₦airaland Forum

naijachix:
I've alwz disliked virgins jst for the simple reason that they seem to alwz carry their virginity as a precious stone 'you can never find no where'!

i started dating this girl lately {she's 26 i am 28. we are both graduates and we both have good jobs}, fall in love with her and all has been going on well. then came the bomb last night, "i'm a virgin".
when i confirmed, she was. don't really know what decision is best for 'us' now.
guys, do u really feel trilled about getting married to a virgin, especially when you're not.
jst need peoples comment about it, my decisions are reserved in my mind!

Please if u don't know wat do u, pass me her number asap. i take God beg u

justybaby:
justwise, if women all ova d world can start acting dat way, dis world would b very interestin 2 live in, u see in Africa women are abused daily,in igboland if they r unable 2 bear male children big problem, wen dia husband dies ahh bigger problem especially wen they hav kids, marrying again is impossible, in yorubaland men beat their women like chinese eating dogs, hausa ur lookin 4 trouble if u marry without ur virginity intact.These women r nice to dia husbands, wash dia clothes, prepare good food 4 dem, take care of their children yet wat do they get? male domination who do u men think u r? rats! rats! rats!!!

Off course u know that not all men are like that, men alone can not be blamed for the marriage break-down.
If  the way u write here is the same way u talk in real life then not all men will treat u with respect. Men are as bad as women. It dpends on who u are lucky/unlucky to meet or marry. There are many happy. long marriages in Africa.
What u called women enpowerment is war of words. It should be about Education, knowing ur right and standing by it.

TheSeeker:
No offense to Yoruba tribe but I believe we all share the menace. In Asian I can't deny that Igbo are pulling their fraudulent deals, in London, it's a Yoruba Fraudulent Haven. So no one should accuse any tribe of being fraudulent. What about their leaders? They should name of their people who have ruled us and are still ruling and aren't fraudulent, OBJ? Bankole? Go figure the rest. I just hate it when people show me all these sanctimonious attitudes.

I'm not in anyway supporting Igbo men/women in what they do, 419 and all sorts, but no tribe in Nigeria should apoint accussing finger at all, all tribes are at it, wheather its arm robberying, Area boys activetis, yahoo yahoo, etc.
It does my head in when i hear pple accussing Igbos of bringing shame to Nigeria. No matter how small the crime is, no tribe should be leftt out.

Sad enough, the issue of women chucking their husband out of the house EVEN when he pays the mortgage is a serious one. Many men end up taking their lives even killing the kids, it happens over and over again here.
Women are taking advantage of the stupid justice system to make some men homeless and go ahead and have as many boyfriends as posible.
Some women can cheat and still remain in the house but if the housbad does that, arguement will come up, police will be called then he is out, Bingo!!! she owns the house, gets child maintance and child support, the housband becomes homeless.

Do u still wonder why there are too many single mums in this part of the world than anywhere else? Weekends Dady everywhere.

TheSeeker:
But then you don't care. It's best if they shelve their negative opinion about him because girls that I know are always wild when they are in love, some can be foolish though and consent to their parents' opinions and mess up. I knew a girl who once told me she loved me so much but if her mom tells her not to marry me because of my tribe(Igbo, she's a Yoruba), she had no choice but to stop the relationship. I must say, right then at that spot she said it, I put an end to the relationship because it wasn't worth the stress with that statement.

u know i had the same problem, she told me that the problem is that her parents will kill her if she marrys Igbo guy, she went on how most Igbo guys are into 419 and bla bla bla.
I showed her the EXIST door immediately cos i couldn't put up with pple like her and her blinded parents

sweetcoint:
am 19yrs old pls advice me,
since i broke up with my guy last year December Cos his dating my friend, have not giving my heart to any other person, guys do come around but am afraid to be hurt.
am now in love with my chart mate that works in Gabon, he lives in port Harcourt i also leave in port Harcourt too and he said his coming to introduce me to his people and engage me.
am afraid cos i don't know him ( his attitude or behaviour )although he claims to be a kind and caring person and we do talk on phone, and i have aspect his proposal which is Strange to me for someone that have not seen.

To start with u are just 19!!! and he is telling u about marriage? Are u ok? U never met him, pls don't even meet him alone, go with a friend older than u and pls pls and pls don't accept any marriage proposal. Next thing now is to promise u a trip to Gabon. God help u

Actually scared of falling inlove

sexybabes:
Moving on is the hardest thing one has to do but have to.
But what do you when you told your self that you are moving on
& even dated someone else and the person you love is coming back
to apologise and you realize you not over him? It is very difficult also
because u dnt knw & not sure about where you moving to if its not gona
be worse than the one you were at. I ges thats why pple keep on goin back.

u got a gr8 points here, yes i moved on but i can't commit to another lady, last saturday i went for a date, everything was cool, but the moment i left her house, the whole past experience came flooding back, now i don't even want to see her again, and she doesn't want to take no for an answer. Its hard. The whole feelings i had for her is going slowly, cos i don't know if it will end well or in tears

izeek:
i guess thats the major reason we dont ever wanna let go of that abusive relationship.

the pain of seeing that person ith some1 else, know ing he/she now shares with another,
and also having to start all over again and love some1 just as much if not more than u loved the previous.

well it could be painful, but we just have to move on.

