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pansophist:
You're 29, so I assume you're talking to women younger than you, who are in their prime, and have loads of guys in her DM. So from your angle, it may just be only one girl you're chatting with, but to her, you are one of many.

And you must know that you're competing with all the guys she is talking to, and in many cases, you will rank low not because you are not a good choice, but because the competition out there is brutal, especially for financially unstable men.

You're handsome, that's good, but other guys in her DM may be handsome and richer, and taller. She will go for the best. But by going for the best men, it doesn't mean those men mean well for her.

Women mostly go for the same kind of men, a very tiny percentage, because most men are not desirable to women. But since other women are also interested in the man she she is seeing, she unknowingly becomes his concubine, especially when sex is involved.

So yes, while she is thinking that she has found the one, he is thinking that he has found another option to change for the weekend. This is the situation many girls are in without knowing. Including the girl you're talking to probably.

He won't tell her about her usefulness in his life, same way women don't tell men that they are simps and are only useful to her for cash and attention. If a woman is in the sexzone of a man, she won't know as well. So your sweetheart is probably in a polygamous relationship.

Men generally have no standards when it comes to sex, women do (except prostitutes). And because she gives sex to the man that she likes, it's not the same for him. To him, It's just another day but to her, she is emotionally invested and dreaming of a future with him.

This is something old culture understood, hence they made sure women are married before having sex, since that's the only way a man's commitment is guaranteed, and because anything out side of that, is just she giving herself away for nothing and devaluing her value.

So lots of these girls are chilling in the sex zone of their first choice, just as you are chilling in their friend zone. Hence you hear women saying they dated a narcissist. It may be true, because if every woman wants you as a man, you'll develop narcissistic tendencies too.

Men earn Narcissism, but women are narcissistic because simps made them so. Men that are narcissist because they've worked hard to become desirable many women wants them, but women are narcissistic because of all the simps in their DM.

For example dating sites always releases matching data. Okcupid for example shows that most women swipe NO to most men, meanwhile, most men swipe YES to most women. If you're a fat, ugly woman on dating sites, the loads of attention you will get from simps will make you an egoistic narcissist.

The tiny percentage women swipe yes to are enjoying most women, ejaculating and evacuating. She will be so happy to be with such man, but to him, she is just a temporary option, just as the men in her friendzone.

The dynamic is one giant shitshake.

So what is the solution now? Well, the solution will always be to increase your value as man. I know it's hard. This is Nigeria, but the solution makes no exceptions and is unforgiving. It's why polygamy is a thing, since few men actually satisfies women desire.

Most importantly, the girls you're talking to won't mature until the attention dries up. Also, a man becomes mature when he stops giving attention. High value men get attention, low value men gives it.

So pick your battle, or poison. Work extremely hard to be up there, and pick your choice of women, polygamy is even allowed, after all, you've suffered enough. Or wait for the attention drugs that your future wife is enjoying that prevents her maturity to finish (as she gets older), then you marry her as her last option.

Sorry.

Nawa wa o

Person ask you make you teach am small algebra

You teach am algebra, geometry, probability, calculus, differential equations and numerical methods.
You teach the whole curriculum.

Last, last sha that's how the world works.
I pray the guy truely understands what you wrote with no bitterness, cynicism, nihilism and malevolence in his heart.

The guy own even better, I no fit remember the last time anything join me with woman....I think loneliness is starting to creep in my soul but then again my consolation prize be say I dey live stress free life.

It is well.

Moha7:
You lot are saying NIMASA is the best here, meanwhile it’s not. NIMASA’s salary is a bit different. They don’t get to have either pension or gratuity after they retire. So their salary doesn’t have much deductions - it’s why their take-home package is quite good. Although some of your allowances depend on your activity at the port when goods & stuff arrive, a fresh graduate takes over 500K monthly with allowances and everything.
My cousin’s friend left NIMASA for DPR a couple of years ago. Now since NNPC is better than DPR, we can easily say NNPC is better than NIMASA.
NCC, however, is the latest big deal. Good place to work! Salary is about 400K and there are lots of allowances and bonuses.
CBN on the other hand has quite a lesser pay for fresh graduates, but with a single promotion, you will be in the real game! CBN gets you allowances like housing, wardrobe and others that sum up to the salary itself - even way more than that.
There are basically a lot of things to consider when comparing these MDAPs

NPA vs Nimasa

mrprince01:
Go for NDIC. Their net income is slightly higher than that of NPA. I've also heard of our prominent politician or highly placed individual whose children work there too. Same can't be said about NPA but NPA is a very good place to be.

