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Do I really need to take it into consideration or overlook?
I observe my girl friend is very stingy and selfish. I really don't need anything from her, I foot our bills from A - Z, I give her between 1500 to 5k as tfare, meanwhile the actual tfare from my place to hers is just 200 to and fro.

Ok the problem is some weeks ago she was at my place for some days, the 2nd day in the morning I realized my toothpaste has finished, having it in mind that I'm gonna buy another one on my way back later in the day, unfortunately I forgot to buy it despite buying stuff at the supermarket. But God so good as I was blaming myself for forgetting to buy it, she told me she has toothpaste in her bag so we used her toothpaste that morning. I kept forgetting to buy this toothpaste for the next 3 days, I had to cut the tube with knife so I can have something to brush my teeth but my girlfriend was quietly using her toothpaste alone and she will return it into her bag, she saw me tearing the tube but didnt occur to her to surrender her toothpaste until i bought mine the 5th day.

I really didn't count it initially but I have noticed other things and it's taking my mind back to the incidence. My girlfriend has never used her money to buy me a sachet of pure water or cheapest orange or whatever.

Another funny thing is when we are eating, sometimes she accused me of eating from her meat or taking from her drinks when i didn't even touch it. Imagine always trying to lay claim to 3 pieces out of 4.

Do I need to pay attention to some of the little details or overlook all because of love or am I overreacting?

NB : she's presently unemployed but never lack support from her parents and myself.

pocohantas:
One extremely useless alfa male crossed my path as usual, as I reply am- small reply o, ban. Though the ban expired days ago, na just the OP matter annoy me to comment. As for the alfa male, trap wey I set for am be like the one wey OP SIL set for kitchen . I missed you too nne, I always with you.




I wonder why they are conveniently ignoring that part. Would we be having this argument if Op was a female and had same issue with the sister’s husband, let alone talking back at him?

By the way, na him o. We ladies no dey mumu like this abeg.




OP’s mates are also working hard to be the next Zuckerberg, if they are not already Zuckerbergs. He is there exchanging words with his brother’s wife. Nonsense EBSU boy.

freetheking:
I agree with you if he has a means of getting his own apartment better. We have good wife's that See's her husband family as hers but the bad ones..... you know the rest.

annyberry:
If us story is true,u did nothing wrong jus dat she already had bitterness in her heart for u,who goes into d kitchen should nt b a problem for d fact u give her her maximum respect...i kip wondering y we ladies drag kitchen alot.

aroundtheearth:
If she were here to defend her actions, OP would look worse than he already does, as I'm sure she would have lots to say.

No, it's not an unfair assumption on my part because by reason alone, nothing takes place without a cause (or causes). She certainly didn't wake up one day and decided to pack his things out without any cause(s), so there are things that have led to it.

He shouldn't even be living in their matrimonial home in the first place.

Twoclans:
This country is really getting harder by the day,alot of people are angry and frustrated.

When people fight because of food it breaks my heart because it just shows the level of poverty and poverty mentality that abounds in this country.

@OP no vex,if it is possible try and resolve issues with her even before your brother comes back. Women can sometimes be intoxicated with power. Be a man and resolve the issues at hand then work hard to have your own space.

The kind of things that trip some women sef
Kitchen food ? When okonjo iweala just broke new record.

freetheking:
I'm so sorry that she throw your belongings out of the house of which I know it's not good. Secondly,you did not behave well by going to her pot without her concent. Let me tell you this and every other person reading thread, there are two things that women don't tolerate.

(1) Going to her pot without her concent.

(2) Interfering in the matter that concerns her and her husband.
You will be a good brother in-law or sister in-law.

SmartPolician:
Someone from the east is asking questions, yet you still nag like a fishwife!

Disgusting things!

Hugomexis:
That dead dog is better than Buhari

Bornu1stSon:
They will definitely be released. Who born u to keep my brothers in Prison? I ask again, Who born u to do so in Yoruba land?

Eriokanmi:
Congratulations. You're free from unnecessary distractions. Build your wealth first and not relationship. It would fall in line in due course.

This valentine, just go to a nice eatry or shopping mall, relish it with the best delicacy you can think of . Love yourself. She would come back i promise after her eyes are clear to see the difference . The onus is on you to let her go and face life squarely. I hope you'd just do this.

shadeyinka:
Why go into a relationship when you are not really ready. It takes hard work to build a relationship.

