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Romance / Overcoming Jealousy by kech(f): 6:50am On Nov 06, 2009
t's the feeling that wells up inside when a date speaks highly of an attractive coworker or when your soul mate seems a little too happy to see an ex at a party -- it's dating jealousy and it can take hold of you so fast and so hard that it leaves you and your relationship destroyed. Don't let jealousy take over your life: Follow these dating steps toward overcoming the green-eyed monster in you.

1. Leave the Players and the Flirts Behind

One of the best ways to overcome jealousy is to not get involved with flirts and players. There are singles out there who will thrive on making you jealous because they like the dating drama and attention. If you're jealous, they know that you are constantly obsessing over them and dwelling on them. By provoking your jealousy, they've just made themselves the center of your universe. Instead, be smart -- kick them out of your universe and find a better date.

2. Determine if You're Jealous in This Relationship or Every Relationship

In order to overcome jealousy, you've got to figure out whether you're being real or being paranoid. Normal jealousy can actually serve a purpose. It's there to alert you to a partner's possible infidelity -- a threat to the relationship. Is your relationship actually being threatened or is the jealousy in your head only? A good way to figure out if there's a basis to your jealousy is to reflect on your past relationships. Are you always jealous even if you haven't had a reason to be? Do you have trust issues in every relationship or just this one? Also, talk to some friends or family who can be objective about the situation and help you sort out your jealous feelings -- a counselor can also be helpful with this.

3. Get Confident in Dating

The source of a lot of the jealousy has nothing to do with what your date does; it lies within you. If you're upset because your date drools a little when he or she sees a fashion model or celebrity in a magazine, don't start comparing yourself to that image. Work on your dating confidence and focus on all you have to offer. Then, your envy of others will dramatically decrease.

4. Talk It Through

Learn to communicate your jealous feelings in a healthy way. For instance, let your mate know that you're jealous about the amount of time the attractive coworker gets to spend with him or her. Make sure as you're talking, you're not accusing. Accusing makes any person defensive, and you won't get anywhere.

5. Draw the Line

Particularly, if you are in a monogamous relationship with someone, you need to establish what behaviors are acceptable to you and what behaviors will bring out the green-eyed monster in you. Are you okay with your partner constantly texting a single man -- or single woman? Will that send you over the edge? How do you feel about your partner dancing with someone else at a club when you aren't around? Establishing reasonable boundaries and respecting them gets both of you on the same playing field. The keyword here is reasonable. Setting a boundary like "Don't talk to any single men -- or single women -- you work with" is an impossible and smothering line to draw.

6. Strengthen Your Relationship in Other Ways

If you're overly jealous when there isn't a whole lot of reason to be, it means that your relationship isn't as strong as it should be. You need to evaluate what's lacking. Are you not spending enough quality time together? Has the passion died down over the years? Once you identify what's really concerning you, then you can address it with your partner and work on strengthening the relationship rather than wasting time and energy on empty jealous feelings.
Culture / Re: Igbo/yoruba Guys/girls/women And Men. by kech(f): 6:29am On Nov 05, 2009
tpia.:

is it by force to marry outside your tribe?
Is it by force to marry from your tribe? Why should he "settle" for anyone else from his tribe just to "keep to his tribe". I don't think it's fair to him and to the "girl from his tribe" he settles for. What is going to happen is that the poor "girl from his tribe" will end up always being second best. Why would anyone wish that life torture on someone else? I believe if one wants something, and it's worth it, and you have the opportunity, go for it. If you try, and it still doesn't work out, then maybe it was not meant to be. Nothing good comes easy, and this is about life in general. If you don't fight for what you want, you won't get it. Shikena. Some people think this marriage thing is beans and it's shocking. Tribe my butt! angry I can't tell you how sick I am of hearing friends and colleagues whine about how they made mistakes and how they should have fought harder to get what they wanted bla bla bla angry Cowardice is no virtue.  angry
Culture / Re: Igbo/yoruba Guys/girls/women And Men. by kech(f): 2:38am On Nov 05, 2009
ChinenyeN:

If they seriously want to be together, without fail, then let the guy get the girl pregnant. Rather than wasting so much time, enough time that someone has actually managed to post the situation here on NL. . . . . .

As for the parents threatening to kick the girl out. . . what exactly is the couple worrying about now? The girl will leave her parents anyway. Why this long saga? The guy should just do quick and get the girl pregnant. This is his opportunity. He should go ahead and put his foot in the door so that the girl's parents (dad more especially) will know that he's serious, and that they have no choice but to get to know him.

