₦airaland Forum

Jorussia:
NLC should better forget about embarking on another fruitless strike.Subsidy removal is best for the economy at this material time.I use PMS for my daily bread everyday,but i had to adjust since on Monday.

You don't don't even understand basic economics yet you know economics decision that is the best.


Let me asked you, NNPCL is the sole importer of Petroleum products into Nigeria;
1) who is paying subsidy to who ?
The NNPC has not remitted any dime to the TSA....
2) so are you saying even the payment Subsidy, NNPCL is running it operations at a loss ?
3) When is the subsidy paid; is it at point when NNPCL import or at when they load to markers or tankers....?
If it is at point of import, NNPCL declared the stock as we speak will sustain the country for the next 60days, why did the Mr president announcement of subsidy removal increase the official price of the stock ?
4) Why is NNPCL GMD telling us that local refinaries will not change the price of the product.....while in the same vein they were calculating landing cost for imported petroleum products ?

5) What are the names of the refinaries that refines our crude oil?
6) Which shipping companies ships the refined product back to Nigeria and at what cost ?
6) Why should Dangote refinary buys Nigeria crude in Dollars?
7) What is the volume of petroleum products Nigerian consumes daily ?
7b) Why is Lagos #488 and port Harcourt $511 ?They both have sea ports and deport.
Maiduguri is #557, sokoto #540, Yola #550. Please consult Nigeria map and explain what is the factor the results in the difference of #69 and #46 between Lagos and Maiduguri and port Harcourt and Maiduguri respectively.
9) Where is the subsidy from Diesel and kerosine ?

oluwaseyi0:
some men are just mad

if you go through the write the woman even directly contributed to the house

the woman contributed 200k as part of the 400,000 payment
she paid another money after loan people nearly sold the house
and married for over 35 year, yet the man thought he own the house fully and exclusively alone

But the man said the house is not 400,000....and I understand a house in festac is Worth more than 400k.

Besides, they still legally married and the case is about consent before disposition of the asset not sharing formula.

I have never like judgement of any female judge.........it always lace with emotional bias

kwaso2:
I agree with you.
The man should review the school the children are attending. Most public schools are free and even good. Na social status dey make us feel say it's made for househelps meanwhile, they have qualified and quantitfied teachers unlike many private school that cannot afford to employ enough teachers talk more on university graduates

I was discussing this issue with one of my colleagues.....I pointed out that our choice for private schools over Government schools for our children is a matter of class, comfort and safety.......not quality per say......

Most private school teachers are in for survival and always looking out for better jobs.......you can't compare such teacher's teaching capabilities to that of a career teachers in Government school..........

If not for the rigor of getting admission in Federal Government colleges, Military schools, missionary schools; majority of Nigeria parents prefer them to privately owned schools where they pay exorbitant fees.....besides, many parents still encourages their wards to attempt entrance exams in these Government schools before opting out for Private schools.....

That been said, those of us that attended public schools still out performed majority of those from the privately owned schools at the University.......come to think of it, what has change in the Nigeria labour market since the businessmen dominated the primary and secondary school education sector ? What have the graduates of these schools invented ?

The only noticeable impacts is the intense competition at the labour market......teenage graduates are now able to apply for jobs.

Nigerians from public schools are performing well in foreign school academically......


We're only subtly encouraging stealing to find classless class!

OralB:
I understand but there was nothing they could do any more. If they had refused releasing the bike, the narrative would have been different. I sent that message under duress as they threatened to shoot me if I didn't comply. That way, It's a more complicated case than extortion.

I wouldn't have shown them the evidence in the first place.........what actually saved you was that.....they fortunately for you forgot their modus operadi ( cease your phone first)

You risked your life.....after a headway.

Majority of fraudulent activities, embezzlement of public funds etc are as a result of something like this..........your husband earns 75k a month and the wife earns nothing yet she is the one that defined stinginess......let her be the one earning the 75k.....the world will not rest from her posting pictures everywhere and badmouthing the husband as a lazy man.....

Any amount is enough provided you are contented at the stage you're in life at the material time, have short, mid and long time plans and stay focus......

Never allow any woman push you to your early grave by suggesting additional jobs for you...and be aggressively pushing you to earn more through whatever means possible just for her to live above her means......and the heartbreaking part is; she won't be satisfied still..

Rome was not built in a day....Adenuga, Dangote, Otedola etc all started from somewhere.

It is in marriage that I get to understand that a redundant and dependent partner is the chief pilot.......while in the corporate the world......you have to be intelligent, consistently productive, brave and efficient to be the boss....

Kobojunkie:
Make Google your friend abeg!

