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Romance › Re: What I Noticed About Gen Z by Kobojunkie: 4:51pm On Dec 01, 2025

dederocs:
They lack discipline, proper lashing is missing in most of them from home.

Basically, you are admitting to them not having been abused and brainwashed as much as you were. And somehow to you, that is a bad thing? undecided

Family › Re: Which Is Harder To Raise, A Boy Child Or A Girl Child? by Kobojunkie: 4:38pm On Dec 01, 2025

GloriousGbola:
✓ i have given my folks far more stress through my life then my sister did
and in the same way my son has given me far more stress than his sister

Abi! The stress each child gives the parent is basically tied to the child's personality -- and the parent's own temperament as well--- and not the gender. 🥱🥱

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Family › Re: Which Is Harder To Raise, A Boy Child Or A Girl Child? by Kobojunkie: 4:35pm On Dec 01, 2025*

brain54:
✓ Nobody said boy children aren't at risk... That's why I said generally speaking.
✓ Besides the question says which is more difficult meaning both are but more qualifies the level.
✓ According to statistics 1 in 4 girl child experience abuse while 1 in 13 boy child experience abuse.
✓ Apart from abuse and issues related girl children require more attention in their developmental stage because they are more delicate and fragile for want of a better word.
Girl children definitely require more attention. They are basically more things to even teach them to understand their bodies. All of these require more attention!

There is nothing general about the statement, given that both genders are considered to be at risk. The same way you shield a girl child from harm, you should also shield your boy child the same. 🥱🥱🥱

2. The question isn't the problem here. Your response, which assumes girls are more difficult and should, hence, receive more protection than boys, is the issue here. undecided

3. Was that study done in Nigeria, where society and family seem extremely hyper-focused on the chastity of the girl child as though a measure of their abilities as parents, or saner climes where at least more boys are protected the same as girls are? undecided

I recall listening to some of my friends back in Ikorodu, around age 8- 12 —boys growing up who revealed they were either touched or molested while we were in primary school. Of course, we all laughed it off, claiming it meant they were now men, but looking back, those were boys who were molested, sometimes by family or even maids. But we, not being wiser, did not realize the magnitude of what we heard. undecided

4. Issues such as? Name a few such issues that require your particular attention for the girl child rather than the boy child? undecided

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Family › Re: Which Is Harder To Raise, A Boy Child Or A Girl Child? by Kobojunkie: 4:11pm On Dec 01, 2025*

brain54:
Generally speaking... girls might require more vigilance and protection in terms of higher risk of sexual abuse or exploitation, societal pressures and safety concerns, emotional vulnerability!

Boys are equally at high risk for sexual abuse, too. The reason for the fixation on girls alone in African cultures, in particular, has a lot more to do with not being educated on these things. 🥱🥱

Yes, many boys are sexually abused each year. But because society and parents have developed this hyper focus on keeping the girl child chaste, coupled with the delusion that boys can handle themselves, the abuse of boys is ignored undecided

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Family › Re: Which Is Harder To Raise, A Boy Child Or A Girl Child? by Kobojunkie: 3:52pm On Dec 01, 2025*

Sonnobax15:

A girl child.. A girl child is just like fart, that's waiting to explode . It'd only be a matter of time before she'd go out and explode...
My younger brother and I, before we left our father's out,we never for once got ourselves into any problem...But our neices who lived with us,omoh,na everyday wahala. >:(

Um ... Please go research MBTI on Google! 🥱🥱🥱

Differences in personalities have nothing to do with gender. undecided

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Family › Re: RE: Someone Earning 100k Naira, Should Not Consider Marriage by Kobojunkie: 3:43pm On Dec 01, 2025*

uuzba:
✓ So back to the main point, N100k man should never think of marriage. Just forget it. Because there is no way he will not punish the woman with his lack of funds No way.

Most women in poverty cannot reason for themselves because poverty has the power to drain people's mental capacity to reason about their realities. And most men know this, which is why submission is easily invoked on poor women by poverty men. undecided

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Family › Re: Which Is Harder To Raise, A Boy Child Or A Girl Child? by Kobojunkie: 3:40pm On Dec 01, 2025*

brain54:
✓ I don't think op is talking about health wise...

Health-wise? You mean the healthy development of the child—mentally and physically—is not a health-wise concern? 🥱🥱

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Family › Re: Which Is Harder To Raise, A Boy Child Or A Girl Child? by Kobojunkie: 3:37pm On Dec 01, 2025*

brain54:
A girl child is more difficult to train...