As for me, money must be made but its not much of a factor for me when seeking for job opportunity. I put into consideration the work environment, the people, I wouldn't want to work in an establishment where my mental health is at risk.
Considering my health status, I would pick CBN over DPR.
Also, I would pick icpc or efcc over cbn or dpr or nimasa.
That's me so the choice is yours.

NPA people are tight lipped

Shukusheka:
So you would pick Ministry job over NLNG or NNPC because the latter job recruitment were made public?

I just knew somebody will bring this up

People like nnpc and NLNG dont have much choice because they are cash cows and all eyes are on them

Nnpc and NLNG are rare cases and outliers

opj21:
So y d hype of NPA, if dem don't pay as much

All the people you see hyping them just assume because of the name.

The name sounds rich

Shukusheka:
If you had an offer as a Manager for FIRS or NERC, which should one take? Which of the agencies pay more?

I cant say.

But I'll always choose a company that its recruitment is not made public over a company that its recruitment is made public.

Success1930:
I prefer NPA

Why ?

You won't see concrete proof of how much they make at NPA. Those guys are tight lipped

I can tell you one thing for sure, NIMASA is better than NPA and NDIC is better than NIMASA


Make your choice.

opj21:
you can choose almighty NPA and give NDIC I will pay or make Ur choice n give me one u feel

NDIC pays better than NPA

pansophist:
1. The myth of male power (by Warren Farrell). This book will help you understand the lies of feminism written by an ex-feminist, and just as the name suggests, that the so-called ''patriarchy'' feminist yap actually benefits them at the expense of men. It's common sense that you don't need a book to know this, but if you want an academic underpinning, this book helps.

If I could explain patriarchy as the book describes it, then I will use the analogy. Patriarchy is the horse, but women are the rider. Yes the horse eats a lot, drink lots of water, and stronger than the rider, and can run far distance, and do many things, but in the end, he exists to make the rider happy and will die earlier. So to look at the horse and call him an oppressor and patriarchy is just foolish. He exists for you.

2. The rules of human nature (Robert Groene). From the same man that wrote the 48 laws of power, this book shines the light on how to relate with humans and get what you want. So it's good for marketers, people in the show biz, politics, etc. The book will help you understand yourself, after all, you are human.

3. The art of war (Sun Tzu). This is a very old book, but if I have to recommend just one book if you are lazy to read the rest, then it must be this one. You must learn how to fight. And by fight, it's not physical, but the art of fighting from a strategic, manipulative, and just every angle possible. Every military personnel, business mogul, and politician that knows their salt all have this book.

If you want to go into business, you must have it as well. As a man, you are born into the world to fight, you need this book. For example, I could simply understand world events from empires, country fighting, and their strategies because of that book. The book is just like a candle, it opens your inner eyes to just understand things without being taught. You cant read this book and be manipulated, never.

4. The rational male (Rollo Tomassi) - As a man, your major source of happiness will come from your partner, and you must know how to relate with women. This is the bible of the male-female relational dynamic. It shines a torch about every angle of a relationship and helps you de-simp yourself if you are one.

Let me stop here, so I do not overwhelm you.

I will look for the myth of Male power, any book that encourages me to be lazy and partly cynical towards women is a big welcome to me.

Anywhere I go 48 laws of power is always in my bag, these days I barely have much time to read but I've read a few laws. Good book.

The first copy I had; I stole it from my sister she collected it back.
Only for me to be going through my father's mini library and I saw it again, I don steal am (no time)

I read bits of Art of War and I understand why you like the book. I stopped reading because I realized most teachings will not stick me. I'm not much of a planner, I just move and scatter any obstacle that comes way. Hopefully I no go see the one way go pass my power .
By default I'm not a meticulous or strategic person, I just move


Rollo Tomassi book looks bulky to me. all these epistles all for what ? Woman ?
Also I think he used a red font for some pages which was off putting to me.

pansophist:
Growing up, the preachers in the church I went to don't even know how to preach in a way that makes you think and see the bible in a different light. The Bible then was just a boring, plain book we had to read and fulfill righteousness. But not when I started listening to Jordan Peterson.