Na google you dey use ?
I give up.

Kobojunkie:
Whatever grudge you may have against doctors na your own. All I know is that for a doctor, night shifts are pretty much a career requirement.

It is clear you know nothing about this practice.....career requirements set by who and to attain what ?

Kobojunkie:
Arrghhh!! So after I shot down the lame reason you gave earlier, you decided to go another lame way. Everyone who dates a medical student knows these things. It is not rocket science. You claim I was not there with them in the beginning but here you pretend you have them all figured out ba!

I never claimed to have any fact whatsoever pertaining to this story.....but many theory, motives and ideas about what transpired in this story have been coming from you......

My take is.....if you so much love your single, unrestricted life.....stay clear from any kind of committed affairs...........life itself is a crazy ride......so is marriage.


Nothing is special about being a medical doctor........and I believe the husband is not a vulcanizer.

Kobojunkie:
So, a doctor in training agreed to hampering her own training schedule, right? You are trying to argue that it was not really the husband who made it difficult for the lady but the lady who wanted it difficult for herself but refused the work hard and all? She also locked herself out of her own married home after it all, right?

Lol..... you're very talkative.....about things you know nothing about....

Were you there with them at the beginning.....what is so special about being a medical doctors ?...and even with carrying the profession on her head, she won't still be responsible for any bill in the relationship....untill when the carpenter of her husband is dead broke.......


When you're responding...... consider that you're not talking to kindergarten.

isabi2lof:
No matter the matter , I will marry right and enjoy my marriage 🙏🙏🙏🙏

Some men are just selfish and wicked , just last week , they wanted to skin saint obi ex wife alive ., Saying all kinds of gibberish.

Here's something similar, you won't see them just because it's a woman that's suffering in this particular marriage.

Good observation....we don't know this particular Doctor.......hence the story can't be verified.

1) Saint obi is popular....the the stories as narrated by the friends are true.
2) We know Anie Idibia story aswell
3) Pero Adeniyi case
4) Emeka Ike story is there
5) Mercy Aigbe story
6) Nedu case is there7
7) The MD of I can't remember the name of the bank now is verifiable
Wizkid baby mama....we all read the WhatsApp conversation
9) Davido baby mama drama


We all watch Johnny Depp case both in the UK and USA..........

Enough verifiable evidents for men to learn......

I know of a hell on earth marriage between an Accountant (Husband) and a Surgeon (wife)...
You'll shed tears........the man doesn't even talk but I bet you can't live in the street..... you'll kill the wife yourself....and fullfil you did.

It is now obvious that American are self-centered and greedy...

Lessons is....be wary of anyone that knows more than you yet give you support for a battle with an opponent that will obviously defeat you...


America is the real devil.
Zelensky is the fool.

IkeIgboNiile:
All these Nigerian actors should be ashamed of themselves. Inferiority complex coming from this industry is way too much.

How can you host an African award show but you're all dressed like Europeans like we don't have our own clothes and attire.

It seems like we don't value our own culture and are so eager to set it aside for western cultures.

It was very annoying.... especially there is these two guys that sat at the front roll, dressed in Arab regalia.

Family feud loading......

cazchi:
His guys,
This will be a bit long, but I ask for your honest, well meaning opinion.
Firstly, my approach to dating is to date to marry.
I'm 28 and she's 26. We are both professionals in our fields and we live outside Nigeria

We started dating a couple of months ago and she has expressed to me that she doesn't want to have sex or do anything sexual before marriage, which I thought of deeply and accepted.

She also has said things like she would like yo adopt a child one day, she would get a cook in the house and some strong religious beliefs as well, all of which I've been thinking about.

In recent times however, I haven't been able to stomach something and have spoken out. Please see below for some occasions:

1. Thursday 26/04/23:

She had suggested that we involve God in what we were doing about our relationship and that she needed to pray about it and get His direction before going forward with the relationship. I agreed and told her to take all the time she needed, that I’ll also do the same.

We didn’t talk for a few days and I had a truly intense session with God where I had driven my car out to a secluded area and prayed and called on him for my direction.
She later called me on Sunday, 3 days after we went mute, while I was at work (night shift) and said she had prayed about it and that she liked many things about me and that these are the things she would want in a husband, but that my faith is the one thing that isn't as strong and that it is something she wasn’t sure about. I listened and we discussed where I was with the Catholic Church and my transition and open mindedness in search for the truth and where to serve God. She then suggestef some books and also sent me a testimony from her mum. She then explained the other things she got from her break, but still sounded unsure whethet she wanted this relationship. Towards the end of our conversation, it dawned on me that we had spoken about her experience and her views on me as a partner, taken a break, but hadn’t even touched on mine or my experiences. I was disturbed by this and called her out on it. We argued and said our goodnight after.

