₦airaland Forum

Theblessed:
[b] You see, this goes to confirm the question I posed sometime ago no one seems to air their views on probably, scared of what the responses might throw up. The question was whether Nigerian women are as promiscuos as their men? I don't need an answer now to that, thanks to SUGABELLE for clarifying things and gave us INSIGHT into how women in relationships can operate and manipulate their ways, into getting their needs sorted. Thus, this only confirms that our women are as promiscuous if not more, than our men. If they can sleep their way into fulfilling their needs whilst in relationships, why pretend not to be promiscuous? By nature, we women have always been pretentious - the late FELLA RANSON KUTI said so in his music (Afrika woman go sey i be baby oo!lol). So, guys you've all heard it now and there's no guarantee either that both rich/poor girls can not cheat in relationships if they wish to because, they would. So, don't raise your hopes for any of the categories of girls mentioned - poor girls will always sneek at your back and do it anyway, and that's very dangerous this day in age.
On the other hand, a rich girl might sound a better option but that's not the case because, people with money as we all know, have POWER, power to do as they please, guys can you cope Beware!! In my view, men should look for genuine Christain women, humble and truely God fearing in their ways - not the designer dress, fake hair, red lips and long finger nails type to which CLUB, I am a member too.lol!!! But hey, before you throw your insults and condemn me, having had a look at my picture on here let me say this, there is nothing wrong in having designer dress, red lips, long finger nails and fake hair if you pay for them yourself - nothing wrong, ok! 'YES I do have red lips, 'YES' I also do have fake hair, long finger nails I do not have and I don't wish to above all, this INDEPENDENT WOMAN WITH A CAREER paid for them all and that's the difference thus, there's no sneeking behind my man here, trying to have something I can not afford, Nayyyy!!! Take note!![/b]

Couldn't agree with u more

spikedcylinder:
At this rate, I propose that men should start dating men.

Na2day?, what do you say to that?

Chineke!!! spikedcylinder, which one u dey now?

yjay:
oh comm'n justwise! u date a girl! u r expected to be able to give her money to take care of herself & when u get to a certain age there are just some things u dont ask ur parents for & if i ve a man i see no reason y i cant ask him!!!!! & she doesnt need to be a wife or daughter!

Get this right, i'm not against giving to gf, surely its normal BUT  it shouldn't be in 'shopping list' or part of the contract, saying: for being ur gf, this is how much u give me on monthly bases.

If u are too old to ask ur parent then u are old enough to provide for urself. Girls should not be used to depending on bfs, they willl not get much respect, love him without payment in return

yjay:
no! not for being his girlfriend! but for taking care of her needs!!!!!! wats wrong with that?

Her dady and mum can do that, who takes care of those 'needs' b4 she met him?

My point is, that shouldn't be argued at all, no demand, she is not his wife or daughter.

Yes the bf should help without being reminded but it shouldn't be an issue.

yjay:
i really dont understand what the fuss is about!!!!!! i dont think there's anything wrong if a girl asks for allowance from her man!!!!!! i mean comm'n!!!!!

Allowance for? being his gf? She can make more money in red light

sweetpie23:
you are just too wise

Awwww!!! sweetpie can i have some pie? haha

@mezdim,

I totally see ur point, its not easy to let go, but sister u have to be really strong and focused.
This is why i still can't commite to any 9ja girls i have meet so far, cos the distance will be a prob.

I really want to see myself with a 9ja girl, settle down and all that BUT distance will kill the joy, thinking what she is doing in Nigeria and she thinking what i'm doing in the UK, bla bla bla.

I can't tell somebody i love u and want to marry u then we live miles away, only phone calls and emails, God!!!, its hard to be honest.

Godmother:
You just imagine he love you cos YOU love him. I feel for you, though. There's no way he'll love you and be with the other girl.

This might not work out.If he sees you as just a friend, doing this will only make things uncomfortable btw you both

I see where u coming from, i can relate to that as well, 'some' 9ja sisters wants to be friends and u take them as such, 3-4wks later their tone changed, they started seeing u as bf, taking things seriously, getting angry when u don't say hi or call, this happened to me recent, pple should be straight-up!!!!

pussydot:
am not cheating on my partner , she is out of the country and the relationship is over

point taken

kokoA:
Nigerian girls are very poor, none of them can afford a keke NAPEP self.

'some' have u heard of that word b4?

nethacker:
For ur information,i derive my screen name from my official duties .Check my pix and tell me which bank is dat, just a clue , if u still doubt lets chat on val2rhyme@yahoo.com then u will see me.i need not hide like some guys

Seeing u doesn't mean u are not a hacker, they don't wear uniform or got it written on their foreheads.
Maybe u call urself an ethical hacker, that goes along with ur official duties

chiejik:
is true they dont have time because of the buzy schedule.but they can be nice aswell.hope you will get,but make sure your pocket is full

full pocket for wat? to buy her love?

pc guru:
See how immature some pple r "post the damn tape before making a comment"

u know!!! so silly

I feel 4 d wife, she doesn't deserve that, she was set-up, it happens yrs ago, i don't call that cheating, the so called hubby is a big fool

pussydot:
THAT FOR CALLING ME A PSYCO
is it a crime to be a lesbian
i ve tried men and all they do is betray me, so i decided to find comfort in hand of female partner,
i never intended bringing this to nairaland but my partner is not around in the country anymore and i find it difficult to get a fellow lesbian,
so who da hell are you to call me a psyco,
go to hell

u are a lesb for all wrong reasons, real lesb got no choice, they were born one, they can't change how they feel.