This man has over five hundred hours of lectures on youtube, and he dedicated a lot of those hours to decimating the bible and its deep meaning, and I began to see the bible in a different way since that day.

Everything people talk about the red pill, I can trace the source to the bible. I even read a lot of psychological and war books and can see traces in the bible. It's like all the dots begin to get connected and reveal themselves. No surprise it is the oldest book on earth, and the most sold.

But my favorite book would be genesis, which wrote about the story of creation, the foundation of the earth, and the great reset (during the time of Noah). If anyone wants to enjoy the bible in its true essence, you need a good preacher that is also good in science, history, psychology, and multilateral in academic background, then you see how powerful that book is.

From my experience the best teachers of the bible come from Catholic and orthodox churches because they go to a seminary where the bible is broken down into bits

All these new churches na motivational speakers full am with one or two tricks up their sleeves.

pansophist:
Growing up, the preachers in the church I went to don't even know how to preach in a way that makes you think and see the bible in a different light. The Bible then was just a boring, plain book we had to read and fulfill righteousness. But not when I started listening to Jordan Peterson.

This man has over five hundred hours of lectures on youtube, and he dedicated a lot of those hours to decimating the bible and its deep meaning, and I began to see the bible in a different way since that day.

Everything people talk about the red pill, I can trace the source to the bible. I even read a lot of psychological and war books and can see traces in the bible. It's like all the dots begin to get connected and reveal themselves. No surprise it is the oldest book on earth, and the most sold.

But my favorite book would be genesis, which wrote about the story of creation, the foundation of the earth, and the great reset (during the time of Noah). If anyone wants to enjoy the bible in its true essence, you need a good preacher that is also good in science, history, psychology, and multilateral in academic background, then you see how powerful that book is.

He get one video Jordan Peterson explain the story of Jonah, I come dey wonder whether na the same bible I dey read (it was truely eye opening for me)

I was lucky to have teachers who studied theology and were well versed in history and psychology. I never understood the impact they had in my life till years after secondary school and I started listening to Jordan Peterson.


One man stood out. his name is Reverend Okoro. He was truely an erudite; I always asked myself why these men taught in a secondary
school (he said God called him, he used to be an Engineer)


One of my regrets in life is that I did not spend enough time with him, some days I sit down wondering where he currently is ( he got transferred before I completed school)

Reverend Okoro could draw maps of cities and countries from his head. He explained reasons behind everything he taught. In his presence you dont speak anyhow, you had to think before you speak.

I remember when we wanted to throw a party in the guise of bonding with the new junior students .
In our official letter to the school principal we called it "Bonfire Night" and she welcomed the idea.
We also had to forward the idea to reverend Okoro because he was the school chaplain and he had to approve before we proceed.

As soon as he heard "Bonfire Night" my man began to disect the phrase and he told us the original meaning of the phrase.
It was about a French revolution
As our principal hear that one she say we wan turn cultist
omo naso dem supervise that party from beginning to end.


I miss secondary school, I had the best time of my life.

pansophist:
The bible. Try to understand am, it's the most philosophical book you will ever read. I quote biblical passages a lot.

Omo book of ecclesiastes he choke.

My favorite book of the bible, I've read it so many times.


Proverbs is also good, but the chapters are much and some of the advices are repeated multiple times.

If you have the time try and read proverbs chapter 3 from verse 1 to like 12 carefully.


Omo last last bible sweet o if you're philosophically inclined naturally.

Nasb7377:
NPA
NLNG
NIMASA
EFCC
NFIU
NUPRC
CBN
NDIC
NNPC

Someone should add some

NFIU

BOI

NIA

make I even ask you question ...NPA vs Nimasa which is better ?

naijainstinct:
Better than NLNG? Tell me more. New entrants that got into NPDC last year got over 11m as upfront and NPDC remuneration is not as great as NLNG.

I don't know where you people get your information from. I know PENCOM DG approved some lump sum payment to its staff that attracted the attention of the NASS but that is an exception and not a norm.
Please note that I am not disputing that these agencies have a good pay structure but they are not even in the top 5.

Better than NPA

naijainstinct:
Better than NLNG? Tell me more. New entrants that got into NPDC last year got over 11m as upfront and NPDC remuneration is not as great as NLNG.

