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goran3310:
Here. I meet your criteria. Now… do you meet mine?
What I’m asking from you is what every man with money will ask.
Where does that leave you in all of this?

Again, my ask was, are yourself a virgin that you would feel you are entitled to having one for a wife. Even rich men do not seek out virgins, so why require she be a virgin because you have the picture of a couple of what seems a couple naira notes ? 🥱🥱🥱

goran3310:
😕😕🫤🫤😞😞😢😢🙂‍↕️🙂‍↕️🥲🥲🙂🙂😃😃😆😆
Are you virgin young slim and cute?!

Are you a virgin yourself that you would think you should be entitled to one? 🥱🥱

fergie001:
https://dailytrust.com/breaking-fg-shuts-down-47-unity-colleges/?noamp=available

Make una stop telling lies abeg. How can universities be shutdown over anything other than budget issues? FG no get money to fund these universities in 2026 budget be wetin me I dey read from this. 🥱🥱

ChizzyBuna:
girl wey I just knack finish... Dey play

A girl you knack finish does not deserve to be loved by any man? Doesn't that say a lot about you and not the girl?🤔

Richsteemit:
https://www.nairaland.com/8520119/should-put-more-effort

This was my last post were I was complaining about a girl ghosting me, I moved on shaa after advice from nairalands.. luckily I got another one on Facebook last 3 weeks, I collected her number the rest history.. Omo I don love this girl kpaa, this girl just dey burst my brain.. love sweet like werey!!! My head won burst I pray it last well!!! Since yesterday I just dey blush and happy.. uno tell me say na like this love sweet reach..
Single people keep off

How old are you? 🤔

My advice to every woman out there is no man is worth staying with the moment he begins to cheat. Cheating is literally abuse as well as a blatant nullification of the relationship contract. No one, should think to stomach abuse or such blatant disrespect, regardless of gender. 🥱🥱🥱

2RightHands1Coc:
Go and masturbate,I don't have your time

Because that is your thing doesn't mean it has to be mine. Educate yourself so you don't go around spewing bullsheet, at least! 🥱

2RightHands1Coc:
Do what favors you

Yeah, let's stop spewing bullsheet altogether! 🥱🥱🥱

Esthered:
The lady in the picture may be menstruating and in too much pain to move and clean up.

From her back and upper glutes? 🥱🥱🥱

MikaelDare:
➜Don't mind them, people like her when they get to their mid to late 30s will be forced to date and marry guys who are much younger than them.
➜ The respect and submission they don't want to give to the guys when they're younger, they give it to guys who are 5-7 years younger than them when they're in their mid to late 30s. She'll end up submitting to her you her brothers age mate.

A woman forced to date and marry a man much younger than her? Are these women complaining?

2. How many women give respect and submission to younger guys that they date? How many younger guys out there dating older women require submission from them?

P.S. Respect is something every human being should give to every other human being. If you can't respect your woman because she is a woman, then you should not have any business being with that woman, or any woman for that matter.

justyhere:
Please I need your advice. I am getting married, my fiance asked me to borrow his sister my bone straight and a dress and I refused, is this not a red flag? His sister wanted to wear it for a wedding. He didn’t buy it for me. He’s now really upset and has refused to talk to me for 3 days now. Our wedding is in 4 months and I am contemplating getting out of such a relationship. Please advice

I opened YouTube and I found this video that I think you might benefit from watching and maybe even sharing with your friends today. Don't shortchange yourself in the name of desperation.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2Ra-T8nV2-Y?si=WyVaUWPB6MicSDOs
You are today surrounded by women who did exactly that — they settled because they felt that the Mrs badge one is awarded with when one marries was more important than their standards and boundaries. And millions of those women are today living regretting it for the rest of their years. Do not settle for less than what you want and deserve in marriage.