HAHA!!! ChinenyeN I feel you oooo! There nothing Igbo fathers fear like having an unmarried daughter with a child. LOL!! I know a girl who threatened the father that if she didn't marry her efik fiancé, she was going to stay unmarried forever and that she was also going to get pregnant for her efik fiancé. The father called her bluff. He said that was her business. By the time the father could blink, the girl had gotten pregnant. LOL!!! When the father heard about it, he practically summoned the boy to his home and told him to bring his people FAST!! The wedding was put on fast-forward grin grin If you had seen the dad on that day, dancing and grinning from ear to ear like that was what he wanted all along.
Culture / Re: Igbo/yoruba Guys/girls/women And Men. by kech(f): 12:01am On Nov 05, 2009
Let him pray seriously. Some fathers can be pig-headed but I can confidently tell you that as long as the girl sticks with him, things will come to a head. The girl is the one that needs to be strong in this case because there is nothing else the boy can do. Your friend should tell her to keep crying for her father. For real!! She need to put pressure on him. All he needs now is the fathers' consent and everything else will fall into place. There's no need for him to go home again if he has no more holiday time. It won't make any difference anyway. The girl should do her own part down in Naija. She needs to fight for what she wants. This is a partnership. They are both in this together. Tell your friend not to stress himself. As long as he's sure the girl is by his side, there's no problem. He just needs to be patient. These situations are usually like this.
Celebrities / Re: Ramsey Nouah's Wife Files For Divorce by kech(f): 6:00am On Nov 02, 2009
Is that not the picture from the movie he did with Jackie Appiah? Naija na wah ooo. shocked
Culture / Re: Igbo/yoruba Guys/girls/women And Men. by kech(f): 1:07am On Nov 02, 2009
Hey yaa.  cry Look, if they are really sure they want to be with each other, it's possible, there'll just be some hitches here and there. Tell the girl to just keep on crying for her parents  grin I'm serious ooo. In this case, the girl holds the power. Trust me. The only way this marriage will not hold is if the girl finally gives up on the guy. Honestly, forget the yoruba factor, I think the fact that he's from a broken home compounded the whole issue. The parents probably think the guy's marriage will end up like his parents'. Truth be told, having your parents as role models is a big deal. It's not the guys fault though. He should try to get close to some people in the girl's family so that they can help him out. At this point he needs to prove to the girl's parents that he is responsible and can think on his own. He shouldn't just sit down and expect everything to be fine and dandy ooo. If the girl is worth it, let him proceed. If he thinks it's an uphill task and it's not worth it, then lipsrsealed

My sister married an Edo man. If someone had told me that my parents would allow any girl in my house marry from any other tribe I would never have believed it. It wasn't a funny sometin ooo.  The guy penetrated into our home through our cousins. When my parents realized what was going on, the house was on fire. My dad literally stopped short of throwing him out of the house one day. My mum warmed up to him first (after some begging/secret calls and meetings  grin) Before my dad could say abracadabra, everyone in the house was in love with the guy. He was out-numbered. Now my dad and the guy are like siamese twins shocked . Everyone in my family is like huh
Culture / Re: Igbo/yoruba Guys/girls/women And Men. by kech(f): 10:36pm On Nov 01, 2009
grin There are tons of threads with this same issue. Tell your friend to pray. grin Really!! Anyway, you said the guy is from a broken home. That goes to show that it's really not about what tribe you marry from. It takes the Grace of God to keep a marriage.  Good luck to your friend. Meanwhile I have noticed that a high percentage of igbo girls that marry yorubas are from Anambra. Nothing wrong ooo, just observing.
Celebrities / Re: Dakore Egbuson And Her Fiance (Olumide Akande) by kech(f): 10:23pm On Nov 01, 2009
Felibaby:

@ winnergal

Has dakore paid you for publicity or wat is the marriage prayer about? ; >:

I love olumide ! He is handsome and rich! grin kiss

Dakore, hands off!

On a more serious note, Dakore has got to be strong cos olumide has 3 sisters and his family is fucking rich.


