lambish:
Our generation today....
A woman will go through 9 months of hardship and discomfort and still go through the extreme pain of labour to give birth to the child who ends up bearing the man's name ( and probably looks like the man lol) she continues to nurture his child pray for them and look after the general wellbeing of the home, she goes on to combine her 8-5 job with caring for her family ( some women end up burying their ambition just to ensure their family is well taken care of and doing well)... Yet an extremely ungrateful man asks what she brings to the table?

Something like that was preached at church some men hardly help with house chores, leaving everything to their wives who wakes up to fry buns at 3 am start cooking for the children,bath them, wear their uniforms bath and prepare for work still some even stop the woman halfway for sex, before 7 the kids are in school so is she for a 20 to 25k job... plus the buns just to get something in a day, the man doesn't even care about what the kids eat at school,and when he's asked for money for upkeep he asked her what she's bringing.

The one's she did like buying of clothes for the children and transportation to and fro, isn't his concern just the day she asked for money she is unresourceful while he spends his money on his own. Where I support this term is when it relates to a non working woman or working class who says your money is ours while mine is mine, it's not good and the ones that say you must get Benz b4 you talk to me,u give me 5k for wetin girls, ungrateful women, urgent 2k types. Please no matter anything no woman deserve to be treated as an object just in the name of marriage.

Kobojunkie:
She ought to bear it by giving him money that is meant for the welfare of her kids. She knows she is on her way out yet she continues to play the role of dutiful wife to him. Make she continue...

U are right though that's just the mistake she did, now she doesn't care if she is left hungry because even if she buys the noodles he would still finish it, imagine a father asking why a child of 3 should eat in school, infact it's not his business...he got paid gave her 12k for 2 rubber of rice and other things like gas and soap for one month... because he knows she is doing side hustle he's trying to put everything on her, yesterday own was worst he went and removed the change in her purse without telling her, thank God that she didn't put all her money there, and to think she has been enduring since because of fear, when she spoke up I thought she was just trying to defend herself but as it escalate I had to get involved.

Kobojunkie:
Oi vey!

she has already done that, you know there are some savings where you can't get your money till December that's what she did...so that at least she can start up something from there and won't go round begging.

For now she just have to bear with what's going on,he probably has another woman outside so why would she be bordering herself like that.

Good evening nairalanders, owing to the advice given to me on my previous post concerning my cousin,we finally reach a decision for her to wait till December before coming to stay with us... normally I wouldn't even try bringing it online but I want it as an eye opener to ladies and even intending guys that want to get Married.

Earlier this past few days because of the nature of things affecting the economy,my cousin decided to engage in side hustle just to add up to the one she does,so she would have enough for her and the kids. Now like this her husband has said he would never buy gas again in the house and asked that she starts using firewood or sawdust to cook...not even thinking about her health condition,he now started insulting and asking her what kind of bad belle she has for giving birth to two female children and he even insulted her mother and father this is a person who has never sent a dime to her mum, making reference that she doesn't know what to do with money.

Now the problem started when she collected her salary and he asked her to give him 10k so he can transport himself to work and other things, although he never admits he has money but anytime it gets so tough he will bring something out after insults and pressure. She gave him the money and used the remaining one to sort out some pending debts and biscuits for her daughters school and there was nothing left with her anymore. Since she was looking up to the 10k so she can get noodles for feeding so the biscuits can last,he started saying the child doesn't need all those things he's wasting money on the child and she should have waited until the girl is 5 before she starts school. Now she would be left with 5k which goes to contribution.

Now it was time to pay up he never wanted to admit he has been paid,next thing he brought out 10k.and gave her that this is the daughter school fees,she asked about the money he borrowed and he said that the money,and she should use it on school fees and go and look for what to support with,how please 👀👀...that he would soon take her to a government school self this and that... this heart of some men towards their female children is so uncalled for like aren't they children... the house she would say is still been prepared and I am also trying to add plus her savings to help her out. she has soiled into debts and don't know how to even start now...even if I give it won't be enough because I would feel the impact during the month.

Out of that same 10k he even asked her to bring 2k for soup,I was furious and decided to visit unexpected no matter anything 😭😭😭 she was looking so tattered and unkempt I couldn't hold my tears, the bastard wasn't around so I just kept my cool and looked around. I finally gave her the 15k I saved which I collected from ohi Dara people and left.