2. Wednesday 03/05
We were talking about family, children and roles in the house. She started to ask me about my past relationships and how many women I’ve been with. I answered only the first question. She then said something about men being with women but then marrying a woman who is clean/hasn’t been with other men. I ignored that statement. She asked me if I’d marry a woman who has been with many men, I said no. She went on about that as well, arguing that it was hypocrisy. I haven't even been with many women, mostly those I've dated.

3. Friday 5/05/23
We were talking and I shared with her some issues I was dealing with I.e. my housemate deeply betraying my trust and hurting me and as such, I was going to end that relationship and keep my distance. She then revealed that she had matched and briefly conversed with my housemate on a dating app around the time we started talking, which I didn’t have an issue with, but she said she had recognised him when I introduced them. I felt as though she could’ve told me earlier. Moving on, after I’d shared my experience and decision with her, she made a blanket statement that it’d be unwise to cut my friend off and then went on a tangent about something she didn’t fully understand.
After listening to her, I asked her if she had even asked how I was coping with this, if I was ok or where I was with it first before straightaway undermining the decision that I had made based of my own experience. She went on trying to justify it and then made a flimsy apology at the end.
At the end, we had a truce and I remembered that we had been talking about the church before ( she’s Pentecostal, I’m Catholic, but leaning away from Catholicism for personal reasons) and I told her I would like to come to her church on the third Sunday of the month and that I would like her to come to my service the following week ( this service happens once a month because it is an Igbo service). She declined saying that she doesn’t believe In the Catholic Church. I asked her to perhaps comes for the cultural aspect and to also meet the people that are in my life. She refused, I kept quiet.

4. 07/05/23
We were discussing and the church came up again. She had a lot to say about the Catholic Church (mostly things I’d told her). She seemed to have developed such strong views against the Catholic Church. After we had discussed it, I asked her if she had ever been to the Catholic Church or if she understood the ways of the church? She said no. I asked her this “if your friend was getting married in the Catholic Church, would you go?” She said yes. I asked how that would be any different to her visiting my community to meet them and learn more about why I’m leaning away from that church. She couldn’t reply, but was trying to justify her stance. We argued and then ended the conversation.


I'm deeply worried about these because she always has a response to everything. She rarely wants to be corrected and has strong views of what she doesn’t understand. Are these fundamental issues that can be resolved? Am I being too compromising?

Thanks for your time!

You're playing with fire....and it will burn you so bad.......... you'll question why you were born

Forcing someone to be in some other people's life by proxy should be criminalized....... because it is a tactical extortion.......and a master and slave relationship.

Lol.....sold your properties to give a better life to your family (wife and daughter)...now the same wife is mocking you.....she already perceived the move as a miscalculation and if things did not come back to normal on time, your marriage is as good as gone (she is done with your ass). that's woman for you..... A french proverb says and I quote "women's words are written on an ice".


How did you get to trust your wife to take this kind of huge risk......I guess you think she's your support pillar pending when you'll able to sort yourself out...... Alas you're wrong.....she will dump your sorry ass and still feel she did the right thing by leaving a sinking ship while she can...... after all, she has her own money....lol she can takes care of herself.....

Fact about marriage is........as a married man.....the survival of your marriage is solely depends on you (husband)...never take unnecessary risk...that will give room for see finish....your wife would rather wing swing instead of sticking with you when things are down......no matter her financial status.


As a leader of a team..... don't ever get yourself overwhelmed with situations.......if you're, your team will be at disadvantage.....pay no mind to fantasy of women.... claiming they can hold ground when you're weak and vulnerable.....it is a lie........ they'll look for an alternative/additional support (a man).

This is a very good topic for deliberation.

My first problem with your perspective about this challenge are....

1) You didn't do any research to ascertain the proper causes, consequences and effect of these challenges for you to proffer practicable solutions.

2) You just sit down somewhere and think you know the cause, the challenges of the people in the North and south pertaining their cultural practices and just concluded a way out in your head......

In the North.....the motive for marrying out their daughters early apart from religion reasons is to curbs promiscuity, protect their innocence and give them a sense of direction in life and this is not only apply to girls alone.....most of their boys get married early too.....

And there an unwritten agreement.... depending on who is involved.......for example, if a young girls is being married to a much older men......it is expected that the man takes care of the wife which includes sending her to school....
Many of these men tend to meet up with this expectations until the girl in question started some funny character as she become mature.....this in turn make the husband to lost trust in her and change his mind about where to channel his resources to.....this most often lead complications and divorce which is why there many divorced young single mothers in the North than any other place in Nigeria.

