₦airaland Forum

Kobojunkie:
You said that there was no way for your parents to have noticed because you weren't a gal and I wonder if you meant that that experience did not cause a change big enough for your parents to have noticed.
That's typically how parents notice these things... by monitoring change in behavior.

Most times when female toddlers get molested, it's the mother who first notices, maybe while bathing the child.
mothers do examine their female kids to see if there's any mark of molestation the way they will be the first to notice if their daughter is pregnant sometimes even before the woman notices it and with interrogation the child will say what happened to her.
In a boy's case only few mothers will look out for any sign of molestation to her boy.
Also male children tend not to be too dramatic about situations like that, so far as they don't feel physical pain they tend not make it a big deal.
It becomes a big deal when the child doesn't like such play and you force the child by instilling fear in that child.

Kobojunkie:
Are you saying your behavior did not change at all as a result of the abuse?

Why won't a child's behaviour change

Kobojunkie:
Wow! You are searching for her!

I can understand your reason though.

I never knew how to explain what was happening to me to my parents, if I were a girl my parents would have noticed. The day I catches her, her life will never remain thesame, I will make fear her best friend.

Cnach:
Let's be truthful to our selves, can a man be sexually abused? Unless when u are tired and u are still forced to continue doing if not i have reasoned the meaning of sexually abusing man and I'm failing. That's by the way.
To ur yelling, as for me u don't really love ur wife any more. it could be her fault, it could be ur fault but that love it not there again. I think u should work on that.
How can I tell a wife I kiss everyday to stop kissing her son but allow her to be breast feeding her? Guy reason am nah. Breast feeding and kissing which should be more sexually related? U are not wrong trying to protect ur child, but senior I think u are going the wrong way, count this one out. Ose

Oga don't say what you don't know, when I was 7, I was abused by a certain girl in our compound. I couldn't tell anyone about it. I was so scared of this girl. She always appears when am alone, I begged her but she refused listen to my pleas. I hav been searching for her and I know one day I will get her and pay her in her own coins, if she like make she done marry with kids, I must make her feel the way I felt.

bobontop:
My wife is fond of kissing my 6months boy in the mouth. I personally don't like this and I have told her to stop it but she refused.

This issue in causing a serious argument in my home and I want to take a serious action since she has refused to stop it.

Please I need advice from experienced parents.

I was abused sexual as a child by a cousin staying with us and there are cases of incest around me. I don't want any of this to happen to my son.

The teenage girl staying with us always sees my wife kissing my son in the mouth and I am afraid she my copy it and start doing it.

Please am I wrong? Am I over reacting? Is it a normal practice? Please advise me.

How are you sure the baby is even yours?

The O.P that used that picture no get joy.

Do you guys expect otherwise?

If it were southern Governors or leaders, they will be the ones to rat out their own just to please the north.

Una go sue tire, am waiting for the day EFCC, Police, DSS or Army will pay all these money.

Criminals are getting braver, before they were scared of military personnel but this days, they know the military pays more than civilians because of one toothless bark and don't bite bull dog in Aso rock. But these criminals should up their game, they should go for politicians, they are the money bags.

Mynd44:
What is the problem?

You have never seen an hypocrite before?

Abegi

The difference of Wike na Buhari is Wike is working while Buhari is sleeping

Comedian2019:
If the people are unanimous in their decision to vote for opposition, the governor can only rig, he can't win.

You are spot on... 2 cannot rig 5 if the 5 do not want to be rigged. You can only rig when the masses are in your favour or the masses do not want their votes to count. Most places they rig ther just inflate the result. If the election was free and fair the winner will win 7 out of 10 times

Yes, you are young,rich and very talented. But babe no go let somebody deceive you that you're beautiful. So if them say make beautiful girls raise hand, you go follow raise.

See your quota system write up, with so much errors due to quota system education.
You think we are still in the stone age with this your quota system mentality.
Aren't you tired of suffering?
Your region enjoys more when the south rules but yet you quota system brain will rather want to suffer than be ruled by a better leader. All these open grazing laws was done during a northern rule, south owns this country they are the sleeping giants and they are about to wake up.

Suffer really dey this Benue and Ortom dey take style dey tell the world, Ortom dey take style dey tell the world say even my aides sef na palm oil rice dem dey eat.

