₦airaland Forum

sisisioge:
Lets go there....I find it funny that a man with 4 wives opposes it. Whatever is good for the gander should be ok for the goose. His concern was about the identity of the offspring from such marriages....are his children confused? It should be legalised and everyone should should their struggle. Shikena

God bless you jare, am not in support of it anyway but why is it that men can take more than a wife but it's forbidden for a woman to take more than a husband?

nairalee:
Since this batch B commenced, hundreds of updates have graced nairaland front page yet not a single person has recieved 1kobo. This is nonsense. Everyday empty useless update

The update tired me jare. Npower this and Npower that

SenecaTheYonger:
Sex chatting with her already is adultery

don't mind am.

Sometimes, u guys see wrong in a lady doing this, what of guys doing this as well or Married men saying they are just talking to some female volks because you never can tell if assistance will come from them. I'm not in support because I can and will never do such but if it's the guy that the girl caught doing this nko.

This girl has entered it, Once official report is being sent to Unilag, let us see if they will deny her or not...... How I wish this man can be given a chance to look back and see how he messed himself up.

aryzgreat:
21years old girl. See her irritating finger nails.

Men, can we respect our families for once.

Wetin this man see for this dirty girl

I tired oooo, 21 years old and already a criminal

Happy birthday to Dr Awele.

Kolorun ma Sanu oooo, this is now getting out of hands.

paymentvoucher:
I know it can’t happen in Nigeria.

The only good thing about this country is to have good Sex and relax your mind for another breaking news!

don't say that, it's happening, some married women just smile outside but inside them na hell ooo

Ritzybeauty:
I really don't understand this marriage thing, it brings out the beast in men sometimes, all of a sudden the attraction just goes away.. Lord have mercy.

.I'm telling you, sometimes it's painful

All these politicians don't have the fear of God, they feed fat on masses sweat, if there is no money to embezzle, they go to banks for loan.....

I like this babe, fear not Teni

cococandy:
Leave that one.
It’s for the women who don’t know them. Even if you offer your life for men like that, the day you’re not ready to take it anymore, you’re a bad woman.

I agree with you 100%,the day a woman Start reacting, she becomes a bad wife.

I know of a well know man in my state that do sleep with his daughters, one after the other, they ran away from the house. May God deliver us from this kind of father and husband

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gregyboy:
Dont take a man cheating to heart see it as nature and dont try to cheat back

If i had your type i would reconsider my manly privilege of cheating on my spouse since there is none sm gonna use my privilege

. I will never in my life cheat on my husband,, no matter what, I never did that in courtship while will I do that in marriage, any woman that does that is destroying the future of her children to be honest

gregyboy:
Wow am astonished, most ladies have messed the society we let them have back in the days ladies were betrothed and we saw it as inhumane and we decided to say not anymore
Our daughters should marry who they want
We stop polygamy to ease things out for our women we stop all practice that was unfair to women

But these days we men are now at the mercy of the women we tried to give equal right to
They have decayed the society with their unclothedness we men cant even caution them anymore, they sleep and cheat with who they want especially for money not even for love their pride has female is governed by money

But none them advanced to be self dependent just imagine we men are facing all this now despite our financial contributions to our homes and imagine when the female are now doing same in equal contributions we would forever be at their mercy

If Everylady was your type there would be sanity in our culture and society everyman would know the appropriate time to seek for relationship from his dream lady if men cheat then he would be called out for it

Men are now well dressed than females this days is it the ladies that wears tight out and raise their shirt so their buttocks would be viable all to be yanshed by the highest bidder
Like an olosho

I am from a Muslim home, though not using hijab but I trained myself , that is why my man cherished and adore me because he knows me,just that men will be men..... I don't believe in exposing body to look beautiful and I distance myself from any unholy relationship right from my teenage time. I don't do social media, my husband introduced me to this platform himself

Rubbiish:
The bold is sad...
What went wrong?
Could he have changed just like that?

. I do stay off his phone right from onset but never knew what pushed me to his phone lately, my biggest Mistake though, to be honest I do expect that cos we see once in blue moon but curiosity kills the cat........ Though he said something out of anger but really sober now.... I caused it by checking his phone, should have continue to stay clear of.

gregyboy:
Men deserve to cheat in marriage and women are obliged to remain faithful


You ladies had your fun with guys when you were young we men will have our fun after marriage

Not all Ladies.....

gregyboy:
Leave that bullshit so many men never had their fun of life, when they were young bcus ladies demanded the impossible from them finically they gave sex and love to whom had the money

I know countless of ladies that have abandoned good guys for a money bagging dudes and i have seen ladies who gave hard time to struggling guys but soon as these guys make it the ladies begin to rush them....