That is only for parents looking to brainwash their child using lies and abuse masked as discipline. Otherwise, if you are looking to raise your kids healthy, the same would apply. 🥱🥱

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Family › Re: Which Is Harder To Raise, A Boy Child Or A Girl Child? by Kobojunkie: 3:35pm On Dec 01, 2025

Chilipepper:
Which is harder to raise, a boy child or a girl child?

None..they both require the same amounts of emotional and social intelligence to raise overall. undecided

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Romance › Re: I'm In My 40s, Single, And Jobless. Tired Of Life by Kobojunkie: 3:09pm On Dec 01, 2025

Kaczynski:
✓ All i see is steroids

Steroids isn't the only way to get this level of muscle tone. A strict diet and dedication can create the same in most out there. 🥱

Romance › Re: I'm In My 40s, Single, And Jobless. Tired Of Life by Kobojunkie: 6:39am On Dec 01, 2025

Okoroemekah:
➜i don't believe you.there is no enjoyment in old age.a man suppose to be flexing from his early 20s when you are still very strong and active. i am 50 now and believe me most check engine lights on my body is on.is it at that age you will start flexing ? If you have nothing at 40yrs you have missed a lot sincerely the best part of a man's life is from 20 to 40 that is when you marry.build house.buy car .raise children.but I guess every body is built differently.
➜ Some have zero drive and ambition. While some have the mental power to succeed

Your may not value your own life does not mean others can't do so. undecided

This is a picture of a 70-year-old man who decided to get his act and health together in his old age. If he can do it, why can't you? huh

2. Problems with drive, ambition, and mental power can be easily resolved in most situations by eating a balanced diet regularly and adding exercise to one's daily routine. Walking for up to an hour at least 4 times a week will do the trick and help you destress, too. You should try it as it works wonders to help resolve even some problems with mental illness/depression. undecided

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Family › Re: Someone Earning 100k Naira, Should Not Consider Marriage by Kobojunkie: 6:20am On Dec 01, 2025

SIRTee15:
➜So what other protein should bring in as substitute? Egg? A crate of egg is 6k. Titus is the commonest fish. U want to try catfish, stockfish or dry fish. Dey play Btw, it's a must u eat fruits and vegetables everyday as a portion. That's how u keep sickness away and stay healthy in old age. Balanced diet is now a luxury in that country- 50k can't get u balanced diet for a family of 3.
As I said earlier, it's up to u if u think the whole family should share one piece of meat as protein in a day. People did it and they survived.
But as far as I'm concerned, that's poverty. Nobody should live like that. Finally, Take this advice from me as a health practitioner - make sure u eat a whole portion of fruits and vegetables EVERYDAY. Also eat lots of fish Add exercise join- 4 times per week of cardio exercise
What u eat today determines your state of health and fitness in 10 years.

The sad of all of this is that a non-balanced diet is also one of the reasons why those stuck in poverty have a hard time leaving it. undecided

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Romance › Re: I'm In My 40s, Single, And Jobless. Tired Of Life by Kobojunkie: 6:15am On Dec 01, 2025*

Olawrites:
➜This is true, don't let any woman deceive you. You won't understand this until you're into the marriage as a man. Endless bills, nagging, etc Marriage favors women...all in marriage is endless bills and at the end the children will still prefer their mum to their dad.

Stop telling lies! Marriage does not favor women. We know this for a fact now. undecided

And the vast majority of men out there, married to women, did not have a gun put to their heads to force them into marriage. They not only wanted it but believed it was in their best interest to get married. Even the average poor man in Nigeria believes in his poverty that marriage will solve all of his problems if he can only get himself the cheapest woman out there who would submit to him in a love struggle. Turns out for most women, this is, in fact, a life sentence in misery and suffering, for their children as well. undecided

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Family › Re: RE: Someone Earning 100k Naira, Should Not Consider Marriage by Kobojunkie: 5:28am On Dec 01, 2025

Tailorcaesar:
Bro I no go force person daughter to follow me oooo If she sees my financial status and feels like to join me, who am I to stop her....But please note this I believe die hard hustler I no dey stay one place

. The system, which brainwashes women from childhood into believing their worth can only be defined by their proximity to a man, already ensures that people of your kind will find you a prey, no matter how depraved your intentions. It is sad indeed! undecided

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Christianity Etc › Re: God Hates Divorce But What Do You Do When One Party Walks Out Of A Marriage? by Kobojunkie: 5:24am On Dec 01, 2025

Ellioto076:
➜I don't think God or ~~Jesus~~ approved your desicion. You denied him sex...

