₦airaland Forum

We don post on this topic tire her did Nairaland and the conclusion from all that is that many Nigerian men would rather remain ignorant than confront the facts as far as a woman's virginity is concerned.

grandstar:
✓ He could threaten to send it to their church members or post it online. I suspect this is fiction,

I doubt that will change much given that a lot of religious folks see their pastors more or less as infallible gods -- they could never do no wrong.

PolyGamous:
✓ Okay, kindly highlight what a better marriage should be about, or you are totally against marriage?
✓ And what you feel is best to measure a successful marriage, your points will be appreciated

I believe a better marriage would be an non abusive marriage where both partners (not Master-slave situation) mutually respect each other, growing together with both able to individually thrive all while enjoying the the shared connection and safety that being in relationship provides them.

2. A good measure would be the mental, emotional and social intelligence of the individuals in the relationship as well as the degree to which they have been able to fulfill individual goals, dreams, etc , during the period of the marriage in additional to shared goals.🥱🥱🥱

My elder brother who has repeatedly mǎłtrěäted his wife is trying to turn me and my mum into Nannies for his five kids.

He kept mǎltřêäting his wife and physically âşşǎûlting her too, now she left him and the children and ended the marriage- Nigerian Lady holds her elder brother accountable for his contribution towards rûining his marriage and allegedly brêǎk!ng his home.

An abusive father of five decided to gaslight his sister and his mother into caring for his five children after his wife decided to leave them with him.

12inchess:
➜I'm thinking of taking a 2 months medical leave and come to Nigeria to clear my head. Hopefully that will help me put things in perspective. The process is long since I need to get a medical certificate from my psychiatrist and talk to my supervisor but I will try to press through. Hopefully they don't fire me for this otherwise I will just have to look for another job I guess.

I recall wanting to do something similar a couple of years ago myself, but I am glad I decided against it and instead convinced myself that I could get the healing I needed staying right here where I am with regular access to my psychiatrist, and I am glad that I did that.

NurseSnowToYou:
➜May I ask what is the usual treatment for depression or mental health issues in Nigeria?
➜ I was just reading an article about migrant returnees that were trying to get to Europe but were sent back home and now felt ostracized and suicidal.
➜ IOM and the Nigerian govt said they'd be offering psychosocial support and it just made me curious as Im a Psych Nurse Practitioner in the US, how these things are handled there? Appreciate it!

For the most part, mental illness goes unaddressed in much of Nigeria. A lot of people simply live and die with their conditions without anyone being the wiser.

2. Suicide cases are not uncommon; they are usually written off as cases of spiritual death(no autopsy and no investigation in many cases), or untimely deaths, and everyone moves on. Those whose cause of death is known are, for the most part, considered ungrateful for not valuing the life they had or victims of the hardship in the country.

3. Yeah, the Government has been saying a lot of sheet that the Government never really does. And there are at least 764 Local government countries in that country that are in dire need of mental health counselors/therapists, grief counselors, as well as terrorism which is now a part of regular life in the country.

Smartguyboy:
If sleeping with married women have any repercussion 99% of Nigeria pastors won’t be alive today. David story is just a fiction and many pastors knows about it that why they keep doing it . Just pray make nobody catch you because na who them catch be thief.

The pastor's wife — most pastors are married to endurance wives —is probably already aware of her husband's many dalliances, so, yeah, the man is likely wasting his time with that attempt at blackmailing him. 🥱🥱🥱

Nnamdipapa:
➜...also, has to order takeway to continue a solo date at home. Just helping to complete your train of thoughts. Coming on a date should never be seen as an opportunity to satisfy hunger at the expense of the man. That is all shades of wrong.

People dine out regularly—some do it like three times a day—, so saying that it is about satisfying hunger is not a thing for all who go out on dinner/lunch/breakfast dates.