I don't know where you people get your information from. I know PENCOM DG approved some lump sum payment to its staff that attracted the attention of the NASS but that is an exception and not a norm.
Please note that I am not disputing that these agencies have a good pay structure but they are not even in the top 5.

Name the Top 5

naijainstinct:
Even among the first class, it's ivy league. Second only to places like NLNG

NDIC

Pencom

PTDF

are better

Mahmoud2020:
I was given planning officer please what's their work?

Congrats

Mahmoud2020:
Experts in the house answer this question please Am Mahmoud and Waec wrote Mahmud do you think there is any issue?

There is an issue.... they will tell you they are not the same thing

But if you have other valid documents with mahmud on them and probably an affidavit for reconciliation or correction names might help you.

Xboy1993:
For now, NPA hasn't issue APL. This is authoritative statement from above. Ignore who said otherwise just to get information.

Boss you sure abt the APL ?

I just wanted to know more about the place, I personally have no idea about govt agencies any information you have abt the place will be helpful.

Xboy1993:
I am learning about new agencies n parastatals everyday in this thread, wetin be NEPZA?

Omo dem get money o...it means exporting zone something

For this side wey I dey I dey see their staff doings

Xboy1993:
Why are u quoting a comment made almost a year, March 2022.

Boss if have any useful information I'll be grateful...thankyou

Mahmoud2020:
Please I need your advice house my primary school carries only 2 names while my other credentials carries 3 names. Please would that cause issue because am going for documentation.

Get an affidavit for reconciliation of names.(easy to get)

Which states that so so person with the 2 names is the same person with the 3 names.

Hussen24:
Nigerian Port Authority (NPA) is sharing APL... �. A minister secure 3APLs for his relatives

Boss is NPA good ?

What's their pay like ?

How difficult can it be for one to get a job there

I have an MSC in forensics

richmondefosa:
Walahi, you're an in-house person

You were absolutely spot on.

Abeg let's connect.

What's your unit?

My boss.

I appreciate you for all you do......na you sopose be face of stanbic because you dey pull talents for them.

I know a bunch of guys that got in through your post here....you be legend boss

We don already connect for somewhere.



My advice to anybody that wants to get into stanbic, forget the the graduate trainee route except you be guru.

Check the websites for roles that require 0-2 yrs experience (you will always see them)

Currently stanbic are recruiting for the graduate trainee and those roles too.
but may folks are focused on the graduate trainee

BeatriceM1:
Client Service Officer at Stanbic IBTC pension managers

Depends on your experience

They might offer you either BTA 1 (203k) BTA 2( 254k)

Mind you stanbic pension (SIPML) is way better than the bank (SIBL)


CSO role isnt easy, get ready to work. You go log applications tire.

All the best

If you're a Steve Wozniak.....DM me

pocohantas:
Shame!

Shey the first wife is dead now and life has gone on in less than 3 months? She said she couldn’t leave because she sacrificed a lot for him to be rich. Why can’t she sacrifice for herself to be rich? Was it worth her life?

Her family would be in severe pains now.

I hope this is false, it better be.

unfortunately she believed in the concept of companionship and he did not.

cant blame her, shit happens.
at least she's resting.

pansophist:
Sweet. Let me add to this.

A sense of belonging, closer to family and friends, no psychological burden of being racially conscious (eg not doubting if you couldn't get a job/house/partner because of your race).

social know-how (you know someone that knows someone that can help you get something done), your type is the default (eg the president, governor/soldier looks and talk like you).

No romantic visibility (immigrants are typically romantically invincible), not being too self-aware (also known as "double consciousness" by the legend psychologist Web du Bois), no racism.

Home may be bad, but it's not hell. Moving abroad is just transition from one difficulties to another, so pick your poison and carry with grace the one you can bear.

He be like say I no go leave trenches o

pansophist:
If you can watch the Mexican cartel documentary to finish and not be shocked at the extent of human depravity, then you are one badass modaforker. Those Mexicans ain't humans, don't put them in the same rank as cultists. Cultists are virgin mary compare to them.

Not gonna lie....those guys are on another level.

children are not left out in their depravity.

pansophist:
Australia is the same. The interior is worse than Chad or Mali, so dry and filled with desert. The area is not suitable to sustain the human population. For example, at least 80% of Australians live around the coastal region of Sydney and Melbourne. If inland Australia was habitable, it would have been developed long ago.