Have you ever noticed how your Christian gods are always changing their minds up and down? grin

Family › Re: Someone Earning 100k Naira, Should Not Consider Marriage by Kobojunkie: 3:56am On Dec 01, 2025

Thomas1186:
➜PLS I NEED URGENT ADVISE AND SOLUTION! Each time our marriage breaks, my business gets stuck and all manners of evils happen to me at the same time.
We did a couple of business together before she suddenly became attractive to me one day when I saw her. I wooed her and we dated for just 2 months and got married the third month.
Few weeks into the marriage I discovered she had a traveling bag full of celestial materials like oils, crosses, perfumes, candles, to mention but a few. When I confronted her, her brother called and told me not to be angry that they are celestial members, whereas she told me she is a Roman Catholic. This was the beginning of discoveries.
Later on, I realised she lied to me about her parents, health condition, age and almost everything else. She is a lawyer. She hates everyone around her, doesn't forgive and she has no friend. When I'm sleeping, she search my phone, pockets and bags.
One night, she was watching a movie on her phone and she slept off, so as I picked it, I saw her chat with her male lawyer friend. I realised that everything we discuss at home, she chats it with the guy and also told the guy to prepare a prenuptial agreement for her, that would State that at the end of our marriage, everything we bought together would be hers. So, the lawyer asked her how she was going to get me to sign the agreement, and she said she was going to get me to sign it without knowing it. And a lot more. She began to accuse me of women, and infidelity.
Fast forward, there were so many problems that I had to send her away and immediately after that, everything was upside down for me: my business was stuck, I was duped of a huge amount of money. I had an accident and I couldn't walk. Everything was in jeopardy.
➜ We finally came back together and her character and attitude, disrespect for me, my family and friends etc, became times three. It got to a point that I was almost running mad. It became totally unbearable and I had to finally send her away. But before then, I calculated everything she has ever contributed financially to my life and I refunded her. Then I told her it can't work that I cannot continue. that she should leave.
➜ And that happened about 4 months ago. From the moment I gave her that money, everything becomes stuck. I either have a client who would agree to do business but after then, he or she would never call again or take my calls. But if he or she takes my call and is ready to pay, minutes before they make payment someone else would make the payment. I am into real estate. This has been the case for the past 4 months. The truth is that she doesn't eat catfish and sometimes make statements like can you come home I want to pray for you so that your business will work come and let me pray for you.
➜ Another problem is that her younger brother is like a god that sits for her. She reports everything that happened in our marriage to him. He was the commander and decision maker of everything. The one who sent her perfumes and oils once a little thing happens. I have prayed and prayed but still my business no longer works at all. It's just disappointment now. I have requested for my Downy and it's been refunded. Pls help.

1. So, you don't like this woman because you seem to see a lot of red flags. And you sent her away. OK!

2. Why did you take the woman whom you obviously consider a red flag back? Are you alright? Oh, ok. You sent her away again! Alright! 🥱🥱

3. You finally sent the woman away, and now you want to pin all your life issues on her? Are you OK? Seems that you are not ready to move on from pinning your private delusions on the woman. I suggest you begin working through to find and eliminate the issues you are experiencing where they really exist; stop fishing for more reasons to pin blame on the woman you are no longer married to(assuming you have formally divorced her at this point).🥱🥱

4. It seems to me that you are merely obsessed with blaming all your woes and misery on this family at this point. Get a clean divorce from this woman and her family and work on moving on with your life and your business already! 🥱🥱🥱

Family › Re: Someone Earning 100k Naira, Should Not Consider Marriage by Kobojunkie: 3:39am On Dec 01, 2025

Hhh4444:
➜Many people really need reorientation of the mind. How can someone still have this kind of mindset in this 2025 It's absurd.

No mind dem! No reorientation needed. People simply need to widely publicize the end of many Nigerians who depend on their children. Shey dem talk say na person wey no get child go get lonely end. Showing that even those who have so many children end up with the same lonely end is a better way to get those coming in the reorientation needed. This problem is cultural, and the only way to beat it is to turn the lie on its head with facts. That way, those who come after them will immediately begin to get their heads in the right place. undecided

Travel › Re: I'm Frustrated With My Life In America...please Don't Judge by Kobojunkie: 3:33am On Dec 01, 2025

Kaczynski:
Very wrong Almost 9 in 10 nigerians are going through some mental health crisis and we cope with it by drinking 3-4 bottles of alchol, constantly going to church and over feeding ourselves.

A recent comment on tiktok by A Nigerian therapists claims that indeed about 90% of Nigerians carry around with them unresolved trauma from at least their childhood.