Why do you want a girlfriend NOW is the question you need to ask yourself?

Finish school, work on your career then think of settling down with someone is the wisdom you need.

weyreypey:
Shut up. If you have nothing meaningful to say. Ikpeazu is paying 100k per cow .....go and lament there

powerfulguy:
http://saharareporters.com/2021/02/04/buhari-igp-adamu-violates-covid-19-law-prescribing-6-month-jail-term-defaulters

https://twitter.com/PoliceNG/status/1357357707334987779?s=19[/quote]stupid old men.

Loner97:
I understand u bro, i have been in his shoes and it doesnt usually end well, am not between anything they have but my problem now is that she is trying to turn my bro against me and she has being disrespecting me so very much(Mind u am 6y/o than she is) maybe because she knows am uncovering her every evil dealings to my bro and its something i wouldnt take

Winneygirl:
As she is not the one making the post, there must be something we don't know yet.

Most people don't do genotype testing 7 times.
If you're AA, you do maybe one confirmatory test before marriage, that's all.

Why was she running up and down doing genotype test?
It is because she knew she was AS long ago.

owobokiri:
Why not make videos of these things... I actually want to try cooking the nsala and this one. Na only egwusi I sabi cook wella... That one ah don cook am soteeeey, my oyibo gf come learn how to cook sef. Problem is tht she chews the garri and drinks the soup after..

KanuSE:
Go poco, Go poco, Go poco...

I will create my own thread on Ofe Adamawa.

Rayd502:
We see this scenario alot in Nollywood movies,your dad uses his adherence to Christianity to mask his occultic practices.

Otherwise how else can you explain a bat in Wardrobe?What kind of people does your dad associate with outside his church circle?

The world we live in is deep.

omojesu202:
he's someone that wants his car washed daily. Will you have two grown up boys of 20 and 18 at home and still be washing your car yourself?? if he sent for his boys to do that the wife will block it. giving him sleep and rest as reason

jesusjnr2020:
Something You Should Fear More Than The Mark Of The Beast!

The coming of the Antichrist (the beast) alongside the mark of the beast is one thing that appears to be generating a lot of fear and tension among Christians and even some church leaders, that all sorts of theories were emerging from different quarters of the church, especially with respect to the outcome of the US elections alongside the new Covid-19 vaccine.

It's quite understandable the apprehension because of what it portends for those who refuse to worship or bow do to the beast or
to take the mark of the beast as was foretold in the scriptures.

Revelation 13:15-18 (KJV)

And he had power to give life unto the image of the beast, that the image of the beast should both speak, and cause that as many as would not worship the image of the beast should be killed.
And he causeth all, both small and great, rich and poor, free and bond, to receive a mark in their right hand, or in their foreheads:
And that no man might buy or sell, save he that had the mark, or the name of the beast, or the number of his name.
Here is wisdom. Let him that hath understanding count the number of the beast: for it is the number of a man; and his number is Six hundred threescore and six.

So it's the fate that would befall anyone who refuses to worship the beast or take the mark of the beast, which is ultimately death, probably by beheading, that was causing such apprehension and fear. However Jesus had warned us about something we should fear more those who can only kill the body but can do no more than that.

Luke 12:4-5 (KJV)

And I say unto you my friends, Be not afraid of them that kill the body, and after that have no more that they can do.
But I will forewarn you whom ye shall fear: Fear him, which after he hath killed hath power to cast into hell; yea, I say unto you, Fear him.

So the extent of fear the mark of the beast or the Antichrist is generating amongst those of the church is unwarranted, because the worst he can do is to kill the body, and Jesus warned us not to fear such ones, but He who is able to do much more than kill the body even God who is able to kill the body and also the soul in hell.

The fear of God is very important because it makes any other fears, as those of the beast that can only kill the body to become mere shadows in the life of a believer, thereby making it impossible for the devil to use such fears, which is his greatest weapon, to make the believer to yield to his wishes, like worshipping the beast or taking the mark of the beast.

That's why the apostles and those of the first church that Jesus built remained unshakable in their faith, despite the rare extent of persecutions and deaths the devil used his own to bring upon them. It was because they had the fear of God in them, so the devil who could only kill the body but not the soul, could not use the fear of death as a strategy to prevail against them.

However Jesus said that in the last days many believers shall be offended and the love of many would wax cold.

