₦airaland Forum

snakebeat:
Crucify her....

Thumbs up to sonofananimal1 & dragonking, u guys are brutally honest.
What I can't fathom is the sudden cause of laziness among women of this generation... Honestly judging by the female comments I have seen so far, these girls are extremely lazy...

The same way the men of these generation are lazy. Ya'll can't even single handedly provide for ur families again. Mstchewwww. U need d support of ur wives ba? D same way we need urs

sonofananimal1:
JUST LOOK AT AT YOURSELF.

AFTER NOW, YOU WILL BLAME THE WITCHES AS THE COST OF YOUR PROBLEM.

YOU PEOPLE ALWAYS MAKE SOMEONE THINK THAT YOU DON'T GROW UP IN A RESPONSIBLE HOME OR FAMILY.

DID YOUR FATHER COOK FOR YOUR MUM AND YOU

I can't count how many times my dad has offered to help and has actually helped in d kitchen. Cutting perewinkle, turning foo foo, pounding yam etc. He has done all that AND he's still a man. Abegi

sucess001:
So it takes u to be a machine to cook? Me tinks u have a wrong mentality to the idea od marriage.


Going by ur theory...then all men shd do a transgender operation so they can also assist with pregnancy and child delivery.


Westernisation is really disturbing a lotta our girls...I have a lot of American friends who re married and even they will tell u they ll never allow any oda person cook for their hubby...yet here our girls wanna 'belong' wit Wierd feminist views.


I wish u well with ur mentality. Hopefully it wrks for u.

It'd be cool if u guys could assist with pregnancy and child birth, I mean after all you guys are the stronger sex.
When I said we are not machines, I meant it's tiring to work and manage the home sometimes. Sometimes we'd just like to take a break from it all.

SirShymexx:
Lol. I don't think the average guy cares about what you lot think and once you get what women need, they will come around to play regardless of what they think lool.

Anyway, can you cook? If you can't, you better start learning and putting in work.

What makes u think we care about what u think of us?
You will just keep attracting women who think like you. They will get what they want and move on

sucess001:
Not being able to cook for ur man isn't something u she'd be proud of.


It's no excuse ft u wrk...u can even plan ur week from the weekend...prepared ready to use meals and keep them in the freezer....

And it's a shame dt d girls of our days don't even see it wrong to not cool for the family....


Ur family is ur first responsibility....not wrk.

For ur mind, women be machine ba? Family should be the husband's and the Wife's first responsibility. Meaning all hands on deck in all areas including cooking

sicobamty2:
so d idiot wive is only 4 sex abi, I pray to have sum pple like u as wive so dat I cn teach u lesson, by the tym I tear yah face wit punches enh

No home training. Beast

sonofananimal1:
WHAT ARE YOU TRYING TO SAY?

DID I LOOK LIKE SOMEONE WHO IS ADVOCATING VIOLENCE AGAINST WOMEN


AND HOW WILL YOU KNOW A RAPIST

IN FACT!! I DON'T EVEN UNDERSTAND YOUR LAST PARAGRAPH

Jeez! You really are thick
Stop approbating and reprobating. Some minutes ago you were advising the man to beat sense into the woman, now ur here asking if u advocate violence against women.

In last paragraph, she means that she's asking u to put up ur pic in case she comes across u in real life, so she can avoid u since ur a beast who advocates violence against women.

In the same vein, she would want a man bragging about going on a raping spree to put up his pic in case she comes across him in future. At least she would have been forewarned.

At least I've dumbed 4 it down for you, no?

SirShymexx:
That looks like the future and with that, you can keep getting varieties without the need to be tied down to one woman. You just have to know how to beat the system and not let them suck you for child support.

Women are the most annoying beings on this planet - daughters of Jezebel.

Yimu!!! Funny enough we think the same if not worse about you men.

Dragonking:
Our mothers and fore mothers will leave to the farm as early as 4am-5am and come back late..they trek to the market to buy food stuff, yet they take care of the family and also cook. Women of today are just lazy. Simple....maybe it is part of modernization

Which one is our mothers? Not all of our mothers farm abeg. My mum does nt wake up at 4 or 5 am for any reason. She goes to work and she has still has to work at home. When she can, she cooks. When she can't, we have a help who cooks or we buy take out. Heaven does not fall

dinachi:
Who is the homosexual in your family? Is it you, your husband,your brothers and sisters or your children?
So if you have a family member who is an armed robber or adulterer you will start supporting adultery and armed robbery?
Since you joined the homosexual bandwagon you have become depraved!