As for ordering to satiate hunger as expressed in the OP, we all heard from one side. For all we know, the guy probably gave the gal the impression and maybe even the permission to order all of that food, only to complain about it later on when regret set in for him. However, as far as people ordering more food and taking the rest with them after a date, that usually happens only with permission from the one paying the bill. I recall witnessing such while dining out, where a man at the table not far from mine chose to pay for more food to be packed to go for the gal he was with and her roommates who weren't there(he knew of them from what he said, and suggested his date take food for her roommates from the restaurant.)

Kingogbotor:
➜How do you have sex with someone you are not emotionally attached to? That's a prostitute behaviour .......

Well, a lot of Nigerian men on Nairaland tell us every day of how they have this magical ability to not be emotionally invested in women they have sex with. And you are right that it is pr0stitute behavior— they are not that different from pr0stitutes—, hence the reason why I suggest that men who have that problem should make themselves at home with Pr0stitutes instead.

Kingogbotor:
➜I begin to wonder what relationships are turning into. She started dating him right from her school days till NYSC.
➜ He is financially bouyant, takes care of the bill..Now she is saying he is not emotionally available.... So all the 3 years she has been dating him..all the sex, outings etc ..what happened to the emotions Women eh.....

1. Why is she not allowed to leave the man if she realizes he is not emotionally invested in the relationship with her? She probably got tired of meaning just sex to him and decided to leave him. Why are you having a problem understanding that?

2. Well, he could use that money to buy himself a pr0stitute if he is not interested in being emotionally invested in a relationship with any woman. A woman has a right to require that the man she is with see her as more than just a sex mining tool.

Nnamdipapa:
➜ Must the first date be at a restaurant? Must it always be about food?

Well, given that the average individual —including the busiest folks out there—has to stop to eat about 3 times a day, it makes sense that meeting over a meal is the default way to go during dates.

Fenrir:
➜Thanks for sharing your thoughts. I’ll respond from the perspective of personal freedom, something we take very seriously in Norway.
“Lucky few in the world” — That’s not just luck; it’s the freedom to think for yourself. In Norway, children are often introduced to multiple beliefs—Christianity, Islam, Norse traditions, atheism—then allowed to decide for themselves. No fear, no punishment, no emotional blackmail. That’s the kind of environment where faith is genuine. Being able to choose is what makes someone “lucky,” not the country they live in.
➜ Popularity of religion — Numbers don’t define truth. Most people in the world follow inherited religion, not because they’ve examined it, but because it’s what society tells them to do. Real faith isn’t measured by how many people practice it; it’s measured by whether the person chose it consciously.
➜ Biblical contradictions — Yes, some parts of the Bible seem inconsistent with modern Christian teaching. That’s not the main point. The real issue is how religion is passed down. If someone is told “you must follow this faith because your family does,” that’s not personal conviction—it’s programming. Christianity itself highlights choice and free will, yet most never experience it. Picking apart theology doesn’t fix that fundamental problem.
➜ Religion as politics — I agree; religion often functions as a social or political tool, especially when choice is removed. But freedom changes everything: when belief is chosen, it becomes meaningful. Without choice, it’s just tradition masquerading as faith. The core idea is simple: faith only matters when it is freely chosen. Everything else—scriptural contradictions, population numbers, theological debates—are secondary. Genuine belief grows from understanding and choice, not inheritance.

Children really don't have a choice when it comes to indoctrination by their caregivers, you know?

2. Even your idea of faith is as sold to you by religion and not necessarily the truth of that which is outside of religion, you know?

3. This has nothing to do with Biblical contradictions but solely the fact that all of those religious ideas including Christianity DO NOT align with the teachings and doctrines found in that book called the Bible. Again, we are talking of a God who established Himself as God of Israel —He never proclaimed Himself the God of Nigeria, nor God of Norway, God of America, or even God of Babylon or God of Rome.

In the same manner that the Greek Gods cannot be claimed by the Romans, Mexicans, Nigerians, etc., as theirs(even though we know very well that the Romans did make attempts to do exactly), why should we then accept that people from other people can legitimately claim the God's of another people — blood descendants of Israel — in this case? It makes no sense!

