₦airaland Forum

brain54:
The crazy thing is that CAN, prominent and influential people...
The masses and nobody is making too much noise about this in Nigeria.We have come to see these killings and kidnappings as mere statistics. Nigerians have become used to this and just move on like nothing happened. It's disgraceful that it's those from outside that are drawing attention to the killings and lending a voice to our plight!

Even your popes and priest who refuse to name the victims also see them as numbers. 🤔🤔

Moderator101:
You can all keep praying and fasting but let us not forget that God helps those who help themselves.

Your religious leaders help themselves through their numerous incessant campaigns urging you all to fork over your hard earned mooney so they could have money to spend. Only when it pertains to saving your lives and health, na prayer mode straight. 🥱🥱🥱

Moderator101:
source: https://www.timesofisrael.com/liveblog_entry/pope-urges-release-of-315-seized-in-nigerian-mass-catholic-school-kidnapping/

315 people? Names?

PolyGamous:
✓ [b]A truly enduring marriage is a complex and multifaceted bond built on a foundation that extends far beyond the physical. African tradition played a significant role in shaping the concept of marriage, viewing it as a partnership between couples aimed at enhancing their productivity in all endeavor[/b]s.
✓ They believed that women were the ideal complement to men on their productive journey, and together, they could overcome life’s challenges. While sex is a powerful form of communication, it is not the sole factor that sustains a marriage and, often, it may not be the most crucial. A lasting marriage is constructed on a partnership that flourishes in the light of day, even in the mundane moments, and during life’s most demanding storms. It is woven from stronger, more resilient threads.

By your submission, even a toxic/unhappy/unfulfilling marriage, as long as both parties endure within it, is a success marriage. Am I correct? 🥱🥱🥱

2. Women, in the past, have mostly proven themselves to be great py punching bags in those endurance marriages you mentioned. But, don't we know better now to stop recruiting women for these hell-hole marriages at this point? Why must the damage done our mothers and grandmothers continue as the norm for the sake of claiming more of these successful marriages you love so? 🤔🤔


I mean, considering your definition of what a successful marriage would be, the marriage of Dominique Pelicot & Gisèle Pelicot was very successful since they were both married for almost 50 years — since 1973.

Akir2025:
Only Child ,Aged Parent.
400 Levels ,Just a Year to Complete Education.
Father Fell Sick ,Prayed and Prayed ,With little he had ,Took him to Hospital,Father Died .
Mother A Prayer Warrior was knocked down by a run away Bus ,He took her to the hospital,Prayed she gets well ,She Died .
Came out of school successfully after Engaging in menial jobs .With Good Results,Prayed ,Fasted ,A virgin, Haven't had sex for once , Prayed a lot ,A non Cultists.
It's after 6 years now ,No Good job ,All Opportunities turned Down.
Many interviews attended,It's been Failures .
Many Instances that brings lots of Confusions .
Visited 4 Notable mountains of Prayer for a Change .
DOES PRAYERS WORKS.

Even athiests who don't pray or have any of your prayer warriors in their family also experience many miracles and breakthroughs in their lives. (Yes, even those who don't pray experience many of the same things your so-called prayer people have for the longest told you only happen to those of you who engage in your prayer rituals.) That should tell you all you need to know about your religious prayer rituals. They are all meaningless after all.

Think of it all another way. If all of your many gods whom you claim to worship also grant the desires of those who do not worship or pray to them, then you have always had it all wrong in believing that your worships and prayers are the answer.

MrDoGood:
➜Did you read where Reg asked Ned "What have you done for me?"
➜ That's my summary to everything you wrote there

. I don't know about them, so, I cannot speak to the question or their condition. But here's a question for you. What makes you think she had no right to ask those questions of the man who said he would a husband to her husband? Is he exempt from needing to answer the woman because he is supposedly a billionaire like the many other billionaires you have in Nigeria?

2. I am sorry, but ain't no summary but a bullsheet offering!

marlow1962:
Many Nigerian ladies both young and milfs are very boring In bed. Even when getting paid, you the payer don't even get satisfied.