Dakore should hand off? WHY!!!
So what if he has 3 sisters? What have they got to do with his life. Abi dem no go marry?
Career / Architecture Salaries by kech(f): 3:12am On Oct 31, 2009
Guys does anyone know the range of pay for Architects in Naija. Not from all these draghtsman ones ooo. From the well established firms.
Career / Aliko Dangote Neck Deep In Debt: Feared Broke; Plan Massive Lay-offs! by kech(f): 10:24pm On Oct 30, 2009
There are worrying indications that Nigeria’s richest man, Alhaji Aliko Dangote is facing a financial tempest that has pushed the Forbes-listed billionaire on the brink of bankruptcy as his financial empire suffocates under the weight of crumbling debt and mismanagement. 
Forbes magazine reported that Aliko Dangote, whose net worth was estimated at $2.5 billion, is in debt to the tune of over $1.7 billion and facing insolvency as the global financial meltdown hits the Nigerian economy. To weather what appears to be the perfect storm, Huhuonline.com has learnt from close sources that the Dangote group of companies will undertake a massive down-sizing exercise that will involve as many as over 3000 lay-offs. 

It was unclear when or where the lay-offs will occur, but a senior employee at the Dangote group told Huhuonline.com that the “right-sizing” exercise will cut across the board of companies which include: Dan sugar, Dan salt, Dan Flour, Benue Cement, Chevron Texaco amongst others. The Nigerian cement king was among dozens of to business executives singled out by Nigeria's central bank, in its published list of recalcitrant debtors, who have been told to pay up or face arrest and possible assets seizure. The Economic and Financial Crimes Commission (EFCC) is also looking into recovering the loans. 

Loans related to Dangote-owned companies so far appear to have amounted to hundreds of millions of dollars and counting as Dangote continues to expand his cement operations with new plants in Nigeria as well as South Africa, Ethiopia, Senegal and Zambia. The Dangote group recently signed two agreements worth $228 million with the Chinese group Sinoma International Engineering.

The first contract involves its subsidiary Dangote Industries Senegal SA and covers construction of a new production plant near Dakar with capacity of 3,000 tonnes per day. The deal is worth $144 million. Under the second contract, for the same amount, Dangote Industries Zambia Ltd will build a similarly sized cement plant in Zambia. Along with the second project, roughly another $324 million will be invested in infrastructure, which will be handled by sub-contractors.

Nigerian Central Bank sources told Huhuonline.com that part of this expansion by the Dangote group has been funded with debt financing from Nigerian banks reportedly to the tune of $1 billion and some of these assets may potentially be in trouble. The Dangote group is also interested in mining ore: in particular it has positioned itself to obtain coal mining permits in Nigeria, according to sources. 

The unsettling revelations about Aliko Dangote’s financial meltdown was predictable after Huhuonline.com reported an unending wave of mass exodus of several top management staff who resigned their positions from the Dangote group amid speculations that Dangote’s black-box like financial empire will explode in a wave of financial mismanagement and accounting scandals.

Dangote has enjoyed cozy relations with powerful politicians and was closely linked to former president Olusegun Obasanjo. He sits on various government and quasi-government bodies, including the Nigeria Stock Exchange, (NSE) where he was unanimously elected president through a shoddy process of horse-trading and clunker philandering which also saw Erastus Akingbola, then Group Chief Executive of Intercontinental Bank, elected NSE   1st vice-president. 

Dangote has been at odds with Akingbola after Intercontinental Bank Plc, petitioned President Yar'adua asking for his intervention to help compel a "debt cabal" led by Dangote to re-pay the loans owed Intercontinental Bank. In the petition sent on its behalf by A.O.S Practice, a firm of legal practitioners, and dated August 5, 2009, Intercontinental described Dangote as a loan defaulter and “rabid debtor” who was being daily serenaded in the media as an affluent Nigerian. A look at the three Dangote companies indebted to Intercontinental Bank as contained in the said petition showed that their cumulative debt profile stood at about N35.8 billion. 

Intercontinental said: "To proceed to sue these institutions as ordinary legal dictates would suggest, is to get bogged down with the legal technicalities and slow pace of the adversarial practice of our judicial system, which these cabal would engage to wear us down.” 

Recall that Erastus Akingbola was among the five managers of Nigeria's largest banks -Intercontinental, Oceanic, Afribank, Finbank and Union - who were sacked by CBN Governor Lamido Sanusi, and government bailout funds extended to their banks to keep them solvent .

While Erastus Akingbola remains on “health exile” in London, all the bank managers have been arrested and face prosecution for corporate governance malpractices, lax credit administration processes and the absence or non-adherence to credit risk management practices.  Only time will tell whether Aliko Dangote will weather the storm and rescue his financial empire from total collapse.