4. The template for religion is tradition— religion and tradition are not two different things, actually. And even when there is freedom, it does not keep religion from following along the traditional and political template that underlies it.

Fenrir:
➜In Europe, religion isn’t something dumped on your head from birth. Even children are allowed to think for themselves. My own family sat me down when I was about five and explained Christianity, Islam, Norse beliefs, atheism, agnosticism, and everything they could — and then they asked me what I believed. I said I didn’t believe in any god, and that was it. No punishment. No fear. No emotional blackmail. No “you must follow what your ancestors did.”
➜ That’s the difference. I wasn’t indoctrinated — I was given a choice. That’s how real faith works. Choice. Free will. Personal conviction.
If someone grows up being told:
“You must be Christian because your father is Christian,”
“You must pray this exact way,”
“You must follow this denomination,”
“You must accept this pastor,”
…then that person is not a Christian by choice — they are a Christian by conditioning.
You can’t claim to follow a religion if you never got the freedom to choose it.
You didn’t weigh options. You didn’t decide. You didn’t explore.
You were simply told what you are.
➜ And the funniest part? The Bible itself says the choice of faith is the single most important decision a human being can make. Yet most people in Nigeria never actually get to make it.
They inherit it like a surname.
They follow it like culture.
They practice it because everyone around them does.
That’s not Christianity.
That’s social pressure wearing a religious mask.
➜ So when you see denominational fights — Anglican vs. Pentecostal vs. Catholic vs. “my pastor is better than your pastor” — that’s exactly why. Everyone thinks their version is right because they were raised in it, not because they chose it.
If you didn’t choose it freely, with information and understanding, then it wasn’t faith — it was programming.

1. You are one of the lucky few in the world.

2. Well, Europe is obviously not the standard as far as Religion and Christianity are concerned, as much of the rest of the world believes as the only way. There is literally a competition among the largest religions to claim the largest people in most every country outside of Europe(China and North Korea excluded).

3. The Bible also says a lot of things that Christianity as a religion does not believe in or adhere to. For example, the Bible God declared He is God of Israel alone, yet Christianity says He lied about that. Then, you also have Jesus Christ of Israel proclaiming in that same book that His Father, the God of Israel, sent Him only to the Lost sheep of Israel — the bloodline of the man called Jacob, who was named Israel by the God of Israel. And Christians also claim that He lied about that, too. 🥱🥱

Forgive me if I can't take anyone seriously when they claim to believe in that God and His Son, all while claiming they both lied.

4. It is politics to me — religion is no different from politics. 🥱🥱

PolyGamous:
➜If one meaning is what you can tie to endurance, it will be difficult to have a great conversation with you.
➜And why I said if your argument is about sex being the only pillar is because, the topic was based on that.
➜ But, try to know that there’s always more meaning tied to a word, I don’t support domestic violence and I will not encourage anyone to endure such and cheat in a marriage. Thank you.

Why would it be difficult when the definitions noted clearly reveal that Endurance is related either to some hardship or difficulty, or— the typically figurative expression —enduring friendship, which does not describe most endurance marriages out there.

2. How can it be about sex when your topic literally indicates it is beyond sex, meaning sex takes a back seat as far as the subject?

3. That is an excuse people typically use to brush human ills and wickedness under the carpet. For instance, you keep insisting on domestic abuse alone as if to suggest we are to turn a blind eye to every other kind of abuse that also occurs in marriages and homes across the way. Isn't that part of why your many endurance marriages are literally nothing but toxic/abusive examples of marriages?

Immatex:
➜ Suit yourself! No use wasting precious energy on you! By the way, I am not a Pastor and never claimed to be. If you have evidence to the contrary that I am unhappy in my marriage, please feel free to supply or otherwise hold your peace! I won’t dignify you with another response!

Again, this all started because you fed us word of mouth, which you wanted us to believe, or did you not? And we have this other guy who makes the same claim, but his actions tell us that this is instead a man who literally hates/detests the woman he is married to. So, why am I wrong in asking you to provide us with a way to measure your claim differently from this man's?

