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noblegrex:
I can't believe that,the facts speaks for itself.you that cannot stick with a man that has 'nothing' why will you stick with him when things go wrong after he's made it.one thing you ladies don't understand now is that,a well to do guy will always go for a well to do girl. So,register your name now with that future president or business man that's still hustling,cos you might not have that chance when the time comes.be wise don't be smart.

What makes u feel I'm not well to do? When I say my vows ill definitely mean it. As long as he was a good husband when the going was good, I'll stick it out with him

noblegrex:
are flashy girls not there to be married.when God created eve,she was flashy,sexy,beautiful with nice stature and marry the mother of JESUS is very beatiful too,cos I can see all the pics used in representing them so beautiful.so,God created everything and twas good,so beautiful.flashy girls are meant to b married and not figure head.money is good no1 loves suffering but love is equaly important.the only way you can be sure that a lady loves u,is when you had nothing not when you have everything.even God do test our love for him,just to tell you how important LOVE is.

I will not marry a guy who has nothing. I will not also leave if he loses everything cos I will love the man I marry

noblegrex:
for where,where was the good girl when I was hustling to survive or make ends meet.so she sudenly became a good girl when everything is rosy forgoten that by that time,there will b so many good girls and even more beautiful.

Ur funny sha. Where was she eh? Maybe u were just focused on the flashy gals. Maybe u were focusing on beauty and good sex alone. Maybe u weren't destined to meet her while still struggling. The fact that a girl likes you when ur already made does not make her a gold digger.quote author=tonychristopher po
You had a good training and pls transfer this to your mentality
No man sees such a woman like you and looks the other
We know the wife materials and you are one
Anya ka eji ama oka kala aka
It is well with you. Life is all about support
No man loves a woman that brings nothing to the table
A woman should be a helper and nowbtge bread winner
You are a decent young woman
Pls keep it up
Ada malu mma[/quote]

wristbangle:
Lol. Babe I know what you have at the back of your mind is to settle for ready made guy but to be candid what happens if he go broke in future. Meanwhile saying who will help u struggle, I mean u can't compare guys hustle to that of ladies.

If he goes broke in future, that's different thing. I'll def stick it out with him as long as he's trying to do something about it

vitus101:
What happened to ' Behind every successful man, there's a woman' ?? Stand by that guy, help him become the man you want. Most of these broke guys are hardworking and industrious. All they need is a lil push.. Help him and you 2 can live happily ever after... Fairy tale style..lol

Abeg everyone should struggle by themselves and for themselves. Who go cone help us struggle? Abi we no get our own lives to live?

Dating a broke guy? Been there, done that. Not even a single 100 naira airtime to show for it.
Will I do it again? Hell nah! Who likes suffering?

It's not as if being broke makes these dudes more loyal sef. Msstcheeewwww. If ur not comfortable to a certain extent, a good job or business and decent apartment, abeg carry your marriage proposal dey go.

After all when my dad married my mum, he had a a house and a car. And I must do better than my parents sef.

At age 30, No car, dry account, no job not to talk of better apartment, and you want a girl to love you for who you are. Abeg BROS, who are you? Develop yourself before thinking of marriage.

noblegrex:
well,its ok no probs.but after making my money,no lady should tell me not to enjoy my money with other lady or whatever I want to do with my money.its even a good thing cos she won't start telling stories when things go wrong cos she doesn't even know how I got my money no p.its Gona b 50-50 she shouldn't xpect the love

You might just end up losing a good girl with this mentality.

Ontarget:
Why must the guys always be the rich ones in the relationship and ladies always there to be a parasite? Why can't it be the other way round sometimes. Ladies being the rich ones and helping out her guy. Must ladies always be leeches?

So u want to be a leech?

sunnyt1:
There is this general knowledge that women hate each other, i dont know how true that is.

The truth is the issue comes from the DIL most times, 80% of the times. Its good to put yourselves in the MIL's shoe. Most modern day ladies expect their husbands to face them 100% without caring about how he takes care of his family.

Let me use myself as a case study: i am the 1st born, the only son, i have 6 sisters, my mum gave me a life, she gave me education, for my own sake she gave up her convinience, now i am fairly comfortable, i gave a sweet job. Now imagine how much i am indepted to my mum and sisters.

If i get married and my wife expects me to face her alone, isnt she asking for trouble?

And for those ladies who pray their MIL is dead before they even meet the man, You are inviting curse on yourself, do you kow what it means to eat the fruit of ones labour.

In a nut shell, its always about the MIL thinking the DIL is not making them enjoy their son or the DIL thinking the MIL is not making her enjoy the husband.

The guy should pray and learn how to balance the metre rule anyway

What was ur father doing when ur mom was doing all these things?