Sex workers are not people who desire to have sex with you whenever you pay. They are merely people willing to offer you the chance to have sex with their bodies when you can pay them for it.

ismodiwa:
➜Telling someone to ‘find who they can afford’ is lazy thinking. If your only measure of worth is money, that says more about you than the situation.

OP or the woman did not say her only preference(not measure) in a man is a man who can afford to pay for her hair. You and others like you are responsible for reaching that conclusion. She is probably a woman who also prefers a tall man to a short man, and probably also prefers men without pot bellies.

And before you continue, everybody has preferences when it comes to dating. And she probably made it known to OP before they began dating that she preferred to date a man who could contribute to her beauty— her hair— costs. If this is established, then clearly OP had it coming.

ufotunang:
➜..she does not have a job..if you read through the message she sent to her guy..she said she normally sees what she wants to buy but she cannot buy them because her guy is not supportive ..if she had a job she would have had money to buy those items by herself..without waiting or depending much on her guy to buy....let her learn to be independent..no man can give a girl everything she wants ..

People who have jobs can also see what they want to buy and expect to be able to ask their boyfriends/girlfriends for at least some of the money they need to buy it. That is normal behavior among those who are dating.

RealityKings1:
The way women think and say things isn't the same thing as that of a man

Are you more intelligent than women in general?

Cashylyx:
➜I WILL BE SEALED.AMEN.

If you were not sealed when what was written in Revelation 7, the end of days, took place about 2000 years ago, you can never be sealed.

ghettochild:
➜Her papa no fit take care of her... now she wants a man to take care of her

Is he dating an underage girl or something?

FitCorper:
➜Before we start. What about your father? Are u close to ur father? He can help you immensely at this repulsive stage of ur life. Fathers are importantly for building confidence in young men, a trait many ladies find attractive whether you are rich or poor as a man.
➜Confidence will make you weigh the words that comes from your mouth before speaking. People price and rate you by what comes from your mouth.

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FitCorper:
➜Baba jerker cease jerking immediately for your own good. Get closer to your dad.

His father(or possibly his daddy issues) is probably the source of his unhealthy obsession with needing women from.

"Daddy issues" in men are complicated relationships with their fathers, stemming from absent, abusive, or emotionally distant fathers, and can manifest as emotional unavailability, anger issues, a fear of abandonment, or seeking constant validation. These issues create challenges in relationships and can lead to a need for constant reassurance, fear of being alone, or risk-seeking behaviors.

2. OP does not need more of that nonsense performative sort of confidence that most men & women have when it is obvious there is a gaping hole right into their hearts. (You can tell people whose confidence is built on nothing from a mile away if you have higher emotional and social intelligence than they do.) OP clearly lacks the basics, which is self-love, and it is what is needed to obtain that authentic confidence that comes from deep within.

Drifter02:
➜At 25 years, I've never had a proper girlfriend.. might sound like fiction but it's true. I've actively chased girls all my life.. but I've never actually met any that liked me for me.. This was particularly worse in university.. all the girls I met were dumb and were only interested in chasing good grades instead of just actively existing.. Some are even married now and their lives are still robotic and pathetic.. these days they're chasing corporate certifications and more needless difficult things instead of just calming down and living their lives
Interestingly, the only one that had a school cert I met that gave me her number later told after two years (we never had sex btw) that she feels my family won't allow us marry as I had a BSc and she doesn't.. (young girl of 22 ).. naso she break things up. Bro the reason was just weird and strange. I suspect though she has another man she's attracted to.
➜All the other girls I keep just want to use me meeting.. rather than bonding emotionally, it's always send me card.. buy me ice cream.. take me out.. stupid nonsensical crap and whatnot Bro.. I'm just tired. I earn 100k a month [b]and all I do I just sit indoors, jerk off and hate my life.. [/b]it's almost true love died with the last century. Without a partner.. my life just feels hollow and meaningless

You are only 25 and yet you are already struggling with an addiction to attention from girls to the point that you are already plagued by an irrational fear that you might die alone?

OP, you need to get yourself mental health therapy at least cause what is obvious is that rather than enjoying your single life, you have come to view it as some sort of valueless placeholder for the life you desire. There is a recipe for a terrible life in relationships. Please go get help so you begin now realizing that your single life is also meant to be enjoyed and is really the only way for you to learn of and to find the peace, connection, and shared life you wish to find in a relationship.