Immatex:
➜It’s no surprise that you and persons like you hold a very pessimistic view of marriage.
I am not sure if you are male of female however your pessimism is really deeply rooted and so responding to you might actually be a waste of my time and energy or simply and academic exercise.
➜ For your point number 1, I will ask you: are humans perfect?, do you know anyone who is? Are you perfect? If you seek perfection with no tolerance for errors, you bring needless frustration on yourself. It is wisdom for a man to overlook the small errors of his fellow men because you are not blameless. The Bible correctly says: love covers a multitude of sins.
➜ Happiness is relative not absolute. It’s also a personal decision to choose happiness which comes from contentment- the knowledge that you can’t achieve absolute happiness in this world. Modesty is also key to happiness, modesty is the realisation that neither or others are perfect and that expectations should be within human abilities.
➜ It’s your choice to dwell on the negatives but to insinuate that there are no fulfilled marriages is a dangerous conclusion. So speak for yourself not for everyone.
➜ Separation and divorce is allowed where there clear cases of infidelity, abuse and intolerance etc. Being happy in marriage today does not mean being happy forever, it’s a work in progress except you’re being unrealistic or just want to ridicule others. Plus if you unhappy, don’t insist others are.
➜ I don’t suppose this part has anything to do with me even as it’s your right to be pessimistic.
But my happiness is based on tangible evidences rooted not on being fault-finding but endeavouring to see the good in my wife and appreciating the efforts she makes. The Bible which I believe you despise enjoins husbands to love their wives as they love themselves adding that since no man ever hates himself but feeds and cherishes his own body, husbands must likewise love their wives and wives in return show deep respect to their husbands.
➜ Here’s the secret to a happy and fulfilled marriage. Given you selfish and unforgiving disposition, this is beyond your comprehension.
➜ Conclusively, I must say that I am happy in and with my marriage. I do not require your permission or advice to reach this conclusion.

My view of marriage comes from personal experience and that of those around me, and also from the numerous documented studies out there that have largely revealed that the vast majority of marriages out there are, in fact, toxic/abusive marriages. The permissism here is not mine but from the facts that are available to us in real records — not intangible ideas/delusions. Am I not allowed to digest reality as it is?

2. But the same book that you pretend to quote from also demands perfection— Be perfect even as your God of Israel is perfect;— from those who claim to be of that book. What this means is that you don't really believe in that book but use it only to try to justify what could obviously be pure wickedness, even in marriage. Just as I suspected, the only reason you introduced perfection as a measure is so you could use it to excuse possible shitty behavior in marriage.

3. Happiness is relative, and so when Pastor Seyi Obembet up there says he is happily married even as he abuses his wife, he is literally happily married?

4. Not once did I insinuate in any of my comments that there are no happily married individuals out there. I opened this thread to have you, as someone who claims to be happily married, to explain to me what exactly it means to be happily married in terms that humans can measure/quantify since it seems any Tom, Dick, and Harry out there, particularly in the religious world, can make that claim without providing a clear idea of what that even means.

5. Again, this isn't about me but about having someone who claims to be happily married explain to us in clear terms what this term really means. I keep using Pastor Obembet there as an example because his is not the atypical picture of what marriages among religious folks who invoke such unmeasurable terms like love, patience, holyspiritzz too.

By the way, there are literally so many people out there who hate themselves. Also, there are many men out there who hate their wives, like this Pastor Obembet man up there — he made sure she could not achieve her dreams in life and used his privilege in marriage over her to ensure this. That is hate.

6. I am selfish and unforgiven because I believe actions speak louder than words? WOW!

7. Of course, you, like everyone else out there, if free to say anything without needing to back it up with action. It's just that words alone literally mean nothing when their are no actions to back them up with or ways to measure the claims made.

