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OP abeg drop him picture make we see something.

Opeyemiextra:
The way breakfast was served this year is something else. This is the kind of whatsapp message I got and I thought it was a joke but he had thought it through and had other plans. And I was still doing Lover girl not knowing my breakfast has been served and well garnished.

Sis, pick the lessons, improve and move. We will be alright las las.

I commend them for even sending WhatsApp message.

I served her my own breakfast in my mind and moved on.........

relationships are nice but the price to be in one is not worth it from my perspective.


how wouldn't you be alright las las
when most of you already have a backup somewhere just in case ?

Favfables1:
You said it yourself...
"You didn't reciprocate his love" so maybe he felt he was wasting his time...
He "put up" with you for that long because maybe he thought that at one point you'd change or something...
Or maybe he found someone better...
I don't know o...
All this one's na assumptions...

I can't speak for him or for all the guys out there, buh I can only speak for myself...
I cannot be with a girl who cant match my energy or reciprocate my love...
I'm not saying she should do everything I do for her tit for tat o... buh she should put effort by going out of her way to SHOW me she cares...

It's one thing to love a person and it's another thing to make the person KNOW that you love him/her... You can say you love me, then do things that makes me sad... Yes your love for me could be genuine, buh the fact that the actions you take proves otherwise will make me think otherwise...

Well...
Lemme advice...
Don't beg him...
If you do you'll look cheap and even if you get back together, he'll only be doing so outta pity...
He made a decision, however painful it may be to you, you just have to move on...
You can try to make him tell you the reason for his decision, atleast just so you find closure ....
Stay away from relationships for the now until you heal well...
Read books on love, relationships and marriages, it'll help you see other people's experiences, learn from them, become better...

lol.....what kind of rookie advice is this ?
na today you start relationship ?

lol

pansophist:
I always confused IFNJ with ENTJ, but yes you're right. I'm an EFNJ. Having said that, you're good. I mean, how you could decipher the personality of someone you haven't met, just only by their write up is nothing but ingenuity.

Odogwu. My hand is up sir.

ayé.......pansophist hype me, I don make am.

naturally I just like understanding people, it has become part of me.

I can smell an INDABOSKI from 2 miles away.

thank you for the compliment.

pansophist:
For me, redpill is broad, it encompasses the whole human experiences, but it seems like on nairaland, it has been restricted only to discourse about women. Redpill is about how the world works, not how you think it works. It's about "the truth", not "your truth". Even the movie matrix where the redpill was gotten from, was not about women, but about life.

Some people are naturally redpill, especially the INFJ personality type (which I am). To such folks, they see the world as it is, they are naturally curious, ask lots of questions, and not fooled by the dictates of the crowd. It is people like this that can explain the redpill to other people that it doesn't comes naturally to.

When I first heard and read about redpill topics, all I was thinking was how is this a thing? Shouldn't it be common sense? I mean, if you're honest to yourself and how you relate with the world, the world will reveal its code of operation to you. Humans are experts in being soft on themselves, basically deceiving themselves, why being hard on others, and such self-deceit will only make the world so complicated that you won't understand it.

So yes, the price one pay to understand the world and see it at it is, is to understand yourself and not lie to oneself. Its connected. As humans, you're not living in the world, the world is living through you. And your mind is more powerful than every computer system ever made, so you're capable of seeing the world as it is, if you allow yourself to.

I've followed you over time, you write well.
I doubt you're an INFJ.
you're a thinker, rationalist and philosopher to the core.
your redpill na follow come, book just enhance am


although say person no sopose follow person dy argue about the number rooms wey dy him house.

I suspect you're an ENTJ or INTJ.

na wa sha........
why una dy always rush to leave una father house ?
nothing sweet pass free rent......
small time if dem ask u why you wan move out....you go say privacy ......privacy kee you there.
las las I know say na freedom to fornicate and catch cruise na him you dy find.

you no go stay for your father house save money ?
are your parents complaining ??

abeg make I move to another interesting post .....nonsense.

as a rule of thumb........if you get any anti relationship vibes from any girl you like or youre having feelings for just forget about her.

most likely she probably thinks she's better than you or she thinks she can do better than you.

I have been in a similar situation before.....her dream has always been to settle down abroad preferably with a doctor.
I am not a doctor, neither am I japaring anytime soon.
your girl is probably idealistic.
the day she meets a guy that meets her low-key requirements.....she go give am relationship vibe.

any girl that likes you will naturally give you relationship vibe.
baba don't stress yourself and think plenty ....just move on.

