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Uptheante:
Where did he mention her age for you to know if she's underage or not?

if you don't know what the discussion is about, why butt in? 🥱🥱🥱

Uptheante:
➜Did he force her?

Anyone below the age of consent is FORCED, by default.
Please, make Google your friend in these things.

AndroBlaze:
➜My brother, Ned Nwoko shamelessly did the same thing to, when no one asked him. He claimed he married Regina Daniel as a virgin on national TV, only for him and her to both confirm during this their fight that they had been sleeping together since before marriage and that she had already had an abortion for him.
It is those who believe everything they hear, especially the ones ready to die for politicians that I pity.
Like someone said earlier on this thread, to enjoy your peace in Nigeria, you must wear your mask and follow them with their hypocrisy.

What that means is that Ned is a child rapist — a pedo. That should more than explain why he felt the need to tell that lie.

DyshApp:
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In the now‑viral TikTok video, the lady revealed that she has contemplated suicide, but hasn’t acted on it because of her son.
‎”I don’t know what to do. I’ve been so depressed. I don’t know who to talk to. I’ve known this person for 10 years“, She stated,
However, the identity of her ex‑fiancé was not disclosed in the video, and she sought the services of a therapist. Stay updated — read other interesting gists here(Link in signature)

You are going to be fine. You have already taken the first step, and now you just need to keep taking more steps in the same direction, and you will be fine. 🥱🥱

Adebisi444:
If she does it for 6 months without disrespecting him or change her behavior.. she will receive a certificate from Guinness world record.

No woman who did not initially agree to such an arrangement should have to do that without being allowed to express her angst at being forced to do what she never signed up for.

If respect worship is really that important to you, then make sure you never ever fall short of your contract in marriage. That is the only thing that guarantees you the worship you— you can only claim it if you continuously keep your end of the bargain — desire from the woman.

MaziObinnaokija:
Ask the elderly ones in yo household

If the ones from your side of the divide all reason as you do, I would rather not waste my time.

spiceadole:
✓ Men cannot take care of children. They are not programmed like that. My husband used to think taking care of children was a joke until I had to travel for a course for 2 months and left 3 children under 7 years for him to care for.
Within a week, he had started complaining.. and before the end of the second week, he had sought the services of child minders. He paid heavily for it.
✓ This is service I render naturally,freely and happily.
Since then, his brain calmed down.
He now appreciates my efforts.

It has absolutely nothing to do with programming but learning. Even all women have to learn to take care of children; most women are forced to learn while other women refuse to no matter the situation. In the same way, a man can choose to learn how to care for kids or not. There are many children out there who were raised by their fathers, their brothers or even uncles. Stop lying to men that they have to be programmed to do so when no one is, in fact, programmed to do it.

2. You are wrong to claim that it is natural because you had to apply yourself in doing it and you ended up learning as you went along with it. That is what learning is about.
Also, there are many women out there who are terrible at doing the same thing and those who would never be cause blind doing it... raising children. Nurture is learned, not natural or gender specific.

P.S. Did you know that in some animal species, it is mostly the males that raise the children and not the mothers?

MaziObinnaokija:
Anxiety/panic attack on top of say I kpai person? U nowadays students.

What in the world is this gobbledegook?

AgentNnamdi:
No. They are not trained that way.

Despite a lack of training, many (almost 50% of married women) women in Nigeria are breadwinners in their non-polygamous marriages. Given that they there training has them believing their life isn't worth much without a man in their lives, many hold fast that Mrs. badge like their lives depend on it, resorting to carrying on the additional burden of being the breadwinner in the marriage for this reason. (If we check polygamous marriages, we may find that many of the wives in such cases also find they have to carry significant weight on their own, too.)

Sirchiboy:
Can a woman feed a man clothe him and give him pocket money for a year
➜ and still respect him as the head of the family?

Yes, many women do that but on a whole, they don't benefit much from such arrangements, except maybe the presence of those men in their lives to serve as added validation of their claim to the Mrs. badge the women hold on to. Watch The Secret Lives of Mormon Wives for reference. 🥱🥱🥱

In The Secret Lives of Mormon Wives, some husbands are not the primary breadwinners; the women are. Many of the cast members earn significant income through their online careers, which allows their husbands to attend school or provides financial freedom for the family. While this deviates from traditional expectations where men are the primary providers, many husbands in the show are portrayed as supportive of this arrangement.