Immatex:
➜Endurance as used here is same as long-suffering or patience as stated at Galatians 5:22,23 and denotes calm endurance, forbearance, and slowness to anger not an acceptance of inhuman abuse.
➜ Conclusively, I must say that I am happy in and with my marriage. I do not require your permission or advice to reach this conclusion.

But longsuffering or patience as used in that Galatians 5 vs 22 - 23 was not used in reference to marriage but rather to a life for those who are part of the Kingdom of God of Israel. (And according to the one whose Kingdom it is — Jesus Christ of Israel(and he condoned abuse of his being, mind you)— your marriages are not a part of the Kingdom of God that he represents.) So, why invoke a definition from outside of the context that is marriage?

2. I am suggesting that you cannot say that, but I am trying to ascertain what the parameters one has to meet to come to that conclusion, since, again, even the Pastor indicated in the OP of this thread here, a man who literally hates his wife, also claims that he is happily married.

Fenrir:
➜Fella, you’re missing the point entirely. Real Christianity isn’t about how loud someone screams, chants, or sounds like a goat in the morning. That noise you’re complaining about? That’s man-made style, culture, and tradition — not the core of Jesus’ teaching.
If you put your cultural biases and petty annoyances above the gospel itself, you’re already not following Christ properly. Christianity is about faith, humility, and love — not judging someone because their worship style irritates you. The moment you let “how it looks or sounds” dictate your faith, you’ve already elevated tradition over religion.
➜Stop pretending to be a “proud Anglican” while thinking your way is the only right way. That’s not Christian. That’s pride wrapped in nostalgia and cultural arrogance.

How come when it comes to religion, we are always told what we should believe but never shown where to find exactly that, nor do we find people who in fact practice any of what we are told to think?

2. What you describe is pretty much what all religions do. Every denomination/sect within each religion pretends that among all the many denominations/sects within the same religion, theirs is the only right one.

PlasmaTV:
El Roi is the Hebrew word for "The God who sees me".

Is that different from YHWH, the God of Israel(only)? 🥱🥱🥱

PolyGamous:
➜Most in your view, the community I came from, most parents were too busy and they supported each other, the violence marriages I have [b]seen in my life are the younger ones not that of my parents or of my grand’s.[/b]
➜ And 😂, I don’t have to go back to check dictionary to use the word “endure” right, like I said, endurance in marriage does not necessarily mean you are enduring the worse, which is domestic violence!
➜ There are various differences in marriage to endure, and when life hit at a marriage, couples endure (endurance in marriage is not meant to be one sided).
➜ And, are you trying to argue that “sex should be the pillar of marriage”?

Oh, so the only kind of abuse against women and children is the violence that you see(not even that which you have heard of) for yourself and not that which goes on even behind closed doors? Or are those parents/wives/husbands who perpetrate those not to be considered? 🥱🥱🥱

2. Endurance, which literally means hanging on to that which is debilitating/difficult/unpleasant, is to be given a different meaning entirely where marriage is concerned? It seems we need an entirely different dictionary made for marriage, which is what I sense you are insinuating here. 🥱🥱🥱

3. Life hits a couple differently from the way life hits individuals outside of marriage? That is some amazing sheet you marriage brokers like to spew. So, marriage is an entirely different configuration of life, is what you are insinuating? 🥱🥱🥱

4. I don't recall mentioning sex in my previous response to you, and I don't even know how you came up with the idea that I am suggesting a pillar for your concept of marriage. 🥱🥱🥱

ebubeson:
Is this statement true for some modern feminists?

What makes you think there is some validity to the claim made in the text contained in the image you posted?