Ladies had their fun earlier than guys if you were a lady and u fuvked based on the pocket of a guy then karma awaits you in your marriage


Are you going to tell me ladies with their sane mind would be attracted to married men, they are simply doing it for the money and fun not for feelings, you are complaining because youre the victim....

If cheat in marriage have to stop it would have start from ladies and their love for financial desires in men

Am fucking gonna cheat, and have my fun, since am not opportune to be having the fun now because of my financial disabilities

Thanks sir, but to be honest, I am not the type, I do pray one prayer point that I want my children to live the kind of life I lived when I was growing up, the only man I know and will forever know in my life is my husband, I married at the age of 24, immediate I graduated before National youth service, and my husband was 10years older, to cut the story short, I dated him for 2yrs before marriage and I went into relationship when I felt I was ready then because that was my vow, so I'm not the type and my husband cherished me alot, just that as a woman, your flesh will react when you see your man being intimate with another, though on phone, and to be sincere, I do tell him whenever he is traveling back to his base that if at all u can't hold your body, please use condom cos I know it's a man, and we see on public holidays, he stays far.......So am not seeking unnecessary attention on this.

kushme:
Yes, also carry that crocodile tears outta here with the females support(herd mentality) you seek... Wanna use croc' tears to blackmail the simple candy man

They wont help you to change a thing, rather would make things worse for the happiness you crave in your house.

Okay, you saw him with a condom, good for you. detective bediako. Did you catch him fvckin' another woman with it? Do you know, if he was nurturing the idea of the fvcks while you saw the condom.. And still trying to figure if to do it or not. Maybe, na you h even buy the condom for, cos of your new style....

And yes, men see men as lords of their houses.
And yes again, men hate to see a lord being controlled or manipulated by his so called weaker vessel(as Bible talk am)... such manipulative statement.

We have women(weaker vessels) that can run faster than men, even beat men in physical combat.. All these involve energy. So, men are only stronger physically and mentally on the average and not a general thing.

Again, we don't want to hear you females complaining about having affairs with other women. It's so annoying to even assume men or bring up that word "cheat" when you see a man with another woman. There is nothing like a man being a cheat, it doesn't exist.

The pussified western social construct on relationship/marriage is confusing you people from the nature of a man..

You can continue to let the sorrow you've created for yourself to consume you gradually or learn to free yourself from the brainwashing of social media stories of bitter confused women who seek more companions in their struggles after making bad choices in lives.


Just let him fvck girls in peace with condoms while he comes home to make love to you with or without condoms..

It won't be a stress if you don't sweat it.

, your taught tho, I will never blackmail my husband, no matter what and I'm not seeking social media attention if you must know, only trying to pour out my mind, which I have done and really feel relieved about it, let's becareful how we contribute to issue that might be heating other up........ The love I have for my husband is not here, but just felt betrayed that he could do that..... So forget the fact that am shedding crocodile tears, you comment like someone who doesn't value a woman.... I'm not like ladies of today and I don't even do social media stuff, nairaland is only my place and just joined few months ago, if you must know, my husband introduce me to the platform years back so as to be reading news and doesn't want me on other social media which I'm always obeying till date, so don't just talked to people like you know them well, if you can't be positive then stay clear off. Thanks, don't mean any insult, I'm a well cultured and trained lady.

baby124:
I think you are confused and on the wrong thread. What kind of freedom are you looking for in marriage? You want to put someone’s daughter in sorrow. If you are a lesser human with no impulse control, disrespectful and lack basic intelligence then by all means stay single.

There is no so called freedom in marriage. Not in any marriage in the world. Marriage is a commitment to your spouse and you answer to that person. You need better mentors in your life. Your mentality will be your end.

. Do they know they are putting anybody in sorrow? Imagine after catching a cheating husband and you started crying and asking why, instead of being sober he said" ekun e ko move mi, ma su kun abosi because I never sign agreement of only you"( i.e, your cry does not move me because it's like crocodile tears, I never sign........) Now tell me if such man knows what it's feel for another person's daughter to be in sorrow?

