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bukatyne: @ kanwulia,

Beautiful post including subsequent ones. You saved me a great deal of typing

Amen!

The feminism angle still baffles me though!

SAMBARRY: Kanwulia jas nailed it perfectly. Nothing more to say

Gbam!

BananaBender: @Bukatyne: You disagree with red101 and in the same breath agreed with Kanwulia.

I just want to ask you guys how many years or months must both parties have this "good" marriage/supporting spouse before they can consider their marriage an achievement.

As long as the union is working. . . AND BOTH PARTIES ARE HAPPY WITH EACH OTHER!
No time limit!

donpeey22: This @kanwulia sef...just dey attack naija men like say naija women na saints. Lol

You nor see say dem wan finger-phock widows from 'service of songs' to 'graveyard'?
See a whole 'best friend' to the dead man wanting to phock a widow because of 800Naira and a 2 bowls of rice!
Dem nor dey take nose smell toto. . . .TUFIAAAAAAAAAAKWA!!!!
Mu ha ha ha ha ha ha ha
LWKMD!
Sacrilege!!!!!!

Nigerian women are not saints. . . ONLY BECAUSE NIGERIAN MEN MAKE THEM SO!

Fact!

The kain tins called NIGERIAN men wey I dey see for that Nigeria ehn?
It would be better to be single.
Nothing with poohsie is safe. . . EVEN A FEMALE ZYGOTE/EMBRYO/FETUS!
Dem must phock am!
Sexxxxxual predators! PEDO-PHILES!!!!

The fate of NIGERIAN WOMAN!


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7geOgrCWrCg

donodion: hahahah you be real case.for sunday morning kwa...

Agro nor get dey of the week o!
Make one DORTY Naija nigga kam piss for my poohsie?
Tufiaaaaaaakwa! Na MY SPECIAL SANITIZED AMALA SPOON under my bed get am o. . . incase oga nor get pawa!

I nor fit make one yeye Naija man come take me make 'ALLLLAH KHUBARRR' for bedroom because of 'bowl of rice' to feed me and my pikin dem!
Twa!!!!


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8OBlmHfxTGw

Na which kain WIDOWS OF POVERTY be dezzz for this tory?

Unbelievable!!!

MU HE HE HE HE HE HE HE

BananaBender: Actually, I think you misunderstood me or I didn't explain clearly.

She actually does see a merit cos the guy is a "good" guy or to use use your words, a supportive guy. We both agree that the guy is a great guy.

Okay then.
That is her opinion.
Na she dey wear the shoe abi?

Okaaaaaaaaaaay!
Wey the man?
Abi na polygamy we wan manage. . . or na GOAT we go marry?

BananaBender: Both of you share the same opinion anyway.

I guess I'll take your advice and stick with mine

My opinion is different from hers.
She sees an elevation without 'merits'.
All she has is a 'label'. . . MARRIED!
Being married is not necessary an elevation.
There are many married women who do not even know where their husbands are 90% of the year.
They don't even communicate!
They are called 'MARRIED BUT LIVING SINGLE'!

Every situation is different.

donodion: Kanwuleeeeeeeeee...

Yeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeessssshhhh?
Do you have anything against self-pleasure?
E get wan tin wey I dey use o. . . .
Once I rub am for my 'tin'. . . .The CLITO go 'nu pu ishi'. . . begin dey hot WITH ASSSSSSSSSSSSSSHUN!
Once I touch am ehn. . . . Hmmmmmmm!
Na he le le!
All you need is one SMOOTH AMALA SPOON from ya kitchen to 'massage' and 'stroke' ya tin!
Who need man. . . .with bowl of rice?

I nor h-understand wetin these bush widows dey yan for here o!

Infact. . . make I go use am!

I dey come o!



https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fTLdzOrjvK4


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Xk4vQiP5lY8

fellis: You actually made a very valid point in this post but then put people off by lacing it with insults directed at Nigerian men. It's very sad but true. Many men in Nigeria can never help a woman without asking for sex in return. Even if she is married with her husband still alive. It is a habit for them. They simply cannot render assistance to any female out of selflessness, they must try to get into her pants first. From university undergraduate to old married woman with kids in the university. It's all the same. Sleep with them first before you get even the tiniest bit of assistance. Of course not all Nigerian men are like this. There are good ones but unfortunately those ones are in the minority, far outnumbered by the [size=20pt]sex obsessed reprobates.[/size]

Nne. . . . .Ya grammar na waya o!
Yes! 90% of Nigerian males are SEX OBSESSED REPROBATES! FACT!!!!

I guess we are writing the same thing.
There are some good ones no doubt.
But the majority of them are azzze holes!
I will keep insulting them.
They deserve it!

SurePresident: Kanwulia! Kanwulia!! Kanwulia!!! How many times I call you?! Lolz! But FFK bad gan!!!