Family › Re: Someone Earning 100k Naira, Should Not Consider Marriage by Kobojunkie: 3:17am On Dec 01, 2025

Hhh4444:
➜Nice one,some of them are hoping their children would rescue them from porverty. Very uselezz mindset to have.

Children we dey struggle to keep themselves alive go get time for old papa who failed to save up for his own old age? Abegi! Most of those children worry instead that those old men are living past their usefulness. 🥱🥱🥱

Romance › Re: What I Noticed About Gen Z by Kobojunkie: 12:45am On Dec 01, 2025*

KnowledgePower7:
➜Others are advancing and evolving. You are going backwards to the ways of your ancestors by walking nude.
➜ You should go back to fetching water from river to drink since your ancestors didn't have borehole water or GP tank.
➜ Also stop using phones as your ancestors didn't use phones to communicate.

Well, nudity is not now, or has it ever been, the problem of life and living in Nigeria? I pointed out the fact that nudity has existed from the time of your ancestors to get you to begin reasoning in the right direction. Our nudity back then was not considered a problem in society, and we still have no reason to consider it a problem today, since it is not considered a criminal offence. 🥱🥱

The high levels of crime, both at the grassroots and national levels, coupled with a culture of general disrespect for the law and the lives of the citizens, have always been the only problems. undecided

2. To this day, over 90% of the country still depend on fetching water from unhygienic water sources. So, what in the world are you on about? 🥱🥱

3. Yes, keep deflecting... that is typical! undecided

Romance › Re: What I Noticed About Gen Z by Kobojunkie: 12:31am On Dec 01, 2025

KnowledgePower7:
➜maybe that is what we are missing.
➜That is why nudity and depravity has multiplied Because kids no longer get disciplined like before. See te level of shameless people on TikTok and Onlyfans. If they had parents like old parents not these woke mumu new age parents that don't discipline their kids

Your ancestors walked around literally nude and depravity and lynchings. That was literally the culture for the longest --- before the white man showed up. So, let's get things straight,abeg! 🥱🥱🥱

2. Kids still get no real discipline, the same as those before them --- even your grandfathers, and fathers are all indisciplined and corrupt entities to date, so don't even pretend they are better in any way. However, the brainwashing culture of old, which hides its evils behind words like discipline, continues, but fortunately, kids now have the Internet to know what is real from all the bullsheet of old. 🥱🥱

Romance › Re: What I Noticed About Gen Z by Kobojunkie: 12:23am On Dec 01, 2025

budaatum:
➜ My African Nigerian parents respect me their child, so I have learnt as well as I can to respect others regardless of their age, gender, color, wealth, etc., unless they show they don't deserve it, then gloves off.
P.s. I have commented on Nairaland like 40k times, so you can read my post history and share or quote the ones where I have been disrespectful to see if I walk my talk, at least more than I don't, and where I haven't, if it is deserved.

I, formerly traumatized, have, over the years, sought help and healing from my childhood traumas, and no longer have parents (my parents have had to adjust themselves and learn to accord the family the respect deserved) who would speak to me in the same manner that your boss's parents talk to him. That equally means I will not stand for jackshit from any other so-called elders out there. undecided

Hope isn't lost on those who wish to do away with the brainwashing. They simply need to want to redeem themselves from all of their childhood trauma, cloaked in tradition. undecided

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Romance › Re: What I Noticed About Gen Z by Kobojunkie: 12:19am On Dec 01, 2025

ChizzyBuna:
➜You are clearly not a Nigerian. 98% of Nigerian parents demand absolute respect and obidence. When you disagree with them it is labeled as insult or disrespect.
I have seen my boss been commanded by his father and this man is grown with kids. I have heard his father call him a fool Infront of us all.. African parents don't give a sh** if you grown they still see you as a kid in their eyes

That's because the respect system thrives on the ability of parents to traumatize their children. All that so-called discipline that you gain in childhood in Nigerian homes is usually through the use of abuse. And all that trauma is what causes children to remain subdued even into adulthood by their parents and others in the community who may have inflicted similar abuse on them during their formative years. undecided

What you have in Nigeria is not respect or discipline but trauma-enforced cowering. undecided

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Family › Re: RE: Someone Earning 100k Naira, Should Not Consider Marriage by Kobojunkie: 12:10am On Dec 01, 2025

Cromagnon:
anyone who will let his lineage die out nko What are they ? You may choose to run and hide, ppl fight on

. That you think the world as it is needs yet another poverty-ridden lineage speaks volumes. undecided

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Romance › Re: I'm In My 40s, Single, And Jobless. Tired Of Life by Kobojunkie: 11:05pm On Nov 30, 2025*

lecowas:
✓ Lol... If you are trying to encourage someone, you can do better... Many married people that promote singleness will never even consider divorce... Never. So who is deceiving whom?

