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nathpope:
Na ur fault. Stop blaming your sister for what you can stamp your feet on the ground and blatantly refuse for.

It's her fault because she's the same person complaining but if she's home and I object to give anyone anything she will call them back and give them that's why I use to say it's her fault now making me look like I'm the bad one.

That's why when she starts complaining I just look away or ignore her

Wait is it forever since I'm seeing one time payment

See an opportunity that I'm missing because of money God 😭😭

I'm interested as long as it's legit nothing comes easy

Ok

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Abosede Ayeni, Tantalizers





Ayeni is the founder of Tantalizers Plc, one of Nigeria’s early home-grown quick-service restaurant brands. Before going into food, she worked at Lever Brothers Nigeria and Senkay Nigeria.

She started Tantalizers in 1997, building a brand that brought African menus into the QSR format. The company also runs outdoor and industrial catering, and earns revenue from both company-owned and franchised outlets.

Tantalizers listed on the Nigerian Stock Exchange in 2008, which set it apart in a sector dominated by private operators. The listing brought public-market scrutiny, and the company has had to contend with tougher competition and years of financial pressure. In 2024 it got a new majority shareholder, Food Specialties, and a reconstituted board. It has since reported a return to profit for the 2025 financial year.

We paid our rent February,the house is so bad that the roof are falling off and when it rains it enters into the house. I have told my sister that we need to do something about it because we can't continue to live like this. Her boss at work even told her to bring whatever she had and let her add for her let's get a better accommodation. But my sister refused saying that her boss will suddenly become commanding and wouldn't let her have peace at work.

The landlady an old woman has been disturbing me that she wants to see my sister,I told her she didn't say anything till last week this woman harassed me and even started threatening me and calling us debtors.

I reported the incidence to my sister and honestly I didn't like the way she handled the matter,the next day the woman saw me going to work again and started shouting at me. She's yoruba and very old I told her I asked my sister to see her,she was denying the fact that she insulted me and threatened me. The next thing I told her I would be late for work and she said that is how I would end up late.

I now told her that I would never be late in Jesus name and left for work. On my way to work if not for God the Keke almost ran into a jeep I was scared and was praying silently luckily for me I don't go to work everyday now.

Each time I greet her she doesn't reply and whenever I'm passing she is looking at me and her eyes are watching me too deep I feel uneasy and I have had dreams about her digging the ground to put something inside at night but I prayed over it.

Now I came back home and my neighbor was telling me she saw her at night,that the old woman was naked and holding placing her hands on herself and laying curses and she was completely naked.

I don't feel safe anymore normally she is used to talking to.my sister and she would Just accept whatever she says. I heard she went to beg her and told her she will pay half months but the woman refused. Although when I asked her she denied but she's telling people she want to pay the woman.

That's how she behaves people have talked to her but she's just adamant, through our today I just don't understand myself I almost lost my phone today if not that the next passenger that entered was a lady who brought it to my notice. Where I wan come start from

The room is bad she doesn't fix the room after payment and the rent isn't due. I don't why I just feel I am not safe here anymore plus things haven't been fine for me I am not the superstitious type before I start blaming someone for my situation. I take full responsibility for my actions.

I didn't speak to her rudely I only asked her why she chooses not to speak to my sister especially when she sees her every morning but is always picking at me.

The image down is the roof it's because it's late at night...if it rains it can full two big baff everywhere is sinking.

It's as if my spirit is somewhere else entirely and I keep seeing my late dad in my dreams. This is the second time since I got here.

What should I do, it's November no good job,no good source of income I'm at the mercy of my employers. No good accommodation.

Can things just get any worse than me fighting for my life just in the midst of all these troubles.

Na every month person go dey beg na every month I go hear it's well,ego better and na every month I suppose depend on loan apps.

Now someone 100k is with me but I settled my debts of 100k if you people remember when I said I'm oweing my bank. That day God just used someone to say keep this monie for me my guy dey use my money anyhow. I used it to clear my debts and borrowed but I was given 80k. Now I no touch the money she come add 40k collect 20k later but devil abi responsibility choke for my hand and they paid me 23k for September last month for my form school I just commot I no get choice again because it is wickedness.

Next thing I come dey owe opay 37k infact everything about me na borrow. This afternoon emergency happened she come meet me I put mine for opay and it's not my due date I carried the 37k and paid them hoping they'll increase it so I will borrow again. Na there them come dey tell me unsuccessful I no fit cry I no fit cry 😭😭😭

God I feel so weak,enough get wetin I never do oh I don submit application, offline,online now I dey work as a cleaner and the salary come low.

Wetin dem dey do to make that money again.

