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DailyNews: This is another interesting topic to handle next- ladies, y do u hate ur mother-in-laws so much? Even if she is good? To my grtst amazement, the ladies too aspire to become mother-in-laws in future, yet they pray for the poor woman to die before they arrive? Hence, they are praying that mothers shud not see their grandchildren, y? Pls if u have been having dis wicked and devilish mentality, pray, fast and ask God to forgive u ASAP, n re-position ur mind from now to love and cherish ur mother-in-law. I am falling more n more in love with this thread. Pls let me run to d bed, tomorrow is....goodnight all

Guess you haven't read †ђξ MIL thread on NL. Infact, I wanted to 'go and find' a man to marry so that I can have 2 mothers. It was that refreshing.

Winneygirl: I watch football somtimes. But only matches dat I knw will generate heat.
e.g Mancity vs Man U, Barca vs Real madrid, Chelsea vs Arsenal.

But U wont expect me 2throw away my 90mins watching Mancity vs Reading. We all knw dat Mancity will win, so Y d stress??

While it will be hard 2develop passion 4 football, I hav developed a tolerance 4 it.
Instead of wasting so much time watching d whole match, I'd rather wait till next morning 2 watch d highlights.

I even thank God sometimes dat I didnt watch some matches when I find out in d highlights dat it was a goal-less draw.

Question: Wat is a match without goals??
Answer: Waste of precious time!!!

I've always wanted to respond to some comments but I just let it slide, but I just have to respond to this.

It's great to meet another lady who loves football and that's why I'll like to encourage you to watch some goalless matches.
You can watch a goal-less match and it could be one of your best matches ever.
Although I just agree that a goal coming i̶̲̥̅̊n̶̲̥̅̊ after much work is dope, but a goal-less match could also be more exciting than one with 12 goals i̶̲̥̅̊n̶̲̥̅̊ it.

Man City wouldn't always win Reading. United were beaten by an unknown Barnsley i̶̲̥̅̊n̶̲̥̅̊ their first match 2 seasons ago. Go figure! *grin*

Jay doll i̶̲̥̅̊n̶̲̥̅̊ †ђξ house.

I really love what you're doing Carmiedoll. I know you're influencing a lot of ladies positively.

When I was a much younger lady, I had an interested friend, but while checking out if we could be together there were 2 things I couldn't take without being devalued (not physical). I told him that if I take this, he would try it with another lady and if she complained he would tell †ђξ other lady "afterall Jay doll accepted this, so why are you being too difficult?"
If ladies generally respected themselves and requested that they be treated with dignity otherwise "no-show", they'll make things easier for another lady if things do not work out.

When you lower your value, expect that a man would lower it more than you did, till you become of no value.
Be wise!

There was something a lady wrote here that described ♍Ɣ situation, aptly, "hopeful but not desperate". I've been trying to put a Phrase to this till I hot on this lovely thread.

So how did it go?

Ghettoguru: Thanks guys for your inputs.

@Willzkid, my tattoos are permanent, so I guess there nothing I can do now!

@Ayomivic, you said it's a sin, does that mean it's unforgivable? If God in his infinite wisdom and mercy will not forgive me for ignorantly putting on tattoos but throw me in hell to suffer for eternity, then where is the love of God that Christianity preaches about?

God knows if it's within your means to erase it. For example, if you stole something from someone and you hold onto it, God knows it's within your means to return it or apologise.

4reigningqueen: Imagine this


A teacher enters a class and a class that was rowdy suddenly becomes quiet.The teacher starts teaching with the students paying absolute attention. After explaining, the students struggled among themselves to ask questions.The bell for a change of period goes but the students are begging him to continue.


Will you say the students were bored?

Wow! If I had a school, I'll hire you, pronto!
It's not only about knowing maths, but being able to present it i̶̲̥̅̊n̶̲̥̅̊ a way †ђξ students would understand. Please keep up †ђξ good work.

Read i̶̲̥̅̊n̶̲̥̅̊ †ђξ papers about how a man got killed i̶̲̥̅̊n̶̲̥̅̊ front of his wife because he chased †ђξ man that hit him.
Let's be wise

MsBeauty Aghedo: ..My advice to you is that u to take a one month break out of that friendship. Don't call him, don't see him don't, receive his calls meaning do no communication. After it. U will be able to rate the kinda feeling u have for him... I have tried it with so many guys b4 and it worked. It made me to know that i was liking them becus of familiarity.

