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Orezi should be on this list oh. . He's garrit!

babyosisi: Asking a man to marry you smells of desperation
That is all I am trying to say
Don't do it

Point of view, I suppose.
I won't stay in a relationship where I want to get married and the man is dragging his feet.

Some hindrance I dnt knw about? Tell me, maybe we can work it out together.

Good enough to date but not marry? Fine, I'll live.

But deceive myself that he'll ask when it might never happen? No.
If he doesn't ask when he should, most likely, he won't.

babyosisi: Then you find a new man with the right specs,you repeat the sofa scenario and propose again abi
Of you would have learned a lesson?

I sense an insult somewhere there, and I think I need to say that this is my hypothetical proposal and life.
To ur Q, I'm not likely to date a wimp, and if I do attempt a proposal, I'll ensure I don't deflate his ego while I'm at it. If I'm in a relationship that should be going somewhere and it isn't, I'll ask my partner.
Like I said, it's more an invitation to proposal.
So if he does turn me down, it won't be because I "proposed" to him.

babyosisi: And then then he says,baby,I hear you
I hear you
You know I love you.

You have just been turned down right there in a polite way

What next!
Start crying?
Try again?
Or angrily get up from the sofa and pack your things?
Plan to burn his things
Or turn to a biaitch

When a man is ready he will propose to the one he loves

Yes, and? I prompt him. If he has nothing concrete to say, then I start moving on, small small.
I don't have time for nonsense drama. I'll be sad in my own house, and get over it at some point in the future. It's really more of an invitation to propose than an outright proposal.
If he gives me the runaround, and I honestly cannot see any hindrance to his marrying me, then it's time to start looking for a new man.
Usually, when it's time to propose and a man doesn't, (all things being equal) he won't.

expert101: You seem to be a very sharp babe but if tell me that I will run!

Lol. . . Na relationship discussion e go be na. If babe mention the M word na invitation to jilting be that.

babyosisi: Please how will you say it

First, I'll avoid any drama. No silly ring or anything related. We'll probably be seated on a sofa and home alone, just chatting bou nothing important.
So I'll switch the mood, insert some mild caresses just enough to mellow, but not to become serious pre-intimacy and say something along these lines.

Guy, we've come this far, I love you and I feel We're at the point where we can build a happy life together. What do you think?/What do you say?
It's all in the delivery.

jnrbayano: Reason: water doesn't climb hill

I can only see a mannish lady proposing to a womanish man.

You've clearly never been to Erijiyan Ekiti. Their own water dey climb hill oh.

deeobserver209: This would be difficult. Don't see it happening anytime soon. Nigerian women don't have the balls to propose.

I would, and I'm very much Nigerian.
I think people are seeing this as a big issue. Because the average guy would not like to be proposed to, I would simply do it in a way that doesn't shout "proposal!"
I don't actually have to say the words - Will you marry me?

Tallesty1: After an analytical survey, I have come to realise that most women do not understand what marriage is about. This misinformed set of people think that marriage is love and laughter, flowers, jewels, pampering and a life made forever beautiful. They imagine living with a benignant man that will forever shower them with gifts, favours and surprises. They believe there is going to be alota romance, sexx, sexx and plenty of sexx. But fact is, marriage as such does not exist. Nothing is forever beautiful.

Alot of married women ended up disappointed after their marriage simply because the life they imagined exists only in their imagination. Their expectation for love and romance was too much. Some turn down genuine husbands because they want to fall in love first. As stupid as they are, they have fail to realise that love is indefinable. What they think is love is just a momentary nice feeling.

I don't really need that type love in my marriage, I prefer friendship and Lust. Love is a nice feeling, I know but it has done alot of harm, broken many hearts and taken lives to the extent that I now need an alternative

It is hilarious when women talk about being equal, or man being the head and women being the neck or some other part of the body. I don't need a marriage where someone is the head and the other person is the neck. That is really not necessary. Why fight for position when it is just us? We have different responsibilities in this partnership and she needs me as much as I need her.

What I want is very simple, picture this to understand me.

Two soldiers are out in a battle field, fighting side by side, dealing with whatever may come their way. They got each others back.

The enemies in marriage might be sickness, bad times, foes, True love is not seen in Romeo and Juliet that died together but in Grandpa and Grandma that grow old together.

The good times we shall enjoy together and endure the hard times together because we are determined to make it work.

I once saw that quote about Romeo/Juliet on someone's bbm dp, and I was struck by it.
Re your post, my sentiments exactly. I've often thought that people place too much emphasis on love and leave out other important factors to consider in choosing a mate.

If I like the guy and I'm completely certain I can live with the part of him I don't like, babygeh cannot comman die of "singlehood" oh. He'll either answer yes or no.
And I'd do it in a saner way than asking jamb Qs about sharing soap suds forever. Msheew

Guy, I really like/love you, and going by our relationship so far, I feel we could have a good life together. Whaddaya think?

Well, I visit Ijapo fairly often. Do I qualify?

Wily2wily: Yorubas eat too much Monkeys.

At least we speak better English.
FYI, it's "too many monkeys"

People and their idiotic comments. Saying our diversity has brought us nothing but conflict when people kill their own fathers for money. One day, some of us will start to think and appreciate our cultural diversity.

I am a proud Ondo State indigene, and I speak Yoruba and my native language excellently and I still speak better English than these "Oyinboo by force" Nigerians. Learning one does not hurt the other.