Source:

http://www.huhuonline.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=659:aliko-dangote-neck-deep-in-debt-feared-broke-plan-massive-lay-offs&catid=103:more-news&Itemid=333
TV/Movies / Re: Genevieve And Omotola To Co-Star In A New Movie (IJE) by kech(f): 1:13am On Oct 30, 2009
Aloy~Emeka:


You are a fool. How can somebody be more superior in complexion? . Black people and their inferiority complex over skin colour don tire me.

My dear. E tire me too.
Celebrities / Re: Rita Dominic: Is She Really All That? by kech(f): 1:10am On Oct 30, 2009
redsky1:

LMAO

I'm fair so really that is not the issue. I just think that she is not all that - is it a crime to have a different opinion from everybody else na wah o! my main issue with her is her mouth - that is all. i'm sure to many she is finer than beyonce but IMHO she is not.

gosh people can't have a difference of opinion anymore

My point exactly, you have your own opinion and so do others who think she's "the bomb". The more reason why you don't need a topic to assure yourself of your opinion. And honey, as for you being "fair", good for you. I guess that makes your beef justified. Meanwhile if you want to go that route, there's nothing like "fair". You are either light-skinned or not. I don't do "fair". I'm a gorgeous dark-skinned lady. "Fair" is for unsecure dark-skinned people who feel the need to differentiate themselves from those who are more darker skinned. Look, its not a big deal. Honestly, I also don't think Rita is all that so I don't blame you for your opinion. My issue it with the arguement you are trying to make about her skin tone. It's so petty.
Sports / Re: U-17 World Cup: Ogba And Marina Fan Park Pictures by kech(f): 5:07pm On Oct 29, 2009
Ok, I don't mean to sound like a spoilsport but what is fantastic about these pictures? The fact that there's a canopy with a million chairs and a  24" screen for people to sit and watch? Or is it because of the street lights that don't serve its purpose? My candle shines more light than those things. Anyway like I said, let me not spoil your fun, but I'm not inpressed. angry *walks away*
Celebrities / Re: Rita Dominic: Is She Really All That? by kech(f): 4:58pm On Oct 29, 2009
Redsky1 wrote:
Am i the only one that thinks that Rita Dominic looks extremly local. If not for her complexion would anyone give this women the time of day.

Trust me its not bad belle but i just don't see what is fine about her apart from the fact she is light skinned.

i just saw a picture of her on gist master and her teeth are not it and she just looks local to me.

*rolling my eyes* Ok, truth be told. Me thinks the poster is HIGHLY INSECURE. Deep down, this is not about Rita Dominic. It's about her complexion. The poster has some sort of grouse - like others do- about light skin and beauty because that is the crux of the matter in her post.

When will some ladies get over this light skinned thing. Like someone said earlier, different features you have can make you more appealing to the eye. Light skin is just one of those features. For example, a girl may seem more beautiful if she has a more pointed nose, or silkier hair, or straighter teeth, or a longer face/neck, or beautiful eyes, or fuller lips,  or a killing body, OR FAIRER OR DARKER SKIN!! These are all features that can completely make a person stand out from any crowd. Why is the issue of the "fairer skin" the only one people have a problem with. Why don't people say "If it weren't for her straight nose she'll be ugly. Let's see her with a flatter nose" [/i]or [i]"If it weren't for her long face she'll be ugly. Let's see her with a rounder face" [/b]or [b]"IF IT WEREN'T FOR HER DARK SKIN SHE'LL BE UGLY. LET'S SEE HER WITH A LIGHTER FACE!"

People need to get over themselves already. GOSH! *rolling my eyes*.  When they call us insecure now, we'll start barking like dogs. Typical black man syndrome. angry angry
TV/Movies / Re: Genevieve And Omotola To Co-Star In A New Movie (IJE) by kech(f): 4:35pm On Oct 29, 2009
azeeza:

cant wait 2 watch it.but can doing a movie 2gether make dem friends again?

I don't think they were close friends before. I don't think they are enemies either. The "beef" people claim they have is just professional. Every professional industry has it's rivals. Doesn't mean they are enemies or don't talk to each other. I think they are kinda like acquaintances. You get the job done and move on. They don't have to hang around each other, go to the market together , wear the same clothes and all that lot to prove they are not quarreling. They both have other things to do.
TV/Movies / Genevieve And Omotola To Co-Star In A New Movie (IJE) by kech(f): 2:44am On Oct 29, 2009
Genevieve And Omotola Doing It Again! (New Movie!)