How did †ђξ guys react to †ђξ sudden change?

kayode2: Couples waiting for the fruit of the womb should refer to the scripture to choose an option they can marry a second wife like Abraham did,and God may open the womb of the barren wife provided he keeps faith with God. Every human being want to have offsprings of his own but when the waiting is getting too long the person can adopt,artificial insemination or any other medical option the couple can afford.My advice is that the waiting should not be too long possibily five years maximum . if the problem is with d woman the wife should allow the husband to marry a second wife while the wife adopts shikena.

What if it's †ђξ man?

chaircover: which is a shame and wrong because what she is indirectly implying is that she doesn't trust her sons judgment. . . . .He choose his wife at the end of the day . . . and if she brought him up herself then there is something wrong with how she trained him!

MIL's should just go along the lines of "so long my son/daughter is happy, then let me be happy for him/her"

No one's judgement is always without error, which is why she prayed for a good DIL and she got one.
†ђξ woman can get along with anyone, once you're good. That's how wonderful she is.
♍Ɣ cousin's mum can't do 1% of what her MIL does for her, nor can she show appreciation as much as her MIL shows.

These stories are breaths of fresh air jor. All †ђξ bad rapping is over-exaggerated. I knew people had great MIL and you've all corroborated this.
I've always looked forward to having a mother-in-law, and not just any one, but a nice one.

♍Ɣ much older cousin's MIL is amazing!!!
She's like an angel.
Whenever I travel for ♍Ɣ annual vacation, I enjoying having her around because she pampers M̶̲̥̅ε̲̣̣̣̥. She would keep disturbing M̶̲̥̅ε̲̣̣̣̥ that I should go and eat. If she could feed M̶̲̥̅ε̲̣̣̣̥, she would. She shares very personal details about herself with M̶̲̥̅ε̲̣̣̣̥. We would go shopping together.

Her relationship with ♍Ɣ cousin is something else.
She would complain that she works too hard.
When ♍Ɣ cousin comes back home, she would ask her, for example,"will you eat rice". ♍Ɣ cousin would say "mummy rice o wunmi, it's semo I feel like eating".
Anyone who fights/ quarrels with her DIL has fought with her. She begins to side-eye such people. No one must hurt her daughter.

♍Ɣ cousin volunteered to help someone prepare food for a party, her MIL joined her, because (like she told M̶̲̥̅ε̲̣̣̣̥) ♍Ɣ cousin works too hard. She hurt herself while helping her, but and still never stops.

Now, she's †ђξ one that sees M̶̲̥̅ε̲̣̣̣̥ cousin as a gift to heel instead of †ђξ other way round. I remember, one day, after we both went shopping, and told M̶̲̥̅ε̲̣̣̣̥ that she prayed for a good DIL as she was good to her MIL.
And God answered her prayers as she got ♍Ɣ cousin. I wondered why she wasn't busy focusing on what she does for ♍Ɣ cousin, instead of how much ♍Ɣ cousin has been a great blessing to her.

I realised that she's a wise woman.
Better to build †ђξ family relationship than destroy it.

†ђξ first time I saw this behaviour was years back, when M̶̲̥̅y cousin was still i̶̲̥̅̊n̶̲̥̅̊ Nigeria. Was at my cousin's place when she asked for †ђξ bag she had borrowed her some days before then. My cousin said "go and carry that your bag that isn't fine" i̶̲̥̅̊n̶̲̥̅̊ a jocular manner. It was then I knew ♍Ɣ cousin had struck gold. She had gotten a mother.

God bless wise MILs.

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Hello Joel.

First, I'll like you to know that something could trigger offer †ђξ symptoms of another ailment. This means that †ђξ perfume could have triggered another ailment, because this can't go on for months even if it was i̶̲̥̅̊n̶̲̥̅̊ your blood stream.
Secondly, it might be coincidental that it occured after you sprayed †ђξ perfume.
Thirdly, except you do not want kids and thereby, do not mind being sterile, you need to run some tests, and visit a doctor for proper diagnosis. Taking all manner of drugs, without knowing which one might be aggravating †ђξ ailment, is a step (maybe several steps) towards sterility. Not all drugs can tell you all †ђξ side-effects attached, so don't be someone's guinea pig.
Forget shame, man up and talk with a doctor.
You can even pay for †ђξ services of an online doctor...at least I know I can pay for †ђξ services of an online vet doctor, so you can check that out, but forget self-medication or even asking a pharmacist. They do trial and error also.

