Kobojunkie:
Why is your cousin still hanging on to a man who has no regard for her as a human being and has rejected the children she labored to have for him? What is she waiting for? For him to kill her or maim her before she gets a clue that she needs to leave him?

OP, why are you the one doing the thinking for your sister? Is she an imbe-cile for her to not have realized the writing that has been on the wall as regards her relationship and life all this time? Whose permission is she waiting for to get her act together before she destroys the minds of her kids for life?

Money is good to have but she needs to have her own too and right now she is playing wife to a man who does not appreciate her when she ought to be making money to fend for her kids.

E tire me sef oh,na now e clear for am, endurance cannot hold anymore,he even told her that is what she is ment to do "endure" because he knows best. Na now e clear for my aunt sef because she has also tried to reach out to him no way,so I guess this is the final one she is definitely leaving him.

GboyegaD:
No go scatter people home ooo. The best you can do is to invite the couples and then raise general topics to understand the husband's reasoning. That way, you can drop hints that could help.

Another is inviting the kids over for Christmas or raising the topic of their school. That said, you truly don't know his finances to justify his actions of putting his kids in public school. Therefore, please, thread wisely.

he's earning much and just got promoted too all these he does behind her very wicked person, can you imagine she got to know about the promotion from an family member that called to congratulate, she just played along... See wetin the quest for man pikin dey do to people abi no problem

OKUCHI11:
Make we hear the man side of the story before we judge... because someone women are very fond of emotional blackmail or playing the victim card

he hardly say anything on the phone oh,he feels like he's doing her a favour,then later he would put it on number busy, only for him to start threatening her that nobody in this life can advise him because he knows what he's doing. How can a man leave the training of the children to his wife,school fees,heath bills everything highest he brings out is 1k and tells her he doesn't have,her tears are really tearing me apart I have asked her to record him talking so I would know the kind of person I am dealing with,gosh the words he was saying was so hurtful all because she has female kids, like they aren't kids what is now the expense of her stay there,he won't deny what he said but will say she's not wise it's her fault, this and that....is better she comes home maybe we can remove some things from one side of the house and give it for rent so there would be money to care for her, she's wasting her life there because whatever she earns is for the children and the last time I did video call with her she was looking so sick as well. Yes he does beat her and tries to choke her when they are asleep, this is the 4th time he's strangled her like that. But I will still be on the lookout for more suggestions on the comments section.

ItisWell22:
It is well 😢

Direct answer to your topic:
If there’s no form of IPV (intimate partner violence), you shouldn’t take her with you.
Them no dey enter husband and wife matter carelessly. 🥱

Secondly, you stated you don’t earn so much yourself.
No go carry more than you can bear, otherwise both you and them could come crashing down.

This is someone that has a steady means of income

You may be overestimating his income.
This is from my personal experience as a civil servant of over a decade.

You just keep supporting in the ways you can, and look out for ways she can be empowered herself.

okay sir

obianoooo:


You are a very foolish human
For typing all this rubbish

Is she not also endanger with the way op's wife is complaining about the little girl not satisfying all her expectations of been a mature full time housemaid

full time what You think ops wife treats that girl as a maid, can't you see that the uncle pampers and admires her,can s maid be watching TV and enjoying like that, if op cannot support his wife with 3 kids he should just send her and I am sure God would help them,a child with this sort of mentality is deadly if she was 10 I would say ignore but at 12 probably in jss2 then she's very much aware of what she is doing. No that girl is capable of injuring a child and threaten them not to talk, that's how children just die in silence with these type of family.

NaijaRealtor:
1. Right from when she was about three years old, she would always pray for me to make it so she can come stay with me.

2. Been married for like 7 years and we have 3 kids. My wife was on my neck to bring my niece to come stay with us so she can assist with helping to look after the kids once they all return from school.

3. Because I know how many ladies treat children that aren't theirs, I refused to bring my niece over. So after much pressure from my wife, I approached my sister and her husband and pleaded to allow me train her as she'd always prayed.

4. Weeks after her arrival, my wife started complaining about her attitude and stuff. I refused to yield to my wife's suggestions that I take my niece back. It almost caused quarrel between us.

I felt it was too early to judge her. She's just 12 years old.

Her Attitudes:

A. She would fold and keep pants stained with my 1 year old poop in the laundry basket until it starts bringing out maggots, then we would search the whole house for the source of the foul smell until we find it and throw away affected clothes, disinfect the house and all.

B. She, yesterday wiped my 6 years old son with iron buckle on the belt and his head nearly burst open. He complained of severe headache and we are still treating him.

C. Final straw was, while we were in the office today, my 6 years old started to throw up. He was sick. This girl just laid on the couch and instructed a 6 years old to go fetch the broom, mopping stick and packer to clean the mess.

My son was very weak, but he went to fetch these items and cleaning the vomit. Because he was very sick, he kept on throwing up and cleaning at the same time. All these while, this girl laid there relaxing until my wife came home and washed my son up and cleaned the floor.