Na wetin?
Na only Kanwulia dey for dis NL?
As Ebola don spoil all my vacation plans. . . na wetin you want make I do na?

creamylicious: Kanwulia don start again oooooo. Garnering commentators to her end. Well Dan

As usual. . . . flies must follow shyte for cow nyansh!

Any beta comment for hia?

RoyalRoy: Great analysis

cc150615: one lollipop sweet for u,

op That's all the answer u need

Thanks!

BananaBender: Ehen! This is where I am really going.

The opposite of married is single, right?? LOL!

If marriage (good marriage) can be seen as an achievement, that automatically translate to the fact that an upgrade was made.
You took a step higher.......but from where?? Singleness!

This is not about SINGLE VS MARRIED!
Don't try to make it so!
They are 2 different levels!
Neither an upgrade or a downgrade.
They are 2 SEPARATE categories!

BananaBender: Even if you tell people that your goal is to be single, and you're doing a damn good job at that. No one says Congratulations like they do when you say I'm getting married.

They(single, married) kinda, sorta, have this inherent comparison. Youdon' can't separate the two.

Only in a poverty-stricken environment. . . where ignorance reigns supreme.
You don't owe anyone any explanation on how you choose to live your life.
When you start explaining. . . .you are feeling insecure and lack self-confidence!

BananaBender: If my friend had listed getting married as an achievement in a different context, where we were comparing our mutual friend's marriage to another person's marriage, then it would hv made sense. She mentioned the change in status as the achievement. I just can't see why the change in relationship status should be an achievement even if she has the best husband in the world. That's somewhat controversial.

That is your friend's opinion. . .she is entitled to it!
You stick with yours.
Life is never a competition.
It has nothing to do with feminism!

Some women nor get shame I swear!
The reason they will remain single for life!
Miserable bytch!
Na anoda woman home she wan spread her winchcraft waka come?

He stated, urging the large crowd to stand and pray with holy anger:

Holy anger indeed!
This is a private matter and he did not have to bring it to his congregation.
Tacky!

*he looks like a dehydrated frog.. . . .he ain't even cute*

BananaBender: Just to make sure I get you....



So in this scenario, is it the catch of a supportive husband that is the achievement?? Wouldn't that translate to the fact that women that haven't caught a supportive/good husband are unfulfilled or somewhat less improved than those have?

No comparison between a married woman/man and a single woman/man.

Between a miserable married woman/man and a fulfilled married woman/man. . . . . Yes!
A good marriage with teamwork is always an accomplishment, compared to those who have FAILED to achieve that!
Not all marriages are healthy!
Ask those who are in BONDAGE MARRIAGES where there are second-class citizens in their own homes!

BananaBender: So, to you it is based on preference. If one wants to be single, being just that along with productivity and happiness makes them an achiever. On the other hand, if your goal is to be married, getting married to a supportive husband or a "good" husband is the achievement?

ABSOLUTELY!

A content single person is always better than a miserable single person!

YOU CAN NEVER COMPARE A MARRIED PERSON TO A SINGLE PERSON. . . FEMINIST OR NOT.
Their experiences can NEVER BE THE SAME.
They do not face the same challenges.

Feminists or not. . . a woman has the same basic needs. . . JUST LIKE A MAN DOES!

Women of course.
Because they are more desperate and never think they deserve better. . .all because of the need to be loved!

Never!
We don't believe in such things!
We just go out and work hard to get what we need or want!
Simple!

Have a good support system!

That means you need some help with self-management.
It is a lot easier to smile than frown!

Feminists do not see marriage as an achievement.
We only see GOOD MARRIAGES TO SUPPORTIVE HUSBANDS AS AN ACHIEVEMENT!
Big difference.

Marrying a cow IS NOT AN ACHIEVEMENT!

Being single is not an achievement.
Being single, happy and productive in life is an achievement.
Big difference!
Being single and spreading misery all over the world because of depression is not an achievement!

Fucck: Kanwulia's dad wasn't strict, we was lovely & caring though he died in 2010.
Kanwulia was devastated because of her father's death.

Who is this ijjjiot?
Please, I have noticed you.
Die in pieces!

*ID to ignore list*

dayosaurus: Not all are the same, nd not all take out their frustrations on their kids... Mmine was never rich but took us his children has his friends. if you see me discussing football teams with mmy dad u go laff, but there was a line n when u cross that line.. You urself would be beating yourself before he beats..... Me will never forget my pman

I did not state 'all'. . . did I?
Abeg make una dey read posts before una begin dey quote others!
Thanks in advance!

Fucck: Douche bag...
what is phcn ??

Fucck: Kanwulia..
I have seen many of your type in New york.
Guess what, they just left Nigeria
WE don't make noise

*bored*

Next please. . . .