This girl usually remarry after sometime.... finding husband is not even hard.... Northern Nigeria is a close society.....just be a good girl and boy.

For the boys and girls that got married early....it is the parents that take that decision for them....and the boys father is the one that cater for them both....he provide shelter and feeds them, send them to school while they produce children until they'll be able to live on their own......in some instants, the boy's father can marry more than one for his boy..........this arranged marriage usually stand the test of time in the North........most part of these practices is not strange anyway......it is generally expected that a man takes care of his wife anywhere in the world.... irrespective of the status of the man relative to the wife.

Others are people that are poor.....they surely get married and contentment make their marriage last.

West is somewhat a control society when it comes to marriage.....until the brainwashing of the woke creep in.......
The west has a strong cultural procedure for marriages..the same motive for early marriage in the North is why the Westerners give formal education to their children male and female alike....... which is why they are educated, enlightened and open minded.......inclusiveness of extended family members on almost all things.......as a matter of fact.....during traditional married, the bride is handed over to the groom's father; culturally, the new family is an extension of the groom's father family, hence the groom's father has the responsibility to guide the new family through the right path to happily ever after......just has he is sustaining his own
They are conscious of the consequences of given birth out of wedlock, divorces, separation etc......the west also take work very seriously before marriage..hence every family fend for themselves and assist other extended family members.

The East has their peculiar culture that provide for single motherhood, expensive Marita rites, surrogacy, adoption etc.....the consequences of some of these cultural practices is late marriage, unmarried males and females, promiscuity etc.

One common things that have affected marriage in Nigeria is the infiltration of foreign cultural practices....and there is nothing that is good without it bad side....
The problems has become compounded because we did not have any cultural shock absorber for the shortcomings of these foreign practices we embraced......
This foreign practices provides for
1) Marriage counselors for marriage challenges.......every culture has it own conflict resolution approaches that had worked wonders in the past....a culture that discouraged third party interference in marriage still provide for paying a third party to tell a wife/husband the effect of nagging, being secretive, being self-centered, being irresponsible, cheating etc on her/his husband/wife ?....that is a society that lacked accountability..... Nigerians has inherent consciousness principles that guild our conducts.

2) Child custody after divorce....there was nothing like child custody in Nigeria before now.......child care is everybody's business.... including relative, neighbors and relations

3) Calculated responsibilities for divorced spouses........How can one accurately and precisely calculate what a child would need and required to be properly trained ?

4) Religion solution to marriage challenges..... Apart for swearing an oath, seeking solution to childlessness........there is no religion solution for bad character, disagreement and disappointment etc in marriage

5) advocate and promote spouses independence and privacy in marriage.....there shouldn't be privacy, secret, personal goals, personal progress between spouses in marriage except for their offsprings....all these should be collective in marriage.

6) Elevate career prosperity above family value and peaceful coexistence..... undivided peace is a prerequisites for progress in a union.... everything cannot about only you and you're still wondering why there is a distrust and resentment.

7) Provide for individual difference, satisfaction and fulfilment above collective family progress......life without sacrifices is not worth living........

8 ) Discouraged leadership in a marriage......a union without a defined leader won't go far.....there will be lack of coordinator......note. the foreign approach tend to treat marriage like an organization, they alluded that marriage is a partnership for some controversial reasons.....meanwhile in cooperate world, organization has appointed/elected Head (manager/director/ CEO).

What all these is doing to us is subtracting trust for agreement in marriage........

godliman:
Don't be silly, go and learn comprehension, I said the foundation of marriage is where the problem is, i am not supporting divorce.

What you outlined in your initial post is the danger of having a side chics to men......I quoted them and asked the question?

Maybe you didn't understand what you posted to start with.

godliman:
If you know the long term consequences of this side chic nonsense you won't be saying this. Side chocking can lead to
1. The chic using juju to turn the husband's heart from his wife for good. The make men abandon their real wives.
2. It leads to baby mama. The husband can simply marry the side chic on the long run and begin raising another set of family elsewhere.
3. The promiscuous husband can bring home HIV and other STIs to finish his innocent wife.
4. The side chic might kill him if she wants to.
5. The side chic might kill the real wife and reign without rival.
Don't blame wives who quit, aside the pain, the life is not safe.
The solution is marry as genuine christians with premarital sex. A man who only eats his wife's soup is content but the one who eats about compares.