Let's see how God will help us out but I know she is definitely leaving that house before January...I intended bringing in his family but i.can see that they feel they're doing us a favour by getting married to her. In this life before you marry your tribe please take your time some of them are there to suffocate life out of you in the name of marriage.

Jewessgratitud3:
Right now she needs advice on what to do and I'm also going to be sharing what I have advised her so far.

This man has used his foolishness to implicate my sister and their lovely kids. Before I go into details of what happened recently, I'll like to give a quick backstory of how all these came to be and how she even got herself into this mess

Backtrack to 2014 when she broke the news that someone was coming to see the family for her hand, I asked her who the person was but she refused to tell me saying I'll meet him when he comes. I was now like ha... This one you're hiding it. I never knew it was one useless guy that was living in our former area in the early 2000s that all he does then was stand at junctions disturbing girls. He also disturbed me one period like that and I so much dislike him because of his behavior plus he's fair and I dont fancy fair guys.

The day came and we started cooking. Already I had gotten a hint from my eldest sister that it's the guy and I said was that why she was hiding it? What's my own there. We move. As the day was approaching, my idowus husband called and told me to warn my sister that that guy she's pulling with is not it. That if she's trying to have something serious with him she'll be making a big mistake. I said, she's an adult and can make choices for herself.


He came with his people and we did everything and she moved in with him. Now, this guy doesn't do anything. He claims he's a lawyer but never goes to work. Most times he'll go for early morning training by 6am and after everyone has gone to work, he'll come home and be sleeping. initially my sister was covering him up that he's doing something but anytime I visit after school, I'll always meet him at home sleeping. I knew my sis was just covering him.

Before they married my sister owned a school that was doing well. After her first child the school was still doing well but they started having issues because she was the one bearing most of the financial burden in the house. Sometimes she would come to school with bruises on her face. Since she refused to talk, me I didn't bother asking because if I do she'll bark at me.it continue like that until she could no longer bear it and started opening up to me that the guy doesn't do anything. Just goes about from one junction to the other.

She took in for her second child and fell sick. The school suffered management and folded up. That was when the guy showed her his true color. They fought to the extent she left her kids and went to my sister's house. My elder sisters husband settled them and she went back.

She had her third child and the guy started his madness again. This time he would leave them and go for hours without food. When he's coming at night he'll buy food and call his children to come eat and leave my sister hungry. So anytime I go there I'll just find her something to eat. Sometimes not always.
The day I said enough is enough and decided pull her out of that nonsense was the day she called me, I was in bus and she said for two days now she has not eaten anything and she's having headache. That the guy said he'll deal with her. I told her to hold on and sent her the little I could that I'll come and see her.

I got there and told her she can't continue like this . I told her to start following me to school to learn how to do what I'm doing and I'll be giving her small small daily pay any day she goes with me and later she can start sourcing for her own schools and be making her own money. I put her through and took her to a school immediately and assigned her to some classes after watching me for a few mins.

We did that for a few weeks and I was giving her the small thing I could after each day. She started going out to look for schools and two schools called her. She now said she can't be following me again , I said no problem. God helped her, She now got more schools and started selling books too and making money.
When this guy saw it, he left feeding and only buys food for the children once in a while. Meanwhile their fighting continued.

Fast-forward to last year, the landlord called my sister that he has given the husband quit notice, not because he was owing but because he was always disrespecting the landlord. My sister tried to plead but he said it's not because of my sister but the husband. Now this guy's is so troublesome and brags a lot. He quarrels with the landlord a lot and always goes against the rules of the compound. I on the other hand have been telling my twin now that she has the money to get her own apartment and leave the lazy thing but she remained there.


Last two weeks Tuesday. during that heavy downpour, the landlord came with some police men and threw their things out in the rain as she was preparing her children for school. It was one of the police men that now had pity on her and said they should leave the things in the compound instead of throwing outside in the rain and helped my sister to bring then inside the gate. The husband ran away. After everything he called my sister to bring the children somewhere. When she got there it was a friend's house. He begged them to let his family stay the night and till now he's still there. I told my sister, shey I've been warning you about this guy. Bett look for a place and move in before this one's change their mind. Could you believe this man continued his laziness there? When everyone has gone out he'll go there and start sleeping till they come back from work and meet him. My sister said he has started quarrelling the man's wife . Someone who's squatting you you're challenging them.

he's talking about moving them to Mowe but my sister is not buying the idea and says she wants to get an apartment here on the mainland because of her job and move with only her children but I'm of the opinion that she should leave the children with him because if she goes with the children he'll run from his responsibility and never pay their school fees again.