Oga give it a rest now. Kilode

My bf or husband will take care of his undies or boxers, I'll take care of mine. Why should he wash mine when I will not wash his? We're both adults abeg

sonofananimal1:
WHAT DO YOU MEAN BY THAT

WOMAN!! DON'T BRING ME BACK TO THIS ARGUMENT AGAIN

MAN! I WROTE IN PLAIN ENGLISH NA.

wristbangle:
Relax dear. We are here to catch fun. Meanwhile offline people regard me as being too serious. With the economic hardship, one must device a means to catch fun.

Lol. Ok o

Hope that 'concerned' friend is happy now

sonofananimal1:
I THINK HE MUST HAVE TRY THAT BUT TO NO POSITIVE OUTCOME.

BY THE WAY, TALKING THINGS OUT IN A DIPLOMATIC WAY WITH YOU WOMEN WILL JUST MAKE YOU PEOPLE FEEL STRONGER AND STUBBORN ( I HAVE WETNESS IT ESPECIALLY WITH NIGERIA WOMEN, THEM FEEL MORE STUBBORN WHEN YOU TRY TO TALK TO THEM IN A COOL AND NICE WAY, AND FEEL LESS STUBBORN WHEN YOU TREATING THEM WITH FORCE ) I THINK THAT'S HOW YOU PEOPLE BRAIN ARE WIRED.

BY THE WAY, WHY ARE YOU SHYING AWAY FROM MY QUESTION? IS IT DONE THAT WAY, FOR THE WOMAN AND MAN TO HAVE A SEPARATE ROOM

THAT'S MEANS THE HOUSE HAVE ALREADY DIVIDE INTO TWO.

That's what 2 adults do when there's a disagreement. They talk. Dunno Wat the heck u mean by it makes us more stubborn.

As for ur question, I already said it's not ideal 4 couples to sleep separately. My parents don't do that. I won't do that either.

wristbangle:
LMAO. Nah so e dey pain una reach?

Who likes seeing guys whine like little bitch babies every time on NL? Certainly not me

Even those that can barely feed once a day will come here to complain about spending on girls. Mstchewww

sonofananimal1:
WHICH DIALOGUE AND COUNSELLING?

REPORTING HER TO HER FAMILY SPEAK LESS OF YOU AS MAN, HE HAVE TO TURN THE SITUATION AROUND BY FORCE NOT TO RESOLVE IN BEGGING AND COUNSELLING

YOU PEOPLE ARE THE COURSE OF WHY MEN CHEAT.

AFTER ALL, WHEN THE MAN START HAVING HIS FUN OUTSIDE, THAT SAME STVPID WOMAN WILL BE THE ONE CRYING AND SHOUTING ALL MEN ARE THE SAME.

I ALWAYS ADVICE WOMEN NOT TO THINK STVPID AND PLAY SMART

Apply force in marriage? Really? Your home is not some army base my dear. So seeking counselling makes you less of a man. Pride is what will kill some of you men.
Why bother to talk things out with your wife when you can just kick her out and be done with it right? Screw communication.
Save your pride and lose your home. Do what suits you

sonofananimal1:
SO IF SOMEONE WHO IS LEGALLY MARRIED STARTED BEHAVING LIKE AN ANIMAL, WOULDN'T YOU CHASE HER OUT OF THE HOUSE.

WHAT RIGHT DID SHE HAVE TO STAY ALONE

IS SHE THE QUEEN OF ENGLAND?

NONSENSE THAT'S WHAT HAPPEN WHEN YOU PET A WOMAN TO THE EXTREME.


AS FOR YOU!!! DID YOUR MOTHER AND FATHER SHARE DIFFERENT ROOM

IF YOU CAN'T ANSWER THIS QUESTION, THEM FVCK THE HELL OFF MY MENTION

Dunno why naija men behave like primitive men. Chase her out as in she's someone who just picked from the street? If you're tired of the marriage, do the right thing (institute divorce proceedings). What's chase her out as if she's a stray dog?

