attempt at sharing with you is a cat and dog fight.

A typical 9ja woman cant woo you because she cares of what "you or the society" might think ,neither does she financially supports you without shamming you or throwing shades of all derogatory words to strip you off of all shreds of masculinity in you.

They have a long way to go to measure with members of their gender in foriegn grounds of same race not to mention white women..

Now I couldn't have said it better. Seem you'd had much experience dealing with women of such?

lezz:
The average Nigerian woman hasn't married her Cinderella aspirations and modern feminism to her everyday reality.

She's a breathing bag of confusion.

LMFAO.

Shout out to jadekitana for the inspiration.

Dear nigerian women,

I trust and believe I find you in very warm spirit and I sincerely, bring good tiding, from the warmest part of my very tender heart.

I write to you today because there are a few things you do, and most often, say, which I find amazing (euphemism intended) and at the same time, intriguing.

Since the 'oil boom' of social media, you have done nothing more than paint us (nigerian men) black. You come on social media and say all kinds of things about us, how we cheat, lie, beat, molest, steal, and oppress you etc...

Today, I want to inform you that most of the things you say we do to you, is as a result of the way you made yourself look to us and society at large, thus, you are the cause of it.

My nigerian women, lemme tell you this, because one man cheated on you doesn't mean, every other man out there is a cheat. You should desist from saying and believing this, it does not tell well of you, but rather, makes you look/sound vengeful.

You should know, we men have emotions and feelings too, we get hurt, we sulk, and believe me when I tell you 'we' cry, yes believe me. Which human being won't cry when his/her emotions are played with like a barbie doll?. You see, physical pain heals, but emotional pain lasts for almost forever, and sometimes, it even causes trauma, which I know you know, lingers...

I tell you this, which you do more often than not, that when you tell a guy no when he asks you out, you feel all good and fly about it, saying the guy isn't your type and other amazing things, but when a guy tell you no when you show or give him the green light, you get angry and call him all sort of names, that even your mother will be ashamed to hear. Tell me, is this fair?.

Also, you end a relationship with a guy and tell him you want to be friends with him, he accepts, and friends you become, you then go ahead to add insult to his face by asking him for valid advice when another guy is asking you out? And also telling him the number of guys who spoil you with gifts and what have you. You tell me, if it was you at the receiving end, how will you react?

I'll have you know this, that you, my nigerian women, are mainly the cause of almost all your problems. Your belief in accepting things at face value put you where you are today. Lemme give you a few examples:

• Many a time you often say you want to get married to a God fearing man, and you believe the best way or place to find a God fearing man, is a church. Now this is so very wrong. The contemporary church is a place full of men who are hypocrites, and their hypocrisy is what they use to deceive you.

I will let you in on a little secret, the best place to find a God fearing man is his father's house (not heaven) his biological father's house, because in his father's house, there is no hypocrisy, or faking nor pretending, you see the man for who and what he really is. That's why if you're dating a man, and he has never for once mentioned his parents or even invited you to visit his parents, know that he's not serious with you.

• Know this also, any man who cheated on you when you dated him, may still cheat on you when you're married to him. People change, no doubt about it, but people only change when they have good reason to.

If a man loves to philander for the fun of it, when he marries you, there's nothing stopping him from continuing what he loves doing. Its just like a man who loves watching football, and you expect him to stop watching football when he marries you? It doesn't work that way. So, you either accept him for who he is, or don't accept him for who he is. You can not eat your cake and have it.

My dearest nigerian women, I have much more to say, but I'll leave you with the above for the time being, hoping you would read, and digest it very well because the nigerian man, know you very well, and he knows what to do and what to say to get you.

Your accepting things at face value, your love for money, your love for material things, your love for having a perfect man (despite knowing there is no such person) and your amusing penchant for always wanting to eat your cake and have it, makes you an easy prey for the nigerian man, and believe me you, he will prey on you! and he will feel good about it, trust me, I'm a man, I know.

So, always remember, things are not what it seem, for even when it seem good, it might not be good. That's why the christian Bible say "Watch and pray" in Matthew 26:41, but many of you pray and you never watch.

