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Nawa o. Ppl are different sha. If na me, no matter d quarrel, I go pick call. I cherish calls. Unless d call has been made earlier and its about d quarrel then I might stop picking.

Besides an emergency SMS would do having known he wouldn't pick up.

Sounds like a nollywood product though

Hmmm. That's d problems pastors and pastor kinda wives put themselves into. Or maybe ur wife didn't really date men to have some experience b4 marriage. I'm sure she's d born again type who would say 'afterall ure pastor-u can't commit adultery neglecting that pastors are humans and they respond to nature

Its good u spoke out but if you're really a true pastor, you would know this -"obey God and offend ur wife is better than obey ur wife and offend God"..you're already lying bcus of the fear of ur wife

Lemme give u one very potent psychological fact - "there's no fun or enjoyment with a woman that comes without serious TROUBLE, except ur wife". It doesn't matter how freely or self-sacrificing the woman could offer herself to you, there's always trouble at the end of the fun. Her age or status also doesn't matter. Think about it and you'll know its true. Its good to look beyond the sexual fun and think of d wahala that comes with it. But unfortunately most men are overwhelmed only by the sexual pleasure especially if d lady makes herself appear like a free gift who wouldn't impose any trouble later. Then at the end men would wish they never responded to her advances. Women don't give themselves for free. It has never happened. There'll always be a feeling in them to hold on to you as being responsible for exploring their body. Age isn't a factor here..the feeling is just natural. They'll seduce you and hold u responsible later. Even in marriage, they don't give their body freely to their husbands, they can only improve a bit cus of d security of being ur lawful wedded wife. Let alone to a person they're not married to. Even if the wahala isn't directly from them, some kinda trouble about that fun u had with them will certainly show up in one way or the other..it has always been like that right from bible and quaran days

So I advice u insist on letting the girl go. Use ur authourity as the head of ur family now since ur wife doesn't understand ur physiology before trouble shows up.

I hope that helps u both now and with any other women u get attracted to later in life.

May God uphold you pastor!

usermane:
Again, my post misunderstood by another poster. It seem many people just can't read and digest simple English of under five hundred words. No where in my post did I question women for not making the first move. I consistently stuck with the objective:

To analyze the excuses that ladies present for not making the first move, explain why these are flimsy excuses and state the true reason why women do not make the first move or ask out men.

You're simply confused. That you're good in analyzing english isn't any reason for you not to realize that reality and experiences inspire answers. Don't even know if you're a man or a woman. I just gave you 2-3 reasons why women don't don't make d 1st move and ask men out which u asked for(typed in simple english), and you can't recognize them

amokeme:
it is a financialopportunity?

Well, that's the way ladies see it. Its an extortion routine 4 them

Durenttt:
tenk u

You deserve a follow. I'll do that right away but let me say to u dat madness full NL o. Was actually expecting a mad response from u so I can fire back until I checked ur profile. Just hope NL madness no go infect u

Durenttt:
Am nat himpressed wit dis your welcome oooh

Hmmm. I'm touched with your response. I'm so sorry. Shows ure really new.
Welcome to romance

Op asking someone out means

-ure ready to spend for that person cus d person was on his/her own jeje b4 u asked him/her out

-ure ready to take d blame and bear the pain if the person misbehaves and walks out of the relationship. Afterall he/she didn't ask for it, u did

And I'm yet to see a woman who can do these 2 things properly and peacefully so its better she stays on her own and show appreciation when the man comes for her. Yet u'll still find some unappreciative ones

Durenttt:
Am new on nairaland nd i need someone to help show me how tinz dey sup for here. Pls am not a madgoat or a madcow, am a humabeing nd deserve to be treated as one. No insult me abeq unless i shop ur mama yansh. TanQ

Ok. Welcome gentlegoat and gentlecow. Come lick my yansh and my pooo is available too

No u didn't. U should have made ur intensions known to her not to NL

Hmmm. Guy I no advice u to carry on to marriage level o no matter how caring she may be. Cus with 5yrs difference, d day weh she open eyeball 4 u, u go know say shiit get different colour.

WHY NOT? I still did some months..like 5months ago. Whe dated back in school but we separated peacefully, not break up. And I think that's what determines the answer to ur question. It depends on if u separated or broke up. The former is better than the later. Withe the former u can still be family friends and be ur spouses' acquaintee

octopusfreaky:
I'm not a good writer so feel free to correct any mistake made.
We're living in a society where moral values and chastity have been buried .Young men keep complaining of "Nigerian girls",some say they are loose, hot-tempered ,ill-mannered and call us all sort of names..The truth is whether men like it or not,,they must get married.
Here is a list of categories of ladies we have in our country now and you "men" have to pick one ...
1.A virgin but with bad character.
2. A homely pretty girl that slept with over 50 guys and no abortion but decides to settle
down for marriage .
3.A pretty single girl that just had four abortions in entire life but still flirts around.
4. A single mum with just one kid and has never had an abortion but looking for a man that will take her as she is.
5. A clerics daughter that got raped while
she was a virgin and has decided to move
with her life.
6. A young girl with probably one of the STDs
in town...
Now,guys which of D's category of ladies can u cope with?..I mean settle down with..

