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Desusi:
Naira landers, kindly advise me on what to do.

l am over 60 years old, a widower. By the grace of God, l was blessed with three children of which two are graduates with good grades from reputable universities here in Nigeria, one is still undergraduate before the departure of my late wife some years back.

As a retired man with meager money, I decided to manage a little business which barely gives me much money. One of these my children, a professional, though not teacher, is currently residing with me doing teaching job in different places as part time, pending when he would get a much better job.

We are living in my personal house. l would single handedly pay electricity bills, lawnman, etc. My son would not want to help in any way, not even with pure water of #10 claiming that he is with his father.

Efforts to convince him to assist me is not yielding positive result, instead he would pick quarrels with me. His senior sister has married, while the junior brother is still in the school as dependant, what sort of counseling do you think he needs to change.

I am afraid even if this boy owns shop rite in future, he would not help either.

Perhaps you can start by asking him ...why he does not want to leave the comfort of your house and go into the world to be his own man...

I believe with your years of wisdom you will be able to guide him appropriately and ease whatever notions/fears he has and reassure him that you have his back and he should walk boldly into the world

Our children are our pride and it's our hearts desire to see them stand on their own feet and have successful lives

surebona:
Ok, our relationship was not that serious because I was still bringing up my ex into conversation so she found someone that was willing to marry her, she got married and few weeks later she chatted me up that her man is not capable of getting her pregnant due to complications and that she want me to please help out, that the man agreed to her getting satisfaction outside..

Me confuse o.
Abeg which kind wahala b this one and I no even know weten I wan cap dis bani like dis o.

What exactly do you want us to say.....don't you have morals, don't you have fear of God.
The only answer hear is to flee from that nonsense situation and save your future and your soul

Xenomorph kwa.....

Takeproft:
Women and children irrespective of nationality. Then men! Irrespective of nationality. Stop displaying your ignorance child!!!

You better give up....all this your ranting without sense.

A yeah of little sense...all caught in your emotion.....you think the world is a Utopia

Takeproft:
you are responsible for the lives of everyone within your border. Have you ever left the shores of Africa? You sound dumb and ignorant

Little boy...Endeavor to give respect to all, use language that speaks well of you.
If you have a counterpoint state it...

You don't know me, so make no assumptions, I have been to more countries than your whole generation.

you are responsible for the lives of everyone within your border,
Yes in a time of peace. When at war priority has to be made, that is why you will hear things like women and children first...

Let me ask a question....lets say Naija dey at war..and they brought a bus take us to safety and you and your family no see space but you dey see foreigners inside the bus.....wouldn't you think your govt and country have failed you.

Each country is responsible for its citizens and in this case Nigeria failed its own by not evacuating their own.

Where i will find fault is if they allow other white non Ukrainians and leave out the Afican people....then we can call them out on the bs..

ifiokjohn:
let those original owners come fight for their lands and take over it just like isreal did. Land can't not be given freely. Every good thing comes with a price. If the Palestinians can defeat isreal and take over, we will support bthem too.

So basically what you are saying is that might is right....so if Russia has the might they should do what they want...and they should be justified.

Needadvice200:
Sorry I had to create new account to remain anonymous.

Please men of the house I seriously need advice. Straight to the point, we've been married for 6 years now and I love her so so much, our compatibilities is 100%. We have a beautiful baby girl and we are still currently living together at the moment.
Since we married things has been extremely bad for us unlike before we married. Though I myself was down with sickness for years that almost took my life but God revived me and she stays with me. My business doesn't require my presence (networking) because currently am still getting money but not much. let's say 20k average which of course not much for the family.

Now here is my problem, from 3 or 4 different CONFIRMED sources we were told that my lack of money it's from her that she belongs to a spiritual evil cult (Elegbe omo) that her own is spiritual rags group (egbe akitan, or alakisa) that whoever sleeps with them, their things will going down for them, finance wise and all. I hope I described it well tho and that even she herself is not aware but they do tell her severally. and she has been praying yet things keep getting worse for us.

in fact sometimes ago a pastor saw a vision for her that whoever sees her physically putting on a good cloth that she's beautiful but spiritually it is rags on her body. That she will Pray and fast for 3 days (deliverance) which she did yet things keeps getting worse for me in fact right now I am begging to feed.