Till I write you very soon, goodbye and take care of you, and know this, that without you, there will be no us.

Rocktation:
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Well done. I just say make I greet you.

Favolly:

PresVA:
You're right. . Those ones don't understand who a leader is especially as it concerns the family setting. ..

Marry your friend and lover.... and you wouldn't feel dominated or whatsoever. Both of you just flow... it's well...

All said and done.

PresVA:
@bolded word....Exactly, what I'm talking about.. it lies mostly on the men(fathers) to either collect or reject bride price .. I doubt if your mum would have had the power to return the brideprice

The bride price is not for my mum (women) so why should she return it? Lol.

My husband being the head doesn't make me the 'tail' as you put it... I'm a christian hence I subscribe to headship as directed by Christ... it doesn't mean we don't function as one, infact we live like siblings. ..
Also, for a group to function effectively, there must be some kinda leadership, like someone who calls the shots, this he does with others' interests at heart too...

My idea of husbands' headship is entirely different from master-slave relationship. ..

I'm not saying it makes you the tail, I'm only saying such role as head of the family usually subject the woman to being dominated.

Leadership doesn't equate the super imposition of who is head, and who is tail, or who is in the middle. It equates the first of the first: Selflessness How many men of today to be selfless towards their wife's and kids, how many men today will put their wive first before them?.

PresVA:
You're a clown ... Can we also say that women who sponsor their weddings own their husbands

The right question should be what is the proportion of men who sponsor their wedding, to that of women who sponsor their wedding? But still I don't subscribe to the believe that whoever sponsors the wedding owns the one who doesn't. That's just wrong!.

Talk about bride price, who fixes the amount Who collects the money when paid No be men?
You men are the one that fix and collect bride price, so why complain? Also, For bride price to be scrapped, men (the elders) must be in support ...

So why all this fuss about bride price as if na d woman dey chop d money

I believe you know the issue of bride price is fixed by the wife's parents? And they in turn own the money.

However, I'll tell you that when my sisters got married, the amount my parents collected was N10,000 and my dad, in everybody's presence, returned the money to there husbands. Each time, my father's words were "My daughter is not for sale".

if you say men are the head of the home, I agree..or say couple own each other as a virtue of the marriage institution, I agree too... not the property-owner thingy you just described...

In a family I don't believe in the need to identify one as head, and another as tail! To me, what matter is the notion that "we are one" and we function as one indivisible unit, united as one and with one goal.

Better still, I will even say they both have 'bought' each other life

Or may be I'm talking too much.

bukatyne:
Everyone welcome to the thread.

Cc: Mind fulness, thorip do, jo esph1832, shayebaby, cre amish, Pr esVa, MR BrownJ

So far, we are all of one school of thought: no rigid role division and we pick up things as they come up.

What about families that believe in strict role division?

Then such family will have themselves condescending to the negative effects of societal norms and religious doctrines, and the negative effects is what is contributing to the high divorce rate in the country.

skarlett:
I can

Oh really. Oya, how much does it cost to cook a pot of bitter leaf soup. Let's see how well you know your kitchen, unlike the OP

Zidjay:
Me haff been cooking with dried pepper (It's expensive now, but way better) since the epileptic market price of fresh pepper and tomato. I don't even know how much dey sell tomato. Wetin concern me . And everyone in the house can attest to the sweet difference.

The emboldened bear testament that negates the essence of this thread. Since the OP said cheap, and you attest that it is no longer cheap but way better attest to this.

Also, 50 Naira tomatoes is now a proper joke, I don't even want to talk to how much a basket of tomatoes is, talk less of Tatashe and Atarodo.

Lafun sef don cost o... But it's a good substitute for elubo dudu.
We have swapped ogbono for egusi. Ogbono is now expensive!

Bro, I'm sure you know a derica of (hand break) egusi which was N400 is now almost going for N500, half a derica of egusi is now almost N250. This is just the tip of the iceberg oh. Lafun too is now cost. Ogbono is a no go area.

Things are now so expensive, the OP should have included the price of the meals she mentioned. I'm sure she knows if she included it she'll be astound to find out that even she can't afford it. Lol.