Wish you †ђξ best.

My dad gave[color=#990000][/color] out his younger sister in their church, after 4 children (the first should have been close to 30 or more than), so I guess you're in order.
Just ensure you tie up loose ends

ItsModella: Thanks. I just googled cherry lola and saw mostly positive reviews so I'll try it as soon as I run out of my Aubrey organics GPB. I'm trying so hard not to become a product junkie, lool.

Oh! I became a junkie alright, but I wish I had known about this method earlier. Wouldn't have bothered with all these shampoos and conditioners I went through pain getting someone to deliver it down here.
Purchased GPB and used it once before discovering this method. I intend adding GPB and AOHSR to my mix (added AOHSR last time). Don't need to do a two-step washing and conditioning anymore. Detangles like nothing else and leaves my hair soft and manageable.
Got a large bottle of amino acid at Ogunsanya mall, Surulere; it would last me for a minimum of half a year (if I don't add it to food).

ItsModella: I BCed in June after transitioning for 9 months. The last time I checked which was about 2 months ago, I had 7-8 inches of hair. I've been on braids since then.

Your hair's growing real fast.
Have you heard of the cherry lola method? Research it.
It's a hairsaver. Used it last week and my hair gave me a thank you kiss. By hair seems to love protein though. Would use it weekly for about 2 months.

ItsModella: How many inches is your hair now?

I used to be really into measuring my hair with a tape rule, but I started using the APL, SL etc.
My hair's between APL (ArmPit Length) and BSL (Bra Strap Length) now. I wish I hadn't over-manipulated. Shoulda been mid-back length now.
I'm aiming  Waist length.

What about you?

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Eby22: Just be open minded about it and ask God for convinction, He will ofcourse reveal His mind 2u (He does not want anybody 2go 2hell and He answers every prayer).

It took God himself 2convince me and that is why i can't go back on them. To tell you the truth, i look so odd in my church now, almost everybody including pastor's wives are using them. Heb 2:1

This world is a temporary place and that is why i am striving 2enter. One thing is knowing the mind of God and another thing is doing it. I won't lie to you, it is not easy to give up on those. Lots of people are becoming aware these days and d devil is seriously fighting.

Matt 24:37 "But as the days of Noe were, so shall also the coming of the son of man be". (almost everybody was doing the wrong thing)

1 peter 4:18 "And if the righteous scarcely be saved, ..."

Thanks for this. I'll like more clarification on this. Please e-mail me.

Eby22: My dear, I used to argue about this gold and jewery stuff, make up,broided hair and all what have u until God gave me a revelation some days back.

In that revelation i was told that i will go 2hell, not because of unrighteousness but because of the things i attach 2my body (Gods temple). I had 2sell off my gold, removed my weavone and went natural.

All my life, i have used jewerries, my church approves of it but making heaven is an individual thing. Ask God for revelations concerning any controvercies and He will reveal His mind 2u, as there is no prayer He does not answer.

pls don't follow the crowd, lots of christains (true children of God) are heading the wrong way without knowing it, let d Bible guide u and submit completely when He convinces u. It is only ur personal convinction that will stand the test of time.

Hmmm...tell me more about this. I really want to know. A lot of times, I think God wants me to do away with weaves and wigs, but I fight against the nudge, and tell myself nothing is wrong with it. Though I went natural 2 years back, I still use them, whenever I get tired/lazy/want a new look.

carefreewannabe: Even if I was 40 and not married, I'd still not act deseperate.
There's more to life than money. And marriage is definitely not about money. At least, for me.
I prefer to adopt a baby and be a single mum than feel disgusted by the man who wants to sleep with me.
That's another topic.

