₦airaland Forum

Omowale2023:
➜I read the article. And you assumed that men cause more birth difficult issues than women. That's why I gave you that scenario, but as the feminist you are, you Doge the question. I ain't surprised. Continue deceiving yourself and massaging your own egotistical narrative. You will learn.

1. You clearly didn't read the article, and also didn't comprehend any of what I stated so far. So, I suggest you go back and read. Stop trying to make others do comprehension-related work for you.🥱🥱

Chetas81:
your opinion

It ain't an opinion but a fact. Men can and do date other men. Most men who do it are too ashamed to admit that their admiration lies with their fellow men and not with women..🥱🥱

louken:
✓ Of all the factors one might consider important, it is the postpartum looks that ranks highest in your mind. Someone is planning to bring children to this world and has decided in advance that she will fully deny them the experience of having a father figure in their life and you don't find that disturbing.
You don't fail to show your double standards when it comes to your fellow women. That's very low.
Being a feminist shouldn't rob you of your brain or morality

Um .. to an actress, her looks are ultimately of high importance to her. She could still bring a child into this world -- if that is really what she is ready to and wants to do because of herself and not because society said so --- by way of surrogacy, like many others before her have done, instead of playing that lottery with her source of livelihood. 🥱🥱🥱

Please spend some real, serious time processing what I posted before attempting to respond.🥱🥱😷

wirinet:
✓ You keep posting that your screenshot without context. Now, you circle unconditional gift? What do you understand by the the word "unconditional"? Apart from donations, inheritance and what hausa call "barra", is there any gift that can be considered unconditional gift. We all witnessed a lady fined and told to refund a monetary gift obtained from a man on the condition of transportation to his house. If I gifted you a car on the promise of love, and at the end you left me immediately you collected the car, is the gift still considered unconditional?

Go spew this gobbledegook elsewhere, abeg! 🥱🥱🥱

Omowale2023:
But someone has countered your theories already. Then how do you explain a situation when a man has been pouring inside his wife for 20 years and he decided to go outside and the first sex, pregnancy immediately? And the child is okay and there are no deformities?

I can immediately tell that you did not read the article for yourself but immediately chose to depend on the insinuations made by some others on the content. Anyways ...🥱🥱🥱

aalangel:
You want to intentionally bring children to this world without a father-figure. Crap!!!!

The vast majority of children out there don't even know where their so-called father figures are, not for many, many years now; and their mothers are still supposedly married to these men who are absent from their children's lives. So, what would make her case different from theirs?

IyaTola:
➜Most parents would be shock to find out that most GenZ female are not interested in marriage.

These are kids who watched their parents and grandparents and realized that marriage as configured in most Nigerian homes offers next to no benefits to them. And they are right in thinking so, as the indices continue to show that most are better off without marriage, and particular children since they now realize that contrary to claims made by their parents, children -- the result of two individuals having sex -- is a burden/responsibility not a blessing. .

Actually, the trend started before Gen Z, but with the rise in the population of those choosing to go against the grain, thanks to many more Gen Zs making that decision earlier than many from the generations before them did, it has become more visible than ever before as a result.

CrownOfClay724:
Not a tribal thing. People, these days, generally do not marry for love. They come together for convenience and mutual goals. Love somehow manage to creep in or not while they're at it.

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If the man was impotent or have a small pen, I heavily doubt she would stay. So, do your vetting, learn who you are doing life with and treat them how they will treat you.

It's not just people these days; we are now only finally talking about the reality of how many men out there marry women they literally hate(only a couple marry women they are indifferent to). And yes, a lot of women have, from time, been forced into marriage with men who don't even consider them for much except as tools for their physical pleasure and free labor. And so, it is no surprise that a lot of women continue to settle for any man they can get in marriage to date.

Such a man does himself a disservice in marrying someone who does not already approve of him as he is.

Adexgentle005:
➜I just saw this on X. So it’s true igbo men and women don’t marry for love ? Is it just money money and money? I want honest answer!

Can love — mutual respect, dedication to equal growth and happiness f both individuals in the relationship— exist where one of the individuals in the relationship believes he occupies a role of greater importance—as head or master — over the other individual in the relationship whose major role is as servant or follower?

This question applies to anyone in Nigeria regardless of tribe/ethnicity.

ADAMUdaCOWBOY:
➜You are still talking about quality of fertility with age? Did the document you posted compare the quality of male and female fertility with age? Did you think we will not read it? Did you read it yourself? A man may have low quality fertility at 90, a woman has zero fertility at 80. Rest!