2. You jerking off and hating your life is a clear sign of mental illness. You need to get help from a professional mental health counselor/therapist as soon as possible. You don't need a woman, and no loving parent would want their precious child mixing with someone who hates themselves. And you are precious too, so you need to turn your energy inwards to understand why it is you really hate yourself; the answer has nothing to do with you not having a woman. 🥱🥱

You need to face all those traumas/hurts/betrayals/disappointments/guilt/shame, etc., from your childhood that are responsible for you hating your life at age 26. And you need to confront, accept, and resolve them all before you move forward; otherwise, your life will be a picture of you passing your trauma along to everyone you encounter and them returning the energy in ways that may only make you feel worse about yourself.

Englishisamust:
➜ This advice wey u give op een he no fit relate. dem no dey advice who don fall in love...

Well, when I was his age, I wanted and was open to good advice. What I instead got was a lot of bad, terrible vomit that many confused with advice. So, for me, giving OP access to what I never got is my way of sending a letter back in time to my younger self.

Berankis:
➜This is absolute null! What sort of imaginary analysis is this? You analyse as though men don't do house chores at all... So a professional has to be hired to handle what exactly?
➜Even if a domestic aid is to be hired, then it means the wife must be working and contributing financially and otherwise to the family.
This attitude of women always trying to act smart is really anti-social.
➜ You want a man to provide all and then you have absolutely nothing to contribute to his life cos I don't see sex as a benefit in a relationship, that is just bullshit.

Weaponizing ignorance by way of ridiculous questions, can't help you any here. The comment you responded to clearly states the context in which all the above-listed would apply.

Kobojunkie:
According to studies, the following are some of the aspects covered by many women in traditional marriage situations across the world every day(beside each is the lowest cost of hiring a professional to do the same work per year). -\

So, why comment when you are not interested in engaging your brain at least?

Nnamdipapa:
➜Kobo, you won't find a man with this line of reasoning. Trust me.

The reason why women are groomed from a young age into liking or wanting men in their lives has to do with the fact that if women were left to their own devices, most would actually choose not to find a man at all.

budaatum:
This is definitely not a person an ambitious woman should marry, for he will not progress in life and nor will he allow those around him to progress.

He not only undermined her achievement, making public the fact that he intentionally used their marriage to reduce her, but it was a strategic attempt by him to humiliate that woman even further. That pastor literally hates the woman he calls his wife.

Zackattack:
➜Yes. That’s how I know you’re a woman. Probably in her early 40s unmarried or divorced. Give me another clue. Would you?🕵️ 🕵️

Again,

Kobojunkie:
Since you are desperately attempting to make this a he-said/she-said thing, then you are definitely engaging the wrong person. 🥱🥱🥱🥱

Berankis:
➜A simple question. WHAT DOES A MAN BENEFIT IN A DATING RELATIONSHIP?

At least one of the links included in my previous comment tells you at least one of the major benefits men gain over women.

Zackattack:
➜Marriage is a testimony for a woman. Have you ever seen a gathering of men kneeling down to pray for a wife🤷🏽‍♂️ Whilst it is not feasibly and economically, a smart thing for a man to do, you can’t say the same for a woman. But you already know this.

Again,

Kobojunkie:
Since you are desperately attempting to make this a he-said/she-said thing, then you are definitely engaging the wrong person. 🥱🥱🥱🥱

Zackattack:
➜😆😆U already accepted some clearly debunked lies here.
Go to a gathering of equal number of men and women, then try to find out the percentage of women that desperately want to get married to men. You will understand how foolish you sound about men benefiting more in marriages. Continue in your delusions. Whatever helps you sleep at night.

Since you are desperately attempting to make this a he-said/she-said thing, then you are definitely engaging the wrong person. 🥱🥱🥱🥱

AllBlack:
➜Abeg make we hear another thing. There are power women out there but you shy away from them because you are intimidated by them and you conveniently chain yourself to jobless babes that walk around looking for T-shirt they will steal and you expect different results.