When I realized this I stopped having sex with her for months and my business really really improved.
Throughout last year I can count how many times we had sex not up to 4 times and I did not cheat on her because I love her so much but for how long? It's not easy to be on the same bed with your wife and not want to have it but anytime we have it we must suffer for it for months.
The loan sharks on my neck are up to 7. Am just collecting loan to pay another to avoid their embarrassment. One is even threatening my life now (LCredit) as I could not pay the overdue loan.

My head is full with many thoughts. I love her and my baby which is just 2yrs. i want to succeed, I want my family. how long can we be staying without sex? am so so worried. Though I was told it's not her fault but what can I do because it has been affecting us for years now until now.

I don't know if anyone had a similar experience to please share. I need help because I am seriously considering leaving her but I will take full responsibilities of my baby.

I will be in comment section if case of any questions.

Thank y'all

Oga.....there is a reason why the bible told us not to practice, fortune-telling and divination, because it gives room for the devil to manipulate and destroy...

Belief is a very strong thing... believing wrongly is just as potent as believing rightly

By the way, how do you know that his prophecy is true

See the piece below
Prophecy must always lead to the edification of the body of Christ, and not the division of it. Paul recognized the value of the gift of prophecy, but gave instructions for its proper use (1 Cor. 14:29-33), “Let two or three prophets speak, and let the others judge… For God is not the author of confusion but of peace.” An alleged Spirit-inspired prophetic word given to the church is fallible if it is not critically evaluated by the diverse church community. Furthermore, if it does not build up with peace the body of Christ, but instead tears it down, it is false.

DoggoneDogg:
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I have one question....where are all the feminist now...why are they not asking for equal rights....that they too should be forcefully conscribed into the arm to go and face the enemy...

This is why men lead the world...because we do the hard , difficult, dirty and deadly stuff....

Faber:
Where was Palestine in 63 BCE when the Romans invaded Israel?
So my land was captured and I ran away, after much much, I came back to collect my land, you come rename my land, talk say na your own, you day whine me?

If you are going by that theory then, the whole world will be at war.....

Original owners of America
Original owners of Canada
Original owners of Australia

On and On and On............I'm sure if you go back far enough we might even find the original owner of Nigeria

[quote author= post=110534065]Update From . COM

Six persons including two policemen have been confirmed killed in what is believed to be a coordinated robbery attack on commercial banks in Uromi, headquarters of Esan North-East Local Government Area of Edo State.

It was gathered that large sums running into millions of naira were carted away by the criminals.

According to Facebook user, Sunday Ehimare Inegbenose, the female police officer killed was his neighbour.

"The female police woman who lost her life to the robbery attack in Uromi yesterday. She's the only female child of her parents, and my neighbour.
May her soul rest in peace." he wrote.

Spokesperson of the State Police Command, Bello Kontongs said four banks and some police station were attacked, while two police personnel and five civilians lost their lives.

See Photos As Obtained By Below:[/quote]Please try and remove the picture of her corpse....lets show some respect.

Feel so sad for the little girl who has lost her mother...May the Lord always be there for you at all times.

kyber:
My babe is a very good cook that is one of the attributes that drew me to her since our first date

Asides that she’s supportive but she also great in other areas …

I know The Redpillers will lash at me but it’s the sweet truth

If your woman is a great cook ,hold on to her

Food is one of the primary thing that keeps a relationship going

I’m stepping down with this mixture for the night

(Picture below)

What do you think of the meal ?

This is how one guy for bible take sell him birth right....better go and learn how to cook and stop all this simping behaviour

Iyaebe:
Anything crypto and other internet ways of making money is fraudulent to me,people that make money online are mostly fraudsters or potential fraudsters.Dem plenty here for nairaland.All those boys doing crypto also know how to hack people's account and hacking is fraudulent, so all of dem dy swim for the same ocean. Crypto=Hacking=Fraud.

Wow....your level of ignorance is mind blowing.

Worst part is you are spewing the ignorance with so much confidence...

When you know you are not good academically...this is how you will be convincing yourself....