What should she do because the guy travelled for his brothers burial now and the owner of the house was heard asking the wife why the guy and my sister are still in their house and said let him come back first . Meaning they are tired.

I've told her to get an apartment now o.

With all these written above you mean your sister still decided to come back to him to do what, someone with a school, what are you not telling us abi na juju and why is she just giving birth for him... normal normal na to born one then lock up and achieve what you want, she should stop leaving her kids wilth him oh before they become miserable sef,I think the husband has always been like that but I don't understand y she chose to stay, she should rent an apartment,far from him and don't allow him access to the house because e get why, let's see if he would do anything for the children.

Opanka44:


If u have nothing meaningful to say, then stop being senseless in your comment Pls. I never painted myself as good except you have issues with your comprehension ability. Making mistakes doesn't make anyone look 'foolish' just as u insulted me up there, it is repeating same mistake that makes same person foolish. Mr perfect, I'm sure you haven't made a mistake or two before in your entire existence. You're more foolish than your comment

Just take a look at this fool from your reply alone it shows just how stupid you sound in reality, still trying to justify your actions right,so just because I said you foolishly did something you got angry and started voicing out trash,men like you are never ready to learn from others always going high over nothing I wouldn't be shocked if the said girl became frustrated,and rude because of your attitude, get and learn how to humble because if you know a lot about foolishness like you said up here,then you would know you ain't make any sense I pray God pulls you out of this one even though... get a church to do the needful because this shit like I said up here is real.

Why did you foolishly take oath without trying to find out the person, you're just painting yourself good guy you aren't so try to find how you can contact her cos this shit is real.

imagine he didn't even give her pocket money after everything the guy dey face sef

ChiChiPat:
If it's power bank , get itel

thank you

youngreva:
Get romoss or new age.

okay thanks

gammarays:
Get Original Romoss though it's more expensive.

The Itel powerbank is still good since they're selling it cheap to attract the market. It's strong but I don't know how long it'll last.

Oraimo is good if you can get an old stock. People are complaining about the new stocks

thank you

Bulletproofgt:
U want Quality Power Bank, USA brands are great also Romoss. Call El Buzzy he is a great plug for Quality gadgets 08129039210

thank you

allen113:
I don't know about itel but the oraimo I bought did not last upto a year before going bad, so I will suggest you try the itel

ok thanks

gammarays:
Get Original Romoss though it's more expensive.

The Itel powerbank is still good since they're selling it cheap to attract the market. It's strong but I don't know how long it'll last.

Oraimo is good if you can get an old stock. People are complaining about the new stocks

Thank you

Uche559:
I bought oraimo power bank within 1 year the batteries swell up and even forced open the case. I have to remove the swollen up batteries and throw it away.
But I Ve not use itel power bank

okay thanks a lot

Ay04z:
Both are good..... Keep d Pali after bought very well.. If it malfunction within a year. Dem go replace am....

thank you

Chasito:
I use the itel 20,000mah and my friend uses oraimo 20,000mah, but yet my itel power bank lasts more than his oraimo power bank, so I suggest u get the itel.

thanks a lot

ChiChiPat:
If it's power bank , get itel

thank you

RiceBandit:
No one knows what Yul was passing through in the hand of May Edochie. I rest my case.

True talk because no matter how we paint her nobody is a saint,but nevertheless he would have simply divorced than still having sex with Judy while she was married and him as well.

shox:
you believe all these failed bloggers at all?

Na den Haboseyday type of stuff be this 😊😊

you are right though

Good evening nairalanders, please due to lack of power and now charging of phone is #100 I am thinking of getting a power bank either new or second new,it depends on what I have, besides now I really need for school work,so that I will involve online and technological assignment for the kids, like they say a teachers reward is in heaven, besides that I hardly have time to give it to the people charging phone and accessories...so I saw an oriamo but I was told it takes days to charge and on the order corner there's itel, please which can I get for a lower amount,or if you have an idea of any of them or feedback please enlighten me in the comments section I really appreciate everything.
Nlfpmod

Liar and snitch of a father,if he was a father would anyone have had the effontry to continue bullying his child,1 million naira coffin wey you bend neck to fit in,you would also receive your token but let's just rest because everyone is just rest and leave all these guys they're Cashing out steady from this.