The jobless babes don't know the value of the energy they pour into their relationships, be the problem. If not, they would avoid these poor men at all costs.

goran3310:
Let me open the gates of hell. Dear ladies, what do you offer? What do you have to offer a man? What is it that you bring with you to the "table"? What can you provide? Who are you and what are you like?

According to studies, the following are some of the aspects covered by many women in traditional marriage situations across the world every day(beside each is the lowest cost of hiring a professional to do the same work per year).

Personal chef to cater to meals................................................. $38,000
Housemaid to clean your home................................................. $20,000
Nanny.................. .................. ....................................................... $30,000
Mental health counselor/dumpster(emotional labor).............. $49,610
Bang maid .................. .................. .................. .................. .......... $37,132
Womb maid .................. .................. .................. .................. .........$55,000

OP, can you afford to hire professionals to do this work that a woman does for men with whom they are in a relationship?

Nefort:
➜The idea that men need a relationship more than women is absolutely false. I will buy a woman with money and she shouldn't complain of being used like a product bought from the shelf.

What you want us to believe is that sociologists, psychiatrists, and even economists who have come to affirm this to be the case are all wrong, and you are right?

Yawn! 🥱🥱🥱

Nefort:
➜Your response didn't address my comment you quoted. If women are commodities to be bought with money then they shouldn't complain about being used like a commodity after being bought.

I can't answer your question since it is based on assumptions that have no bearing on what I originally wrote. It is for this reason that I felt to make it clear that you have the option of dating men if women don't make sense to you as human beings who are exactly just like you — they have preferences as far as who they want to date or not date.

Berankis:
➜Which dating rule says a man must give a woman the money to make her hair? Or that you must take care of a woman's financial needs because you are dating her? What does dating really mean to you girls of nowadays?
And what do you "dated" women have to offer except dragging equality and arguing women rights with a man? Same man you expect to care of your needs as if you are handicapped.

Are you really asking me these questions in the year 2025 because you are truly ignorant of the benefits men gain from having relationships with women? Are you really saying this because you do not know by now how many of your grandmothers and mothers were shortchanged in most of their relationships by the men they were in relationships with?
Do you want us to believe that a man who expressed his desire to a woman who wants a man who will help fund the cost of her hair care needs should be able to date her without needing to fulfill the obligation which he signed up for? Are you asking me this because even now, you do not fully realize that the man benefits more from being in a relationship than the woman does?

MrDoGood:
[size=8pt]➜Did the op tell you he's broke? You should have advised the girl to get a job for herself. It's obvious she's broke and from a poor background.
➜ Looking for a man to fulfill her dream lifestyle. This mentality is disgusting and sickening. [/size]

Whether OP is broke or simply very stingy, the fact from that post is that he could not afford the girl, and she had to leave him so she could find herself a man who can. Simple!

2. Men do not fulfill a woman's dreams. Matter of fact, a woman who has a man in her life risks losing out on achieving her dreams and aspirations in life. So, no, she was not looking for a man to fulfill her dreams, more of a man to take care of at least some of her needs in exchange for the energy she brings to the relationship to benefit him.

Zackattack:
➜Women are not a commodity to be afforded. You just gave a misplaced advice here. If you itemize yourself, men would treat you as such.

If a woman itemized what she would contribute(and numerous studies have shown this to be the case, what they potentially bring to the relationship table since relationships benefit men more than women), most Nigerian men would never be able to afford her, even if he spent his whole life saving up.

ufotunang:
..let the woman go and look for work to do ...and stop depending on men to provide all her needs

She probably has a job that maybe pays her better than this man is paid at his own job. So, this was more likely not about her having a job but her wanting to date a man who can afford her and her needs.

OvertheTop:
➜relationships are transactional No Wonder Hookup became the new Norm. This is the Exact reason

Hookup is an intelligent attempt by some women to simplify the interaction they have with men to just the money and nothing else. So, if a hookup is all you need, avoid dating women entirely. More importantly, know that you can also date men, too.

MrSly:
➜What do women give as their bare minimum?

Most Nigerians cannot afford a woman's bare minimum, especially in today's economy. Women almost always end up with the short end of the stick when it comes to relationships.