2. If respect worship is really that important to you, then make sure you never ever fall short of your contract in marriage. That is the only thing that guarantees you the worship you— you can only claim it if you continuously keep your end of the bargain — desire from the woman. 🥱🥱

RubiesBanking:
➜As per the report, the mother had doubts about the father of her kids and to confirm that she did the DNA test using the sample of the person she had thought was the father. After the test, she found that only one of her kids showed positive for the DNA test while the other one did not. "She then remembered that she had sex with a different man on the same day and when this second person took a test, it showed he was the second twin's father," says the report.

Like that she don get two baby daddies in one pregnancy. I hope none of them turns out to be a deadbeat, or else the shege fit turn real for her.

LordIsaac:
➜My brother, no matter the proof, you are joined together already. What were you thinking of when they asked you "...for better or worse...?", and you said, "I do." This is the "worse" part.

Nah! Divorce is always an option open to every married individual out there since marriage has never been by force. 🥱🥱

Omowale2023:
➜You haven't answered my question. Enough of this forth and back

You refused to read the article for yourself, yet you're trying to drag me to answer stewpid questions you harbor still as a result of obvious ignorance? Abeg, get away! 🥱🥱🥱

LordIsaac:
➜You have eventually acknowledged it...there's nothing you can do. Trust me on this completely! Except you hate peace.

I am in no way stating that it is impossible to prove.

All humans have emotions — the whole range of emotions is available in every human being out there — therefore, all humans are emotional beings.

Emotions are short-lived, intense, and direct reactions to a specific event, while moods are longer-lasting, less intense, and more generalized states of mind that may not have a clear cause. Emotions are like a fleeting spark, such as anger over a traffic jam, whereas a mood is like a continuous, low-level background feeling, such as a general sense of contentment or irritability throughout the day.

Emotions are signals, indicators of our current emotional state, a part of our motivation system. Emotions are not actions; signals/flags do not act. Rather, an individual's response to an emotion — emotional response — is indicative of low emotional intelligence. That is a problem linked to a lack in the area of regulating one's emotions.

Considering one's emotions as a form of weakness is an admission of a very low level of both emotional and social intelligence. Men are just as emotional and in some ways more emotional — they react emotionally — than most women do. This is explained by the fact that men are more prone to committing emotional crimes daily than women are.

There are so many things wrong with feeling threatened by your own emotions or thinking that subduing them makes you stronger when, in fact, it reveals you are an emotionally weak individual with nothing whole to offer others in the way of a relationship or connection.

Sirchiboy:
➜Papa ebuka you again? ?.... Why

I don't know an Ebuka, abeg!.

aalangel:
➜What's her name? Mercy...she wants to do it intentionally She's undermining the role of Daddies.

Undermining the role of fathers who have typically remained absent in the lives of children, even before this generation of their own accord?

Sirchiboy:
Male and Female Students Living in Same Apartment: Have Your Say

I would say that you mind your own business!

LordIsaac:
➜You keep quiet and carry your cross... that's the "worse" you vowed to.😁

I disagree! A lie is definitely a lie. But the problem is, how to obtain evidence to prove that it was a lie.

teeteepeejay:
➜Finding virgins is like finding a pawpaw seeds in a watermelon. Nonetheless, a lie is a lie. We wont live based on those lies. You either love me like that or you move on.

Well, the same way you cannot tell whether a man is a virgin unless he tells you himself, is the same way you cannot tell whether a woman is a virgin unless she tells you that she is. That fact has been established for many decades now...only many of you continue to think you have some sort of virgin detector in your brains.

ebubeson:
What should someone do if the person does not care whether a lady is a virgin or not, but a lady lied to such person about virginity and the person discovered after the wedding?

How do you discover that she lied about her virginity, though? Let's start with you explaining how you mean here.

Meedon:
➜Anything her eyes see for such cohabitation make she take am.

carry your bullsheet reasoning, enter the gutter somewhere. 🥱🥱🥱

Meedon:
➜Why did the girl accept to cohabit with someone who is not her husband?

Because she could, same way that you can.

Sermwell:
➜Which impact are you talking about? Is the same girl not married now and the parents even claiming she's a virgin?