When I came back this evening and learnt about the stuff, I quietly asked her why she'd behaved like that and she said it was nothing.

I really don't know whether to let her stay while I try to coach her or take her back to her parents.

I seriously need advice.

Sorry for the long epistle.

Guy wetin be this now,so long story short your love for your so called niece beats the one you have for your kids, just imagine this girl level of wickedness at the age of 12 haba, and you are supporting her, how would your own sister treat your children then, you better be careful because you don't know what that girl was told to do in your home, what if your son died,I think your family would cover up and blame your wife,see no matter what you say to me, that 12 years old girl knows what she's doing,thank God she has gone but know this the confidence and trust your wife and probably your kids find from you is deminishing because I am sure you were probably bringing your wife down in her presence, now she would tell her own side and your wife would start receiving bombastic side eye from her mum and the rest of your family that can't mind their business.

I would have loved to believe him but the woman is dead to ascertain this

Is it okay for a man to say he's not going to train his children in school, rather he will send them to government school with or without the school having the necessary things this kids need for learning. Since he trekked to school let them also trekk even if the distance is killing and the kids are 4 and 7 respectively.

This is someone that has a steady means of income but after hearing this I want to confront him,I have never intruded in any of my cousin sister marital issues but after getting too much complains from her I just feel this guy is just being wicked. I know what I have been through just last 2 months I have been sending money to her to support with the children needs,he doesn't do anything than bad mouth her, and when I call he doesn't pick, and when he does he doesn't comment on anything than she Is confused, what sort of person makes his children go through stress like this...if not God that is helping her sometimes, I don't know how how to go about it but I want her to come back to my aunt's house so we would see how to do it since he's barely helpful with anything Concerning this children. Is it good for a husband to own a property and his wife doesn't know about it, suffering his wife and kids starving them all in the name of nothing, only for her to find out through an outsider that's he is doing something... after confrontation he says she doesn't deserve to know,abeg it's so painful that she's isn't been recognized just because her kids are female... the man and his family can go to hell for all I care, nonsense mentality of some family I hope they are happy.

I just wanted to ask if this is enough basics to bring her home, because she probably doesn't have a future in that house,I know it's going to be hard for all of us, but I prefer we help her from here than there because the man is plain wicked, mind you after confrontation he almost choked her,I called him again and he was just laughing and saying things out point to what he did and cut the call. Is this enough Merit to take my cousin away please nairalanders, how do I do it with this man,my uncle Is late so is my dad...

I know I am not earning much but truth be told I have practically being the father to these kids,if not for cash she would have left since, now I saw a post about a nairalander that claimed that he wanted to tame his wife,that he paid money for her operation, ontop belle you give am, this is what instigated me to write this it's reminded me of my cousin sister.
Doesn't he know women fo through postpartum depression, some ask for sex barely after a week sef... Even if I don't have money I prefer giving my kids the best life I never had. I'm very bitter right now and I don't even know why some people can be so heartless towards people they claim to share a bond. Please give me your truest opinion I really appreciate.
Ahnie
BlissGod
Itiswell22

The first article I have ever read that covers all, thank you for this.

Just look at the road the time and energy he's using to do this could have built better roads for the masses...if only this governors can be regulated but no we are just bent on being punished whosoever is voting for shaibu needs checkup because if for 8 years no difference in power,then what should we do they should retire and do community service but no it to rule as governor, move to senator,then ministers and finally ambassadors... while recieving money for previous post held nonsense how will the masses breathe.

That's what killed someone I know about,see leave spiritual for spiritual but medically if you're not strong spiritually please talk medications abeg cos even pastors wives die from illnesses... nobody is God oh,now my guy said God picked engineering for him a lot of us saw him as a medical doctor including me here, but he felt engineering is what God wants from him and now he has More than 10 carry overs I just feel sometimes the voice we might be thinking is God might actually be the devil,a lot of decision I have made would have been averted if I had used my opportunity then now it's regret and planning for tomorrow

Cousin to bongo abeg who do us like this for Africa even till now they still dey under the same family.

aQUINandmore:
Men generally love slim and sexy women like me.
But lately I have been attracting the poor ones amongst them abi there are no rich married men in Benin city

God please bless me with a rich sugar daddy like buhari and Tinubu.
I love tinubu

🤣🤣🤣

aQUINandmore:
The few good roads in Benin were done by the previous administrations.
No single good road in benin city, schools dead, electricity dead, security dead, no single form of development for a whole seven years under this coconut head man.

God knows I dislike this man, I wish he can be my sugar daddy so I can also chop my share of the national cake

Obaseki please tell me you love me, I want to show you something.

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

It's so true I can relate to it with my 20k salary, there is always a way to Reduce it every
Month the people you owe alone en, you have to look good just clothes alone sef, it's just do stressful you can't even have time for yourself ontop the small salary sef.