Kalulu44:
➜What's that family Ethos and upbringing you had that you still stick to today.
I can't believe at 45yrs of age now, I still do what my mum told me back in 80s and 90s of never ever eat your meat or fish except you finish the main food.There's no amount of meat or chicken you put inside food for me. If I don't finish the main food I will not touch any. I still do that till date, except on some rare occasion when the meats are covering my soup or rice or anything.
2. While growing up, mum always tell us to say thank you after eating to any elder around us. Irrespective whether they're the ones that provide the food or not. I still do that till date.
There's this last one my dad thought me that I still do till today. Washing of hands while eating eba, fufu or any swallow. I always have a bowl, basin or little washing hand plate aside when eating any swallow food. And I dip my hands into that water after every cutting of eba or fufu. The reason for this I got to know when I was growing up. You'll see some people mess up their eba or fufu with soup that, if they call you to come join them eat, it will be irritating.
➜ I don't know if some people do it purportedly so as not to share their food, but the truth is. It's a dirty habits. So guys, here are some family upbringings I still do till date. Kindly share yours with us.

None of these things you do has to do with family ethos. All it says of you is that you hold on to habits you were raised with from childhood, habits that are probably of no value beyond your own household.

2. I don't do anything in my life today as I was trained to from my childhood. Why? Because I value efficiency and effectiveness above all things. I see no point in holding to habits just because...I raised kids on what works and not what my parents did or how they did it. I look for what works best for me and my situation, and I stick to it until I find what works better than that, and I switch over as soon as I can.

lawani:
➜The number of rich people fixing marriages for their kids with other rich folks is not in the majority. I know many rich folks whose children married normal working class people. If you are already rich, to get someone richer than you to marry is often a herculean task, that is my point. Even if you want it, it is not always easy especially as a woman but also as a man.
There are many reasons you can want someone for a spouse and money is just one of them. In many cases some people will not even consider someone even with their money. I don't know what language you want me to comprehend...

Again...

Kobojunkie:
If language comprehension is a particular problem of yours, I suggest you go online to find resources to help you with that before you continue.

Seun:
➜What are your complaints, your challenges, your issues. What are the things that can drive people away and need to be nipped?
Speak your mind, but don't be rude. Thanks.

Need to enable embedding of TikTok and YouTube Short videos at this point. I don't know why there are millions of those out there, but the moment you try to post them on Nairaland, the bots go haywire and begin banning your posts, even moments after you have confirmed the post was not banned on submission.

2RightHands1Coc:
The only benefits of semen retention is spiritual,all so called physical benefits is bullshit. Meanwhile the spiritual effects have it's pros and cons . Semen retention is not advisable for everyone

How can something that goes completely against the very functioning of one's own biology be considered to be of spiritual mental benefit abi na pros and cons? No be contradiction dem dey regard such ideas?

lawani:
➜You were the one that said it is better to choose a man with money than someone with prospects. I just pointed out that it only applies to broke people whether male or female

So, all your rich political class marrying their daughters off to men from richer backgrounds are poor, abi?

Again, if language comprehension problems dey, make you go deal with am.

JackDaAlienz:
➜I always knew Men are the PRIZE.
➜No man will go through this because of a woman. Impossible

You say that because you were not brainwashed from the point of your birth into believing that the world you were born into was ruled by men and that it is only by being chosen by those same men that your worth would be realized. Most of these women were also fed the lie that other women out there were competition and detractors fashioned against their goal of being chosen by a man. Heck, even their pastors and imams fill their heads regularly with stories of how they are supposedly the weaker sex, and that means they are nothing without a man in their lives. Loving themselves first takes a back seat to being loved by a man. That is the mentality behind most women who change even their bodies to please a man.

Try to imagine what life with that sort of mentality would do to you as a human being, and then maybe you will see that many of these women were really abused and degraded from a young age by those who were supposed to raise them into confident and mature individuals.

2. Wrong There are also men out there who were raised with similar brainwashing — their worth is defined by their being chosen by a woman—, and they, too, go as far as to change their bodies to please women.

Sonnobax15:
We don't really care... The earlier these bannies realize that men will always go for decent ladies when they're about to settle down,than to walk down the aisle with the wayward ones,the better for them..