Matthew 24:9-12 (KJV)

Then shall they deliver you up to be afflicted, and shall kill you: and ye shall be hated of all nations for my name's sake.
And then shall many be offended, and shall betray one another, and shall hate one another.
And many false prophets shall rise, and shall deceive many.
And because iniquity shall abound, the love of many shall wax cold.

So the only reason this would happen is because of the lack of the fear of God, because the love of those who truly fear God would never wax cold regardless of such persecution or fear of death, because that fear of God in them would make them endure to the end as it did the apostles and those of the early church.

Matthew 24:13 (KJV)

But he that shall endure unto the end, the same shall be saved.

I pray the fear of God would return to the church as it used to be in the days of the apostles, so that we would also be to able to endure to the end. In Jesus name! Amen!

God bless.

tobechi74:
What’s Wrong With Sex?
Is there anything wrong with two people coming together and just having sex — for fun — without first having an emotionally intimate relationship (assuming safe sex is practiced of course)?

I was raised to believe the answer to this is yes, that there is something wrong with it.

As a sophomore in high school, I had to write a school paper on why premarital sex was wrong. I did the assignment and regurgitated what I needed to get an A.

Privately I had doubts about what I was taught. And of course I went ahead and had premarital sex anyway, which turned out to be a lot of fun with no guilt or regret.

Looking back, I think I would have preferred to get an F on that assignment and had more fun instead.


Your sexual orientation does not define you
Today I see absolutely nothing wrong with having sex just for fun, as long as it’s done safely and consensually. I think those who feel that sex is wrong, dirty, or immoral are terribly repressed. I’ve never met a genuinely happy person that felt this way about sex. Perhaps if such people just got laid more often, they wouldn’t be so grumpy.

Prerequisites for Sex
What prerequisites do we actually need to engage in sex? A willing partner is really all that’s required. If you have a willing partner, you can have sex.

Serious rocket science here, eh?

Just to be clear, let’s assume your body and your partner’s body are physically capable of having sex as well.

All other rules, constraints, and requirements arise from social conditioning and are therefore unnecessary.

You don’t need to be married or in a committed relationship.

You don’t need to be dating.

You don’t need to be in love.

You don’t need an opposite-sex partner.

You don’t need to be exclusive with your partner.

Your partner doesn’t need to be exclusive with you.

You don’t need to be programmed in multiple techniques.

You don’t even need to have met the other person first.

All you need is consent.

Technically speaking, even your partner’s consent is a socially conditioned prerequisite, but I think it’s one we should maintain. The alternative is illegal, unethical, and hurtful. We can certainly enjoy sex without resorting to rape. Acting out your kinky fantasies, on the other hand, can still be completely consensual.

How many extra rules do you have in your head about what’s required for you to have sex above and beyond the most basic?

https://tobechispeaks./2020/12/03/how-purity-culture-teaches-wrong-sex-education/

Canadianelenu:
Recently, the increase in armed robberies and banditry has become a disturbing trend in Nigeria. It is even more horrendous when the men of the underworld not only steal when they attack but will also rape any unfortunate female caught in the invasion.

My wife and I were watching a real life crime documentary one evening and in the documentary, a lady was shot and killed after resisting rape advances from 6 men who invaded her residence.

Fortunately, the criminals were later caught using forensic evidence and paraded by law enforcement. These men were tough looking strongly built men who no doubts would have torn the lady apart if they had succeeded in raping her.

However, the shocker was when my wife of 4 years said, and I quote “she just died for nothing and has caused her family a lot of grief...if it were me, I would just let them have their way and live to see another day”.

Although this sounded very right, it also sounded very wrong at the same time and has since been messing with my head as I cannot get the picture out of my mind. We could both see that they were 6 hefty men and yet she felt she should have................

Ladies, am I over reacting and men, what do you think? How can something feel so right and so wrong simultaneously?

pocohantas:
What would you have this with?

ayobamiJR:
You are very very light in the brain.

SimplyFacts:
Just exercise more patience. For your father to survive that over-twenty-years marriage with her, you can do too. Mind you, you possibly have just few years in that house. Channel more energy towards your younger ones & give them moral lessons where necessary.

See her as your cross & remember her in your prayers.

Your mother will always be your mother.

You can change wives or have more, but you definitely can't change or have another mother.

CC: kennywagz