SHOCK7:

Wait o! what's the worst u can do,remember he has family that can payback!

Lol. Have I said anything?

stuffs4me:


You are a cursed human being.

I pray you die a very painful and miserable death.
I pray you get mercilessly rappedd by armed robbers who will eventually kill you and throw your mutilated dead body in the gutter.

Back to you and your family

Proudlyngwa:


You are just ranting.
People like you will cry and tire

Wow! You.dont say

excel101:
Its women like you that their husbands brings their girlfriends to their matrimonial homes and asks you buy them refreshments.

Oh really?

davodyguy:
As I saw the headlines, I knew it has to do with infidelity
Women must understand that men has the desire to cheat, either in marriage or in relationship.

No way 90% of men wouldn't cheat, save if he's ugly or doesn't have money



Not true.

I once asked my wife what she would do if she caught me cheating. She said, its in the nature of men to, but if I ever tried it, I should just keep it away from matrimonial home, cos she owns the house. Not that I want to, but some women are more matured and they're trained to expect the unexpected

That's your wife. You can't be cheating on me and have the mind to sleep with 2 eyes closed na. Impossicant

francizy:


Rubbish comment!!! I hope you won't come crying blue murder when your husband pummels you like some yam in a mortar too?

E fit? Does he want to die prematurely?

davodyguy:
As I saw the headlines, I knew it has to do with infidelity
Women must understand that men has the desire to cheat, either in marriage or in relationship.

No way 90% of men wouldn't cheat, save if he's ugly or doesn't have money

Means we'll continue killing you guys like chicken na

kullozone:



In the man's house? She can have a second husband in her own house, not mine... Since it's law of equality, make she find her own house and get a second partner.
That's what the man (first husband) is asking for sef.

What if she contributed in building the house?

Toks2008

@Toks2008

KreativGenius:



Lol. Prada bag fall on you You no well

LOL. Amen to that. Im very well o. I just dey try cure your own sickness bro

shaybebaby:

Girl, you savage.

Hahahaha na true na

Toks2008:

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Una see my problem with naira land ladies....always turning my threads upside down[/size]

I turned nothing upside down. Men will be men and cheat ba. Getting a side dude aka shock absorber is me preparing myself for that.

KreativGenius:



Tushe, then perhaps the oP has valid points, which is, carry forgiveness along for the journey. Plenty of it, and it will be well with such a soul


Nothing like an individual the Holy Spirit has worked upon their soul. Nothing beats it ! You can't make them become unforgiving, never ever ! Even when they fail and stumble, they find their footing and forgive and press on !

I totally agree. Carry enough forgiveness for the journey cos you will need it when I start my own.

teemy:
lolz. an eye for an eye and a tooth for a tooth leaves us all tooth less and blind

Then let's all be toothless and blind. The only way some people learn is by giving them back the bs they give you

KreativGenius:



Na wa O!


May God forgive you. As a woman having this mindset is a curse. You're a cheat waiting to happen if it hasn't. May God forgive you

But you were applauding toks when he said men will cheat and we should take it like that. My dear deal with it. The only thing that will make me tolerate/ignore a cheating husband is if I have another man on the side. I can't be faithful to an unfaithful man

winnar:
Hahahahahaha. funny you.

But, on a second thought, Do you know if we have like a wrtten agreement attached to that marriage cert.., That if a man cheats on his wife.., that the wife is entitled to cheat back.

Believe me, all this men will respect their vows sharply.

I have realised that serving people a dose of their medcine puts them back in their right senses.

Seriously tho. We let these men get away with so much rubbish. I believe in giving people a taste of their own bitter medicine. I can't be faithful to an unfaithful man o. Lai lai

Proudgorgeousga:


Exactly, just marry for financial purpose, children, or status and seek for companionship and love elsewhere

Gbam! This is just what I advice my girls

Toks2008:


I hear you but at least wait for him to cheat on you first before you decide to make yourself available as intimacy gadget for another guy.

But you said he will cheat na. No need waiting. It's best I prepare well in advance. And it's my side guy that will be my intimacy gadget.

Toks2008:


Of course women are the unofficial head and the success of her marriage is more hinged on her.

No it means we're the official heads. You can't be head in name only without the attendant responsibilities

Toks2008:


The guy you quoted is probably naive or just been unrealistic.

I always tell my ex.."I chose to be faithful to her not because I love her but because I love GOD" and there are few guys like that out there.

What is the crime in preparing the minds of ladies towards a possibility? many ladies are in the psycaltry as I write because of the shock of heartbreak and I wonder if it's really worth it...

It's a crazy world out there and the best you can do is to prepare for it.

Honey, nowadays women cheat just as much as men. So maybe you should also prepare the minds of our men towards the possibility that their wives may cheat on them. Before they die out of shock when it happens o

My dear ladies, there is only one thing to do to ensure marital peace. GET A SIDE DUDE. Then nothing your husband does will worry you. Whether he's cheating or not, not your concern after all you'll be getting good loving on the side

gbagagbogo:
Very sensible and pragmatic steps. I love this piece.
I will like to add one more thing, women be submissive to your husband. That's the most important aspect. No man wants to leave with another man. Be loyal to him, respect his opinion and if you feel he's not making sense, correct him in meekness and maturity. Marriage is sweet when the man and the woman understand each other very well.. But ladies don't forget this : the success and prosperity of your home is majorly in your hand. Be loyal. God bless our homes

So women are the heads of the families after all. I mean since the success of the home is majorly in our hands

Toks2008:


One mature mind spotted.

Hahahahaha spotter of mature minds

teemy:
Funny that just tonight I was advising a lady not to make thing heated up for her hubby because of his keeping late nights. Once the house is hot, it only leads to the desire for cool things like drinks that can be obtained from the beer parlor. Ladies just ask how miss Delilah was able to still keep bro Samson at her place despite him knowing she would do the exact things that she hears would deplete his powers. Just ask yourself how she still got him to stay and you could be holding the keys to marital happiness.

She shouldn't even bother talking sef. Ignore him and start keeping late nights too. No need for long talk

Do you wash your plate after eating? If no, there in lies the answer to your question

sholajigga:



It is the misleading truth.

So keeping a marriage is the responsibility of the woman alone?

LesbianBoy:


Mr man, posting what nairaland ladies (the foolish ones though) want to see won't make them like you!

What is wrong with what he posted? Isn't it the truth?

Benwems:
I will advise the man to marry a second wife.

Where will he keep the 2nd wife? Certainly not in her house

Marcofranz:


Smh . I really pity the man that is going to marry you madam self esteem. You are obviously the type that can control their husbands just because they earn more. She even has the guts to say "the man has to move out "
Madam you are a witch.

Pity yourself. He will move out na of he's tired of the marriage

boiz2men:



now you imagine a woman saying those to her husband... altho not always but mean words hurt men too thats why men go physical when you all start nagging...

if you have never worked under a woman.. u cant engage me in the conversation..... your headmistress and headmaster (if you had both at any time).. whom would you prefer more?

theres this thing about power and money that intoxicates humans but if that human is a woman.. it is sinister.....

Nobody should say those words to their spouse full stop. If you feel you have the right to say such things when you're the breadwinner, then she equally has the right to say such if she earns more

Donjazzy12:

Yeah your hubby, bwahahahahaha! The one you will NEVER have, that is.

Frustration loading.......

Nah! The one you wish I don't have...... but I do . You'll be alright dear