Somebody, they should have bundled into a cargo plane and dropped at FBI headquaters

Mhistasaints:
Hello guys! I need a simple advice. I am a married man, my ex-girlfriend is also married. I've been married for 2years now and she got married 2months ago. When I got married, she told me she was disappointed at me, that why couldn't I come and beg her when she said no. She was the one that left me in the relationship telling me that her people say that I was too young and had nothing. I focused, achieved and got married at 23yrs.

Of late, she chatted me up and we discussed. She started being too intimate to the extent of trying to discussing her sexual marital life with me on her she doesn't like having sex with her husband. Few days ago, she started asking me for money. I am sensing something fishy.

What do I do?

Oga, run, run for your life....
Na so devil they take bring problem into peoples lives....

End that conversation, block the chats and face your wife and family

Our politicians are destroying Nigeria gradually...

emmykk:
If the public officer don't use public fund how they going to know and persecute him.
I think the bill is a rubbish bill they should rather say no public officer should patronizing foreign medical services

My thoughts exactly...This bill does nothing for the medical sector because these guys have more than enough money to fly themselves out and fund their own medical treatment.

If they want to have a meaningful impact on our health sector, they should put an outright band on foreign medical trip for all political/public office holders, weather self sponsored or state sponsored.

Besides they can easily increase thier allowances to cover for the loss in statesponsoship, so this bill is meaningless.

The way women are taken guys for granted these days.....let them remember what they sow they will reap.

Just keep on creating monsters, they come back to devour you.

Ugaboy:
Nairalander, please rate my performance

First and completed Data Analytic Visualization Project... coming from zero to here just in two weeks...I would love to xplain everything in details but I think it not necessarily...this an analysis for U.S Passenger Dataset, I cant rate this so good...I want to xplore some more chart that can carry so much detail and prediction.

Though there is no prediction on this visual...but tell the story of the performance.

The dataset contains Date, Country and numbers of passengers.

With the Analysis, you can make prediction months and days U.S are likely to have more passengers traveling or migrating.

You can also tell the exponential growth, why 2020 has the lowest passengers

Though I have some Machine Learning project on Python, Excel and Statistics (I just choose to share this cus I joined a monthly competition on LinkedIn)

Let me stop here, I see how you all rate a new Barber, graphics designer.
Come and do this for me...man want to feel encourage

Not bad....need to work on layout, color scheme, IA, font choice and size

Farming.....

According to our dear presido

frankfrank:
Who be this people again?
I see "nice" shoes and a of pair slippers.
What else can you spot here?

Strange how 90% of Nigerian men are dark, but 90% of Nigerian women are fair................

Sammy101111:
Bro if konji na bastard then hustle hard and marry her then enjoy your sexually life instead of jumping around with konji make money

Sorry to inform you...marriage does not guarantee you will get sex whenever you want....

Set objectives and targets for your future and get busy . You will not have time to be thinking about sex

Loewe:
You're saying nonsense. Do you know what the average man passes through while women are given softer rules and preferential treatment?
You're talking about history, were men spared in the cruel history of humanity?

How many times have police men harassed you on the road just for being a woman?

How many times have you disrespected men and got away with it?

How many women dress half naked and still claim right despite the visual harassment.

Please just getat!

You know the funny aspect...it is men who caused this problem.....we are the ones who have enabled the maltreatment of our fellow men...And it is usually the SIMPS amongst us....

Me i no dey interested in all this apology somethings.....you be adult you know the right thing to do


To the one way concern me...Abeg bros, how your madam take do those online work for home things....JUST ASKING FOR A FRIEND

BIKO SHOW PEOPLE THE WAY

Effects of China's current financial crisis....

As a general rule women don't date downwards....

In fact she will probably take it as an insult, and the reaction might be negative...

Bro just maintain, do your job, and date outside the office

Besides if shit goes side ways, with both of you working in the same office, it will not be pleasant, and considering that she is your senior colleague

Obviously, them get mental problem....

And how is he going to fund it....Nigeria that is taxing everything, removing subsidies and borrowing up and down

HOW, HOW.......all this rubbish political talk....

And how does free WAEC exam take Nigeria to the promise land, what impact will that have on our general well being or improve our economy

Just the usual nonesense talk...

Quite interesting.....shotguns with AK47 bullets....

So we have 3 adults......One adult is working hard to make money...

The others adults are waiting for him to drop money while complaining that what he gave is not enough but they themselves are not raising a single dine to help...hmmmmmmmm