Ok, for all of you Genny and Omotola fans who like to cause unnecessary rifts (including me  grin) . Here's another blockbuster movie to be released featuring the both of them. They've acted together a couple of times and they were both remarkable. Sister's love, Games Women Play, Blood Sister, and now this. To be honest, if there is really some kind of rivalry between them like people claim cos I don't know, I think it's a healthy one. They bring out the best in each other. I'm so gonna watch this movie. I can't wait.


SYNOPSIS:
IJE tells a tale of Chioma, a child growing up in the Nigerian countryside, who warned her restless sister, Anya, about the trappings of the American Dream. Now ten years later, Anya is accused of killing three men in a Hollywood Hills mansion—one of them her record producer-husband. Chioma travels from Nigeria to Los Angeles, and with the help of a young, unproven attorney, discovers that the dark secret her sister wants to keep hidden might be the only thing that can win her freedom.

Business / Re: Bakery & Kitchen/Food Service Equipments by kech(f): 2:23am On Oct 29, 2009
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Contact Phone No.: 08035807532
Romance / Re: Can You Marry Lady That Is Far Shorter Than You by kech(f): 8:35am On Oct 20, 2009
dayokanu:

Any gal over 6ft or 5ft 11 here?
I'm 6ft tall. grin Used to hate my height in secondary school, it wasn't fun towering above almost all your mates and having people call you "dongo" and "iroko" cry, (It was an "all girls" school). The irony of the whole thing is that now I just can't stop flaunting it grin
Politics / Re: Alert From The Nigerian Police Force by kech(f): 8:14am On Oct 18, 2009
Hmm, ok my problem here is, why can't the Nigerian police force coin a contact number that is remember-"able". What's all this 0805#$6>?{+=54? Person go fit remember am? The US has 911, other countries have 199, 999 etc. There is a reason why such numbers are short and have repetitive digits:

1) Numbers that have repetitive digits can be easily remembered by everyone, even a kid.
2) Because it is usually used in a life/death situation. There is no time to dial long numbers. The shorter the better. (3) is usually ideal angry angry

Does it mean I have to store all those numbers in my phone so that when I get kidnapped I 'll start "scrolling" down in my phone to get the numbers. Won't they kill me before I even fish out those numbers? Or are they expecting me to cram those numbers? Ok, if they are, common sense should have told them to use numbers that are cram-"able". Like 08099999999, or 07011111111  (you guys get my point). You cannot just buy any sim card from the streets and decide to use it as an emergency number.
They should get the phone carriers to give them numbers that are ideal. 334,333,444,466,777,998,112,222, whatever!! Numbers no dey finish!!! This is the police force for pete's sake!! angry
Celebrities / Re: Who Cares If Omotola Jalade Has Ten Children She Needs to Loose The Weight by kech(f): 7:26am On Oct 18, 2009
I'm so sick of hearing that too.  I usually get amused when people defend her and say she has a "nice sexy body"  because - in their own words - she has had 3 or 4 children and still looks like that.  grin grin grin Ok ooo, I'm not going  to talk about the people I know who have had 5-6 children and made it their point to stay very fit  grin grin. To be fair, I don't really blame them. The average Naija woman lets herself go and becomes fat after childbirth, so Omotola's situation is a case of the one-eyed man being king in the land of the blind.
Celebrities / Re: Liz Benson Returns To Nollywood by kech(f): 10:08pm On Oct 16, 2009
Yay!! Our pioneer actors no gree ooo. Most of them are coming back in full force. Wonderful! I know it will bring sanity and amp up the standard in Nollywood. Most importantly it will bring competition to some of those talentless "actors".
Celebrities / Liz Benson Returns To Nollywood by kech(f): 10:02pm On Oct 16, 2009
Source:
http://allafrica.com/stories/200910161111.html

Few months after her clergy man took her to the altar, remarried Nollywood legend, Elizabeth Benson, may have signalled her strong desire to return to her first love, acting.

HVP reliably gathered that Liz is warming up to return to Nollywood as soon as possible.

An insider source confirmed to HVP that the screen idol has already started making contacts in order to return to the industry, which she reportedly abandoned some years back.
Liz Benson got married again in an intimate court ceremony in Abuja a few months ago. In July, she and her man, Bishop Great Emeya, celebrated their love by walking down the aisle at the Rainbow Christian Assembly in Warri, Delta State. The couple are both deeply involved in Christian ministry.

Liz is an evangelist while Bishop Great is a pastor of one of the largest ministries in Warri. They also have overcome tragic circumstances as Liz is a widow while Bishop Great is a widower. Their wedding marked a turning point in the lives of the couple.