I no wan borrow again them dey owe me salary reach 2 months I no go chop,them pay me 23k when I no be stone.

Good English,good English e no dey pay me
E no dey pay me oh i no some pep go insult me say na me Everytime but like this na wetin dey my head I just dey type so I can give myself hope when hope no dey.


Let me drop proof first. I don dey find solution to this matter tey tey and all I get na me and God even work wey I come dey find online the person is asking me if I have the chance as I dey for this life so what's chance to me and I no wan beg because it will look somehow.

I don tell my former madam wey I dey work for online before,I noticed something about her you see when it comes to me she doesn't help like that and for me I took it as an experience. She will now come and be telling me she gave someone so so so amount I will be like God ho do my own.

I told her since last year about my business plans then I wasn't oweing anything. I no even put body for her matter because everybody get him own problems for body and I no fit use my own dey rub person. For months she no talk to me she just asked me to go to iyana ipaja for her for business I said no wahala and mentioned crayfish business na there she ghost me abi na archive self she archive me.

Even the place I was working before I thought they'll see my sacrifices,when we were just 3 staffs I stayed because I was wondering how they'll cope. They just gave me every reason to hate myself.

Within months and I'm swimming in debts,my God if you see this post abeg just comment, follow and share your words fit motivate me

If e get wetin I fit do abeg no hide update

That's how my former school was oweing me salary for months and i no fit handle am I resorted to borrowing now I'm a chronic debtor and like this I fit just end thing because there is no more way ahead for me.

Bayoonanuga:
LoL you don receive salary na why you dey happy

which receive salt if I tell you wetin dey do me you go dey cry for me even find how to help me join. As I no get anybody I just dey low-key

You don chop beleful come dey pound kpekus join dey imagine rubbish, still come get time type am join it's well.

GanagiBitrus:
What about Airtime?

I recently discovered my airtime had been depleting by ₦200 every day, because of CHOP LOTTO that I never subscribed to.

MTN isn't just saying the truth you're not the only one complaining of them removing airtime is you call them they don't have evidence.

Samantha125:
The man was only performing his duty as a man and for that, God will bless him in abundance... Even the Bible says "blessed is the hand that gives", hallelujah!!!🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽

We need more men like him in this life.

Ha fear God oh if na your brother nkor what duty was he performing as a man exactly the same men you'll call scum is suddenly good to perform a duty.

It's well

Hmm all I can say is hmm

[quote author=ajalawole post=141005381]my ex left me after 2020 lockdown, we never have any issues just that her parents don't want her to get married then. She is married now, I even send her son first year birthday cake.. you women don't actually know what you want, na sweet things dey kpai Una last last.[/quoteSo what's the connection between this and yours it seems you're still in connection to your ex na you send cake willing na still dey talk dey she no know wetin she want.

Just move except that child is not yours and the relationship ended peacefully no go dey over do and allow her to either face the consequences of her decision or enjoy her blissful union.

So the okada man that remember seeing her in his house on that day nkor. I believe she went to break up with him and he kpai her.

I use to say No. My complaints is the fact that they enter the room without asking for permission to take what they want,I stated that someone entered the room without any information carried pot then saw where we hid our onions and took two. If it's just me saying no why won't I tell them No. Is there water in the fridge?No next thing immediately I turn to do something they'll enter and go straight to the fridge and say they want to check by themselves. I no go fit lie for you now,my sister don too give them privileges walai. E no dey funny again.

nathpope:
WHY 3XACTLY ARE YOU COMPLAINING FOR SOMETHING YOU CAN OUTRIGHTLY REJECT BY SAYING NO?

For wetin now na them dey do big things but see behaving like they're broke. I dey craze to dash them make you know say I don dey craze small. I collected our kettle,her husband came to collect it around after 8 at night that means it will sleep over because they won't return it. And the next day that's what we use to bath. I went to knock their door around 11;25 if not mistaken I collected it back. Because wetin I go use shey na me they wan inconvenience.

femi4:
Its either you are big enough to say no or you dash them n buy another one

Sam42222:
suffered this same thing first hand in the university ,I had a room mate who all ways stays in the room all day (he course was not that hard) playing games he wont do anything always coming to eat our food claiming to be broke he even sometimes brings his friends to come and eat I and my roommates food this same guy as a student never runs out of data he uses about 3-4 perfumes I later discovered he goes to the laundry ,there was a time I needed sometimes and this guy blatantly told me no my eyes opened from that day, my sister you should be wise give to those who are in need not someone who wants to leach you to save up for something big or maintain a lifestyle they cant afford. so now the solution is either u say no to them (you have use for whatever they ask) or you all so burden them with request take caution here because they'll like to give you little things as leverage to keep leaching you so make sure u do exactly what the person I quoted suggests , finally if you are some one that takes advantage of people because of their silence pls STOP NOW la

that's exactly what they do living premium life, they're earning big money,if you see the one earning 200k room it's perfume that full there,and she doesn't joke with them. One day she came to beg us for black soap I said we don't have we have African siri she said, "No oh I don't use anyhow soap,I will just pour water on my body than using another soap my soap is black soap and is 15k,I forgot it at work if not". The black soap wey me dey use na 1500 own from chemical line oh her own is branded black soap.

