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Flashh:
See him face sef. Na today wey you use Man U for DP dey lose.

edwife:
Ndo

Aminat508:

edwife:
https://gifrific.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/03/Baby-Laughing-Hard-and-Falls-Over.gif

Aminat508:
sorry ma

Aminat508:

thorpido:
The bad was all that attack on each other by pro-gays and anti-gays.
The good is the romantic cascading waves of..................(not good with poetry.Got the brain of a scientist).

Onegai:
In Nigeria, she would have to go to an NGO who will meet with a magistrate for the court's to award custody. She cannot meet them and say she sells pure water as that is a very low-income job and cannot sustain 2 people. So she won't get custody. Hairstylist pays more. And by the time she starts and word gets round that "ah that woman who plaits hair dey work to get her pikin back", people will start being in her corner and fighting for her. Which is what she needs more than random sending of money from afar: her community should support her. OP said she needed accomodation, custody and a job because she was a hairstylist.

Silvofitz:
Well, I just wonder what such lie would pay anyone. For a young woman to allow her pictures on a forum like this, it must be a serious matter. For those who care to help, this woman as we speak, is in a restaurant at Gate, Ibadan selling pure water. She works, so alms is not her concern. Feeding is not even her problem. Her major concerns are access to her son, accommodation and a platform to work as a stylist. She uses all the money she makes to feed herself. The picture below, the children church of Gospel faith Mission, which is not under lock and key is where she passes her night most of the time. According to her she checks in there around 10 to 11pm, and leaves the premises to the canal around 5am to take her bathe before anybody gets there. Everything she said was verified before posting on Nairaland. At the church there were church members cleaning the environment, when we went there to take pictures. I only raised alarm because of the risk of sleeping in unsecured premises, and the emotional stress of being separated from her only son. And these are weighty.

Onegai:
Well I was thinking that if I were in church and one day they announced after service that there was a young mother who was going through challenging times and needed our support but wasn't begging and was willing to raise herself through honest hard work and she would also join us in cleaning the church, I'd patronise her business. I've seen mothers in the Newborn thread sell things like coconut oil (rather than beg) and people patronised them.

My issue with paying immediately for the rent is that I've seen what handouts can do: they can immobilise the person seeking help into thinking "help is a click away in NL". So we give her a room, what are the chances that she doesn't immediately focus on getting her son back (any mother would). But then she doesn't think daily about how to survive. Let her start pulling herself on her feet and we will help her. But she needs to start. We cannot save everyone and it makes it easier to save her if she is willing to save herself.

She got married and people attended her wedding. Her husband kicked her out and denied her access to her son. Why hasn't she gone back to meet the family who gave her away to ask for their support in at least getting to see her son daily.

To be a single mother is not beans. She needs to start being strong and this is her first test. Let her start earning small money, no matter how little and taking care of herself. She needs to snap out of a victim mentality.

EfemenaXY:
Pls oh, what does "pata" mean? I know, I know, I'm old school. Very.

EfemenaXY:
Oh, wow! Wow!! Wow!!!

That cucumber sure is tempting. Mine ran out this morning. I eat almost a whole one a day.

I need to restock up on my fruit and vegs.

Kimoni, how's work? Settled in now?

Damiso well done.

Chilisauce, I dey watch you in 3D oh!

salsera:
Did you read Onegai post
Let her start making hair for kids now.
The Church she sleeps in is a good place to start and get customers.

Getting a room to rent will not solve her issues cos how will she feed the child?
Note that if she works in the restaurant to serve water that is where she eats but that food will bot feed her child.

She needs alternative source of income!
Abi what type of stylist is she.
Noone will hand over a child to her unless she can prove she can take care if herself and a toddler

tearoses:
Sis sorry im not in IB

thorpido:
I thought this was a gay thread.So much heterosexual liaison going on.

Je si ike.

Silvofitz:
There has not been any response from any quarter. Nay.

udoomama:
lol , this my bump the always cause commotion for road , my dear am not ooo, by his grace am having twins. When I went for antenatal, na so other mama d ask say u neva born?

udoomama:
Udoomama is back with full force, so make I launch #bumpytuesday#
#teamaugustrocks#
#26wks 3d bump#

onegig:
Anyone taking this 40 year old guy with no job serious, needs all the help they can get. He is so twisted, I pity the lady that ends up with him.

As much as verbal abuse is a very bad thing and should be condemned and not be indulged in by any party. Stating that a guy should retaliate while being abused by a lady in like or unlike manner is not only silly but a shitty behaviour. Both physical and verbal abuses are bad and extreme behaviours and should be outrightly condemned by all. Verbal abuse consequences may not be apparent in that instant it was thrown like physical abuse but they leave a damaging long lasting effect on the victim.

Bottom line from experience for any guy is this;

If someone brings out the worst in you...please gently walk away. If she has a razor sharp mouth. Leave such toxic lady alone. Might be hard and you must have invested a lot into the relationship but the relative peace you would feel is more than whatever you can gain from staying behind.

soonest:
Have you blamed a woman today?
She made me cheat on her, she sent me into the hands of another woman, she made me lose my job, she made me hit her bla bla bla. I wonder when men will grow up and take responsibility for their actions. Well, i'm not surprised, they learnt from d best, ADAM, who still blamed God for giving him Eve instead of apologizing.

zaynie:
Thanks @ Onegai, that up there was much needed by me.
I'm about shopping for my daughter's hair products.
But the detangler, its good right?

Aunty Kimoni, I see you peeping o! How are the sisters at the nunnery ?