Now I can confirm Mompha is gay.
If you are accused of being gay and you are not, you will always resist the urge to Shalaye.
But on a second look at Mompha l, the guy looks weird. I guess He made His money through using His ass as a drilling hole for those BDC Alhajis.
Should I be disappointed?
Na him yansh....
Can anything good come from the North? The answer is Yes but the only good thing that came out of the North is already dead ( U.M. Yar'adua )

illicit:
Come off it bro

Is it better to save him or accept him

Save him from what?

pickatyoubackup:
I no dey justify the act of the debtor. He deserves what he got if he truly has and doesn't want to pay. I am only saying from a you have been caught point of view. This issue is deeper than we can think. The debtor can claim he was kidnapped and held hostage. Hope u get the point now.

Bro there is this guy that is owing me for more than 6 years now. He was even bragging to a friend that it has become bad debt. When the friend told me I was angry and took some of my guys to tumble him. He agreed to pay the money when He saw how angry I was. 2 days later He called SARS on me and they gave me cultism charge, it was my Dad and Uncle who helped me get out without spending a dime. Bro I got so furious that I wanted to make the guy mad or kill him, this time my Dad came to His rescue warning me not to try it and He will pay the debt which I refuse. Till today am still mad at the man, imagine help pay His wife's hospital Bill's and some other things when she put to bed and the money used was from my business which affected me badly.

pickatyoubackup:
Na so dz guy go lose him 4.6 millions. Cos this guy now fit sue am demand 1billion naira compensation.

You won't know what the creditor is going through until you are in his shoes.
The plans I get for my debtors na death or madness. Debtors like this are very heartless na them dey owe you but na drm dey flex pass

Mangekyo:
Perhaps your father is a corrupt man. Yes?

Who told you his father is an average man like your father?

Even Elon musk self no gree marry, then una want me to Marry...una dey vex for Davido, wizkid and Timaya say them no gree marry. But una no ask Psquare how their relationships were before marriage came along?
Tu face was doing His thing peaceful until He added marriage..

Evolutionlove:
Hushup your linen mouth there. Men are the most evil and greediest being on earth, even though I am Indifferent about women as well. Men are the primary orchestrators of all the great evils and goodies happening In the world....

u

Do you know women are the vilest creatures?
Do you know that 90 % crimes men commit are because of women if you take a deep look at those crimes.

Brandonx:
I don’t know why Nigerians are kicking against taking the vaccine. People have taken it since March, 1st and 2nd doses and waiting for a 3rd sef (tho the government is still contemplating it) and Nigerians are running from the vaccine like a plague.

Bible self talks am say, only few people wey no go collect the mark of the beast.. I know say you don collect, you were warned but you no gree listen

KnownUnknown:
Does the owner of this site pay you for this outstanding level of dedication?
Why don’t you just post both the story and the ensuing gibberish under the same moniker?!!!
Holinessforever posts the story, then Righteousness2 goes nuts in italics. Madness!
Your duplicitous nature isn’t surprising considering you’re a Christian. Maybe it’s a mental illness.

Oga the guy is saying what He believes.
What do you believe in?
Do you think going to heaven is easy.. I love the way He ignores your likes because it is written in the Joly scriptures that we should be aware of your type.

dominique:
Your mother and sisters are "every other woman" to your fellow men. I hope they take to your advice

E pain you say I talk my mind?

ogatittus:
SOME women are wicked...not all
Also, do you mean to say your mother and sisters were fvcked and left for other people? Sometimes...think before you talk
What the woman did was wrong on all grounds but don’t use that as a means to categorize ALL women

Lol.. na you talk am

Almunjid:
Just imagine 20-30 years ago, a young man posted this comment on nairaland and ur father read and agreed with him that women are only to be fu*ked and left for another one. He then slept with ur mother and moved to the next woman, she then later got pregnant and gave birth to u. Ur father never showed up, he's busy sampling other women's...
How would u feel being a son to such a man?
If the man that talked ur father into that kind of lifestyle is brought before u, what would u do or say to him?
One day you'll be a father; if you're not a father already, and ur child will be ashamed of u.
Think before u comment, don't comment before u think.