Dash them when they earn more than me,do contribution, pledges and meetings but will be doing small small and using my own yo mend the spaces. December come and see them now come December, they'll buy the latest, do hair of 40k,fix lashes,buy full goat,bag of rice, groundnut oil etc. Na that time you go know say them dey ball. December used to be my toughest then because I used to collect half salary from my former school work. Shey I get savings abi I fit do pledge small carnival them put me for group I no fit kill myself I no even send them. If I tell you say this same people don dey pay 15k to 30k for the pledge and month never end oh. Them tell you say them no get money to buy pot no be one of them buy bag of rice go village with pots for her mama come dey beg big pot. No dey whine me oh I don tire for their matter no be lie o ti su me.

femi4:
Its either you are big enough to say no or you dash them n buy another one

ugwumichael:
Your Sis thinks this people love her, let her say no and watch them show their real colours.

That's what i'm saying now... they'll help spread bad things about you. They don't want to hear no. Some of them will keep food items in their house till it will spoil before they'll bring it out. I don't have time to be looking at what you have and don't have it's joblessness besides that wetin I wan gain from inside person matter. It's well

LZAA:
cousin sister 
Somebody will tell Nigerians one day this is tautology and it's not a proper word
Meanwhile OP
You go clear that your sister better OT o

I don dey clear am now when she self dey feel am especially now that gas is hot cake. One go fill 1kg and come to borrow gas to cook but the same person is doing 50k to get 500k contribution. Even me sef my money for work no reach that 50k but why them come dey try to use my head ....from bathing soap, toothpaste, charger head,onions,water wetin them no dey collect even when her own friend came to visit the person was annoyed. they'll come and collect pot for a whole 2 weeks,na she dey yarn me say person carry her pots move out of the compound. People wey connive with iron condemn thief some of my aunt properties that she kept because they demolished their rented house and gave developers, they had to move to the village.

Every day if I come back from work different stories,iron condemn carries it everyday and nobody is seeing the iron condemn all my aunt baff, plates,cups that my sister went and kept in the stairs side because no space they carried everything within a week. The day she carried some baff up and left the condemn own down the next day it was no where to be found. I told her to shout and call them out because they're the ones packing those things. One man begged us to sell them or should he? We said no it's our aunt properties she's in the village her children would travel soon and they'll come and carry them. He said they're old school but they connivedto steal them and sell. God will punish them they like using people too much.

That's what I normally do there's one of them in particular that has a younger sister the girl would act like she wants to come and take lighter you see something about them they don't knock anymore they just come in to carry. She'll go to exactly where that thing is kept to check if it's available and run out to talk I have spoken to my sister that I don't like how they enter our room even when I'm dressing no privacy,they don't knock but if you try it in their room it's a problem why? I have told her my mind na she I dey change am for because na she give them the privilege me I no send anybody. To the extent that they were calling me stingy that I'm wicked my heart is black.

You'll give them heaven and earth they'll never be grateful. I once posted about a phone she gave to my neighbors don for exam after the examination they didn't return it. It caused serious problem because my sister will be complaining but she's the same person that went outside to tell them to carry it. Eye service is what we call her,I no dey do eye service oh make them carry their rubbish begging go her side abeg.

Sonnobax15:

I don't see any big issue here.

Just be bold enough to say NO to them,and nobody will beat you for saying it.

Nobody send anybody come township

There is something bothering me and even as I'm typing this there is no auta of happiness in me. My elder sister has made it an habit of giving out things to neighbors and sometimes it makes it hard for me especially when I am in need of that particular thing. They'll borrow big pot for a whole 2 weeks sometimes when we want to cook there'll be no big pot to use and when you go to their house to knock they'll say they are using it.

To the extent that if I collect that thing they'll come back at night to collect it back. This morning she was complaining that a neighbor wanted to carry pot and saw the onions we hid and took two. Now here's the most annoying part they'll mention the amount of things they want like four pure water,three onions,three Maggi even the gas doesn't last us to a month. And these are paying Ajo and doing pledges in various groups.