I already made clear that I am not interested in whatever you are attempting to argue. 🥱🥱🥱

ADAMUdaCOWBOY:
➜Did you not see that in addition to the statement that male fertility lingers till 90, I added that the same cannot be said of female fertility? That statement shatters your claim that female fertility is less affected by age than male fertility., and the document you posted did not help your claim.

Again, what aspect of my comment suggested to you that male fertility does not linger up to 90 or beyond?

Notice how you continue to refuse to answer my question because you know well that the conversation that I was having had absolutely nothing to do with the length of fertility, but rather with the quality of fertility with age. You chose to ignore that so you could deviate from the main issue, only to pretend then that you could force your distracted line of reasoning on me as though to suggest that I somehow had my focus wrong. But I am not interested. So, move on along.

ADAMUdaCOWBOY:
➜The link to the document you sent without reading states that male fertility lingers 90, go read that?

Again, what aspect of my comment suggested to you that male fertility does not linger up to 90 or beyond?

ADAMUdaCOWBOY:
➜You took advantage of the averseness of the average Nigerian to reading to make the bolded lie. I went through the entire document and at no point did it make any comparative statement between male and female fertility rates as age sets in. On the contrary, it states that male fertility can linger till 90, which cannot be said of female fertility, so hanty, please rest!

I guess you are also one of those average readers in addition to the fact that comprehension seems to be a weakness of yours as well.

Where in the text you read do you come off reasoning that fertility in men does not linger until and even past 90?

ADAMUdaCOWBOY:
➜The pictures you posted are the actual image of those ladies without make up, so rest!

You must be near blind to think that the difference is because they supposedly have no makeup on. I suggest you go see an optometrist for that problem.

Mcslize:
Third husband? She should know by now that marriage is not for her. She needs to check and work on her character as a lady. The third one won't be any different trust me. There is definitely something she needs to work on in her attitude as a lady.

She dey gba her life. 🥱🥱🥱

nnamdi640:
... I still continue to say it, Nigeria ladies are one of the most s£lfish set of b£ings on this £arth.

Yet you spend your days and nights talking about them. Who come be the mugu between you and them?🥱🥱

Omowale2023:
How? Which evidence supports your fallacious theory that older men can give birth to children with deformities?
Have you seen one before in your entire life?
Some of you just talk without reasoning and comprehension. Gosh......so annoying 😤😤😤

You should Google to realize the new discovery made of men's biological clock this past October. It is a very interesting reveal which shows that difficult pregnancies and major birth deforms are actually more a result of the male biological clock than it is the female one. Check it out asap.🥱🥱
https://www.nairaland.com/8541960/men-actually-biological-clock-silent
https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC11026002/

Niwdog:
They keep returning her to me, which shows she is at fault

I am glad the world outside of your mind does not operate according to your particular biases. 🥱🥱🥱

Kalulu44:
There you go again, she leaving. What if it was the men that were leaving her?

She is still not in the marriage means she left a marriage and she did so alive. 😁🥱🥱

Kalulu44:
➜Your comment, it's good she's alive than being dead like Osinachi says it all that you've concluded that she has been in abusive marriage

Wrong! It simply insinuates that, whatever her reasons for leaving, she is better off than those who stayed back in unfulfilling/toxic/abusive/emotionally draining/unhappy/miserable marriages, only to end up dead for that choice they made. There are so many reasons why a woman would choose to leave a marriage or another. That in no way suggests she must have been abused, which is the particular conclusion you chose to reach all by yourself there.

CJStarz:
➜In summary, what a man can do, she can do better Case closed🤣🤣

Not necessarily! Rather, I am simply pointing out that no one behavior is unique to any one gender.

This is just the downside of women marrying richer men. Nigerian courts do not allow unlawful enrichment and all those silly arguments Americans throw in their courts are completely unacceptable and invalid here. And all this is because it is known that when a woman marries a richer man she married him because of his riches. And just Regina Daniels vs Ned right now she's got to go with nothing. That's the Law.

Women married off to middle-class men walk away with nothing after a divorce — in most cases, not even child support, but we are to believe that it is because of marrying richer men? Nigerian men hate their women, and their children are all the conclusion one can take away from this.

Nigerians are not thieves, yet almost every divorce case, in all parts of Nigeria— irrespective of the age of marriage— the woman ends up with literally nothing, not even alimony in most cases, from the marriage. And this even when it is clearly established that she did do invisible labor to support her husband and family through it all. Even then, the marital communal property is ruled as belonging only to the man who, most likely, financially abused his wife throughout the union. Most Nigerian men are just simple wicked entities... worse than thieves.