Toks2008:
Oh i see, no wonder...

Na only that one u see. I know say e dey pepper u for body

Toks2008:
If you are married just pray you do not catch your hubby cheating on you BUR if that happens just come back and read this thread again.

I have no need for this thread. Your views on men's infidelity in marriage irritates me.

Maybe you can visit this thread in future if and when you catch ur wife cheating

Na no. 4 sure pass o. I know of someone wwho husband was a chronic cheat. She prayed o, begged o every every. One day she told him to his face that th days of her being faithful are over. Now na she dey do pass the man. The man has begged, threatened, reported her. For where? He can't chase her out as she contributed to the building of the house. Now the man don mellow but the woman's own just dey start

Toks2008:
Im sorry i have edited and number 4 is now number five and i muust say you are likely not to have issues in your marriage with this reasonable mindset.

I have conseled many married ladies and 8 out of 10 issues bothers on the sexual infidelity of the man and after i finish talking to them they tend to realize the truth.

No man is worth your stress and while we know there are men who will not cheat on their wives,there is usually no stamp on their heads that they will be faithful.

My write ups are usually deep and very hard for the immature at heart to decipher. I believe if every lady can care less as difficult as it may sound and ignore a philandering hubby,the happier they will be.

My advice for the guy who have decided to tow this lane is to respect the wife n do it far far away and also use a protection to reduce the chance of bringing home sti to the woman at home.

Most men are not nterested in having you leave for another lady but they just want to have a taste of any emotionally vulnulrable lady who brings herself so cheaply to share another lady hubby but wen you start making trouble wiith him and trying to prevent him from unleashing his passion,that is when trouble starts.

A good guy can turn bad and a faithful man can bcome a reckless philanderer so these questions are very vital only for a lady who is faced with the situation.

Whaaaaaat! You a marriage counsellor? Those women no like themselves at alllllll

coldgate:
Dear OP: you better come back to Nigeria o. Those oyibo people are not husband material at all. Every little thing leads to divorce. My two cents.

This is a blatant lie. Grab urself a man where you are. Most Nigerian men are nothing to write home about. Save urself from a possible life of misery abeg. Our men know nothing about being husbands

Hustlerlomo:
SO na only guys sabi buy una expensive things abi? na nw u knw say najia hard. wen una dey buy Brazilian nd contonu hair una no dey no say dem fit use dt kind money invest. nw ur bf ask u for shoe na d whole world wan hear am. gerra out of here for real men.. u knw what am saying

Have you ever bought even ''onitsha' hair for a girl? U come here dey yarn dust. Mstchewww

cabaliciouscabal:
Women !!! greedy as eva, dey find it hard to give to men, yet dey ar ready to injure a man by collecting his savings and send him on a journey of no return.

May be d guy was only testing her level of kindness and Caring, now she failed, no sensible man will want to marry a woman dat is self centered and unkind.


My candid advise for u is to kiss d relationship gd bye and don't even try to apiece d guy cus he has lost lnterest in u.


It reminds me of one of my x dat I call and asked her to send me Jst 1500 Naira recharge card to test her level of kindness but I was surprised,since den she decline calling, and Nairalanders guess Wat I was going to send #5000 to her to fix her hair. But she lost d money, due to greed. I thank God though dat she got out of my life.

These ar part of reasons y Nija guys prefers to date foreign ladies. And Nija ladies ar increasing on deliverance grounds looking for husband dat is not coming.

Fvck him and Fvck whatever sick test that was. Listen to yourself? Are you seriously comparing 1500 recharge card to 93k? U dey okay so? Mstchewwwww!
So for ur mind ur gf lost something o? Wetin be 5k? Dude shift abeg. He's asking her to sacrifice her life savings and you think she's self centred?

When you start thinking normally again, feel free to comment. Till then, gerrarra here mehn!

My own mum taught me that if my husband for any sick reason lays his hands on me, I'm well within my rights to get his azz arrested. That's one advice I'd be keeping in mind not this BS

Tell the husband to check himself. Maybe he's not satisfying her in bed. How is his appearance? Does he have a pot belly now? Does he give her attention. There must be something he's not doing right. Let him seriously check himself first.
In any case this is not a matter of sending her parking. What happened to his vow 'for better for worse'? God Hates divorce o. He should think about the children. A broken home is very bad for children.

He should just keep praying for her. Improve his hygiene if need be and lose the pot belly if he has one. He just needs to keep talking to her. He should wake her up at midnight and ask her what he's doing wrong. He should just pour out his heart to her
He should not stop showing her love. And just so that he doesn't get STDs, he should get her a packet of condoms or maybe just tell her to get one for herself and makes sure she always uses it.