I know one that is doing Ajo of 50k to get 500k the time I was working in my former job and I was earning 45k she will say I should do her card now,or small data because I sell data but I don't do it anymore because no profit. I will tell her I don't have she's earning if not mistaken 200k and she's buying wigs and perfumes and skin care and hair care products but immediately they pay her she is broke but has money to spend on herself.

I don't want to sound rude but they're making me feel bad,and I don't want it to be like I'm getting frustrated or anything but it is not right.
I couldn't even boil water this morning because the kettle wasn't in our room. I have told her it's her fault because she has also been complaining about the fact that they don't knock our room and my cousin sister said I should leave her because there was a time she refused to give someone block from the fridge saying she cannot force it out and my sister started shouting that the should give the person.

Her friend who was inside the room with us angrily went to the fridge and forced it out to give to the man and said she is two sided and doesn't know what's doing her. Can you imagine that one of our neighbors went to the market bought onions and grinded everything while coming to borrow onions from us every day morning, afternoon and evening.

We're contributing to buy this things because where we stay food stuff are very expensive,I was even complaining to someone that when I wasn't paid salary it was hard for me to feed because if I go to someone for credit especially one lady at my house she'll frown face and this is someone I buy something from in a regular. Sometimes she'll say that thing is not available but she'll sell to someone else in my presence.

The one wey pain me pass na egg she collected the egg from me and said it's remaining only two and she wants to go and buy new one so she can't give me credit.

So you can see why I'm very angry with everything that's going on I don't want to fight anyone because I don't want to bring myself so low I don't care what they'll say but it is getting out of hand and inconvening me

Okolo2122:
This thing happened to me last year. Bolt driver absconded with my babe. I ordered bolt to bring her to my place. After he picked her up, he ended the ride and stopped picking calls. The babe switch off phone too😾 I later discovered he took her to his place instead. Na once I go buy my own car register for bolt. I’m not even in the business for the profit. I want to give back to the society. 😐

As how now or was the babe an Os

I don't even know what to say I had to google it to know if he's really his son. Okoya is longer much more agile than his son,they have long life in their family oh.

His father has 9 wives in total maybe his mum is the first wife,he can always get his dad attention it's been 40 long years and him going to tiktok to speak doesn't do any justice to him. His mum is there he's a mature man I don't think she can restrict him from seeing his father besides he is also older than her.

It's well I know they'll still do what I don't want

Lamanii22:
Hello family lander! I was just wondering if it’s normal for my five year old to like/love fashion? Lately she wants long hair, choosing shorts and tucking in with a top…. Should I just let her have her way or I’d be spoiling her that way? Thank you for responses.

Teach her it's not all about that she's learning from people within her environments okay

I you never talk truth for this matter flirting or having sex because how can a lady who is not even dating a man but just flirting with him have the decency to post the man online if it's not stupidity then tell me what it's. You don't want to repent you are trying to make what you did sound good to the ears.

Barely 6 months guy you will do it again and again even don't think you're doing anything wrong

Advices like this will simply be ignored "men dey, odogwu,men with doings,money na water,na men dey rush us".

Later they'll say snatching a man is right especially if he has money. Money,Money,Money...after money what else is now important kpekus,skincare see en I don tire to talk abeg. It's obviously now a trend even amongst ladies in their early 20s.

Well in another point of view there are men who spend without thinking of getting anything back in return but as a lady does that make him a full spec. That's why boys are turning into men wanting to do the unthinkable, just to impress, everyone has what Is doing them this morning like this so make we just rest for this matter because no matter how we talk it cannot change.

If he come back show am shege useless person na them na people like them go see work with dey fit do but them go prefer to useless another man own. Make people dey hail them for public but them be thief.

Sensiblerealist:
Na so one guy scale fence come move my madam phones and chargers. The funny thing be say I never sleep. I only went into the living room to eat bread and groundnut, then place drinks in the freezer. Before I went back, this guy don tear net run inn package. In the morning, we went behind the fence to check where dem for enter and I saw the, a son of the landlady there and everything screams this is the culprit but I noor get evidence. The only evidence wey for dey, a driver in the church beside, for safety reasons I guess, inn madam say the guy noor fit describe the thief. Since that day, I've got a sharpened cutlass and flashlight dey wait make inn colos konji hold am make inn try com back

Na personal person if not who go get mind do this kind thing when dey no dey mad. Make he go carry ayelala fish out the idiots. Useless people they'll just sit and be planning how to rip someone from his or her sweat later they'll say you wey dey hustle right no fit stand where dem dey stand because of money whey dem dey thief to live large.

Na ogun go fire them all of them,stealing to enrich themselves with people's sweat.