Yes moving on is one of the most difficult things to do. I came out from one tough rela/ship 2months ago, moving on was hell for me cos i put in my all in that rela/ship, but i finally did. First, i deleted ALL her pics on my phone and laptop, her numbers, anything that will remind me of her, never call or txt her, and it works. i don't hate her but i'm happier without her.

Stop even picking her calls, move on!!!

izeek:
well! well!! well!!!!
okay so all u nairaland guys thats are single get ur phones credited and start calling .

u can make that call on my behalf, i'm too far from home.

izeek:
@justwise,
just kidding. actually @post his name is ddmoses, ( choose to call him direct debit moses)
he has been following me from post to post insulting me cos i replied his post the way i did.
neways i said we madup already since his the biblical moses and the isrealite journey thingy.

Ohhhhh ok ok, now i get u, is like a bad smell following the backside, ahahaha.
Anyway nice as u guys have made up, but i doubt this will be the end of it, cos more post may bring up another bitter war of words

@ izeek ,

Hmm Now u lost me, who is moses and what journey? to heaven?

izeek:
i used to know there was ulterior motive, but yours was SO bad it had to be interior.

Hahaha u are a nut case

U are very creepy, u had interior motive, u wanted her and she said no then u decided to invite her into ur business, thinking that she will fall for it.

She did the right thing, so stop crying like a babe.

DDMoses:
is like you people didnt get me right, we have not be into dating panorama, we are only friends, i invited her to join me in my biz, which she does, i now reinstated the issue of marriage which i have been singing to her hearing since, unfortunately this spoil the whole show of biz and she warn me not to call her again cos, she is going out with 2guys now.

oh okkkkk!!!!! Thank ur God tht she did not say yes and leave ur bank balance on red. She is a decent girl then.

moneygame:
Dear forumites

My sister in love with a guy 4 one year now and the guy is promising marriage since but she met another guy that is desperate of marrying her
immediately she agree.the funny thing is that the first said he and his people is coming on December but the later wants it b4 two month.
please what do she do?

moneyandwealthcode@gmail.com

Is she inlove with any of them? or inlove with the thought of getting married

michelin89:
For real?

yea according to faakay (m if u not married by the age of 35 then no hope

How? i thought u have the biological clock of everybody? if somebody is not married at 35 then devil is involved

faakay:
That is what I believe,

@ Worst 30

Anything above 35! Devil is @ work

U are playing God

SGN:
Its about maturity and readiness mentally, physically and

other wherewithal.

A 30 year old might not be as mature as another 25 year old,

it all depends.

I buy ur points anytime anyday

Dis Guy:
As long as you are not living in daddys house and atleast N2m in the bank with a good job

Money is just little part of it, if u think money only can make a happy marriage then think again

teeirl:
Marriage is not to do with age, It is about been ready to commit to this person you are meant to love through all the stresses and strains that life throws at you. I am 27 im not married and I have a 6 year old daughter and I'm not in a hurry to wed just coz I'm getting old. I have not found the man i want to spend the reat of my life with and therefore im not goin to marry for the sake of it. Its a big commitment and marriage should be for life so age aside if you love ur partner and know you want to be together for life go ahead and do it. Forget what white people think or black people think its what you think and fell ready for. I'm white and im older than you and im not thinking of marriage so it clearly depends on the person not an age bracket, Good luck

Can't agree with u more

faakay:
A good job is okay! No be byforce to get N2m for bank,

26 - 28 is the perfect time to get married,

35 na Long Thing!

Make God jst butter person bread,

What makes 26-28 a perfect time to get married?

Cathay:
that is d same with me, too many set backs, that i already know what being sad is, that when i am happy, too happy, i even try to make myself sad so it would not be new when something bad happens to me again, like i am expecting it.

Obsolutely Cathay, this topic is like a flash back for me now. i had depression when i don't know what its, i stayed in a room all light switched off cos i got used to feeling bad.
I thought i don't deserve anygood thing happening to me.
But make no mistake, God never let u down, even as miserable as i feel then, God never over look me. Now i can control it to some point.

So u are not alone on this, its a mind thing caused by previous bad experiences. Talking about it now will help u.

Good luck

FL Gators:
No and thats why I apologised

.

Ok, no prob

FL Gators:
Yea, and you came to NL to find happiness.

NEXT!

Do u think this is fair?

Cathay:
Greetings to all of you and i would like to share a problem.

I wonder why when i am too happy, i get scared, like it is too good to be true. when i am happy, i always feel like something bad is going to happen to me next. Maybe i have had a couple of bad events in my life that has made me sad, that wheneva i am happy, it does not look right. i know everyone wants to be happy so why am i scared to be (too) happy?

I can relate to ur exprience, it happened to me couple of yrs back. Because i had some set-backs in my life, i don't know what happiness is again, when something good happens to me i will be afraid to celebrate it.

One of my best mates was shocked at my behaviour the day i was given a permit here, i did not look happy, i was afraid of shouting or jumping for joy. But i'm getting over it now by thinking positively, remembering what God has done for me, remembering how far he has brought me. Refused to do things that reminds me of my past, i can go and on

OBNOXIOUS:
All these mumu boys looking for love on nairaland, i pity you! With all these winches and principalities starting from A (AMEMBO1) to S (SPIKEDCYLINDER) on NL? I really pity Una!

Have they dumped u b4? u are an angry man. wats the prob?