U are a lesb cos men cheated on u, AND now u are looking for a lesb to cheat on ur partner cos she is away? maybe u need a reality check and find happiness in ur life

OneNaija:
You just met her just one month ago and being dating and she just brought you Hummer Jeep at your Birthday Party.


What will you think of her?

Will you Marry Her Instantly?

Dream on boy!! think well wen u wake up

nethacker:
@^ chiejik, i will give u everything u need, Am a BANKER SHA oooooo

u are a banker and ur name is NETHACKER?, hmmm

babygurl19:
if u got no clue go to google translate

Hmmmm, good idea, u can as well help do that

[/quote][quote author=lildams link=topic=299174.msg4221007#msg4221007 date=1248133886]I love him, he also loves me by his actions & manners bt dere's dis guil dat kips forcin herself on him & he on d oda side is kind of helpless & has no choice dan 2 hangout wif her probably 4 d fun of it. Here's d deal, we both aint ready 4 any serious relatnshp 4 nw cos we are gud xtians & we want 2 do it d rite way. I swear I love him cos i'm ready 2 let go of him 4 any guil if dat wil mk him happy buh i cnt tk it anymore, havin 2 c dem cm bck 4rm d class 2geda @ nite!!!! Its hurtin! I know i shud face my studies buh deres dis part of me dat yearns so badly 4 his love. I'l neva ask 4 more dan his love! Help ya'll, wat do I do? I'm so helpless, even in tears rite nw![color=#990000][/color]

Talk to him, tell him how u feel, don't keep it and get worked out.
its natural to be jealous when i see him hang around with another girl.

amosexy:
Bros i hope say no be beef ?

Tru if i get bobo wey dey ask me moni n i get i go give am bt i go knw for my mind say no be liability i wan marry,i go just dey give am the moni ,so dat wen i leave am ,he go get somthin console imsef.

No. no hard feelings, see the funny side of it,
I never dated a girl that gives me money, (abi na bad luck?) though i used to date a gal that cooks and bring to school 4me, hmmm i flash backs

Mitchelin:
Here's my take on the issue, aint no one excusing the male in this issue, what I think the poster was harping on was the fact that the lady engaged in wilful sex with impunity considering the fact that she was about to be married, now the onus is on her to toe the other line.
Ladies get this, I can't say this enough, guys are there to rip you to shreds,to maim, to destroy, all they need is a flimsy excuse,just a certain glance,touch, look,an innuendo,suggestion, whatever and they'll come after you like a starving shark at the first scent of blood!, flee all situations that can put you in situations such as was described by the poster.Listen folks we are human, the guy could have been a real suave,debonair chap,irresistible, and no offense meant to the ladies you all know you can't resist a hunk, you know the tall dark handsome type, even those strong enough to resist still cheat in their hearts by fantasizing about being ravished by such a man, let's tell it like it is ok, ladies, men are dangerous ok, until you get that into your skull there will be no peace for you ok, most of the times what we want is simple, sex, we can live without affection but the sex thing is another issue, now for y'all ladies you may be able to live without sex but you DEFINITELY can't live without affection capisce?, so you always need someone,a girlfriend,mom,dad,sibling,boyfriend whatever to confide in. If y'all could look less into the physical attributes of a man and into what is innate in him, I personally feel 80% of your problems are finito, but of course you wont, unlike men, take a real look around you, the so called hunks and players when they choose to settle down who do they get married to? huh?, look at their wives, some of them are so simple and plain you'd think she used charms on him, but you know what? men know this, to attain peace of mind get a lady that you can have total control over by force of your personality which could be attributable to your looks or cash and men know a beautiful woman would be a handful so he'd rather have her for a fling or girlfriend rather than a wife, but I digress, back to the issue at hand, guys,please and please know your woman inside out (though I know it's a tall order) and ladies go out with men simply not on looks or stack (not telling you to date an orangutan looking guy though,or a dirt poor loser!) because at the end of the day all we seek is peace of mind, ability to sleep at night without wondering what your spouse is up to, God! this man woman thing can't be settled this side of heaven, !!!!?

God, u are really on fire!

Still looking, no luck so far

amosexy:
Do such men actually have balls , cant imagin if they still feel like a man after collecting the moni.

No they are ball-less

Hope4ever:
How do I find out if my Nigerian Boyfriend is really divorced legally in Nigeria?

Just do 40days and 40nite praying and fasting, i'm not even sure u will know after that

platinumnk:
[glow=pink,2,300]lol!!! if that is what u want to call it! Spanish! I was saying i had to run away![/glow]

Oh right!! sorry, got no clue

platinumnk:
[glow=pink,2,300]sí ahora, tengo que funcionar antes de que me ataquen [/glow]

u speaking in tongues now

platinumnk:
[glow=pink,2,300]Si' [/glow]

haha, got the message

platinumnk:
[glow=pink,2,300]yes, thats the type i respect.

But I wanted to get it from a mans point of view. [/glow]

I understand where u coming from. Thanks

spikedcylinder:
Lol. Make I talk?

haha abeg oo, no talk oo, not sure wetin u want talk, lol

spikedcylinder:
Nawa o.

hahaha, which one u dey now?

ibkaye:
I think she's talking about the way the thread has been titled and the way the poster is putting all the blame on 'ladies' in general, as much as the woman is engaged and I agree she darn well should have known better, she did not cheat with a woman did she? A man was definitely involved somewhere along the line

I see ur point

I feel u, but don't allow him to walk all over u, yes studying here is stressful, but since u are there 4him that shld be appreciated.

The sad news is that, alot of 9ja men here.cheats(yes my mate does) d wife is in 9ja,

U need to be strong, if he shows any sign of seriousness then stick together else i'm afraid, move on