Kalulu44:
➜Just imagine, you have already concluded that she was being beaten and molested by those husbands, that's why her marriages failed.
➜I'm still waiting when your comments won't be about supporting women but men too.

I never reached such a conclusion... You let your imagination do all that for you. Don't dump that on me like a coward!

2. Well, you should instead tell me what reason I have to have to set myself against a woman who is assumed to be not being forced here into what seems a fourth marriage?

Brighton1:
I’m currently at nairaland, don’t u want to mingle?

No, thank you!

Brighton1:
hello, I jst wanted to tell u I’m single

Please be sure to find your happiness where you are at in life.

SixSeven:
➜I am not replying you. I am replying for the benefit of those reading Me wey don see Baba 80 de give woman Belle na im you de show stats Keep it up. It's okay for older women to go after younger guys but taboo for older men to chase after young girls Selfish beings. It's always about them alone.

Nature never intended these things as some sort of competition for the human race, but rather as an opportunity to allow for the creation of the best possible outcomes for the entire race. An 80-year-old man with a higher risk of producing defective children and also at higher risk of not being available to see and raise the child is not the best for either the child or the human race, don't you see? nd given the state of our health system, that child may have to deal with health issues for a significant enough amount of time if he inherited possible genetic defects and would not have his parents around to help with the cost.

Some things should be rightly discouraged, not celebrated.

fuckingAyaya:
Poisoning? The heart of men are desperately wicked you need to be on guard. He just survived a ghastly accident some months ago

Or suicide! We may never know.

ceejay80s:
➜Not invade of three husbands, All husbands can't be same , the fault is from the woman

You can choose to console yourself with that particular delusion if you like.

SixSeven:
➜I appreciate your advice but sincerely I don't need it. You refuse to answer my question. I know you won't tell me your age but give me your age range and whether you've birthed before. I just attended a naming ceremony of a relative in her 50s who just gave birth. So I can talk about this issue from those I know, and those I have seen and from medical POV. I may not be one but I have learned from doctors numerous times the best time for men and women to get pregnant. If you like, ignore biology. The Internet is not my family. Reality is different from Cho Cho Cho.
➜ Even the lesbians I know, they start looking for kids once their brain resets. I just smile inside knowing fully well that for women matter, they say one thing outside, they usually mean something else. I don't fall for such gimmicks. Go and check the age of women who seek IVF treatment and their ages. Why doesn't it bother the younger women? Keep arguing, you have won. It's alright. Life will open your eye.
➜ All women must have menopause. Not all men have any pause. Keep arguing

Since when did scientific studies become about the internet?

Recently published research indicates that a man's biological clock starts ticking from age 30. https://www.nairaland.com/8541960/men-actually-biological-clock-silent. The study also suggests that a 50-year-old pre-menopausal woman, for instance, has a greater chance of having a smooth pregnancy and birthing a healthy baby if she were to have intercourse with a young man(below age 30) than with a man older than age 30.

2. We are not even talking IVF here, but of women dating younger men if they wish to have smoother pregnancies and healthier babies.

3. Sure, the eggs every woman is born with eventually run out; that is where we get the talk of menopause setting in. However, it does not change the fact that the risks of having children with birth defects increase when trying to procreate with men aged 30 and over for men.

osazsky:
➜So all the 4 men na wife beater which is not possible...she should work on herself..even if the 4 men na wife beater it can not be consecutively

The same way a man can walk out of a marriage if he feels unfulfilled/disrespected/unhappy is the same way a woman can and should too. It does not need to only happen when physical violence is involved.

SixSeven:
➜Women hate being pregnant but keep asking for it. Why? That's nature's beauty. If you like, post 1 million horrible images of women before, during and after pregnancy, women will still get pregnant.
➜ Two things can be right at the same time, they can hate pregnancy and they can love the results. I am writing most normal women here, there are some women that are off the charts but even the ones I know that are in bad situations, they still see their children as a silver lining. Even in war, women will still get pregnant.
➜ To the men out there, maybe some of them don't know, a woman literally goes through the valley of death to bring a new life to earth. Honor that woman if she bring pikin for you. Forget her bad habit, handle those kain Jezebel with long fork but if na correct woman, treat her like a queen. God is wonderful ❤️

1. Wrong! Women do not hate being pregnant. Instead, some women do not mind and do well with pregnancy, some do not want it at all, but find themselves being cajoled into it either by society or their partners, some others do not care for it altogether— they do not mind other women getting pregnant though—, while others consider that they can always decide on it much later in life. Women are not a monolith — have never been and never will be.

2. Wrong! Normal is subjective and relative even where women are concerned.

3. Yeah, pregnancy is a potential death sentence for many women, even to this day.