Reports had it that the 49 year-old man allegedly met Liz in the course of doing God's work. Their relationship however moved from friendship to the altar, now husband and wife.

A recipient of the movie awards, THEMA, and the Reel Awards at different times, Liz Benson is one of the pioneer actresses in Nigeria who brought glamour and respect to the acting profession.
She has also been honoured outside Nigeria at several times. Liz was a past recipient of the Afro-Hollywood Awards in the United States of America. Her great performances in the past have been regularly acknowledged and rewarded by both industry practitioners and watchers .

The deluge of awards and accolades with which she has been showered and continues to receive is vivid testimony to the high esteem in which she is held by all.

As she returns to Nollywood, expectations are high as questions are being asked, regarding what role she will be assigned to, given the fact that many of her contemporaries are presently not in the picture, with the emergence of vibrant looking, yet pretty young faces. Good luck our Lizzy!
Politics / Nigerian Airport Customs And The Issue Of "foodstuffs" by kech(f): 4:49pm On Oct 15, 2009
Ok guys, I need info on this. What are the laws regarding carrying "foodstuffs" when travelling out of the country. Why do they always make one feel like they are carrying contraband? Every time I travel out of Nigeria, I have to "drop" something because of my foodstuff. They say if I don't, they'll have to have it quarantined (which I'll pay for and may take forever) and I may possibly lose my foodstuff. I know they are lying but I just pay the money cos after waiting in a long queue for it to get to my turn, I don't want any hassle or unnecessary delay at the airport. Now I've made it a point not to be a mugu no more  angry angry so guys, for those of you who travel out with foodstuffs all the time, how do you do it? What are the "laws" regarding this? Do they actually have any? I need to know cos this time I'm ready for  them.  angry See trouble ooo. If the country I'm going to says I can bring them in what's the problem here?

* By "foodstuffs" I mean stuff like Dryfish, Okporoko and the likes of it.  grin grin
TV/Movies / Koko Mansion Governess Chika Anadu Talks About Rita by kech(f): 6:33am On Oct 14, 2009
Educating Rita and other Kokolettes
By Michaela Moye
October 12, 2009 04:26PMT



Chika Anadu is probably better known as The Governess, official chaperone to contestants on the now concluded reality show, Koko Mansion.

However, 28-year-old Anadu says that she "never wanted to be in front of the camera" and is more interested in writing, directing and producing.

Armed with a degree in Law and Criminology and a Master's in Africa, Human and Sustainable Development, she returned to Nigeria from the UK and found herself,  on TV. Anadu talked to NEXT about the Mansion, D'banj and of course, Rita.

What do you think about the contestants on Koko Mansion?

At first, I found them a trial. Apart from maybe one or two people who were easy to deal with - Bidemi and maybe Bolanle - they never gave me any trouble.

The other girls, I think, were trying to test their muscles. I think afterwards when everybody knew how far we could go and sort of learned everybody's character, it was easier for us to then enjoy each other; especially people who were there longer.

What was difficult was that I'd never done anything like this before. I was the contestant coordinator (at first). I helped to organise the audition, the photo shoots, and profile shoots. (Becoming Governess) was kind of last minute.

The producers asked me, "Chika would you like to, ?" and I was like, "no way!" Trying to organise young women is very difficult. I accepted on a Friday and the job started on a Sunday so I was lost at sea for the first week or two.

[I got] criticism from everybody,  even people who were supposed to be urging me on and supporting me. I was just like "Oh my God!" It was very difficult. I'm not one to quit so I didn't think about it. Yet, after the first week or two I started enjoying my job and I think [the contestants] started to enjoy the experience more.

Tell us more about yourself

I speak fluent French because after my first year at university, I went to study French at Le Sorbonne in Paris. I love to travel. That's my number one thing - travelling. I love Europe. I love all the architecture and arty stuff. I'm a huge film buff. That's my second love - from childhood. My favourite word is cinematography.

I'm glad I'm home because I'm getting experience. It's more difficult to get into this industry in the West, like in England where I used to be based. I guess Nigerians are a bit biased too, when you go to school abroad (laughs). I'm lucky.

Do you ever consider that you might be a celebrity or you might be considered a celebrity?

We live in a whole celebrity-obsessed culture. I never want to be seen as a celebrity. I would rather be seen as "this girl who is good at her work" - whether it's writing or directing or presenting.

I want people to say, "Oh, she's a good presenter" instead of "she's a celebrity" because usually when you're called a celebrity it's because you're not known for anything else. You're just famous for being famous.