Bola146:
Must everything be money? What if he pretends? Besides he has a bright future, hardworking with good sense. I'll definitely.

aunty calm down....
since I was born I have never seen any Nigeria girl consider a guys future.

Jochabed:
His doing God's work. End Of Story!

lol .

Nigeria most religious country.
still same Nigeria among one one of the most dangerous countries to live in.

make we no dy deceive ourselves.
I no wan talk plenty before God go change am for me.
but for Nigeria pastor na enjoyment.

I can't even believe that a hard guy like me would contribute to this kind of topic.

I don sha end relationship on top this matter...in this life nothing will join me with a selfish/stingy woman.....never !!!

birthdays don't mean much to me......most times on those days I even have anxiety and panic attacks due to some of my unfulfilled dreams and the fact that time is slowly becoming my enemy.

early in the relationship I realised birthdays were important to her, I always made a conscious effort to get her something nice and thoughtful. even when I was broke I made sure her day could not just pass like that.

but when my day reach aunty would have selective amnesia. I don't need anything from her, I just needed her to show a little effort that we're in this together.

the last birthday was the final straw.
I don't want to go in details because aunty is a nairalander and our friends are here too....dem go just know say na me.

how can somebody not even remember it's your birthday at all at all,meanwhile you expect me to carry your matter for head.


mtcheew I'm even angry as I'm reminiscing how I foolishly wasted my time and energy.

iSleek:
Who sent you? I don write dragnet tests sotey as I try login, Google show me all my different login IDs. I no dey read for any test again oh

I submitted on time
but I no read 70% of the questions

richboy01:
No be only u stay all night

thank God say I sleep with my full chest.
I did not read nor practice shishi.

one of the best things I've ever read on nairaland

https://www.nairaland.com/396243/how-maintain-control-woman


probably most people here would have read it.
just in case you haven't.

nasiest:
Tell em what time is it

you dy always know watsup

omokudu:
Exactly, let government jobs not becloud your mind...

at the end of the day, a good goverment Job is the place to be.

you shall relas and be taken kiaroff with a handsome retirement benefit.

burg93:
Without a master degree, you can work in any of the big four.
All you need is a 2.1 or 1.1, 5 O'level credits in one sitting and be 26 and below for KPMG, E&Y and Deloitte.

PwC has no age restriction.

there are more people in the 2:2 demographics than the first class or 2:1 (probably combined)

I'm just trying to reach out to a wider audience.

the 2:2 guys shouldn't be left out too.

Anfieldboss:
Banks, Big4 firms, Financial services, FMCGs etc

if you don't have a masters degree , your best option would be banks, even if you have a 2:2

they are all about meritocracy.
as long as you can write exam and pass, you're good to go.

I'm sha happy at the way I've grown.

girls that I would have move heaven and earth for few years back, no dy trip me again.

when I see the kind of girls some guys are killing themselves to chase, I just lose respect for them.

I have become really picky with the women I let into my life.

if you allow anyhow girl into your life, she will just come and disorganise your life.

before I use to rush to enter relationship with them only for me to come and be asking myself how and why did I even enter this relationship in the first place ........I don learn my lesson.
these days, I avoid stories that touch.


if you look closely you'll discover that most girls don't deserve your time and resources ......most of them na werey in disguise.
thank God I now know how to smell the useless ones from 2 miles away.


most women see men as a tool to compete against her fellow women.
na their way......they Like to compete and oppress each other.
she will just see you as an instrument to upgrade her social status in the eyes of her fellow women.

in this 21 century men have not changed, we are still the same. most of us just want a good beautiful woman that will support us and give us peace of mind.

women have really changed and it's beacause of their need to compete against their fellow women.
those that cannot get a man have turned to feminist...lol
while the one's getting men have used social media to sell to the highest bidder, oppress their fellow women and develop narcissistic and entitlement personalities.

have you ever wondered why they spend hundreds of thousand on human hair when majority of men cannot tell the difference between cheap 4k hair and an expensive 500k one ??

these days I avoid girls that

-try so hard to impress people

- like to show herself on social media especially Instagram

- show traits of stingyness and selfishness (she hardly willingly do or get anything for you but like to receive)

I remember when one useless girl told me her love language is receiving gifts, I just quietly withdraw my application

- not really family orientated

-like to compete with men ( I cannot be inside relationship with another man ....period)

- the one's that like to pretend to be a good person because people are around watching her (you have to have foresight and wisdom because this type of girls are very dangerous)

- want to start billing me because you think I'm liking you.