Ah, I see! Because she is now married, it means her body was not medically impacted in any way by the abortions that she had to inflict on her body, thanks to you? My gosh, you must be the most brilliant one from your part of the world! You must be so very proud of the job you did in her womb, too, that you felt the need to come announce it here for all to read about, right? 😲😲😲

Sermwell:
➜Two adults did something and you conveniently blame one of them? We cohabited for close to 4 years, and it's only normal for such to happen.

Two adults did something... You mean to tell us that it was your body, too, that had to deal with the impacts of the abortions? Nonsense!

Sermwell:
When I was in the university, me and my ex girlfriend cohabited for close to 4 years. She was studying pharmacy while I was studying law. There was nothing we didn't do sexually, including an*l sex and all. She even mistakenly took in 3 times and we had to abort because we weren't ready. We eventually broke up amicably after school. ...

You intentionally refused to use protection during sex with your girlfriend, endangering her life 3 times — abortions in Nigeria remain very unsafe for the body of the woman— and you came here to announce this, why? You knew well the dangers of abortion on the bodies of women, yet you ignored that because, after all, it was not your body or life at risk each time. That's also why you came here to regale us with this story, let me guess... so you could get applauded and commended for it?

kingviny:
➜I think we should tell Senator Ned to help us sponsor a bill in the National Assembly that would make marriage license renewable every 5 years . Sex frequency, duties etc must also be drafted like a contract and any bridge should incur a fine. After 5 years, if any party is not happy, the marital license would not be renewed as such they can then go their separate ways.
This would help put couples on their toes. The so called "for better for worse" ideology is a scam ! It's not working.
My proposal would drastically reduce divorce or sadness in marriage, trust me. If the marriage was a mistake in the 1st place, it would address it. If it is laziness in marriage, couples would sit up and strive to please eachother before their license expires , they would fight for the marriage even if there are some misunderstanding or they divorce and share custody of their kid(s) if they have any and provided the 2 are irreconcilable. They should just shake hands, wish eachother the best of luck and move on with their lives . Collective sadness creates doom over a nation and it causes national setback .
Life shouldn't be made too difficult, necessity is the mother of invention.
Let's think people ! Let's save our society ! Let's give it a try.

Dem never solve common sense issues like provision of basic amenities, education, and work on rampant homelessness, na marriage those morons go come solve for you? The way many of you think ehn...no wonder Nigeria is where it remains. Tufiakwa!

MaziObinnaokija:
➜U beta com out of that self imprison . Play with yo fellow hostel peepz,go to class and read yo books instead of waiting for phone call

Why are you lying to him? Are you trying to get us all here to believe that you have never experienced anxiety or panic attacks before? Cut the bull and stop lying to your fellow humans. 🥱🥱🥱

brain54:
➜I understand all these and fully aware... But I don't understand why you quoted me kobo? I only said they are sites were people pay for such services. Surely you didn't think I was mocking lonely people?

I am just making sure the message is balanced with the fact that many of those sites provide much-needed help for real problems that people are going through. The money to be spent should not be the focus, but the benefits one could derive from accessing such services.

What OP needs is helpful advice to help him overcome what many of us have at one time or another had to deal with as human beings in this life. So, the best would be to give our best advice so he can get back to his calm, motivated, focused self, and also gain the experience— life cheat sheet— needed should he face this same issue elsewhere in the future.

Wananonly:
Nobody will talk to you the way some good music would bro...

Music does not treat or cure anxiety. Focused CBT and mindfulness— improving one's social and emotional intelligence— can.

Traay:
➜op go and talk to chatgbt, but seriously op are you gay? this’s some gay sh*t you’re doing here, looking for someone who will comfort you because you got your heart broken.

Stop being stewpid! Anxiety has nothing to do with gayness. As a matter of fact, the male loneliness epidemic — also a mental illness — that the medical world has been talking about today affects more heterosexual males than gays or even women. Stop trying to bully or shut down those who admit to themselves at least that they indeed have a problem that needs medical attention.

The funny part is that most of you trying to bully others into keeping quiet about their suffering are suffering the same thing they are. Only you think you believe that being vulnerable is some weakness when, in reality, it is the best and only way to get yourself the help that you also need for what ails you. 🥱🥱

brain54:
They are sites and apps where people actually make money from people like you... Lonely people pay people money just to talk to them!

Loneliness can hit anyone at pretty much any time. (It does not discriminate by gender, age, or race.) The only way to shore oneself of it is to ensure one continues to build up one's emotional and social health/intelligence, something most of us ignore.