The same decent ladies(virgins included) whom you turn into abandoned baby mamas/single mothers at the end of the day?

jaephoenix:
➜I'm not looking for your damn pat. I'm just explaining how your cretarded logic works

. Rather than try to feed others who amount to hogwash next time, I suggest you ponder the reason why you have such a deep-seated aversion to the preferences that women are allowed to have when choosing partners for themselves. 🥱🥱🥱🥱

lawani:
➜If money is not your problem, why will you be looking for a wealthy spouse? Only poor people make money the most important issue. If you have your own money other things will be more important and there are a lot of other things. Most financially very well off people don't marry people wealthier than them.

If language comprehension is a particular problem of yours, I suggest you go online to find resources to help you with that before you continue.

justyhere:
Please I need your advice. I am getting married, my fiance asked me to borrow his sister my bone straight and a dress and I refused, is this not a red flag? His sister wanted to wear it for a wedding. He didn’t buy it for me. He’s now really upset and has refused to talk to me for 3 days now. Our wedding is in 4 months and I am contemplating getting out of such a relationship. Please advice

You dey fiance an immature, poverty-stricken man in this economy? You no like yourself or your life at all. Hating yourself is the primary warning sign/red flag here. I don't know why you feel you should do this to yourself in this day and age.

Do you even realize the many things that could go wrong if you marry this man? He could have his family coming to your place to take as they please when you both become married, and there wouldn't be much you could do about it then. Do you realize that the man you plan to marry would likely fund his family during your marriage with money you both should have been using to build your futures? These are some of the things that you should hash out in a prenuptial agreement before marriage. Additionally, consider a prenuptial agreement requiring that if both of you contribute financially to the marriage, then not only would the marriage's communal wealth belong to you both — meaning you both divide property from the marriage equally— but that you both handle as partners all the responsibilities in a marriage — a partnership relationship in place of master-slave marriage.

This is 2025, and we are entering 2026. If you do this to yourself, you will have yourself to blame for the duration of the marriage for all that befalls you. Start loving yourself and don't even bother getting a man until you have completely centered yourself and your interests — acquire self-love. Better step back and focus on your financial security and getting you a man who can carry his own weight to marry, if at all.

Nice2023:
➜And majority who went for the money aren't crying too? Marry who u can grow with.

The one thing many of those who went for the money at least have is that they did not all come out empty-handed. Time and time again, we have seen that a woman is better casting her lot with a man who has money than with a man who only has dreams and prospects to offer to a woman. Let's start telling the truth if we truly love even the women we are with.

Sirchiboy:
When people die. Where do they go. I want to know.

From dust you were made and to dust you return. 🥱🥱🥱

vanvickie:
...Once woman foot bills for 1 or 2 months due to some financial constraints on the husband's side who has been footing bills for donkey years... THEY SUDDENLY BECOME BREAD WINNERS....

Let google be your friend on the other issues.
As for women not willing to foot the bill, considering that numerous studies have today shown the real value of the unpaid invisible labor that women take on in marriage, I would never advise a woman who is in a provider-slave marriage to pay any bills in the house, unless the husband is considering it a loan of some sort(documented and certified).

Those women didn't suddenly become breadwinners because, from the time of our grandmothers and great-grandmothers, many of us have known that marriages were where the man barely brings much into the marriage, while the woman bore the bulk of the financial responsibilities in the home.

Senkasa:
God will heal Nigeria.

Would you be referring to the same deities that have so far allowed the country to fall to the deplorable state it exists in today?

VeryWickedMan:
In this era of content creation craze, is this all that Nigerian women can think of? Sex? Preeq? Doggy? Bedmatics? Nyash? Breast? Is that it?? Nothing else they can think of?
I stumbled upon one skit video where a lot of Arabs were abusing Africans as having nothing upstairs but sexual themes in all their videos. They weren't wrong. The Nigerian woman can do better. This is disgusting. *Spits!