There are some people we look at and we don't call them celebrities; we call them actresses or actors because that's the impact they make on you.

Who were your favourite Kokolettes in the house?


I don't know if I had favourites. There were some people that perhaps I laughed more with, or smiled at more but that was because when someone smiles at you, you smile back. I wasn't there to be their friend so I didn't really push.

What was it like working with D'banj and the rest of the Mo Hits Crew?

I had quite a bit of contact with D'Banj. He's so friendly. If he comes in two or three times a week he'll go round all the rooms backstage: the editing room, the sound room and the production room where I was, he'd shake everybody's hand and say "hello".

The other guys, I saw once or twice. They were also very pleasant. No big egos, surprisingly. They've been quite pleasant to work with. I've been trying to see if I can do other things with them and they've been enthusiastic.

Rita became everybody's celebrity. She's many people's favourite. At the same time many are offended by her. What did you get from Rita? What lessons do you think Nigeria has to learn from Rita?

I think that the situation with Rita, her popularity and everything - is a snapshot of Nigeria. It's all about sentiment and everyone just conveniently forgeting the objectives of the show. We were looking for the Ideal Nigerian Woman.

We stated that, even in the application form. People might say: OK, why did we put her in the house? Well, she applied. We had to put different kinds of people in the house.

Rita is not ideal.

People would be talking about how, "It doesn't matter that she's not educated. My grandmother or my mother was not educated. Are you telling me she's not ideal?"

Your mother and grandmother were born in the 50s and the 20s. This is 2009. Education is absolutely essential; I do not care whatever it is you want to be. I was one of the people who was offended that people thought [Rita] should have won.

She got as far as she did because of her popularity. It's great. Whether she won or not, like you said, she's already a star. If she wants, she can go as high as she pleases because she endeared herself to a lot of people. And there are endearing things about her.

Being in the house, I didn't get it. I would come to the house and I would hear things, on Facebook; and I would think to myself: is it the same person I'm watching and seeing?

She played a lot on sympathy: "I'm poor,  I come from this,  I don't know a lot,  I want to learn."

They were taught a lot of things while they were in the house, and I don't see that she took a lot of things on board. With the acceptance speech, the way she spelt mother was M-A-D-A and father was F-A-D-A. Two or three weeks before, they had been taught words that are often mispronounced.

Everybody took notes. So she had notes and it wasn't like it was [on the] spur of the moment. They were given time, so she could have gone back to her notes and checked the correct spellings. She did end up asking if it was correct spelling or not.

She had an inkling that it was wrong. If someone is willing to learn, they will correct themselves and they will learn. I just never saw that, so I feel that maybe she's not just academic. There's nothing wrong with that but I feel it was blown out of proportion.

Nigeria is never about merit. It's always about sentiment: "She's from my town, " or "this poor person, " It's ridiculous.

I am glad that Bolanle won. It has done our show proud. Bolanle is intelligent, very respectful and she's responsible. She can represent you and me any day. With Rita I'm not so sure.

Source:
http://234next.com/csp/cms/sites/Next/ArtsandCulture/5465228-147/story.csp
Business / Bakery & Kitchen/Food Service Equipments by kech(f): 12:02am On Oct 14, 2009
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Business To Business / Re: Introduce Your Business by kech(f): 11:51pm On Oct 13, 2009
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Celebrities / Re: Sammie Okposo Is Getting Married: Finally. by kech(f): 3:27am On Oct 10, 2009
shocked Ah! which Stella? I dey slack ooo.
Celebrities / Re: P-Square Finally Opens Up About Landlord by kech(f): 1:01am On Oct 10, 2009
I know P-Square can be goat-heads sometimes but this is why they say "There is always another side to a story". From this story, the Landlord is definitely a greedy man.
Celebrities / P-Square Finally Opens Up About Landlord by kech(f): 12:58am On Oct 10, 2009
SOURCE:
http://allafrica.com/stories/200910090822.html

When, mid this year, Chief Charles Nwangwa called for a press conference to unearth some cankerworms about on-goings at the Omole residence of the pop group, P-Square, real names, Peter and Paul Okoye, not many spared the boys, especially since they refused to comment on the allegations.

Chief among the allegations levelled against the artistes, was the illegal conversion of the boys’ quarters into a studio, for which they pulled down the dividing wall between the two rooms to achieve. The landlord had therefore requested that the twins vacate his property.

Last week was more revealing on this episode. In a final move to evict the Okoyes, Chief Nwangwa called for another press conference where he distributed a 5-page document chronicling the beginning and development of his interactions with the famous group.