Immatex:
➜A happy marriage is attainable even though there no perfect marriages. A happy marriage is the union of two good forgivers.
Marriage is the union of two imperfect persons from varying backgrounds and with different personalities yet if they make the effort to live by the golden rule- treat each other like they will like to be treated and closely follow God’s marital guidelines as set out in the Holy Bible, they will be truly happy.
➜ My marriage has not being without its challenges but by continuing to show unselfish love for one another,
➜ by cultivating and displaying fruitages of the Holy Spirit like love, joy, patience, kindness, long suffering and endurance, we are not only happy but prospering in our marital lives.
Yes you can be happy and fulfilled in your marriage even with occasional challenges. Do not demand perfection from your spouse, respect the marital headship arrangement, love your spouse unselfishly, remain faithful and loyal- don’t scheme to leave your marriage, speak truth to one another and allow God and word be your guide then your marriage will surely succeed!

I sense the reason why you keep needing to throw in the term Imperfect — if perfection is impossible with humans then the word itself is meaningless when discussing human relationships— has something to do with needing to provide some excuse for what you privately consider an acceptable level of evil or abuse within this idea you refer to as a happy marriage. Am I wrong?

2. Life itself is full of challenges— every human being, whether married or single. You rarely find single individuals declaring their life to be happy because there needs to be an extraordinary situation that makes a life a happy one. I am interested in knowing exactly what it is that makes a marriage a happy one. 🥱🥱🥱

3. 10s of millions of married Christians make the same claims, yet the divorce/spousal abandonment rate, domestic violence/abuse rates, etc, among married Christians is no different than that of those who don't even believe in a deity. So, how do we measure this

Immatex:
My marriage has not being without its challenges but by continuing to show unselfish love for one another, by cultivating and displaying fruitages of the Holy Spirit like love, joy, patience, kindness, long suffering and endurance, we are not only happy but prospering in our marital lives.

How do you measure the presence or absence of these things, given that there are no clear visible differences to be seen between those who claim to have a happy marriage and those who don't, on the most part? 🥱🥱🥱

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The OP on this thread clearly depicts a pastor who used marriage to debase his wife(he was a doctor himself before he became a pastor, and then chose to snuff out his wife's dream of becoming a pastor by using his marriage to her against her and then recently went on to humiliate her for ending up with an online masters degree after all her fuzz). He too pretends to be happily married and would deploy that same slosh of words about love, joy, patience, kindness, and holyspiritzz when asked about it. So, I really want to learn why the use of the word happy to express even a damaged situation.

Also, you probably need to look up the meaning of the word "Endurance".

en·dur·ance

➜the fact or power of enduring an unpleasant or difficult process or situation without giving way.
➜ the capacity of something to last or to withstand wear and tear.
➜ denoting or relating to a race or other sporting event that takes place over a long distance or otherwise demands great physical stamina.

PolyGamous:
➜How is my submission about recruiting a woman to be a punching bag in marriage?
➜ Why will a woman marry a man that abuse her in the first place, talking against lust is talking against domestic violence, because when what you want is all physical and they fade away due to occurrences that was mentioned (parenting stress, aging, etc), partners begins to find it difficult to tolerate each other.
➜ Endurance doesn’t mean you endure the worse, but the process of life which is not often an easy task.

This is what you wrote.

PolyGamous:
A truly enduring marriage is a complex and multifaceted bond built on a foundation that extends far beyond the physical.

2. Most of our African mothers, grandmothers, and great-grandmothers were married to abusive men who treated them like punching bags for many decades of their marriage. Those marriages were held together for as long as they were because those women literally accepted the abuse, excused much of the bullsheet, all in the same name of maintaining what Africans mostly refer to as successful marriages — the endurance marriages you speak of.

3. You never consulted your dictionary on this before, have you?

en·dur·ance
/inˈdo͝orən(t)s,enˈdo͝orən(t)s/
noun
the fact or power of enduring an unpleasant or difficult process or situation without giving way.

Immatex:
➜Being happily married to a loyal woman (SPDAZZY) for 10 years and I will always count my marriage a blessing from God. Never being insensitive to her demands but has proven to be Godly, virtuous, loving wife and mother, something now quite rear about this generation of women. Our commitment is for happily ever after! By the way, she’s also very brilliantly and only recently became a phd holder from a UK top university.

How do you define what it means to be happily married?