Nigerian men are considered among the highest watchers of porn across the world, and you think the women are wrong for wanting to get the attention of men by selling the same or similar content to them? 🥱🥱🥱

Because Arabs pointed out what they have observed about Africans, do you think the blame should be dumped on the woman alone? Are African women busy having sex with themselves? 🥱🥱🥱

Nice2023:
➜My reason is that,she is already right in her thinking and u can't force an adult whose mind has been set on something...u cam only be talking.
I had to dwell on the part which is most pressing.

Nothing is pressing about suggesting a woman should take a gamble with what is her life with a man when we know today that the vast majority of those who did that in the past ended up filled with regret and hate for themselves and the decision to settle for less. The vast majority of the married women in Nigeria who gambled their lives on potentials and dreams are today living in abject poverty because of that. And many of these women had to abandon their dreams, jobs, and careers to gain nothing of worth in return. 🥱🥱🥱

Encouraging what should now be considered a great vice is a clear indication that one does not have the good of women at heart.🥱🥱🥱

jaephoenix:
✓ Good. So when I see any woman that earns more than her,I'd gladly dump her and go for the highest earner. What's good for the goose,is good for the ....

You wouldn't be the first to do that, so why are you looking for a pat on the back or something?

CandyOps:
➜Well… na me make mistake. How I go dey ask person wey never nack raw before advice on raw sex? lol
Whatever rocks your boat, man. I also just read your responses to Dzzzz , and you sound like this is a personal issue for uou. Don’t know why that is? Calm down. You no Dey fight with anyone. You sound half angry like you don’t win in life and get your little wins from pointless arguments as this. I’m Not saying you’re wrong but then you’re not entirely true. There are actually people who feel little or no difference between sex with and without a condom. The feeling is – like every person – individual and unique. ..you seem to swing between the 2 extremes of the spectrum ignoring everything in the middle. Life isn’t just black and white. You have a whole lotta different shades inbtw, bro

A woman you pretend you love bled for 7 days straight in a careless attempt to abort an unwanted pregnancy all because you had to have her without a condom. You even remarked that the event traumatized you and kept you from sex for months. But the moment you recovered, instead of seeing to it that there is never a repeat of the same, you went straight back to doing the same because, after all, it was not your body that was impacted by it all, and if she were to end up with a hole inside her as a result, it ain't you, right? She can be replaced with another guinea pig down the line because you can't do without your raw sex. 😩😩😩

When we point out that most Nigerian men do not value their women and even their children, people see the evidence literally everywhere but ignore it because e no dey happen to remove any hair from dem body. 😩😩😩

Dzzzz:
➜I never knew you could result to lying bruh!!When did I say “All condoms”😂😂

Are you now insinuating that when you made the following statement earlier...

Dzzzz:
Bro she’s right ooo..If I use condom,I don’t cum early but when I take it off and feel that wet walls 💦💦

... You meant now that you were referring to when you use only those condoms that are specifically designed with a barrier that delays ejaculation? Nonsense! 🙄🙄🙄

Dzzzz:
😂😂😂You feel defeated and you can’t handle it 😂😂When it comes to s*x,I have more experience than you..I observe any and everything around me.If you don’t know about something,just listen before you talk..You said studies have been shown,what studies?

OMGosh! 🙄🙄🙄

Lack of comprehension na serious issue! 🙄🙄🙄

Dzzzz:
➜Thats why I said you should expand your horizon cause thinking one sided can get you nowhere..What studies have been shown eh bruh?..Be a listener and stop arguing on things you no nothing about..

Clearly, comprehension is lacking here.

Yes, condoms can delay ejaculation by reducing sensitivity, with some designed specifically for this purpose. This can be achieved through the physical barrier of a thicker condom or by using condoms with a desensitizing agent, such as a mild anesthetic like benzocaine, on the inside.

You would literally have to buy and use a condom specifically designed to delay ejaculation to get that feature. So, why insist that all condoms do what you are told that only some specifically designed to do that can?