Peace

Shey as you be Muslim nobody force you to be Christian. Na my opinion no be your own

You kill innocent protesters, Youths with bright future, fighting for the betterment of the country and also payed thugs to hijack the protests. Yet you go to outside this country to pay people to protest, people who are not even Nigerians, same way you invited Fulani marauders to kill and maim indigenous Nigerians.
And one Vulture griller will be happy about this. Monogamy and Helinues will defend impunity and terrorism.
If you no receive your punishment now your children will receive it for you.. Na curse no be statement.

There's this lodge I normally visit after a day's work.
I Normally go there to chill, blow my weed and maybe take some bottles before going to bed, the place is just a stone throw from my house and the manager of the lodge also takes MJ too so we became friends. Last night while going to the lodge, saw a girl walk past me when I stopped to get lighter from a kiosk, I wanted to follow her up but the aboki man was just delaying me, as a bad man I stood and watch where the girl would stop, lo and behold it was my destination (the lodge).
Before I could say Jack Robinson a young man ran past me and hid behind an electric pole peeping at the girl, then I realized that He is her bobo.
I approached the man and offered a handshake immediately the man shakes my hands I could feel the vibration from his hand all over his body. I asked if the girl that walked into the lodge was his girl and He said yes, I told him to wait outside let me go in to confirm her position and see if she was in the lodge to see another man,this was because she might deny and I can see that He was a simp. This lodge has 3 bars, the one I normally take my weed was the last and it's in a coded location so I knew a cheating partner will always choose that bar.
I walked straight to the coded bar and ordered for a drink as I was about getting served I just pretended like I received a text message, I paid for the drink and told the bar man that am coming back.
I went out and met this young man and told Him the location where she was sitting with an instruction for him to walk in, make sure she sees him and then walk out without saying anything to her or the man she was with..
I went back home without even doing what I was going to the lodge to do, unfortunately I became restless.
I started thinking " what if this man was not able to control himself and create a scene" it would be bad because I may have brought trouble to my friend who is the manager of the lodge.
I stood up and walked backed to the lodge. Sitting with the Manager was the young man, with about six empty bottles of beer on the table. Immediately the manager saw me He beckoned me to come. Immediately I took my sit the man pinched me (sign that He doesn't want me to expose why He was there, He was getting information). As I sat I asked the manager what was the issue, the manager said I should Help him advice the man sitting with Him to leave his girlfriend. In the manager's voice " Oga if you no leave that girl you be mumu, that guy don fu*ck that your girl tire, I been even feel say na that man dey date the girl until you come tell me say na your fiancee".
That was when I asked the young man to explain what really happened.
He said: He is a man that works offshore and He stays 3months at sea and 2 to 3months on land. He told us that He has done the first phase of marriage and in 2months time i.e his next time off, She would legally be His wife. He said they live separately but she Has the keys to his house and has dated this girl for close to six years, He does virtually everything for her and also assists Her family. The manager asked Him how He got to know she was coming to meet a man, He said He heard her making a call on the road and He asked Her where she was going to, she couldn't give him good explanation so He seized her phone but unknown to him, she went home and collected her second phone to call the other man that she was coming but unfortunately for her He was at the street to see a friend when she walked past him without noticing his presence that was why he traced her to the lodge. I now asked what was her reaction when she saw him. He said she was shocked .
I asked if she followed him He said he saw her coming out but she did not see where her entered so she went back to the man.
The manager told us the man was even married with kids.
I now asked this man if He no dey bang her well, the man replied that He is fit and can go 3 hrs . the manager laughed and told the man the bitter truth "that your girl no love or even respect you, you see that key you give her na that your house she dey carry men go bang when you go offshore and she may be doing it same week you travel because she knows you wont leave your job so soon to catch her". I told him to thank his stars that he caught her or else he would have been training another man's children.
I know all our advice will not be heeded to because all i could see was a devastated Simp. After she kneel down and beg with hot steamy sex, they will go back to status quo. I have been there before when I was wearing my garment of Simp until I became principled.

My question is " What do women really want?".

saphiere:
I've been a victim.
Exactly. Mine hid the camera. I was at his mercy for years. But God who knew my heart turned things around for me.
Long story my dear. He made me do some unthinkable things to prevent him leaking the video. I was really at his mercies.

I have a very long bitter story to tell my children.

You have finally revealed your hustle..
The future is indeed Femail.