God will heal their marriage. He should just keep praying for her.

mayorkyzo:
So sweet...love like this is rare to find these days...
Girls that their parents don't own bicycles wanna sit in the front of hummer jeep..

Isn't it normal to aim to do better than ur parents?

Aude:
I can't believe that in this day and age women still reason like this. So how do you buy the food to cook? What if a husband loses his job or worse dies, how would the wife take care of the family? Instead of watching Telemundo and nollywood movies, a woman can go to work and help support the family.

Why should she work and then come back home to the stress of cooking and house keeping? Is she the 'head' of the home? Husbands and Wives are not partners na. Each person should carry out his or her duties. He should sit up and be the MAN

vani86:
See your pea brain. Cooking food is contributing to the family.

I will go on 100 days fasting not to meet girls that are not ambitious like you.

Lmao! Na u get pea brain. If it's not contribution, why do you nag about women cooking good food. Abi u think it's easy?

Whether I'm ambitious or not, providing for the family is the MAN'S responsibility.

vani86:
its her responsibility to contribute to the welfare of the family, and not nag at every opportunity when things aint going well but be supportive.

lazy ass gold digging bit.ches everywhere.

She contributes to the welfare at the home front e.g cooking good food. You lazy ass men should handle the finances. After all you're the 'head' of the home ba?

Abi na jst 4 mouth

Flashh:
[color=#225484]Thank God you knew you're off-point.

Besides... Can I PM you?[/color]

Lol. If u want

Toks2008:
As you have deduced im apparently not ok.

If you ever find ur hubby philandering please leave him sharply and be with another man who will definitely not cheat on you.

I will always repeat,men will be men and if you find a faithful man then thank GOD. I will never advice any man to commit adultery neither does it change the fact that men are potentially polygamous and as i have written before,any woman who catches her hubby in any form of adultery has 4 choices.

1.Divorce an adulterous man and remain single for life.
2.Remarry another man with no guaranty that he wont also cheat on you.
3.Go about sleeping with randy men.
4.Remain in your marriage and focus on building your life and that of your children.

The choice is yours.

Men are not polygamous in nature. Pls dnt tell me that BS again. Wld be much happier single than with a philandering man. If I choose to stay, we'd be nothing more than roommates. He does what he likes with his life and I do same.

Flashh:
[color=#225484]Silly stuffs like these are the reason why some men aren't planning for marriage.

She won't die if she assist the family financially instead of her nagging and stop being a leech.

If a man fails being a husband definitely a woman fails being a wife.

I'm gonna say you married the wrong woman bro! [/color]

You don't say! But you men will die ba if you assist your wives with chores. I know it's not related. #justsaying

vani86:
Feel for you bro. Juat 10 months and it is like this, what will happen if god forbid you lose your job.

Is she working, if she aint contributing to the marriage in anyway knowing how hard naija is. Tell her to shut the fo.ck up.

If she said she have not eaten in 4 years tell her another 4 years wont kill her.

This is how men die before their time and what will she do? Move on to the next man immediately

Is it her responsibility to provide for the family? Lazy men everywhere

Toks2008:
Gbam! Thats all.

Women will read this article and without assimilating they start talking about men will always cheat and im like "what on earth were they thinking when they were reading the write up"?

If you like be an angel, a cheat will always be one but the point im making is that even if he cheats on you he will never even imagine dumping you NEVER except maybe he is under a very strong spell and that spell go try.

Come, Toks are u sure you're ok? Is that supposed to be a consolation. Is the dumping worse than the cheating. I should do all these for a cheating man? I dey crase? If my husband cheats, he'll be the one doing all these to remain RELEVANT to me. What the hell is that?

It's women I blame. If they never stayed with their cheating husbands, all these insults wldnt arise. Mtchewwwww!

honeric01:
One of the main reasons you should never be too close to your religious leaders especially if you're a woman.

Women are known to be very gullible so these religious heads prey on them.

One of the major reasons you won't catch me near a religious woman. they're weak, shallow and unstable.

Biko don't generalise

Johnnoah1st:
see this one, dont u knw the husband is kinda trying to help u? remember the op said the lady is d only child of the mother and ur husband is trying to give a sibling u are here complaining, i dont knw when u female folks we start appreciating we men efforts. @op if i was d lady i will just tank d man 4 giving me a sibling. dats all.

That's nice. Don't worry eh. Your wife will give you a sibling too......through your dad. Hope you'll appreciate her efforts o and thank her.

yellowb:
hope u'l disown ur mum forever?if u don't den its also a fish brain thing

Why wouldn't I disown my mum? Our relationship would be dead from that time on.
But it baffles me that you'd actually continue with such a man