Be deceiving yourself.....what you're saying in essence is that women divorce men to protect men ?

dhiqson:

It's crazy how "successful women" think men are afraid to approach them
No dear. A boss chick doesn't come with feminine energy
A boss chick is argumentative
A boss chick needs no Man
A boss chick is her way or nothing

And as I'll say
A masculine woman gets a feminine man
A masculine man gets feminine woman



When there are some uncomfortable discuss in the house, a boss chick flares up and is loud



I didn't go through the hazzle of life , stress of life, to come home to meet a "successful woman" debating on who should cook today
Your successful career or whatever, you owe it to ur parents
But understand a good grade score doesn't make u wifey
It makes u employment ready




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Persephone1

The op is not serious
What is the correlation between divorce and table

[quote author=2016easy2017 post=122187572][/quote]Likewise you......when you become of age, you'll understand what the op wife did.

donaldchidi:
My brother, I saying parents should not stay more than necessary no mean u should not take care of them and is not a must that is only in ur huz ur parents must be taken care of...
Besides I don't think your married yet to know what am saying Sha but anyhow very soon you will

You typed absolute nonsense!!

ozalogbo:
I am the first child of my mother, and I have two younger male siblings. I am doing well financially. My wife is the last of four children in her family. My dad died when I was still in the university, and this affected my mum.

However, as she aged, her health waned. She was a retired teacher. My brothers are not in the country. Both of them are in Europe. I wanted to have my mother stay with me in her later years because of her health and loneliness but my wife did not want it.

Whenever she was ill and I brought her home to be with us, my wife was usually hostile, especially if my mum had stayed beyond a week. She did not hid her disapproval, and this caused problems in the marriage. People advised that I should send my mum away and pay someone to live with her and take care of her. They said that marriage was between a man and his wife, not between a man, his wife, and his mother. I did and peace returned. Eventually my mum passed on after a few years.

Along the line, my father in law also died. And down the line, my mother in law's health began to deteriorate. We live in the same town. Among my wife's siblings she is the only one doing quite well. Now there are suggestions that the mother should come and live with us so that my wife can give her proper care. I believe that her living with us and seeing her grandchildren will help her. And indeed i have no problem accepting her, but when i remember the treatment my wife gave to my mum, there is a strong revulsion, in fact, anger in me. I shared with a friend, and he advised i forgive my wife, but the revulsion is so strong that i would feel cheated if i agreed.

What do you guys think. She reminded me then that marriage was between a man and his wife only. Shouldn't this also apply to my wife now?

If you stand for nothing, you'll fall for anything.


My question are ...
1) At the time you sent your mother away, did you actually feel at peace ?

2) At your mother's burial, did you feel she was proud of you as a son ?

Being agreeable is not a recipe for peace.....as a matter of fact, if you want true peace, prepare for war!!

Ori o j'ori .........that is my submission

Meaning the Nigeria police have not been doing their work diligently then.....what about all the sallah Ram been slaughtered every every year ?

The conclusion of this article is still the Nigeria's wrong approach of accessing who is doing well is equal to material acquisition....

The article is rather confusing......2:1s are lecturers..... meaning knowledge


2:2 are business men.......meaning trying many error methods till you hit it

This article is in a sense very senseless.

I don't usually understand the contradiction that someone that is always having her ways in every issues is a good person.

Feminist will never use this as a reference.

EriMma1:
Do you know my age? No. So don't conclude yet.

I still maintain my stance. Don't ever be with a man that cannot meet your needs.

Your age is not a secret going by your experiences with this two men you stated......at what can a gal go spend weekend with a boyfriend?

O ti n doko, ojo tipe.

I didn't believe any of the pre-election polls....for just one reason.

The responders to the 2023 pre-election polls are the aggrieved.


The rest of the population are not keen to participate in pre-election poll.....this is what I believe introduced bias into the sample size of polls survey.

Ordinarily, you shouldn't expect 100% accuracy.......the election has its obvious irregularities........ notwithstanding, the pre-election polls presented the intentions of those that participated.

toloohthegreat:
No. You're literally right.. Hence, he elucidates the subjectiveness of the instruction 'honour'. He is very right. Maybe not absolutely right though since the spirit of God sheds light on the word of God in dynamic ways by the passing day.

Different interpretations has been right and wrong all along.....the spirit of God has being the most subjective and factional reference......... ironically......how knowledgeable the interpreter is, is a factor.

You points are subjective..........in most part, your fact and misconception contracts.....


1) Accepting an authority that is not the ultimate?...at some material time, that would be problematic.

2) Holding strong opposing beliefs is a recipe for intolerant.

3) Your parents' traditions is what they are.....and by extension what you are...... traditions are not necessarily evil.

4) In some context, control and guidance can be used interchangeably.