Evidence are fighting them why did he travel then before,,,, nobody can tell us anything,see the way they bend his neck signifying what sef, next thing his father received 2million naira later, and both the father and Marley are mentioning injection, where the nurse dey now? Lies upon lies dog eating dog,both his babe oh, father and everyone else including the mohbad knows wetin happen because I remember the video he made isn't up to a year,and now mohbad is dead 😭😭,see rema with that him necklace Nigeria music industry na jazz, even upon all the songs mohbad sang nobody knew he was the one singing them,no name na true... Marley made sure he didn't get recognized at all,now his family can rest now and share the money,may God help us in 9ja.

Only God knows how this lady just became like this sef.

Botragelad:

What's this jazz thing you lot keep banging on about. You have a brain, you can think, how can jazz or what some call juju take someone's life? Tell us!

This is how you lot go about swallowing all sorts of rubbish and made-up lies, you lot don't stop there, but you force your belief that it exists on people and brainwash others into believing such nonsense. Wait for an autopsy, don't go about listening to gossip.

They dere with big grammar oga juju exist we are in Africa not in Europe before missionaries we had shrines and temple juju exist abeg

The man is trying what of the one's that don't drop at all, the one that drops#500 and ask his wife to find what to add ontop 2 kids. Women are willing to help or support their husbands in this trying times but the way most men are doing I don't care but care about sex and money, leaving everything to the women to do... only God can help us because the more things increases the more some people's fatherhood vanishes.

GboyegaD:


Yes because that is their profession and besides, money is paid to hire one so he sure will listen. I guess my fear is people like you who write others off for only God knows why.

See what I read up there she has brought in persons to help her talk to him yet nothing is happening so you are telling me that she should get a counselor, how much is she earning sef,is a pastor not also a councilor.

Kobojunkie:
She needs to realize and see it for herself that at this point, she is the one forcing herself on the man and marriage to him, and this at the detriment of her own kids and her own life. If she ends up in a body bag tomorrow like Osinachi for example, what will be the story of her life? What will be written on her grave stone, assuming her children will be able to put one there for her then? Ask her that.

thanks a lot I will really talk to her

ceeceeuwa:

If he is trying to strangle her then he is sick. Please help her escape that marriage. All she needs is empowerment.. if you are in Lagos,report him to the gender and domestic violence agency. Look it up on Google! I no want hear story o?

okay thank you so much for your input I really appreciate you and everyone else that is commenting.

mrrandomguy:
I don't know where and how women meet these kinds of men they get married to; they are always entangled with either a SIMP or a demon
1. Get the bigger family involved, both yours and his own if he has any (I doubt he has).
2. Find out someone the husband respects, it could be in his place of work, worship, social club or neighborhood to intervene. ANY OUTSIDER YOU INVOLVE MUST BE SOMEONE HE RESPECTS, otherwise it will backfire.
3. Be more diplomatic and less confrontational in all your approach.
4. Some feminists are already suggesting the witchcraft approach whereby the man's business and sources of income will be destroyed, he himself becomes a stroke patient, and the wife will be empowered financially by these feminists to become the bread winner. Let the man and every other person you involve know that your "cousin sister" may be pushed to pursue this last option.

Feminism and socialism go hand in hand.
Just like in the 10s and 20s of 1900, we now see a resurgence of socialism (Biden for example, printing money the US doesn't have).
The goal is to destroy family, because family is a strong unit. Humans can be very strong IF they have the support of a healthy family. Take that away and you can easily manipulate and control them.
That's why governments gladly help women to become totally privileged and for men to be broken down and brainwashed. It will hurt the country and the government economically, but I guess they either ignore that or have some plan for after the big crash

thank you for your input I really appreciate

GboyegaD:


She should be able to handle her marriage. He's acting that way because she's allowing him to. Sometimes, give your advice to the person who reported and let the person take necessary actions. You can advice her to suggest the need to visit counselors to him.

Wow you think even a counselor can advise someone who doesn't want anyone advice than his,do you know how many times she has asked for people to sort them out, only for him to say no that's she is to be submissive to him and what he wants she does period. How can you advise that one