DyshApp:
➜A man has taken to X (Twitter) to share a costly and disappointing first-date experience, revealing that he spent over ₦100,000 on food and transportation only for the relationship to fizzle out immediately afterward.
In his post, he explained that he went on a first date where he spent ₦109,000 on food and an additional ₦18,000 on a Bolt ride. Despite the grand gesture, the connection didn’t last.
➜ He recounted some of the frustrations from the date, [b]saying that they first ordered food worth ₦90,000, which they couldn’t finish. Only for her to order more stuff, then pack the whole food, the leftovers, and the newly ordered ones home, without asking if he cared for any. [/b]Reflecting on the experience, he advised caution for future dates, promising never to involve himself in such again.
➜ He concluded his post with a blunt takeaway, saying he thinks he’s better off alone because he’s tired of meeting ‘funny’ people.The post has since resonated with many online, sparking conversations about first dates, expectations, and the modern dating experience.
His tweet read; “Went on a first date two weeks ago. Food 109k, bolt 18k. Now we aren’t talking anymore. Learned to never do that again. If you aren’t going on a walk or to a restaurant I recommend, and you recommend more expensive ones, I’ll ghost from there. First ordered food of 90k, which we couldn’t finish. Only for her to order other stuff. Then they packed the rest of the food, and she took it all without asking if I cared for any. ngl I’m better off alone. Tired of meeting funny people.“

He is most definitely better off alone if he thinks his grand gesture— not his personality and character, but just a bunch of performative acts — is what it should take to win him the heart of the woman. 🥱🥱🥱

2. Why in the world would you order so much food when you are only out on a date with someone, and you know you are not rich enough to not care about it? You were obviously trying to lie your way into that woman's heart. And here you want us to believe you are some sort of victim when, instead, you are just a scammer who got had!

3. Please remain single until you:
➜ learn to cut your coat according to your size. Stop trying to lie or scam your way into getting women whose preferences you cannot afford to date you. That is FRAUDULENT.
➜ learn that gestures alone do not win over quality women; a combination of maybe performative gestures— I say maybe because some women don't even appreciate such gestures—, quality character, and personality would.
➜ realize that your mental, emotional, and social intelligence are the best weapons you can have, both in life and relationships

Imindmybusiness:
✓ Wrong. 70% of the reason they do this is to oppress their fellow women and feel good about it. The other 30% is to hustle men to be able to afford the maintenance but what they don't count is the age factor. The older they become, the less attention they get from men and that puts the source of the maintenance money in jeopardy. They end up running to churches for help after men stop looking their way and stop contributing to the maintenance money.

Oppress their fellow women by having big butts? Are women really oppressed by big butts or fat behinds? Interesting take! 🤔🤔

Which one is god of 13th hour then?

bluefilm:
This is how it normally starts. The western hawks are all of a sudden so concerned about Nigeria. Next thing you know, Nigeria becomes the next Libya or Iraq They create a problem They make you beg them for a solution They bring their solution. Which eventually leaves you much more worse than you were at the beginning of the whole problem... Let me just continue to observe

You mean to say that the problem that is Nigeria and the daily killings was created by the West? 🥱🥱🥱

Prenonjebose:
✓ A rudderless and clueless president. Sending delegations abroad in the face of lawlessness. A state of emergency on the country should be declared. These are children that wicked, heartless, greedy, unconscionable, foreign mercenaries in government have allowed to suffer a fate that was once unthinkable in African societies.
Ah!!!! they said" an elder cannot be in a market and allow a child's neck to be turned". This is so unfair to the poor parents. The anguish they must be going through now is unimaginable. This is truly a disgraced country

You mean like the same that was fashioned against River State not long ago by the same rudderless government?

FarahAideed:
Tinubu must make sure every single one of those kids are released !!!!! Not a single one must be allowed to be married out to those evil blood thirsty men , not a single one must be left behind like Leah Shaibu ...Failure to do so will no be accepted

Storyland! Do you even know where your president is right now? 🥱🥱🥱