I'm not supporting her action in any way. It's always better for husband and wife to sleep together thus helping them bond more. But there's a better way of handling matters? What happened to dialogue, counselling and even reporting her to her family sef?
No be every time, una go say chase her out. How many women will you chase out from your house?

sonofananimal1:
SO IF SOMEONE WHO IS LEGALLY MARRIED STARTED BEHAVING LIKE AN ANIMAL, WOULDN'T YOU CHASE HER OUT OF THE HOUSE.

WHAT RIGHT DID SHE HAVE TO STAY ALONE

IS SHE THE QUEEN OF ENGLAND?

NONSENSE THAT'S WHAT HAPPEN WHEN YOU PET A WOMAN TO THE EXTREME.


AS FOR YOU!!! DID YOUR MOTHER AND FATHER SHARE DIFFERENT ROOM

IF YOU CAN'T ANSWER THIS QUESTION, THEM FVCK THE HELL OFF MY MENTION

Dunno why naija men behave like primitive men. Chase her out as in she's someone who just picked from the street?

therealdeal10:
Y on earth wuld she do dat. One word go n CHEAT!!!

Guys on NL with their dull brains. The only solution you people can come up with is go and cheat? Can't you come up with something else? Can't you people think? Otondos. U guys should upgrade abeg. Learn to think up better solutions apart from cheat cheat cheat.

sonofananimal1:
SHE HAVE HIV OR AIDS


DRIVE THAT WOMAN OUT OF YOUR HOUSE, THERE IS NO TIME FOR CHILD PLAY.


AFTER ALL!! MANY GIRLS ARE IN THE STREET BEGGING TO BE MARRY BY ANYONE

Drive her out of the house to where? You must be a joker. Someone he married legally? Is that the way people solve marital issues in ur village? Bush boy

Jacksparrow0712:
Seriously by the time I bring in another girl, she go gather brain by force

Marriage issues are not always solved by gra gra

Better tell him to stop that childish behaviour or you'll call for a family meeting on his head. Lemme see the mouth he'll use to explain to his parents that he is quarrelling with his wife because of anal sex. Rubbish!

OREMUSSANCTUS:
Baby woman, dis is naija, guess u not anywhere close. D targets dey set here is like mount kilimanjaro, looking at d lady she sounds too ambitious cum a career person dat can do anytin to hit d target. I prefer she resigns and save d cookies for her husband, its is no secret dat most nigerian men sleeps wif ladies(marketers) just to deposit change into dem bank. If am d husband, its either u resign dat work, or u leave my house. Don't blame me, its d system.
How is yankee dear?
Lalasticlala still dhe sleep

Leave which house? The house she has also invested in? You must be a bigggggg joker

Good day
I'm a dedicated reader of your blog and sending this in for me to know bvs point of view,please hide my details...the issue now is I'm a new mum for the first time, although I gave birth early February, and my marriage is going to 3yrs now,we are both graduates and i was working in one small private organisation but due to the fact that my pregnancy got complicated at 2nd trimester i had to resign, DH is contract staff in a private firm(just about 2yrs in the firm) so pay is low, as baby don involve expenses are high and we don't even have savings and this is causing a lot of strain between us.

I understand the burden alone is too much for him to bear if pay was high this issue will not even come up, why I'm putting this forward is that any small misunderstanding we have he keeps saying "go and find work, other wives are working, you demand too much(mind you the only thing I ask for is concerning what the baby needs) "all the burden is on me, rent will soon expire, see all the provisions don finish you eat like rat, if you are working e for good, see baby milk we buy which day don finish how you dey do am " etc .

it makes me feel so bad and i cry (I'm very emotional)most times to sleep, coupled with the fact that its just me and baby as we can't afford a helper,this situation got me thinking that the fact I don't have a job and Dh always rubbing it in my face is really affecting my self esteem (if the case was reversed I won't do same to him) I don't have money would have started any small business oh, please I want to know how other moms got back on their feet in similar situations.

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In as much as a woman should help out in the little way she can, it's like our men are forgetting that it's their responsibility to provide for their home. Abi na just to scream "head of house" una sabi?