- the one's that low key think they are better than you or they think they can do better than you

guys make una look well before you leap

most movies nowadays are trash they are not even blue pilled.
they just promote narcissism, negativity, selfishness and unnecessary entitlement in people.

if you're looking for redpill contents just go and look for documentaries about the rise and fall of famous people, celebrities and athletes......you'll learn alot.

it's not difficult to find just check on YouTube.


just look the story of Prince Harry, he has not fallen yet but his fall is inevitable.

how can you forsake your family and royal duties for a woman that divorced her first director husband that made her a celebrity by sending back her wedding ring via mail

only her mother was at her wedding.

she abandoned her father, sister and best friend that were there for her when she was younger.

any girl that tells you to leave your family is a mini devil


just look at Michael B Jordan ( I feel like crying for this guy) currently one of top actors in Hollywood.

after struggling to be the best he went to follow a girl that dated Future, trey songs, p diddy, 50 cent and akons brother. and she's only 24 but she's has dated all these men....lol



look at quavo of migos his babe used his fame and money to upgrade herself now she's an A list artist she don leave am.
her previous boyfriend before him was also an artist, that guy really struggled for her to be in the music industry.....quavo slide her dm naso she take leave am to upgrade herself.

the worst are athletes their wives really show them shege.
some of them are poor now while some of them fathered children that weren't theirs.

virginboy1:
I am tired of watching all this bluepills movies.

Who can recommend highly red pilled Movies.

Or is there an agenda in the movie industry against hardcore redpill films?

they are not exactly red pill movies but you'll surely learn some worldly wisdom from them and a few of the movies here are old an can be downloaded via torrent.

but so far these are some of the best movies I've watched


peaky blinder (series) maddd

Viking (series)

king of boys

ballers (series) enough red pill

the God father 1&2

this is where i leave you (an element of redpill)

Dolemite

wolf of wall street

scarface

catch me if you can

the professor

better call Saul (series) ---it may not look like an interesting movie but you'll learn alot.

papillion (very lovely movie and has a bit of redpill)

Ben Hur

house of cards (series) maddd


power (series) I never watched it but most of guys love it.

tolaade1960:
Haven't I said that it was a mirage? Many are just giving self-arousing messages. Develop industry-need skills to be gainfully employed.

industry needed skills in the oil and gas industry are very expensive.

Henryfly:
Na so the leaders be na, so the people just dey copy, you know this matter

sharp guy

nonireel:
yes, that's what has been said; and repeatedly so.

if you must discuss anything else besides NCDMB RECRUITMENT, open a different thread for it.

this shouldn't be too difficult for a graduate like you to comprehend.

oga no vex

some of us did not pass through the school,
the school passed through us

ABANGWABOI:
Yes but not the Op.. He is Faking it ..

what's your proof ?

ABANGWABOI:
Fake post... Who dash you 600k to spend on a woman?? Uncle Lai Mohammed..

people get money for this Nigeria.
I know people that have spent more than that on women.

na their way.

most of them want everything for nothing.

if you will sit down and analyze, you will discover that you have not gained shi-shi from this gal but everyday naso so billing from her.

I have been in your situation before although I no spend reach 600k , me sef the thing tire me i just move.


if you truely get 600k to spend on top woman trust me women go dy give you enough green light because their talent is to smell money.....no stress yourself top that girl.
you are the prize not her.


the only sad part is that she has used you to upgrade herself for her next potential maga.


hope you don learn your lesson and begin to learn how to spot selfish women from afar to avoid stress.

philipianlobbos:
You're mocking me. Why accusing me of given false hope to people?
You shall continue to receive or experience false hope from everyone you meet until you apologize for this comment .

you never baff




na mumu dy put hope on human being.


as you dy form babalawo me sef be babalawo.

you will continue to experience disappointment in life unless you apologise




where did I accuse you wrongly ?

did you run connection yes or no ?

is the NCMDB recruitment not hijacked, yes or no ?

philipianlobbos:
God never forsake his children, you'll get into the NCDMB Towers with your NCDMB Identity Card, well placed by the left side of your chest by his grace.

you get mind o.

you dy run connection up and down meanwhile you they give person false hope. you even get mind to put God inside (smh)

cola1:
I didn't scale through the second test so I stopped coming here, today I thought of checking hoping that those who did might have resumed work only to find out you guys haven't even done interview.
See guys when you get there make changes abopt international best practices don't be a mediocre.

Wish you guys the best.
God bless Nigeria

if I join na to continue mediocrity and kwarraption, I cannot come and kill myself for this Nigeria.


some guy just died this morning, he allegedly refused collecting bribe thinking all is well. (una wey dy follow politics go know the story)


my prayer is for NCMDB to come through so that I can relas and be taken kiaroff.