Spousal abandonment, particularly by the men who reason the load too heavy for them to bear, is what is more common, even by age 40. undecided

Also, no sane women will and should sit back and let a man slide after promising her a better life in marriage, particularly if she had to forgo building her own life and financial independence for it. undecided

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Romance › Re: I'm In My 40s, Single, And Jobless. Tired Of Life by Kobojunkie: 9:44pm On Nov 30, 2025

Mrkc:
I'm in my 40s, single, and jobless. Tired of life

There is nothing wrong with you being 40— we all grow up, not down. And being single is not a curse but a blessing— you fare better when you are alone and pushing for financial independence. So, your only problem seems to be that you don't have a job, and you are sort of depressed about it. Why not create a thread about needing a job, listing the location and your skills? undecided

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Family › Re: RE: Someone Earning 100k Naira, Should Not Consider Marriage by Kobojunkie: 9:41pm On Nov 30, 2025

mhmsadyq:
➜Ok. What is the point if the financial security cannot secure the longevity of a marriage that is suppose to be a life time union.
➜ Anyways, financial status can change at any point in a marriage.

1. Financial security does not and cannot even guarantee you or me a long life. So why would you think it should be able to guarantee you longevity in marriage? Na magic? undecided

2. Yes, even in life, it can change. But that knowledge and experience one gains while pushing for and living in financial independence remains with one. undecided

Do you know one of the major reasons why it is harder for those who were born and raised in poverty to rise above poverty? It is the general lack of access to information and know-how(connections and decision-making skills to handle risks included) necessary for fulfilling themselves. This is something children born into financially secure situations mostly have access to more than children who were born into poverty. undecided

People who can claw themselves out of poverty —gain financial independence before marriage —obtain this information and know-how, which they are then able to pass on to their children, even if they are not able to maintain that security until their children are all fully grown, for other reasons like life and circumstances. undecided

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Family › Re: Someone Earning 100k Naira, Should Not Consider Marriage by Kobojunkie: 9:32pm On Nov 30, 2025

babajero:
just keep on observing till you clock 80 by then your eyes go clear.

It is better to clock 80 with money in your account and you being able to live a life of less suffering with that money— having friends in your bracket, and your healthcare needs taken care of with your money— than to be 80, sick and miserable with all your kids struggling every day to eke out a living and your wife stressing you that there is no food to eat. 🥱🥱🥱

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Family › Re: RE: Someone Earning 100k Naira, Should Not Consider Marriage by Kobojunkie: 9:29pm On Nov 30, 2025

Labeebhabiby:
As if na so e easy u no put hospital bills oo, sickness na part of life

Of course not! 🥱🥱🥱

Sickness and medical emergencies no dey happen to poor people or their wives. Na so that pregnant women wey her husband no fit pay hospital leave the mother and unborn child to die like fowl some months alone. Poor people are literally very wicked! 🥱🥱🥱

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Family › Re: RE: Someone Earning 100k Naira, Should Not Consider Marriage by Kobojunkie: 9:10pm On Nov 30, 2025*

mhmsadyq:
➜How much one senator get before him marry one actress. How far d marriage go?

Financial security is not about longevity of marriage. Rather, it is about ensuring that marriage is an upgrade for both the individuals in the marriage and the children they produce. If you and your wife are not at least able to achieve some of your individual(outside of the marriage) dreams in the marriage, that marriage cannot and should not be regarded as a successful marriage, no matter how long it lasted. undecided

If you enter marriage in poverty, you are guaranteed not only to remain poor, but also to have generations of your children also in poverty. However, financial security before marriage not only ensures you and your spouse the benefits of marriage— these benefits are not automatic— but also helps you better create an environment where your children have a better chance of escaping poverty, even if it happens to you, their parent, much later on, than if you were always in poverty from the get-go. undecided

Financial insecurity is a major source of stress in all marriages. So, going into marriage with this stress already hanging over your head is an assurance of more troubles to come, for you and your children to come. undecided

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Romance › Re: Nigerian Men Are So Misogynistic Omg It’s Sickening by Kobojunkie: 9:00pm On Nov 30, 2025

irumole1975:
➜Yes. Men are more intelligent than women. It’s the realm 89% of Nobel prize winner has been men. I know you’ll dash me with “but women were only allowed to go to school in 2020” I’ll wait

. Please ensure to begin working on your male hubris before this 2025 runs out! undecided

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