I hope this strike isn't called off anytime soon. At least until this thing is contained and properly dealt with.

People have turned this into a JOHESU/NMA debate, and the real issue should be the fact that we have NO emergency services in this country.

Imagine if the public hospitals hadn't been on strike and that evil Sawyer guy had been taken to even a primary health care centre, not to mention a place like LUTH or LASUTH, we would be in full blown panic mode now.

For me, the doctors are absolutely right to keep up the strike action.

Amefrica: I have a brother who is 9years old. He convulsed 2 times last month --- the first one was just something else, it took him 30mins before he got relieved. We made him sit upright while convulsing, so he doesn't choke on his own saliva.

A week and some days later, same thing happened ...so he was taken to a hospital and also my granny brought some herb. He uses this at 3 days interval.

...and this morning again, around 5:30, he was in my room and convulsed again. I quickly put a spoon in his mouth and made him sit upright. I didn't shout (my mum sabi cry), when I realized he's relieved, then I called my dad and mum.

Everybody is just tired --- is there any permanent cure for this sickening thing called convulsion?

Thanks!

He needs a neurologist. I'd recommend that you take him to (please don't take this the wrong way) Fed Neuropsychiatric Hosp, Yaba, but since they are on strike, try private clinics that have a consulting neurologist.

No, epilepsy (if the dr diagnoses that, as there can be several causes - fever, tumors etc)cannot be permanently cured, but he can have a seizure freedom for months at a go such that he has less than five in a year.

Capableben: Hitherto, I have always admired people that speak good English- on T.v, films, neighborhood, and some friends.Even here on nairaland , we have a good number of people that write English as though they were related to Queen Elizabeth.
I recently discovered that its much more easier for me writing English than speaking it impeccably. What should one do to speak English authoritatively and impeccably

Read! Read often, especially fiction, not just motivational crap that everyone brandishes these days. Fiction writers use regular language, they aren't trying to impress anyone with grammar but try to reach a large audience.
Don't learn the big words. They'll come later. Read, read, read! You can start with the African Writers Series, Chinua Achebe, Cyprian Ekwensi etc. Simple grammar, classy diction, interesting reading too!

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pls advise me...

Don't worry about it. I simply see it as being interested in several things. Wish I had the tenacity to pursue several interests like you do.
Ensure you learn one well enough to live on. That's the most important.
Oh, and it's JACK of all trades please.

ProfGday: someone shld pls answer my questn,b4 I lose my temper.lol

Anyone you prefer. I paid acceptance before clearance. I know people who did it the other way round.

Emmaomotob: Is your great grandfather not a polygamist?

As he was the first man to ride a horse in our village, those women refused to leave him.
It sooo wasn't his fault!

Lai Lai. You cannot get an appointment letter until you've been employed.
I suggest you go there and check the place out properly. The only money you will be asked to pay should be the agency fee for registration. If you've already written an exam, then I expect you've paid it.
Ask for the name of the company they supposedly found you a job with and confirm you have a job.

I fed everyone of the above listed lines to my interview panel. Some of it is true though. Avoid blatant lies that are easily checked, like saying you are proficient at using certain software when you aren't. Unless it's the kind you can master in a few hours before your interview.
I told them my weakness, and one of them actually suggested a way to spin it a better way for future interviews.
It's all in the telling. Learn to speak well!

rokiatu: https://media.tumblr.com/tumblr_mb6usiUz6S1qery84.jpg

. . . Didn't realise we're still together . . . Priceless!

I have neither fact nor data. I just believe in my heart that God is.
If I had to try to convince an atheist though, I'd go this route: Say God is real, which follows that HIS word is real too and there's heaven, hell etc. isn't it better to err on the side of caution?

Can you imagine?! THREE wives? I first thought I read it wrong. See the nice looking babygehs . . . Oga oh.

Oro le so kale.
Sugbon awon oro afiwe kan kan te lo o ye mi o. Kini itumo "oropotoyun, baba awon ileke"?

It has never occurred to me that Bakare might not be a Yoruba name. I'm well aware of the others though.

Reading your posts tonight, made me scared for the Tgirl from Liberia. I felt very sorry for her as she was so out of her league, it was a distant dot to her.
Mo gbe'di fun yin ma. Eyin tun le gaaan!
Remind me never to get on your wrong side.
I like your Nigerian spirit, KarmaMod.

macof: In ur ridiculous bid to ridicule the Yoruba you make such a blundering statement

I swear d oyinbo sef tire me!

Yay! My town peeps are reppin! Can't believe I'm just seeing this, and I don't want to believe I'm the only "omagho" (Owo indigene) on NL. Seriously?

Fulaman198: I owe this thread and dedicate this thread to my Yoruba brethren. Amnestylaw1 made and created a wonderful thread dedicated to the Fulbe (Fulani) peoples, I'm not quite doing this to repay him for his kind deeds, I just thought that the Yoruba, masters of sciences, masters of talking drum (gan gan), and beautiful women and kind gentlemen deserved this thread.

I was just viewing another thread re Fulanis where you promised to create one for Yorubas so I thought I'd check whether you actually did. Good man!

I wish the OP had more pictures so people who don't know many Fulanis can see. Dem dey fine like say na only dem dey God front wen HE dey share beauty.

10,000 words a month? Lool!