When I read this post, I couldn't help making a loud exclamation of "e don reach this level"
Babes, I've worn similar "shoes" before and it wasn't palatable.
As much as I strongly believe it's perfect to marry your closest friend, who you can share anything with, and is not liable to hurting you intentionally, attraction matters.
I also couldn't imagine hugging him and getting intimate when married. I tried, and could haVe even ignored the reason I gave him (spiritual compatibility), because since leaving my ex almost a decade ago, he was the only one that ran a chance of being as ideal for me as my ex was-easy to talk with, considerate, focused, confident, morally sound. But, I couldn't.

My advice- trying beats not trying. Try to see him in the light of being married to him. Give yourself time, and work up some emotions, if you can't, then forget it.
About the gifts, it would be rude to reject them. He's still your friend. You can offer to help him screen ladies to know the one that would be a suitable wife to him, as this would reinforce your unwillingness to be with him.

Wish you the best...but nothing would make me more glad, in this case, than to see 2 best friends get wedded.

I'm natural and I'm loving it.
Wish my hair was full and I had a fore head instead of a 4.5 head , though
I BC'd May 19 2010.

If both parties had been careful not to have sexual or pre-sexual relations while the 'ship' was asail, then it wouldn't be that difficult.
I believe love never ends, instead of romantic love, it could convert to strong filial love.
That's my experience, anyway.

I had tears in my eyes after reading your story.
I have a friend who was in that situation. He tried to move on quickly, but couldn't and they are married now after some counselling.
Maybe they don't want children as he lives in the UK, I don't know.

One thing I'll like to tell you is this: time always makes things better. It would seem like you can not survive, but never forget that YOU WILL SURVIVE. Time sends some cool breeze that would dry your tears. Just embrace LIFE and GOD.

At the beginning, it would be hard, but it would ease out after a while.

Sending you lots of hugs.

I meant no one is through yet

kolaids: Congratulations again to the peeps going through documentation I fall in the category of those that had their medical's at divine medical center and this thread has been of great help but I have some questions regarding the 1st batch that just finished at the training school( presuming they have finished from The information on the thread). 1st: Were they all posted to lagos ?and 2nd: what units were they posted to? if anyone could to clarify this it would be of great help . Thanks

Go one is through try.

It's tough abstaining, especially for men, but it's possible. Most of the guys I have around me (male friends) are virgins and they are in their 30's (one for married this year). Once you start, you'll find it hard to stop, even when married, you'll not be content.

Please stay strong!

It's men like this I dread o. They can be so petty, and yet they talk about being the head and in charge.
I'm sure this woman must have told you to change position in a jocular or respectful manner, rather than commanding/ordering you. She wouldn't know that you're such an unreasonable fellow, who went home in anger over something this trivial, or she might have left the front seat for you.

Abeg grow up jare, you'll soon be the head of a home.

karpentar: What does it matter if the man is a child or adult? Cheating has nothing to do with that. Stop this habit of calling cheating men "boys". They are not.orbiThey are men who COMPLETELY know what they are doing, ok.

Oh! They truly are still boys. If you watch children play, you'll notice that they are usually not content with 'one toy', but rather covet that of others. As they grow older, they are expected to do away with such habits, but some do not.
- Cheaters view women as toys
- they still haven't dropped the childish habit of strongly coveting what isn't theirs.

forefront_tmg: How long does their TS(Training School) last?

6 weeks.

My letter was sent to my box same day yours was sent, but I didn't receive it on my phone, till I was called and informed. The wahala is too much- notarisation for surety and guarantors, signing of bonds etc.

donmarshia: I got an offer Letter on Friday! Good Offer, but a training Bond worth 2 million Naira is attached! You must work with them for two years after training or you pay them 2 million!

The training is supposed to start up by 3rd September.

I am already working so, its a tough call. The offer is better than my present pay but the Bond is scary.

The good Lord will definitely direct me.

donmarshia: I got an offer Letter on Friday! Good Offer, but a training Bond worth 2 million Naira is attached! You must work with them for two years after training or you pay them 2 million!
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The training is supposed to start up by 3rd September.

I am already working so, its a tough call. The offer is better than my present pay but the Bond is scary.

The good Lord will definitely direct me.

What!!!
That's serious o. I ran away from the military because of bonds, now this!
I had my medicals last week. Can one decide during the training then?
Thanks for the info

I haven't