No2 is a very BIG lie!(She can't be homely with all that)

But personally for me I'll go with 5
All she needs is lots of love and elation

BTW op how many abortion have u done?

Well said op. But know that the world's standard of who a gentle man is 2day is not what it was 10yrs ago and would not be same in the next ten years. Only the creator of manhood has d correct standard and believe me God's standard for who a man should be is not exactly what the earth knows..the more of God u know, the more u'll understand. I've read lots of these on the net..different ppl writing up their different ideas based on their experience for who a man should be..they could be funny atimes.

satowind:
Some days ago I created a topic on why people hide there salary from there spouse.

https://www.nairaland.com/2713974/why-people-keep-salaries-secret

I didn't even know my wife was that active on nairaland and she felt bad and apologized. She said she didn't know the salary issue bothered me this much and was a little bit angry I didn't tell her it bother me that much before taking it to the forum.

That was maturity on the side of your wife. And u were really wrong not to have told her 1st at least once. I've always said to ppl that there's no maturity in expecting ur spouse to just know what u want without telling him/her 1st. A lot of couples are guilty of this.

Lol. Uve not reach d point of being suicidal...commit suicide now if it will solve your problem. Every story has 2 sides. We've heard your side and no wise judge would conclude without hearing the other side. Perhaps u should meet someone u both know so he/she would hear both of u out. NL is not a wise place to come unless its not a serious issue. Period

Tallesty1:
Most of the guys that commented before me are hypocrites.

How many of you will accept a job that involves coming to work on Sunday?

What of muslims who go to work on their own sabbath day..friday?

He didn't see her unclothedness na. The story only said her back was exposed. I for say na so her unclothedness cheap reach? If bankyW saw her unclothedness then I'm next to see it.

So na these parents dey support dia pikin using smallsmall girls weh no wear pant dance for music video and dem dey chop d money...money weh pantless waist dey produce. . I'm sure dem go even dey use d money do offering for church. Nawa o

Sweetcollins:
Wish them wella...Every spirit of failure, what re you waiting for!

DIIIEEEE!

Ceeesaw:
I agree with your write up entirely, except for one. Feminism advocates for equal rights of men and women. Its a movement to stop the oppression of women, domestic violence and marginalisation of women. Feminism does not preach that all men are beasts or evil..

Unfortunately a lot of women have done despicable things to their husbands and marriages under d guise of feminism. They have so misunderstood the original teaching of that movement. A woman will not cook food and keep at home before running off to work and then claim she is pursuing her dreams. Some women will insult and humiliate their husband in public in the name of being equal to him.

So the problem is misunderstood Feminism.

Feminism isn't even the right word. You just described 'societal gender equality' which is advantageous in moderation

Feminism or chauvinism is pure selfishness that makes one not want to meet the need of one's spouse which is the exact reason for marrying in the 1st place

Make we talk true that saed na stress. I remember my own time, it was right under the sun we were, nothing enter brain at all. It was one of the dull moments on camp

This isn't news. Over 70% of social forum users are fake b4 na.

jonaifame22:
Pls wat cld be responsible

Ah u don fvck mammy water. Go beg d lady u fvck last b4 u notice d bend. Or u fvck ashawo u no pay, go settle the ashawo oh. Orelse ur diick go turn go back kpatakpata like ram horn.

Is she an illiterate? Explain well to her. Maybe she doesn't know the benefits of doing so. By the way check yourselves for what? Hiv, genotype, rh factor, blood group or fertility test. Which one?

Igbo kwenu. I hail o. May this not be your portion as december festive period is around the corner.

Yes o my broda. I am thanks Gods for you that you lucky and graduation out of schools even though you are spoken international english. Your enemy thinking that you can not making it, they didn't knows that it is not by english but by connection and you are now a camp. I congratulating you joor.

The word spy makes it wrong. Well I don't know for others but for me, my fiancee or wife would have free access to my phone always including my kids. Yes let them play games and even use my airtime once in a while. Them dey enjoy their daddy ni. As far as God dey provide for me. And me too would have access to my wife's phone and can pick her calls when she's not around or busy.
I don't pray for a relationship without trust.