Breastfeed:
okay, though I feel the 5000 mAh will still come in very handy.

ok no problem

Breastfeed:
but the pop 7 has a good battery too now, doesn't it?

5000 compared to the Infinix I think

So these people never had a life after this show right 🤣🤣🤣

Creamypie:
I don block my access bank account, manually remove all cash. They are biiiiiiiiig fraudsters in suit. Wetin I see for their hand, na only God know am finish. they steal secretly without alert. Then if I recharge cell line, they will deduct extra 1k800 apart from recharge debit.I take the detail to bank,no be one, no be twice, or thrice. Am not talking about their I legit deductions of transfer levy, account maintainance levy, atm monthly levy that come with alerts o.come screenshot at least 5 cases of their stealing, report to CBN. Access bank call me immediately. I tell them to fun off that I have already opened account with a different bank that doesn't steal customers cash.

My goodness

westlius:
Send a mail to contactcenter@accessbankplc.com
Then copy cbn with cpd@cbn.gov.ng
The bank will answer u assap
Even cbn will private mail you to properly make an entry to the case

🤣🤣🤣 ontop #300 that they collected from me,it hurts though but God go do am

Nice2023:



Show us the evidence make we see.

okay oh

Hollyharjii:
Firstly, I believe you're doing very well in your chosen field

Secondly, this is your brother's idea, so why not invest in him once and for all and know that you're doing that for humanity than you still wanting another channel to earn from him since you said his a loyal person, so i believe he'll forever remain grateful to you...

Thirdly, it'd have been better if you're into this business before him saying there is a space someone...

my 2cent thou

And what if the brother ends up not serious in this field,I know someone who helped his brother only for the business to fold up everyone needs money, make brother no drag brother down if he gets back his profit let him leave it for him to continue alone. 🙏🙏🙏

Today I couldn't get money to use so I could at least see something for myself today to put myself together as things are very though, since I already have #632 in my account I decided to tell someone to send me money and I got the alert of #500 naira,but guess what this stupid bank did they removed #300 from the money giving me a balance of #832 in my account,I was so sad even the customer care isn't going,I tried calling their account manager the person cut the call... what if that money was to save live imagine what Nigeria is doing to people. Upon everything they would just look for ways to steal from the poor masses,I just tire sef no matter anything someone does just to hold sef,abeg let's love one another in this trying this trying times cos it's only love that can help a depressed person in this country. please if you know you can support me with 5h from the bottom of your heart so that I would see 1k to withdraw please help and God bless.
Ahnie

Make I still try outside if I can see small work to do as well 🙏🙏.

Israeldan1:
Go for smart 7
E no day gv wahala

Tecno Pop 7, it's better check it on YouTube ut if you want battery life go for itel and the smart 7 because of the battery life.

Like seriously who still does this in this present era, your mum is just being backwards I fear for the said girlfriend of yours, people like you who are held by family are supposed to do what they want, because that's just how you are,free the poor girl please okay because your family Will make life hell for her and it's either it leads to you losing your life or her fighting for hers...ooo why are we so backwards in Africa,so sorry okay please think about the future of your kids,you don't want them to get abnormal treatment from your family,I suggest you get someone else okay but not who your mother will choose e get why hmm... must you marry an igbo girl as well 🤔 just asking though, leave the girl if you love her and want peace of mind for the both of you 🙏🙏❤️

So the purpose of him now giving birth to boys is to Bleep people daughters,and this is supposed to be someone's role model I am sure his grandpa is crying where is is, imagine the grandchild of a nationalist and one of the greatest leader of Nigeria saying this, truly sex has reduced the mentality of some individuals In this country that's why they don't care about what the government is doing as long as they can bleep no problem,if they are not allowed to bleep then there's a problem.

Jazmine10:
The question is, if that was a Nigerian man will he still be with her or upgrade her? No. He'll say he needs the spec for his current and newly acquired status and she is not his spec. He will look down on her and possibly look for the hottest latina or oyibo to speak in his mind riddled with inferiority complex "he don arrive". Y'all should stop romantizing nonsense. Black women/ Nigerian women deserve good love they don't gotta prove anything.

you're right it has happened a lot sometimes they later leave the so called girlfriend for someone who has no idea of their former life, just for her to start enjoying everything while the other lady is left to start afresh,it just takes the heart of a God fearing man and a well to do lady because it's not easy to go through all this faces of life together with someone who isn't your family.

00FFT00:
This boy will not kill his father before his time. Poverty badt.

😂😂😂 the guy dey find him own national cake

If you ask me na who I go ask,for this Naija na where we want start so if you ask me na who I go ask...I hope they recover cos things dey happen oh 🤯🤯

1Sharon:
The Lord's chosen?

and she dey wear necklace and earrings

Got my old account hacked lost all my class mates...over the years I stopped but had to come back because man must hustle Facebook pages are paying for promotion needless to say but it's really helpful in this hardship.