Sleekfingers:
how you go dey aware? When rivers state ogogoro don damage your brain.......and the burukutu you are sipping in aso rock...........even the president you mentioned, is he aware that he is alive or dead?


Yeye dey smell, he no know, but he come dey wear pierre cardin for body

Can't stop laughing.

CHoccolaTE:
Oh he told you he didn't sign agreement of only you? Did he sign agreement of going behind your back to cheat before you married him? Nigerian men na their way be that, they cannot own up to faults and apologize when they get caught cheating they will either try to deny it or blame you the woman.

Find happiness elsewhere like your kids or your hustle or hobbies don't let him get the idea that his actions are making you sad, live a happy fulfilled life and ignore him, na that one go pain am pass when he sees that you don't give a shit about him.

Anyway just use your intuition and do what you think it's best, I was giving advice based on how I would act in similar situation. I can never let a selfish man spoil my happiness.

. Thanks so much, I really appreciate, I was a guest on nairaland all this while and have even been begging him to allow me join, he said no but I joined last month when I caught him with condom..... It's a long story Sha, happy to be a part of nairaland.

CHoccolaTE:
So sorry about that, many of them are like that.
Don't let him ruin your happiness, try to find joy in other things. Many married men don't know what fidelity means apart from say na name of bank.

. Thanks so much, it's been hard honestly cause, because of marrying him I stop having friends because he never wanted it, despite the fact that he works in another state, I will be all alone with my kids after work and even weekend, all because I want to satisfy my husband.... It is well, he already told me he never sign agreement of only me ..... Can't believe all these after years.

SimplyFacts:
Just be prepared for the unknown. If you ask me, I would say only about 30% (if not lesser set) of marriages get joy.

May ours be identified with the 30%.

. God bless you, some just laugh outside but it's hell inside, am a typical example.....

Eriokanmi:
Patience, contentment and tolerance are my pieces of advice. No marriage is made in heaven...no one is perfect. If you like, divorce one million times and keep remarrying , women exhibit same character. They're uniformly wired. Na wetin dem wan make you know, na im you go know, even if you built mansions for her, it doesn't change anything. Just keep praying for peace in your marriage and all will be well.

. Are you telling me men are saint, yes we have small percentage that are, but why is it that it's only women people do point accusing fingers at..... I have been married for almost 10years, my husband is not staying where I stay, being faithful, loyal, sincere, respectful, just name it, going through each pregnancy all alone, but despite all this he is still cheating, always on his phone chatting with different girls, he will leave me alone, pretending to be tired and go to his room to sleep but check on him later, u will meet him on the phone. When he wakes up, he will first send good morning massages to all his girlfriends, and always behaving like an innocent. This is the only man I use as pray point whenever I pray, sometimes, I don't even pray for my children and myself........ This is the man that will always tell me, he doesn't understand his health so we should stop having sex, which I agree cos I don't want to hurt him but caught him with condom of recent and lied he just took it out without any intention..... So many...... Don't always blame women alone in marriages, I have never reported him for any one in the last 10years of marriage but I was forced to do so to his parents recently cos I feel betrayed.

todaynewsreview:
Tolerance, patience, understanding

. Huuuu, no matter what, some men will still cheat, imagine a man saying he only does it on phone but don't have physical contact..... Anyway some married men still value their marriage and will always protect it. All men are not same, just that it's hard to see one that is 100% faithful and honest. May God makes it easier for all singles.

prettyheart:
Married people please gist us

. Marriage sometimes is sweet and sometimes the other way round. Huuuu, married for almost 10years and everything was going smoothly and just few months ago my husband started some behaviors, fast forward to recently I picked up his phone and what was their was so disgusting, and this is a man that behave like a saint and sometimes castigate his friends that do cheat..... You can never predict what will happen next in marriage. How I wish I can write it up on nairaland.

Please I need clue on how to write story or new on the platform, someone should please help.

Rest in peace great man

[quote author= post=102528763]SECONDED wholeheartedly.

If we have this kinda law in our darling country, the below wouldn't have happened.
While bringing into the world a child you cannot cater for ?

Using a scissors to slice of the ear of a 3 year old and labeling him a witch?
May devil punish that evil animal once again![/quote]How can we take this up? Where are the human activist?