The document didn’t say anything new other than that Ikeja Regional Development Agency had on last 29th June sealed up the building while the ‘boys broke it into with impunity’. He equally alleged that he had been beaten up by the ‘Okoye’s thugs led by one Wande’ when he went to the property to personally serve them a ‘mandatory quit notice’.

In a swift reaction, the twins, via their publicist, called for an urgent press brief the next day, Wednesday. And for the first time, they spoke through their manager and brother, Jude Okoye on the matter.

According to Jude, at their first interaction with Chief Nwangwa in 2006, the Chief had told him the house was for sale, for N45million, and that Zain, then called Celtel, was bidding for the building too. Jude, who said he’s been in the forefront of dealings with Nwangwa, said their initial payment of N5.6m was supposed to be part payment of the initial purchase.

Jude said there was a verbal agreement between them that if he was able to come up with the balance in two weeks, (when their N50m bank fixed deposit would be ready for withdrawal) the house would become theirs, otherwise the money paid would be converted to 3-years rent for the property.

A hand- written receipt was issued by the Chief for the N5.6m received, on the premise that a further payment which would translate into the Okoyes ownership of the house would still follow. The duo moved into the house and, Jude said, ‘after two weeks, I got my fixed deposit and called him to the house for his balance.

I asked him the name I should put in the N39.4m balance draft and he said, no that his house was for N45m.’ Can you imagine?’, Jude asked.

More than a month after, the angry brothers, rather than get stuck with a 3-year rent, decided to buy up the house all the same.

He went on, ‘After one month, I called him on the phone and he said the price for the house had gone up to N80m. We refused to buy it and decided to stay. It was obvious he wanted us trapped from the beginning’, Jude explained.

On the broken wall, the brothers explained that they had pulled it down ‘just as we came in because we thought we had agreed that the house belonged to us.’

The landlord, they claimed, had been to the studio several times without complain, until they fell out. Jude, who blamed himself for not having a written agreement on the house also claimed that the lady called Gift, whom Chief Nwangwa had publicised as their guarantor was an artiste he (Chief Nwangwa) brought to him (Jude) to produce and which he refused.

The lady, he said, was introduced to them as an interior decorator and artiste and she it was who made their living room curtains.

‘Later, he brought his son who had just returned from America and asked me to produce for him, but I refused and reminded him that I work for only P-Square.

Then he told me about a show in Dubai and I told him our fee was $100, 000 per show and he said even Akon had not charged that much money. He got angry and took it personal and left.’

The last of disagreements the group had with Chief Nwangwa, Jude said, was based on Jude’s refusal to let Chief get involved with the P-Square brand. According to Jude, Nwangwa had asked to market P-Square’s works.

‘He said he (landlord) was coming over to take up the marketing of the album; that the man (P-square’s marketer) was not doing a good job.’ Jude had refused. Afterwards, Nwangwa is alleged to have demanded for a certain percentage as commission off P-square’s income since the residential studio had been used in recording songs released for commercial purposes.

Amidst several allegations raised by the boys, indicting Chief Nwangwa, Jude enthused that Nwangwa was never manhandled by P-square nor by his assistants. Instead, the chief, at various times, brought strangers to their house, requesting that the twins signed autographs.

The only time he was refused was when he came with journalists and a policeman and was refused access through the gates by Wande, Jude’s assistant. The boys have resolved to quit the building in four months’ time, when their Omole building, presently under construction, will be ready.

The Okoye brothers are said to be working on a 6-bedroom twin duplex, not very far away from their present abode.

The property, which they took press men to see, includes a swimming pool and a basement which will serve as studio exclusively for the P-Square brand. They said they intend to put back the studio wall and vacate their present residence before their rent expires in March, 2010.
Politics / Re: Ghana's Plan To Chase Out Nigerians - Classifies Ecowas Citizens As Expertrates by kech(f): 5:35am On Oct 09, 2009
Kobojunkie:

WOw!! Someone actually read the article?? shocked
LMAOPIMP!!! Kobojunkie I tire oooo. All the hard work put in just to prove a point. Persin fit get headache. LOL!!
Celebrities / Re: Chimamanda Adichie: The Danger Of A Single Story by kech(f): 2:47am On Oct 08, 2009
I love this girl. Moderator can this video be embedded?
Celebrities / Chimamanda Adichie: The Danger Of A Single Story by kech(f): 2:45am On Oct 08, 2009

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