Below is a pictorial depiction of Australia's climatic zones, to have an idea of what it looks like. Even the US does not match Australia in its vastness and depth. Do you see why I said brazil is lucky??

omo he be like heat fit kill person for some of these places o.

I always wondered why they have undeveloped lands.

thank you boss

pansophist:
This is the one time when you have to ignore your mother and do what is right for you. Humans by nature project their wiring on others. So for men, he will push you to go out there and work while teaching you how to observe safety precautions but women will try to make you safer and more secure since it's what they want.

So for example, if there is a snake in the garden, your father will give you a cutlass and teach you how to cut its head off, obliterating the threat, but your mother will lock you inside, to prevent you from facing the threat. Both methods are good, but one is greater and makes you strong. The mother's method is good when a child is young, but as an adult, your father's method is better.

In any case, one person will not be happy. If you listen to your mother, you will be sad. If you go out there, she will be sad. So why not go out there and save yourself? Go out there, young man. If you make your mother happy, you may retain your body, but you will lose your soul.

Most importantly, you can't make other people happy. You can make them excited, not happy, Happiness is an inside job. You do not burden someone with the obligation to make you happy, and you must not accept it if your mother is doing it to you. Having the right to be happy is like having the right not to be offended, where do you draw the line of what constitutes offense then? Where do we also draw the line of happiness for her?

You are a man, your biological needs are different from women. Women need security, safety, and provision, and even better for them, it is someone else that will provide it in form of a husband. As a man, it is not the same for you. You must go out there and get bruised, forge your way out of the difficulties and bring home to bacon. You don't do this by sitting at home every day with your mum, to make her happy. YOU WILL LOSE YOUR SOUL.

Also, you should know that you are paying a dangerous price staying at home. You are wasting time, a fleeting wealth you have. You won't be stronger, healthier, and free in your 20's, don't bankrupt it. When men always mock women in their 30s who are unmarried, little did they look at themselves in the mirror to see that they are not better either.

Men peak in their 30's, but not most men, just a few. Most men will be invisible from birth to death, and it's because most waste their youths. The clock is ticking, and as you are wasting time contemplating if you should go out there and be a man or make your mother happy, the clock is ticking, and it will have a taste for you, and it will consume you.

Assuming you are 25, in ten years' time if you stay with your mother, you will be older, and your mother will be older too, she may become sick and want drugs but you can't help since you have allowed yourself to be tamed, and all you will hate each other. SHe will see you as a weak goat, and you blame her for your circumstances.

You won't even have the balls to ask women out because your insecurities and weakness will smell from miles away. A lot of you young people think society treats you sweetly as you are in your 20', it is wrong. I am in my early 30's, the difference is like day and night. Five years ago, questions I get are, ''what are you studying? '' or 'what do you want to be? Now it, ''what are you doing''? Where do you work"?

Every parent wants their child to bury them, it would be a tragedy if you allowed your mother to handicap your ability to be able to bury her gracefully because she shielded you from life. Don't allow yourself to be tamed, you owe it to yourself to be free and strong, and to be a man. Be one.

The divine blessing associated with the masculine is the ability to rescue himself and the feminine. Women do not rescue men, but men rescue women. This is the relationship between strength and weakness. If you destroy your life by allowing yourself to be tamed, redemption will never come from anywhere. A woman can be a prostitute and have a series of abortions and uneducated, but if she marries a good man, she is resurrected from her past and a sweet future awaits her.

A man that damages his life is disposable, it's final. I have to make this really dark for you, so you man up and find your strength, because you may think all is fine because the dragon hasn't come looking for you. It will come, at least a decade from now, and that day is not a good day. I always get emails from people everywhere who read what I write here, and many of these men are those who wasted their life and looking for redemption.

Life is not kind to men that messed up, I wonder why lots of fathers are not guiding their sons to the truth because the life of a man is by default, difficult. Very difficult. Let me stop here. I believe I have advised you enough.

cc. Dobnina , CaveAdullam

abeg boss this question no dy related to the topic but all these business guys wey dey go China, wetin dem dey go do ?

is it importation business?
why type goods are they importing.

I'm sure there are other things besides importation, if you know more about this I'll be happy to hear from you.