On the other hand, this man here would expect his wife to be loving and supportive if circumstances change and she becomes the breadwinner. He will conveniently forget how he always rubbed her state of joblessness in her face

Good day
I'm a dedicated reader of your blog and sending this in for me to know bvs point of view,please hide my details...the issue now is I'm a new mum for the first time, although I gave birth early February, and my marriage is going to 3yrs now,we are both graduates and i was working in one small private organisation but due to the fact that my pregnancy got complicated at 2nd trimester i had to resign, DH is contract staff in a private firm(just about 2yrs in the firm) so pay is low, as baby don involve expenses are high and we don't even have savings and this is causing a lot of strain between us.

I understand the burden alone is too much for him to bear if pay was high this issue will not even come up, why I'm putting this forward is that any small misunderstanding we have he keeps saying "go and find work, other wives are working, you demand too much(mind you the only thing I ask for is concerning what the baby needs) "all the burden is on me, rent will soon expire, see all the provisions don finish you eat like rat, if you are working e for good, see baby milk we buy which day don finish how you dey do am " etc .

it makes me feel so bad and i cry (I'm very emotional)most times to sleep, coupled with the fact that its just me and baby as we can't afford a helper,this situation got me thinking that the fact I don't have a job and Dh always rubbing it in my face is really affecting my self esteem (if the case was reversed I won't do same to him) I don't have money would have started any small business oh, please I want to know how other moms got back on their feet in similar situations.

bashydemy:
Well i have been a very good husband and anyone any woman would pray for, In the past i never do anything behind her back, Sometimes whenever i want to give my brother's money senior of junior she will be the one to give them so as to make them like her more and none of my family ever mingle into our affair, My parent my might not even visit us sometimes close to 2 yrs, She stays in the house i build with her 2 junior brother and 1 junior sister, I provide for them none of my family stays with us i swear with the day i was born. But i change my way when she and her family went behind my back to buy land and started building house without even discussing this with me... After i get to know her father now called me that i should not be annoy that he try to tell me but it's because am too busy and i ask what happen to briefing me on phone will i ever ask her not buy afterall i am the one that gave her the to compensate her for not been around for her Birthday.. After this i change and stop discussing about my business, life or anything with her since she dint discuss with me either... So that was the genesis of the problem.. The main issue is She is a christian and i am a Muslim and her mother stood her ground that we can never get married but she is pregnant then and i hate abortion.. Still i try everything but her mother is the main enemy of the family and i should just let her go. I no wan die young oo.

So her father should have come and prostrated before you and asked for your permission to build a house for his family?

cupidhero:
If only you knew the kind of love and respect men have for their moms you would not be saying this.....if you only knew.

NEWS FLASH: we women have mothers......and GUESS WHAT? We love love love and respect them so much too. So hw about you learn 10 or maybe 23 different ways to kiss ur MIL"s aszzz eh?

nebukadnezzari:
Neither do know anything about black cards, I wish say Na me and you go this kain waka. I for show you say Na Toto wey you just get, every other thing Na wash.Na me bring you come Dubai no be the other way round.

Ur a really sick person sha. Whether na u bring me or not, e no mean nada. Na just mouth u get sha. I wish na me n u. I 4 show u say na just preek u get. No bastard can mess me up.

nebukadnezzari:
Maybe by the time you wake up in Saudi Arabia or Uzbekistan after the effects of the rape drug has worn off, you will tell me how the dollars or whatever money I must have stripped you of will save you. You will also ask your master for a reasonable explanation of how you got there. You think say Na to dey nairaland dey show yourself anyhow. In the Arab world women are like commodity, they can be bought sold and resold. You think say Na America abi. Fear no dey una body at all.

Oga abeg stop spewing trash u knw ain't possible. In any case, You've not heard of debit cards ba?

Emmahunk:
I think you have more than the problem of the child's welfare in your hands.
For starters, you have no firm grip of your family.
Hear yourself, 'my wife suddenly came back day before yesterday and said she wentffor a job interview'. For crying out loud, what right does she have to go job hunting without you two first discussing it as a family?
Poverty does not mean inability to run your home. It's amazing that in this age of 'baby friendly', a woman with honest intentions will be comfortable abandoning a four months old baby for a job you were not aware of. Obviously, she couldn't wait to put to birth.
Call your wife to order first and other things can follow

What is this one saying? Mr 'I must comment'. Mstchewww